0:00 [Music] hello and welcome back to the day Luna human design podcast with your host Dana and Shaina this is an episode that is dedicated to our projectors because we haven't done one in a while a solo episode with just us two talking specifically about projectors and the theme of recognition has just been coming up for me on new levels recently and you know recognition is such an important theme in the life of a projector we really wanted to dedicate an entire episode to demystifying um recognition what does it
0:46 mean what does it look like in our lives how do we navigate it how do we differentiate this um dopamine hit like loow hanging fruit like junk food version of recognition versus this lasting sustainable true and authentic recognition in our lives so we wanted to dedicate this episode to diving into to that topic yes and I feel like you know for a lot of us here a lot of our listeners you might be on your projector Journey for a few years now and especially you know for the projectors listening because when you find out about human design oftentimes as a projector you want to dive into all the things and you want to learn everybody's charts in your whole life and focus on you know that whole rabbit whole of learning human design and the
1:34 recognition piece around your strategy of waiting for the invitation is so important because it's literally it's not like something that you understand and master and like you're done right it's not like awareness now sets you free it's literally something that pops up in every conversation in every interaction in every new challeng or a new group of people or a new thing that you're putting out into the world there's this element of am I recognized here does this feel like healthy recognition or not and it's always you gauging it right like there's you're the one who's going to know what healthy recognition feels like
2:19 in your body or not and it's a a daily practice if you will depending on how many people you're around and the type of work that you're doing and the Creations that you're working on but for me I definitely you know it changes conversation to conversation right like you might be super recognized within you know your partnership or with your best friend or with your parent or boss or whoever but then the topic changes to something random or something personal or something different and you're not recognized to give that Insight or that opinion or whatever that is and you say it and then you get into bitterness and then there's a whole like bitter Dynamic
3:04 going on in your own personal world so noticing that understanding how to work with that understanding how to nurture your recognition is huge and one of the most important things as a projector yeah so in this episode we're going to talk about what authentic recognition is and what it's not we're also going to give some tips that you can start applying to cultivate more authentic recognition in your life but let's just start off right from the beginning what is recognition I think it's so interesting that in human design we have these words like for generators responding which is such a simple word for projectors recognition but the more we think about it we're like wait what does recognition mean so I wanted to just read the dictionary.com definition of it um
3:49 recognition is the identification of something as having been previously seen heard or known the perception of something as existing or true having that realization the acknowledgment of something as valid right so when a projector is recognized by someone it feels like they can actually see these aspects of you and by them having that perception that level of perception to really see you you feel like you're getting validation that it exists right there is like they see this thing in you and as a projector we have such a blind spot when it comes to seeing ourselves even though we're so good at seeing other people when someone does recognize
4:35 you it feels like this beautiful gift like you honestly get this dopamine rush in your body when someone sees this thing in you because you're getting this external validation or appreciation um for something that really resonates with you on a deeper level and what we really wanted to talk about here is that recognition is so important you know with projectors having their not self- theme of bitterness like the two main reasons that bitterness comes up in a projector's life we always like to say one is that you're exhausted you've been overworking yourself and you're tired the other main reason is that you're not being recognized you feel unseen you feel unheard you feel underappreciated you feel invisible to
5:20 those people in your life yeah and that invisible feeling um a lot of times can manifest itself as being misunderstood or feeling misunderstood because you're not being recognized for your true intentions for your true insight for what you were really trying to say and so understanding the ways that you can recognize yourself and when you're being recognized or not is so important because you can't force people to recognize you you can't push people to recognize you and it comes off as really repelling and that is a lot of times what directors end up doing is trying to force recognition like no but you don't understand this is really like important
6:07 like this is why I know these things this is why you know you should trust me or whatever that might look like it can feel natural to want to force that recognition because you're just trying to like clarify you know if you're feeling misunderstood or invisible or like really trying to redirect that light of what you really mean back onto yourself if that makes sense because when you're being unrecognized the knee-jerk reaction is it's like you know when we say the word recognized it's like this big overarching word but in a conversation right like a real life example you're talking to a friend and then you tell them like oh my gosh you
6:52 should take this supplement or you should you know meet with this therapist or have you heard of you know the different attachment Styles it sounds like you're leaning into this one right in your toxic relationship and it the whole conversation you felt like things are flowing things are good I feel really comfortable with this person and then you feel them like shut down or become defensive or put up a wall and it's that instant feeling of like hold on like no that's not like don't put the wall up don't be defensive like see me recognize me and so it's coming from a genuine place right a lot of times sometimes it's not like sometimes you can be in a really unrecognized place in a really unrecognized job and you're just kind of screaming for attention
7:38 that's kind of what it comes across as and it's super repelling but if you're already kind of honed in on being around people who recognize you it can switch in a second with a conversation and then it's noticing like oh am I scrambling to force someone to recognize me right now and it's binning me into bitterness and it's repelling the away from me and it's creating this whole dynamic can I stop and that is hard to do and it's not about being perfect right it's just noticing like oh that's why that energy fell off that's why that was a weird conversation um was because I was pushing like a annoying little mosquito in somebody's Aura and I wasn't
