Brief Summary
The speaker shares six key lessons learned over 60 years, focusing on personal fulfillment and well-being. These include embracing authenticity, avoiding the trap of keeping up with others, prioritizing experiences and relationships over material possessions, safeguarding health, balancing time and resources, and transitioning from saving to spending in order to fully enjoy the fruits of one's labor. The speaker emphasizes optimizing enjoyment, adventure, relationships, and health in life.
- Embrace authenticity and be comfortable with who you are.
- Avoid the trap of keeping up with others.
- Prioritize experiences and relationships over material possessions.
- Safeguard your health, both mental and physical.
- Balance time and resources wisely, especially as you age.
- Transition from being a saver to a spender to enjoy the fruits of your labor.
The initial lesson involves embracing one's true self, including both strengths and weaknesses, and ceasing to pretend to be someone else. It's about being comfortable with your own personality, understanding that some people will appreciate it, and others won't, and that's perfectly acceptable. There will always be people who connect with you.
The second lesson is to resist the urge to keep up with the Joneses, which can be financially draining. This involves avoiding the need to constantly acquire things to impress others, such as buying a nicer car or moving to a more prestigious neighborhood simply because your neighbor did. While wanting nice things is fine, doing it solely to keep up with others can be costly and unfulfilling.
The speaker emphasizes that material possessions do not bring lasting joy. Instead, joy comes from relationships and experiences. The speaker shares that they are currently in Costa Rica, enjoying the location and having a great time. They highlight a desire to simplify life, focusing on spending time doing things that bring joy to themselves and loved ones, rather than accumulating more possessions to impress others.
Taking care of one's health, both mental and physical, is crucial. It's easy to postpone health-related activities, but neglecting them can have long-term negative consequences. The speaker acknowledges being better at maintaining physical health than mental health and expresses a need to incorporate routines like pre-bedtime routines, shutdown routines, and gratitude journals. Prioritizing health is essential for enjoying life to the fullest and having adventures. Health is more important than wealth.
When younger, people often trade time and health for money, investing heavily in their careers for long-term financial gain. However, as one gets older, especially after achieving financial independence, it becomes more important to prioritize time and health over money. Sacrificing time to maintain health, such as exercising, is a worthwhile investment.
The speaker advises transitioning from being a saver to a spender. After years of sacrificing and saving for the future, it's important to enjoy the fruits of one's labor. This transition should be planned in advance, as it can be difficult to switch from a saving mindset to a spending mindset overnight. It's like a muscle that needs to be exercised. The speaker references another video about things to stop doing in your 50s and 60s to enjoy retirement, which includes spending more money.
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0:00 unfortunately it took me about 60 years to learn the six things that I'm going to share with you over the next about six minutes and the first one is to stop pretending to stop pretending that that we're somebody that we're not and just be comfortable with who we are both the strength and the weaknesses with that and just to embrace that there's going to be people that love our quirking personality there's going to be people that don't love our quirky personality but that's okay there's plenty of people that are going to Vibe with us so that's number one number two is kind of related um number two can get quite expensive uh if if you don't cut it out sooner rather
0:46 than later in fact it's what I see having been a financial adviser for over 20 years it's what I see is probably the number one thing that derails people's ability to retire at 65 or or hopefully even sooner and that is stop keeping up with the Joneses this this need to have an image this need you know your neighbor buys a nice car you want a nicer car even though you already have a nice car your neighbor moves to uh a neighborhood down the street that gets his kids into a slightly better school so and all of a sudden you want the same thing and these are all fine things to want and to do if it's what you want but
1:32 if we're doing it because we want to keep up with the Joneses that can get expensive really quickly and I find it doesn't bring me joy which brings me to the third item on on my list and and that is stuff doesn't bring me joy what does bring me joy is relationships and experiences as as I record this I'm in Costa Rica I'm at this beautiful location I'm having a great time it's a surfing town called Santa Teresa um and it's just a lot of fun to be here and so this brings me a lot more joy than I don't care how much of that stuff comes in the cardboard boxes on our front porch stuff doesn't bring us joy in fact I'm at a phase in my life and I
