SUPERNATURAL WISDOM FOR OVERCOMING EMOTIONAL BATTLES – REV. DR. SAM OYE | 3RD AUG | 2ND SERVICE

0:00 [Music] Sing with me. I want to hear your voice. How? How great. Lift your voice and sing. How great. [Music] Sing with me.

0:53 [Music] Father, we thank you for today. We thank you for your loving kindness. We thank you for the privilege of seeing a new month. We thank you for the blessings tied up in this month. And we thank you because they are released unto us. We walk in the fullness of the blessing this month. Nothing missing, nothing broken. Nothing missing, nothing broken. In Jesus the Christ mighty name we pray. >> And amen. Praise the Lord. Let's look at Let's look at Proverbs chapter 18 in verse 14. Proverbs chapter 18 in verse 14.

1:41 [Music] Let's read it together. One to go. The spirit of a man will sustain him in sickness. But who can bear a broken spirit? It tells you that it's easier to survive physical sickness. It is more difficult to deal with emotional illness. If the heart is broken, the Bible says worse than when the body is affected. In actual fact, a healthy mind will sustain a healthy life.

2:30 Medical doctors will tell you that most of the sicknesses that we have, most of them are psychosomatic in nature. What that means is that most of them are driven by dysfunctional or unhealthy minds. When your mind is sick, your body will be sick. It is the reason why when you worry, your blood pressure can rise. If you dwell in that world of worry, it can affect your heart. So, it's critical that you give your heart attention. Proverbs 17:2 Proverbs chapter 17 in verse two.

3:16 A wise servant will rule over the unworthy son who acts shamefully and bring disgrace to the family and the worthy servant will share in the inheritance amongst his brothers. The scripture I want to read there is a broken spirit dries up the bones. A broken spirit does what? dries up the bones. Let's pray. Father, we ask for the blessing on your word today. Minister to us in the way that only you can and let your name forever be praised in Jesus the Christ mighty name we pray. >> And amen. Uh today I I'm going to be speaking to you on a very sit down for a moment.

4:01 We are still going to push in deepening our love for the unlovable. We're going to push to help us deal with loving the unlovable, including yourself. Sometimes it's easier to love others and difficult to love us. Some people find it difficult to love themselves. And let me say this, anyone who can't love himself will find it difficult to love others. All right. Will find it difficult to love others. So it begins with love thy neighbor as what? >> So you can see that self love is where we give others love from.

4:48 I can tell how you love yourself by how you show love to others. The bottom line is this. Write this down. No man can give to you what they don't think they deserve. [Music] Nobody will love you enough to give you what they've not given to themselves. If it's too expensive for them, they won't buy it for you. You understand I'm saying? So if it's too expensive for you, it will be too expensive. If

5:35 it's so expensive for me, I can't buy it for you. So what I've not given to me, I can't give to you. So love thy neighbor as you do what sir? It begins with how I love myself. You can actually tell how people value themselves by how they extend value to you. Why am I doing this teaching? Many of us are worried over people we should not be worried about. In fact, many of us are angry at people you should be praying for. [Music] Praise God. So today I'm going to be speaking to you

6:22 on supernatural wisdom for overcoming emotional battles. Supernatural wisdom for overcoming emotional battles in relationship and in marriage. There are different kinds of battles in this life. Some of them are physical, some of them are spiritual, some of them are material, some of them are financial. But the worst of them all is what we call emotional battle. It's very important that you give attention to your emotions and the emotions of those who are around you. Some people call that emotional intelligence.

7:08 that first you are aware of your own emotions and number two you are aware of the emotions of others and then you are aware of the interaction between your emotions and the emotions of others that you are able to guard manage and you are able to control the expression of your emotions as well as you are able to guard yourself from the negative effect of others emotions that when somebody is running mad I don't have to be mad because you're mad that when somebody's angry I don't need to become as angry as you are it's the portion you have chosen for today it's

7:54 not going to affect my day am I talking to somebody in the house of God today if today is your sad day is not our sad [Music] If you choose to go on this ship, I'm not going with you. I'll stay on the shore and hopefully if I can save you, fine. If I can't, we'll figure out what to do with the remnants of you. [Music] Too many times we allow our joy to be affected by some other people's emotions and some people have chosen not to be happy.

8:39 Let me look at your neighbor say you've not been looking happy since I sat beside you. Tell the person I will be happy. I will be your face. I will be happy. [Music] So it's important for you to guard your heart with all diligence. So out of it are what sir? The issues of life. Guard your heart. Not guard our heart. Guard what?

