Pleasing Women Destroys Your Masculinity. (6 Reasons and What to Do Instead)

Pleasing Women Destroys Your Masculinity. (6 Reasons and What to Do Instead)

Brief Summary

This video discusses why constantly trying to please women can diminish a man's masculinity and attraction. It covers six key reasons: turning her into the masculine figure in the relationship, the manipulative nature of over-pleasing, killing sexual tension, inadvertently training her to seek masculine energy elsewhere, making her feel guilty instead of loved, and sabotaging her ability to fall in love by removing the need for her investment and effort. The video encourages men to lead, give genuinely, embrace tension, maintain their frame, balance affection, and allow women to invest in the relationship.

  • Over-pleasing can lead to a power imbalance, where the woman feels forced to take the lead.
  • Genuine giving, without expecting anything in return, is more attractive than transactional "niceness."
  • Sexual tension is crucial for maintaining desire and interest in a relationship.
  • Women crave polarity and respect men who maintain their boundaries and mission.
  • Making a woman feel guilty through constant gifts and attention can be detrimental to attraction.
  • Allowing a woman to invest effort into the relationship fosters a deeper emotional connection.

Intro

Jessica Os introduces the topic of why pleasing women too much can destroy masculinity. She explains that many men believe being overly accommodating will make a woman fall in love, but this is often counterproductive. The video will break down six reasons why this approach can kill attraction, flip the power dynamic, and even push her away.

Reason 1

The first reason is that over-pleasing turns the woman into the masculine one in the relationship. Masculinity and femininity are like magnets, where opposites attract. When a man is firmly in his masculine energy, the woman can relax into her feminine energy. However, when a man starts pleasing too much, he gives up the lead, causing the woman to step forward and take on the responsibilities of making decisions and setting boundaries. This shift can lead to the woman feeling like she has to manage the man, which diminishes her attraction. Instead, men should lead themselves first by having their own mission and direction in life, which allows the woman to relax and feel more feminine.

Reason 2

The second reason is that pleasing can be manipulative. Many "nice guys" are transactional, expecting something in return for their acts of kindness. This is not genuine kindness but manipulation, which women can sense. When a woman feels that a man's actions have strings attached, her trust in him evaporates. Instead, men should give from a place of abundance, doing things because they genuinely want to, not because they expect affection or attention in return. Women respond to genuine giving but pull away from men who act like vending machines.

Reason 3

The third reason is that over-pleasing kills sexual tension. Attraction thrives on tension, that subtle push and pull that keeps desire alive. When a man is always pleasing and agreeing, he removes every challenge and bit of mystery, killing the tension. Women fall in love with curiosity and unpredictability, not certainty. Men should stop trying to eliminate all tension. Tease her back if she teases you, stand your ground if she tests you, and hold your own opinions, even if they don't match hers. These sparks of polarity keep her desire burning.

Reason 4

The fourth reason is that over-pleasing can inadvertently train a woman to cheat. When a man makes a woman the center of his universe, he is training her to look elsewhere for the masculine energy he has abandoned. Women crave polarity and a man who challenges them and won't bend easily. If a man gives up his power in the name of being nice, the woman will start to feel restless and unfulfilled, eventually losing respect for him. Men should not hand over all their power but keep their frame by holding their boundaries, protecting their mission, and never letting their entire identity revolve around her moods.

Reason 5

The fifth reason is that over-pleasing makes a woman feel guilty instead of loved. Showering a woman with gifts and attention can make her feel guilty and in emotional debt, which is poison to attraction. Instead of gratitude, she'll feel pressure and want to escape. Men should balance affection, making sure their giving is occasional, intentional, and genuine, not constant and desperate. Women value love they can breathe inside, not one that smothers them.

Reason 6

The sixth reason is that over-pleasing sabotages her ability to fall for you. The more a man tries to please a woman into loving him, the harder it becomes for her to actually fall for him. Falling in love requires effort on her part. When a man makes everything too easy, he robs her of the investment that bonds a woman to a man. People don't value what comes without effort. Men should not hand over all of themselves for free but give her space to invest, letting her text first sometimes, plan the date, and wonder if she's doing enough to keep him. This gives her a chance to build emotional roots.

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