2:18 suspect many of you are at this phase as well where I want less stuff in my life I you know I don't want a big house anymore I I don't want a fancy car I don't want anything that can break um I want to simplify my life I want to focus on spending the time I have left and hopefully I have 20 plus years left but I want to focus that time on doing things that bring joy to me and and bring joy to people that I love and you know it's kind of related to not keeping up with the Joneses and not pretending and you know so much of that stuff when we're younger that we Chase is is to impress other people in fact even doing a trip like this you know a lot of people are posting this on their
3:05 Instagram or on their Facebook you know how many videos i' videos how many images i' posted on Facebook or Instagram about me being in Costa Rica zero I may eventually post one or two but you know frankly it's it's a security risk to tell people where you're at and if you're not at home so that can be a negative having stuff is no no longer a positive for and and you know the biggest badge of honor that that that I have is if I can if I can help out people's lives that I care about specifically my my true daughters uh my immediate family both the family I grew up in as well as the family that I rais for my spouse people like that but
3:52 the other badge of honor is is taking care of my health it's one of those things that's so easy to postp home and whether that's my mental health or my physical health and frankly I'm better at doing things to protect my my physical health than I am my mental gut I know people that have routines that that make a difference that that you know they they do a a pre-bedtime routine they do a shutdown routine they do a gratitude Journal I need to start doing those things so MIA CLE with that when it comes to the physical fitness it's the same thing we can postpone it for a day or two we can postpone it for a week or two but if we postpone it for too long then it ends up having a a
4:39 long-term impact on us that we're likely going to regret later in our lives and you know I don't want to regret that I I want to squeeze all the juice out of every day that God's going to give me here on this Earth and have as many adventures and to do that I need my health and my health is much more important than my wealth and I'm trying to optimize on enjoyment in life I'm trying to optimize on adventure I'm trying to optimize on relationships and I'm trying to optimize on on my health and so that's the next thing that that I've had to learn the hard way it's super easy to say well I'm going to sacrifice for a chapter of my life and
5:25 when we're younger we have if you think about the the three kind of core things that all of us struggle because they're limited resources is our time our health and our money and when we're younger we can trade some of our time you can trade some of our health because we have a lot of it so investing heavily in that early in our careers where it's going to have a 20 30 40e payback period for us that can be a really good investment but at my age now when I'm 60 and you know frankly I'm financially independent now so for me to sacrifice money as opposed to time or health that would be foolish the other thing that's very limited for me is time but I have to sacrifice some
6:13 time in order to stay healthy where I'm staying here they have a nice gym I can work out you know it's a lot easier to just uh sit at the bar and drink a margarita and and watch the sunset and I get to do that as well but it's also and that I take the time out of every day and and I invest the time for me to do yoga they have weights here I can lift weights and then beautiful to run on the beach so those are my core my three core things that I that I try to do uh the next thing and this is going to sound weird coming from somebody that was a financial advisor but it's important to switch from being a saver to being a spender we spend so much of our Lives
7:01 sacrificing today for a better tomorrow financially right we work hard we get up early we commute we've got a lot of responsibilities on our shoulders and it's important that all those sacrifices that we made and the money that we put aside is is going to result in US enjoying life more and that's what I want for you I want I want you to match and squeeze all the juice out of the Youth of your senior years but I want you to squeeze all the joy that you can out of the money that you've saved and frankly it's it's hard to transition from being a Savor to a spender so it's super important that we think about this ahead of time because if we wait until
7:48 the day we retire and say okay now I'm going to be comfortable spending money you know haven't helped hundreds of people retire transition into retirement I can tell you that's not how it works it's like anything else in life it's it's it's a muscle and we have to flex that muscle we have to work out that muscle so starting that sooner rather than later is important which is why I made this video here eight things to stop doing in your 50s and 60s in order to enjoy your journey into retirement which includes spending more money I'll see in that video thanks for watching this one byebye
