Brief Summary
Marjorie Lutz, a vibrant 92-year-old, shares her perspectives on ageing, life lessons, and happiness. She emphasises that age is just a number and maintaining a positive outlook is key to a fulfilling life. She highlights the importance of self-acceptance, kindness towards oneself and others, and appreciating every moment.
- Age is a state of mind; a positive outlook is crucial.
- Self-acceptance and kindness are essential for happiness.
- Mutual respect is the foundation of a successful marriage.
- Live in the moment and find joy in everyday experiences.
Introduction and Perspective on Ageing
Marjorie Lutz, born in 1933, shares her perspective on being 92 years old, soon to be 93. She feels the same as always, full of energy and capable of doing almost anything. She believes age is merely a number and that one's perception of ageing greatly influences their experience. If you perceive yourself as old, then you are, but if you don't, you simply exist where you are.
Misconceptions and Joys of Old Age
Marjorie believes people misunderstand ageing by thinking it's difficult, when in reality, it's far too easy. She argues that life doesn't diminish with age unless you perceive it that way. She finds joy in living, particularly in the company of people she appreciates and who appreciate her. She misses activities like skiing, which she was passionate about and even taught professionally, but focuses on the present joys.
Life Lessons and Personal Experiences
The most important life lesson Marjorie has learned is that the opinions of others don't matter; self-acceptance and understanding are paramount. She emphasises the importance of appreciating others, as self-love and love for others are interconnected. She learned this through experience, particularly after the early loss of her mother at age 20, which deprived her of her mother's wisdom and love.
Marriage and Happiness
Marjorie shares her experiences with marriage, having been married twice. Her first marriage lasted seven years and ended in divorce, while her second marriage lasted over 20 years until her husband's death. She believes the key to a long and happy marriage is mutual respect and understanding that the other person's viewpoint is valid. She highlights that the secret to happiness is being yourself and enjoying every moment, as we only have one life (or perhaps many, as she believes in reincarnation).
Regrets and Kindness
Marjorie admits to having regrets but chooses not to dwell on them. She emphasises the importance of being kind to oneself and others, always, without exceptions. This is one of the most important lessons in life.
Views on Younger Generations and Advice to Her Younger Self
Marjorie views the younger generation positively, recognising that they are learning and growing, just like all previous generations. She doesn't expect perfection from them, nor from herself. If she could speak to her 20-year-old self, she would advise her to keep having fun while living life and to be honest. She would also advise her not to expect everyone to be as she would like them to be, as everyone is an individual with their own strengths and weaknesses.
Life Highlights and Excitement
Marjorie shares some highlights of her life, including living in Tripoli, Libya, and Rome, Italy, and travelling extensively around the world, except for the Far East. She finds life interesting and exciting and looks forward to each day. She attributes this excitement to her own perspective, choosing to find interest in the people she meets and has known for years. Her favourite place is wherever she is at the moment, because that's where she is right now.
