Unfortunately, Regulating your nervous system is really this simple

0:00 You know, so many people nowadays is focusing on nervous system regulation, trying to get their nervous system to come back into a state of calm. And I wanted to make a video giving down a really simple breakdown of how it works. Because to be honest, it's actually a lot more simple than what people think. And I think there's a lot of information out there that can make this task really complicated because of the [music] fact that when a person's wanting to calm down their nervous system or to regulate it, their mind is also constantly questioning everything, which really makes it that much harder for a person [music] to actually do what it takes to actually do

0:47 the work to regulate the nervous system. [music] And they often get stuck in this analysis, you know, and just constant research and study, but they're not moving closer to regulating the nervous system. So, this is really how it all works. Our nervous system, to regulate it, all we have to do is relax. That's it. That's the simplest way to put it. And if you gain nothing else and just realize your whole goal is to just relax. And if you can accomplish that, you're done. That's it. And so, the challenge here is how to get your body to relax.

1:33 Because it's not really like a choice. You can try to relax, but if your body isn't used to it, you're just going to constantly feel that nervousness and that stressed, agitated um pressure. So, let's first start talking about what we need to stop doing. And then afterwards, we can talk about what we we to [music] start doing. What we need to stop doing is taking things that get our nervous system to be agitated. So, all the people that are taking lots and lots of energy drinks, um uh tons and tons of coffee, caffeine, all of these things are great for getting you focused and getting you

2:19 moving, but they are by far the worst worst things to get you relaxed. And if you are a person who feels like you need to regulate your nervous system, you got to get calm, you have to stop taking, using all of them. And I I know that it's hard. I I get it, but I'm just trying to be real and just telling you what you need to do. You can, you know, decide what you are actually going to do, but I'm just need to tell you that's what you need to do. For a person who wants to regulate their [music] nervous system and still continue to drink, you know, energy drinks and [music] take anything that gets your um get your adrenaline pumping,

3:05 anything that gets your heart rate elevated, I mean, that's like a person who's trying to lose weight, but they refuse to, you know, to stop eating cake. I mean, that's that's like the best analogy. So, whatever it takes, you got to get to that point. Now, from there, your nervous system can start to become less agitated, but that alone is not enough. So, now the next thing we need to do is we got to get the actual body to be able to relax. And there are many different uh practices, many different ways to do so. And I think there are many ways that are great, and everybody's diverse. And so, it's not that one way is going [music] to work for everyone. It really isn't. I think

3:51 there's a lot of personal preference involved here. Uh based on somebody's fitness level and just personal interests. But I can tell you what's worked for me and I can tell you what has worked for many people that I've helped and the the approach that I found to be the most effective at least for myself and you know the people that that I work with. The movements need to help you relax. And so if you were to let's say go and get massages every day, that would help a lot. You know, it really would. And the issue is sometimes people just don't have the time, they don't have the money, they just don't have the you know the the luxury for that. So the next thing to do is to be able to

4:38 find a way to help the body get into that, you know, kind of massage your own body. Now, you could do other things besides massage. But massage is just one of those um methods that's been known forever to be the one of the most convenient and [music] simplest direct path to relaxation. I mean, think about how often you think about, "Oh God, I'm tight. I'm tired. Man, you know, I'm stressed. I need to get a massage." Right? Because when your body's tight, it needs to loosen up. And literally having somebody sit there and just work your body to get you to loosen up is probably one of the most direct paths. However, like I mentioned,

5:24 between [music] time and uh budget and schedule and uh you just may not be able to do that. Most people cannot. So then the next thing is well, if we can be able to massage our body, our own body, perfect. You know, then it doesn't cost you anything. But you do need to learn how to do it, right? And so then you got to jump through, you know, all these different hoops of of trying to figure out the anatomy of the body and that could be a big endeavor for a lot of people. But what happen if you don't? I mean, what happen if massage actually isn't that complicated either? I mean, what happen if massaging your body is literally just like pressing your body? I mean, it's just using your body to press on your body or just using things around the house. What happen if massage

6:11 is simply you sitting on the ground, laying on the ground, roll around a little bit and literally the ground is that hard surface that can press on your body. I mean, think about it. You know, people use balls, tennis balls, they use roller balls, they use all these different tools, which are great. But look at what it's actually doing. It's just an object that's pressing into your tight muscles and the act of pressing into it loosens it up. That's That's it. And I know a lot of people are thinking, but where does it need to press? Now, uh I'm going to be honest. There are areas of the body that will um release more pressure than others, okay? But if you just press your body, the places that hurt, great.

