Brief Summary
This video explains how to set up a frame to build attraction and win interactions by focusing on subcommunication. It covers the importance of non-verbal communication, the five subcommunication elements (laser eye contact, smile, tonality, proximity, and assuming connection), and how to maintain a man-to-woman frame. The video emphasizes being collaborative rather than competitive and addressing personal shame to improve interactions.
- Focus on subcommunication to build attraction.
- Maintain a man-to-woman frame through specific behaviors.
- Be collaborative and address personal shame for better interactions.
Introduction: Setting Up a Frame for Attraction
The video starts by addressing how to set up a frame to build attraction, emphasizing the importance of creating a man-to-woman polarity. The goal is to achieve a win-win interaction rather than a win-lose scenario, where both parties benefit. Manipulation is defined by contrasting two cases: one where a man is openly flirting and another where he hides his intentions behind friendship, highlighting that genuine interaction is not manipulation.
Understanding Subcommunication
The discussion shifts to the concept of frame and the five subcommunication elements needed to build it. Subcommunication involves non-verbal cues and behaviors that make interactions engaging. It's highlighted that 93% of communication is non-verbal, with body language, tone, and timing playing crucial roles. The speaker uses the example of tone of voice and eye contact to illustrate how these elements affect trust and authority.
Laser Eye Contact: The First Subcommunication
The first subcommunication element discussed is laser eye contact, which involves focusing on one eye to show lover behaviors like dominance and decisiveness. The speaker explains that when making eye contact, the other person perceives these behaviors rather than just the act of eye contact itself. The speaker explains how our eyes focus and how to maintain focus on one eye to project confidence and attentiveness.
Smile: The Second Subcommunication
The second subcommunication element is smiling, described as the shortest distance between two people. The speaker introduces the concept of mirror neurons, which cause people to copy the emotions and expressions of others. Smiling can uplift the vibe of an interaction and trigger the release of serotonin, leading to feelings of happiness. The speaker advises smiling genuinely and finding ways to express joy to create a positive impact on others.
Tonality: The Third Subcommunication
The third subcommunication element is tonality, or tone of sound, which is categorized into three types: trying for rapport, robotic, and breaking rapport. Trying for rapport involves a higher-pitched voice that seeks to impress, while robotic is a monotone voice that lacks variation. Breaking rapport involves a lower tone that centers the speaker and creates a sense of calm. The speaker emphasizes practicing breaking rapport to project confidence and relaxation.
Proximity: The Fourth Subcommunication
The fourth subcommunication element is proximity, which involves physical closeness and distance. The speaker explains that standing close to someone indicates a resistance towards intimacy and sexual shame. Intimacy is defined as being close, exposed, vulnerable, and letting go. The speaker also discusses the importance of pressure on and pressure off, which involves varying the distance to create stimulation and maintain interest.
Assuming Connection: The Fifth Subcommunication
The fifth subcommunication element is assuming connection, which involves believing there is at least one thing in common with the other person. The speaker shares a personal anecdote about imagining a deep connection with a bartender to illustrate the power of this assumption. By assuming a connection, the speaker aims to find common interests and build rapport.
The 7% of the Game: Openings and Maintaining the Frame
The video transitions to discussing the 7% of the game, which involves the surface layer of communication, starting with the opening. The speaker emphasizes that the desire to interact must exist within a man-to-woman frame, built by the five subcommunication elements. The speaker addresses the question of how long to maintain this frame, stating that it should be natural and maintained through consistent behaviors.
Collaborative Frame and Addressing Shame
The discussion shifts to the importance of being in a collaborative frame rather than a competitive one. The speaker shares anecdotes about handling situations where other people, such as parents or potential rivals, are present. By being collaborative and not seeing others as threats, the speaker maintains control of the frame and creates a more relaxed and positive interaction. The speaker also addresses the issue of personal shame, emphasizing that it can hinder interactions and prevent genuine connection.
Conclusion: Collaborative Frame and Addressing Shame
In conclusion, the speaker summarizes the key points about subcommunication and maintaining a man-to-woman frame. The speaker encourages viewers to ask further questions in the WhatsApp group and expresses excitement for the next session.