9:25 >> Talk to me. I say guard what? >> My own. I wish I can guard Mary oon. I It's She has the responsibility to do what sir? Gather. [Music] So when I am not normal, I choose not to be normal. I enjoy being on normal. She must not allow my abnormality become abnormality. She needs to be normal to restore me. >> If we lose our normality, there is no hope in the family. [Music]

10:11 I don't care to know how spiritual you are. I don't care to know how many heavens you go into in the spirit. If you don't know how to manage emotional matters, it will regulate your joy. It will affect your spirituality. [Music] Paul will tell you, I went to the third heavens, right? And then the Bible said there was a tension between Paul and Barnabas. It was so fierce. I would have thought a man who interact with realms of spirit and dimensions and portals, I would have assumed that man will be able to handle such matter. Then I got to realize he was spiritually high and emotionally low. Paul was such a man small thing you you push he will slap you. [Music]

10:59 So you got to see that Paul was somebody that somebody was offended. He didn't know when he said look you curse you. He they say sorry sir you don't know you just cause an eye priest. Sorry I don't know did sorry please sir. I'm sorry sir. It's just it got over me. I said I didn't even know that you should have war now. That should have [Music] that Paul's temperament made Paul lose the man that introduced him to the body of Christ. Paul out of anger because he suddenly remember when they said to him, they said, "Hey, Paul," they said, "Can we bring John Mark with us?" P number said, "Look, Paul, wait a minute. Nobody believed in you. I was the one that introduced you to the church,

11:47 Paul. On my social capital, I introduced you to the body of Christ. People believed me and because of me, they respected you. They accepted you. The grace God has given to me is to identify burden gifts in the body of Christ to identify people who have talents and potential. That's my job. I'm Barnabas. [Music] Paul, I know the next man that will create wave in the body of Christ. I know people that can create wave. My job is to bring them and introduce them to the church and make the church give them room so that they can find room to express themselves. That's how I introduce you Paul. [Music] And I'm telling you now, there's another guy that will be very useful and his name is B. No. Paul said no. What

12:35 happened now, Paul? He said don't forget last time when we were going to this place I remember I remember he did not join us Paul because of yesterday you are going to cancel the man's participation today that's Paul ah and finally that the Bible say it was Barnabas insisted and the Bible say the argument was very sharp amongst two of them that two people that were separated by God. It says, "Separate unto me." Paul and Barnabas, the Holy Ghost said. So that God was the one that brought you and your husband together does not mean your marriage cannot break.

13:20 [Music] I want to talk to the body of Christ. I want to talk to church because sir I grew up I grew up with I I I grew up conservative I grew up in a conservative Christian background where we are told if you want to get married pray to know the will of God and that God will show you God will tell you that this is a wife that is a woman I know and I that's very true that God can guide absolutely as many as are led by the spirit of God they are the source of God I believe in that until finally I got to realize God can lead a man to a woman and God can be the one that brings two of you together. But listen to me, if you are not emotionally matured, if you are not emotionally

14:08 tempered, a relationship initiated by God can be scattered by the immaturity of men. [Music] God can bring you together. Your immaturity will scatter you. [Music] God must have done a good job by bringing two of you together. You must do a greater job by making sure you stay together. And this is where emotional maturity comes in. [Music] Unfortunately, marriage marriage is not

14:54 the coming together of perfect people. Marriage is a coming together most of the times of broken people. Not just broken batter people. Marriage sometimes is a coming together of people from highly dysfunctional backgrounds. The only thing we do well is we know how to pray well. We do well, we know how to quote scripture. We do well, we know how to sing worship songs. We know spiritual things. But at the same time, if you push us, you will see our other side. Sometimes it sounds like as if a sweet fountain and a bitter fountain in the same person. [Music] I love the Lord.

15:41 Heed my cry and beat every groan. Long as I live, my trles last I hasten to ooh is strong. Why you hear those kind of say but yet take me deeper deeper blessed Lord to the place where thou has died. [Music] Take me deeper deeper. Bless you Lord.