6:58 You hold more tension there, great. There's more pressure there. Press on that part. You know, just press everywhere. That's why I tell people just press on everything. And if you have tightness there, you're going to feel it. And if you're super loose there, well, you may not feel it. It may not hurt. No problem, right? You might be loose already. But if you just took that concept and just press on everything, you're set. You can use so many elements. I figured out a really simple way to do it. It's just tapping the body because there's a lot of different ways to massage your body. We can sit there and we can work our body and grab it and push at it. Yes, we can do that. And it does take a little bit of work, you know, our hands can get a little tired.

7:43 But I realized that there's other ways of of massaging the body and just tapping on the body. And there's different ways of tapping and you can see, you know, I tap my body in different ways. But they're very, very simple and there are so many different moves that involves that formula of just either using our body, tapping our own self and releasing tension. Um or you can use the ground, using other things. And [music] you'll also find shaking the body is also a really, really great way to get the body to relax. And these are all things that require no equipment, they require no special skill and, you know, people have figured this out for

8:29 hundreds and thousands of years. There's so many >> [music] >> um tribes, there's so many ancient practices that are just around shaking and moving. And so, it's not like this is a very new thing. It's just been around forever. It's just that sometimes we just kind of overcomplicate things. [music] So then, the next thing is using strength training to be able to relax the body. Now, this is a little bit counter intuitive because strength training in the normal sense is actually creating tension. However, if we think about how our body would like to release tension anytime when you are feeling the pressure, you never just relax and just chill out.

9:15 When you are very stressed, you are angry, frustrated, you naturally want to exert. You want to hit something. You want to stomp. You want to slam. You want to clench your fist. You want to yell, right? It's a natural thing to exert. So, when we look at strength training as an outlet for exertion, now it starts to make a lot of sense. But instead of like the traditional way of strength training, you know, where people are are trying to, you know, tense up everything and engage their body and and all of these things for building muscle, the way that you strength train to exert the body is a little bit different. Think about like you are using strength training exercises,

10:01 but you're not doing it in the traditional sense. You're trying to stay relaxed. So imagine like you're doing a push-up and you're trying to stay relaxed. Or you're doing a a squat, you know, or a burpee, or any type of exerting move, but you're trying to stay as relaxed as you can. So this creates a very interesting dynamic inside because part of your body is there doing the exertion, right? So you're releasing things. But the other part of your body is actually um trying to also hold back and trying to stay relaxed. So what happens is you start to use the least amount of effort, the least amount of tension, the least amount of exertion to

10:49 create the most amount of movement. So you start to leverage gravity, momentum, body mechanics to try to use the least amount of tension or to create the least amount of tension to create the most amount of release. So I always say it's like a good ROI. It's like you're investing the least amount of tension, like investing the least amount of money, and getting the most return, getting the most amount of relaxation. So then after strength training, you still have generated tension because, you know, it is strength training. So you want to release all of that tension that you accumulated. And plus you want to go deeper into

11:35 relaxation cuz you can't go super deep in relaxation through strength training. It's just it's not possible. But it did allow you to release a lot because of that natural need to exert. So then what I realize is just doing stretching right after strength training is by far the best time to be able to to stretch because the body's warmed up. You just exerted so you don't need to do any strong exertion anymore. You've exerted everything, you know? And now it's just about relaxing deeper and letting go of any built-up tension. And then after we do that and we are feeling deeper, now we want to go even deeper

12:21 because it's like imagine like you're peeling back the onion and going deeper into the body. It's like in the beginning you can hit the outer layers to relax that. But the deeper you go into the body, the more the more tension you're able to access. And the deeper that we can release those tension points, not only are we able to relax deeper, we start to let go of the deeper resistance inside of us, which we're talking about the deep levels of fear, the deep insecurities. We're talking about like this deep inner resentments, the deep guilt, the deep sadness. I mean, these are

13:06 things that sometimes people are totally unaware of, but it runs their life because that tension point is constantly there, constantly tense. And there's these memories, there's these thoughts and >> [music] >> belief systems that are all constantly running in the back of somebody's mind and they are unconsciously dictating somebody's decision in their life. And so, when we start to go deeper into the body to start to release these deeper tension points, these belief systems, these perspectives start to become aware. Like, we start to become aware of them and we've seen this over and over again

13:53 where our students would come and start to talk about memories from the past, realizations that will come up because the deeper that you access into the body by relaxing deeper and letting go deeper, the deeper we're able to access the layers of mind. [music] And after we go through the breathing to do that, because breath can go deeper than strength training and tapping [music] and stretching. So, when we go into deep breathing, and we start to clear these things and bring it up, then at some point you feel this really deep relaxation come through, the body has just released everything. And now becomes the perfect time

14:40 to connect, to bring our attention into connect all the way into the body. And this is where we meditate. And there are different forms of meditation, but really meditation is just about in this form of meditation, in this um this approach here, is bring your attention deep into the body and feeling. And don't try to feel good, okay? I want you just to feel everything. Just feel everything unconditionally. Because if you want to let go of resistance and fear and all these deep things that just don't serve you you on the inside, you're not trying to feel good, you're trying to look for those resistant

15:26 points. You're trying to look for the tension to release. So, that means you're looking for the discomfort. You're looking for the tightness. So, when you find tightness, like when you feel that discomfort, that's good thing. You should be happy about it. You found it. And then when you find it by being aware of it, by feeling it, now try to relax deeper and try to let that go. And the act of constantly doing this every single time in meditation is what starts to release these deeper layers inside of us. And thus, this is how you can regulate that nervous system. Because we release these deep layers of tension. And when tension is released,

16:13 the nervous system comes all the way back into a state of calm. The parasympathetic nervous system turns on and stays on. And this is where we recover every single chronic anything, every single issue that we have, the body starts to move towards healing. Now, it's not to say that everything would just heal instantaneously. Some things will be gone very quickly. And I've heard countless, countless testimonials and stories of people's chronic pains and injuries and and headaches and pressure, I mean, just gone within days, some within weeks. But there are certain things in the body that takes longer to heal. Some will

17:00 take months, some will could take years. But the body is now set up to heal. Until then, when the nervous system is agitated, the body is not healing [music] very well because it's so agitated. It's constantly under stress. It's constantly under pressure. So, we're not providing a environment for the body to recover. It's the opposite. The body's constantly fighting, stressed. [music] So, when we can let go these deep layers of tension and get the nervous system to be in this deep relaxation, now the illnesses and the health issues that people are dealing with, all of the symptoms, one by one they start to disappear. And you know, in our medical industry, there are so many symptoms.

17:47 Godly, I mean, there's a name for everything. And [music] it's almost like every other month they're coming up with something new. But the symptoms are countless when a body is sick and not healthy. But it's not about trying to learn about the countless symptoms. It's about realizing that when we get the body to be in this state of healing, everything heals. So, instead of focusing on the gazillion amount of symptoms that can occur, instead, focus on doing the actions to get the body into a healing state. And [music] that's why nervous system regulation is so popular and people nowadays are focused more and

18:34 more on that. [music] And there are different ways to to look at healing. But when we do >> [music] >> regulate the nervous system, this is one of the primary things that allows the body to heal because it will create a whole chain effect, chain effect in allowing more energy to circulate into the body, allowing more presence to happen in the mind, more attention into the body, less stories in the mind, old belief patterns and states of lack and and stories, self-inflicting stories in their mind about life and about themselves. All these things start to drop away. So, there's a huge chain of effects that happen. And that's why focusing on