16:35 I can see see holy people [Music] I'm pressing on ah the upward way new heights I'm g everyone [Music] Lord Lord plant my Lord and I and let me my God

17:20 from stable Oh, [Music] if you dare match the person that just finishing singing that song, if you if you make mistake and match the person that just finished singing that song, you will have higher ground on your face. Sir,

18:07 my brethren are here. Sir, mommy, we will attend retreat and we'll sing that song. >> We cry and we will pray. Oh Lord, sanctify me. Oh Lord, purge my heart. Put the love of Jesus inside of me. And Lord, I receive it now. And I walk in the sanctification that only Jesus can make available. And I we leave that place. Sir, no doubt we have received it.

18:54 Except when food comes. [Music] That sanctification can't withstand the passage of food. You will hear bro, you've just passed me. And if you don't listen, brah. And the next thing it it confused my young mind. I thought we just go sanctify and then you see fight over food. I said, "Okay, was the sanctification real? Is it that food stole it or what?" I I was confused.

19:41 Let me say this. Whatever God did in their spirit was true. Whatever God did in our spirit was true. What needed help was our mind and that one is not a matter of prayer. That one is a matter of renewing. That one required the inflow of new information and revelation to change how we think. And the challenge with the church is that most of our messages are more spiritual spiritual. We are growing our spirit and our minds our minds are left

20:29 undeveloped. That is why you will find us including those of us who are pastors. You will see us now with we we talk about tongues. We talk about 9 hours in tongues. We talk about 16 hours meeting with angels. Michael was in the meeting. We had just about midnight. Michael was there. Orion came but he rushed back quickly to heaven because there was something they were doing there. But as soon as Orion left uh Gabriel showed up and also greeted us on behalf of God deep things deep the deep things that Gabriel bought. My God I can't even tell you pronounce because very very deep issues and then suddenly um which one again? Raphael. Raphael showed up too. So we were many and they were like and they were sharing things with us things. Oh my god, I don't even know how to share them with

21:14 you. Very deep things. They were writing angelic handwritings and and they were things that were too deep. Now now we have all that. We have all that. We talk about all this supernatural esoteric. We talk about celestial and terrestrial matters. We talk about this whole high sounding words, portals and dimensions. We talk about rams. We talk about gates access. We talk about frequencies, realms of the spirit. We talk about all this amazing thing only for somebody to criticize us online that you will see us furious and you are like wait a minute sir. See the way you are talking now but you were just the one talking about rams. We

22:00 didn't know that matters on this earth can affect you. And then you see our wives, they will take us to the court. And then they when the court is now trying, that's when you start see our wives, their lawyers will begin to talk about what was going on. How after Sunday service was inside the car and the man of God was angry after Sunday service with the wife was just sharing how the message was wonderful. She now mentioned a little observation and on the steer the right hand connected with her face and and reposition the wide the face of the wife. [Music] And you'll be hearing how we get angry, we beat our wives at home. How that we uh some of us even rape our wives and we

22:45 say there are no rapes because we paid bright price. [Music] [Applause] It confuses me. How can a man talking real and importance and dimensions and how can a man who is talking spiritual things, angelic matters and grace and and all. How can the man few minutes later we're hearing that there was a case with one small girl in the church and that the girl went to him to see him so that daddy in the Lord can help her grow spiritually and then maybe s some problem and daddy ended up and be sleeping together regularly. It confuses my mind. How did do such things happen? Is he not spiritual? Was he not born

23:32 again? Doesn't he know God? How did he do that? until I began to realize that the spirit of a man can be perfect but his mind is not. That is why the same Jesus who came to save the sinners came to heal the broken at heart. He came to heal our broken hearts. Our spirits are perfected. Our minds are not. That's why the Bible say be you transformed and he tied your transformation to what the renewing of what? Not your spirit.

24:17 So I ask you a question 21st century church I ask you a question tongue talking brother minister of the gospel who invests hours into praying in the spirit and which is fantastic. reading your Bible. Fantastic. Only for spiritual matters. I'm asking a question. What are you doing to renew your mind? What are you doing to renew your mind? [Music] You will face challenges. And one of the challenges you will face in your life will be challenges that have to do with your mind. Attacks that comes at your mind.

25:05 And you will also face challenges from people whose minds are under attack. Dogs who are dealing with their wounds who will bite you because you came close. You didn't hear what I just said, right? They don't hate you. Your presence only scares them. When you came to show love, when you come to show love, they bite you not because they hate you. They bite you because they are trying to protect the wound they are nursing. Am I talking to somebody else of God? You need a lot of emotional maturity to be able to handle people who bite you without becoming resentful yourself.