19:21 this is one of the paths towards healing a person's body, mind, and also emotions. But, the key thing is all about the ability to relax on a deeper basis. And the path towards that is doing daily practice. Every morning, a person needs to take time to connect deep within their body, as much as they can. And sometimes you may have an hour, sometimes you may just have 10 minutes. But, it's important to be consistent and to do what you can. And you know, people are working with different lifestyles, so it's not like everybody's going to do the same amount >> [music] >> and at the same capacity. That's not the point. The point more or so is about

20:09 finding what we can do and just starting without having to wait for some perfect time, because we have to do this for the rest of our life. If a person thinks that they can just regulate their nervous system, and then once their nervous system is regulated, it's just going to never change and they don't need to do anything anymore, I mean, that's as likelihood of I'm just going to brush my teeth today, and once my my teeth is clean, I don't need to brush it anymore, right? Or I'm just going to take a shower today. No, right? Things get dirty, and our nervous system gets re-stressed from daily life challenges. And you know, life challenges evolve and change. So, we need to be able to constantly have a daily practice that

20:56 consistently brings the nervous system back to a state of relaxation. And that's why you have to do it every morning. And you need to do it in the evening, as well. Because in the morning time, this gets us to go throughout the day in this nice connected state in the body, relaxed, mentally clear, and then we make good decisions. And then at night, whatever stress that we took on, we need to let it go. We need to clear it again. So that we're able to properly rest. Because if we don't, well, the nervous system got re-agitated, and if we go to sleep without it clearing, then we're not going to be able to get rest. The nervous system is stressed, sympathetic is on. So we can't recover. And that's

21:43 how um sickness and disease happens. So we have to do it twice a day. Now, for those of you that are ready to start, you can do practices, you can find many different practices for the morning and evening. What I personally found that works is doing it in this systematic way, so that I don't have to sit there and try to figure out what am I going to do this morning, what am I going to do in the evening. I do the same practice every morning and every evening. And I I know many, many different types of trainings. But I don't want to sit there and try to figure out, like what am I going to do today? Because the act of trying to figure it out takes so much effort that

22:31 I'd rather spend that time and make it simple and just do the same thing. Because it works. And if it doesn't If it's not broken, why do I need to change it? And so that's why I do the same practice every day. And it's been thousands of people that I've showed this to that do the same thing as well, with the same practice, every morning and every evening. And we start to master this because our body starts to remember how to do this. So if you want to learn how to do this practice, and you want to learn the ins and outs, how to get the most results, how to modify it, you know, to fit your fitness level. Then I love to share it with you and show you how to do it. I started a training community and I do lives every week. I've got lots of programs and step-by-step courses. I'm answering

23:18 questions every day. I'm in there 24/7. And it's just a place where I can really go deep and support people and everybody on how to do this do this right and make sure that I answer the questions so that people don't feel, you know, a little bit lost in the in the process. [music] Because some of these things come up and you need to have a you know, you need to have an answer. So this way you feel confident to move forward. And also the community is awesome. People really really enjoy being able to share the progress because if you do this by yourself, it's tough. You know, it really is. There's a lot of uh a lot of emotions are going to come up. There's a lot of questions that come up and sometimes you may not have the right people around you to encourage you. So it's a great community and love for you

24:03 to check it out. See if it's good fit. Remember that this is for the long run. When you make it a habit to do practice every morning and evening, it's just as simple as brushing your teeth and taking a shower. It's just about learning the skills, learning what to do, how it works and then over time, short period of time, you make it into a habit. And then you don't have to change it up. You just keep going with it. And your nervous system will start to relax. You'll start to reconnect back to your body and you'll see every one of those symptoms in the body, mind, emotions, all the symptoms that are causing people issues one by one, they start to get better. And you didn't have to go and do a whole bunch of different things. You just had

24:49 to do a few things, but do it consistently every single day. So, hope this video helps and uh for some of you guys I look forward to to seeing you and working with you.