25:56 You don't want to stop loving because someone you loved on beat you. So when the Bible say let brotherly love continue, it means that brotherly love can stop. [Music] So you need wisdom. There are some things I said in the first service and I don't honestly want to go back to that so that I don't take too much time. I really want to get on some issues today in this first service within the time that I have left. You need wisdom. And I defined in the first service I said wisdom is the ability to respond to

26:43 life's challenges depending on God's wisdom. Wisdom is the ability to respond to life's challenges depending absolutely on God. God, how do I deal with this matter? Wisdom is the ability to respond to life's matter depending on the word of God that you are able to carry the Bible and say look God when there are matters like this what does the Bible says now I I I just said in the first service and I want to say it again that the reason we don't do

27:31 that is because of immaturity an immature person reacts immediately ly mature people delay reactions and the reason they delay reaction is so that they can get proper information and revelation concerning the matter and once your action is taken based on proper information and revelation in agreement with God's word in such a way that it honors God we say you are responding in an emotionally intelligent way. [Music]

28:18 >> Help me touch your neighbor and say, "Slow down." Tell the person if you don't like slow down, say, "Slow up." >> Either way, there must be what? [Music] single lady. I'm done. What just happened? What What were we discussing now? We're just we're just talking about the wedding plan and I'm like, "Okay, you know, um now I think I would prefer the balloons to be on the other side, you know, like that side." And no, no, no, me. I want it here. Sorry. I I think it's going Look, I think And the guy was even polite. The guy was like, "No, I I think it will be better at the Say, you

29:04 know what? I am done." Help me slap somebody. Say, "What are you done with?" What are you done with? [Music] I don't get it. I am done. I I We should call it off. We should Are you really serious? We should call it off. [Music] Wait, wait till rich. We I am done. rich shall call it off. What has gotten to I am done with the marriage? We should call the marriage of what happened. Can't we have intellectual discourse from the place where superior arguments have to prevail? Must this be a family where shallow thoughts prevail in?

29:52 And if there's going to be superior arguments, it's going to clash because I have to present your strong reasons. That's what God said. You tell me why it should be like that. Tell you why my way should be like that. Then finally, we figure out it's either going to be your way my way or it's going to be your way or it will be my way. Somehow we need to be able to present superior argument. This family cannot function on low arguments. [Music] Superior intelligence is is suppressed in Christian homes in the name of we don't want to correct superior intelligence. Do you understand what I'm saying? Wave your hands if you

30:38 understand what I'm saying here. So you see foolishness parading itself in Christian homes and then you go to unbelieving cycles. You will see people bagging on tables and when they leaving they are shaking hands. But when they come out of that place the kind of the kind of decisions they will come out with quality decisions, quality results. We can't handle difference. Christians can't handle difference. Tell me your mind what's on your thoughts. Some of the finest decisions that my family have taken has not come by virtue of my thinking. It has come

31:24 with the influence of my wife. And I'm like, "Oh my god." Nearly. I was almost thinking how dumb I am. Because I was like, when she gave her idea, I'm like, my god. So you mean so you mean I would have I would have taken my decision and tell this intelligent woman and she'll be following me and be like and he's happy he think he's doing something [Music] and that's how some women are following you sir husbands that's how some women are follow they they are pinging you while you are celebrating [Music]

32:12 Lay hands on the man around the sea. Please learn to listen sir. Learn to listen. S your life would have been far better if just borrow. Listen sir. I should finish. I would say I dance on dance here. Thank you, sir. >> I'll leave. I'll honor them. I will honor them. I'll come back next week. >> What is no? >> Hallelujah.

32:58 >> Emotional matur. See, one of the major causes of relationship breakdown is emotional immaturity among adults. It sounds like a contradiction. You would have assumed that with growth in age will be growth in emotions, emotional maturity. Unfortunately, many old people are emotionally immature. Sadly speaking, so many young people are emotionally mature, but age on age is not on their side. That is why he said, "I waited for old age to speak." He said, "But I've come to realize wisdom is not always in old age."

33:43 He said, "But there's a spirit in man and the inspiration of the almighty giveth water, sir." Emotional maturity is very important. And what is how do you measure emotional emotional maturity? Ability to delay reaction. [Laughter] [Music] Before we say one p slap before we say jack your broken window you have smash windscreen [Music] because when you are smashing whisk you didn't remember that the whole of your other salary can't buy it again now you are driving with nylon

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