8:24 recognized right and I feel like that's the first thing if it's kind of a hard pill to swallow but I feel like as two projectors ourselves we can say that it's really empowering to swallow that pill that you cannot push other people to recognize you right you can't force anyone to do anything you can't force someone to be hungry and want food right and so just accepting that actually frees you and just being aware of the fact that when you push harder when someone is kind of retracting back from you it comes off as repelling it's the opposite effect of what you want so just knowing that is gives you a lot of power actually gives your peace back and it helps you to stop wasting energy where your energy is not meant meaning to flow or is not intended to flow and
9:10 definitely when I'm like just to give an example when I'm flying on a plane and I sit next to someone and they're like so where do you live and start doing the whole small talk thing I'm always kind of sentence by sentence taking out my recognition thermometer and seeing okay am I recognized to be more honest and more authentic in the next sentence or not so you know I'll start by being like Oh I live you know in the desert and my husband's a rock climbing guide and if they're like oh that's really cool and I can really feel that they see that that is cool they recognize it then you can go one step further of like yeah I own my own business like oh that's cool what's it about but then if at any point I feel them just I say what I am or I say answer my question but then they their eyes kind of go blank like it's
9:55 like it didn't register they didn't hear it they didn't see it they didn't take it in it just is like you can feel immediately and then I kind of stop at that I'm like great we can just have a surfacy conversation or this conversation can be over but I don't need to push them to understand me or recognize me and like if we keep going and I feel this recognition deepening they see me on deeper levels with each new authentic thing I share about them about myself they continue to receive it and recognize it if that happens like I've gotten in the most beautiful conversations on planes ever like just recently I flew by myself and I met these two women that we became instant BFFs and they didn't know about human design but they were into astrology and by the end of the conversation we were literally talking about neutrinos and
10:41 mycelium web networks and like our partners and like motherhood and like all of these things and we stayed in contact to this day we text each other every day now and that's an example of a time where I was totally recognized I got to be my full self it was so beautiful it's such a gift and I love that there's other plane rides where I'm like okay this person does not recognize me this new thing I shared it just they didn't see it and so I'm just going to stop and be okay with that and the difference there is enjoying when that recognition is there and allowing yourself to feel that free flowing creativity that happens for a projector when you recognized but also not needing it not being thirsty about it being accepting of the fact that sometimes it'll be there and sometimes it won't and that's okay yeah and not everybody
11:28 that you me needs to recognize you not everybody that you know needs to recognize you like this example with a plane right it's it's easier to be able to see how you can just quickly be like okay great like they don't need to recognize I'm never going to see this person again right but if you're at a party or a baby shower or an event and it's like somebody in your life like a friend of a friend or um a cooworker or you know an aunt or uncle or somebody like that in your life that you know them but literally sentence by sentence you're sensing is there actually recognition there or not and being okay with the fact that your aunt doesn't recognize you like not every single person in your life needs to you don't need to have that thirstiness that comes
12:15 across is so repelling and like that need to prove yourself of like I you need to know me um you you don't need every single person to recognize you they will when it's their time but once once again you can't force them to and you're not meant to you were meant to be surrounded by people who recognize you without you having to like drag them to the water to drink if you will so I think that was a huge lesson for me was that sentence by sentence and then being like cool like just not I don't need to push that and of course now I've gotten to a place where that feels really good because it's like that um you know how there's like fomo but then there's Jomo like the joy missing out like I have very limited
13:02 energy and so I'm like not trying to talk to anyone on the plane but also like recognized or not but also like if I'm meeting someone new or if I know someone and we start having a conversation where they're asking me like what do you do or what are you interested in right now or how has motherhood like pregnancy been for you right even in that place so many people are asking me that right now and as I'm explaining what pregnancy has been like I'm still going sentence by sentence of like do they actually want to hear my whole Journey or are they just like making small talk and they just want to like are they wanting to go that deep with me or are they just wanting to kind of connect in a little brief sentence and that is also a part of
13:48 recognition because if I'm trying to get them to go you know listen to my whole experience and go really deep with them but they're not that interested I'm going to leave that conversation feeling really really bitter because I'm going to feel misunderstood and I'm going to feel like I don't matter or that they don't get me and once again that's recognition right so there's so many places where this pops up and being okay with the fact that like not every single person is meant to recognize you I think to me was a huge weight off and it kept me from wasting my precious energy because it is precious and it is being stored in reserve for more important than like a conversation yeah I love that and so the
14:35 next point that I really wanted to talk about with recognition is that recognition is really at its highest level to be recognizing you for who you are and not what you do because as a projector while you are here to do things of course it's not the primary focus of your energy and of your time here because of the you being a projector you're much more here to see and to share your Insight and to share your advice or tweaks or guidance so that realm of how you see the world or who you are as an Essence what your wisdom is that's kind of the main area that that recognition is really meant to be on and it's interesting because I think in my life before discovering that
15:21 I was a projector I think this applies to both of us I would get a lot of recognition for the things that I did because I was pretending to be a manen and people pleasing my way through life and being a really hard worker like in high school I was taking two times more classes than a normal person I was literally coming to school at 6 o'clock in the morning and leaving at 6 o'clock at night if not later and I was doing all these things and I would get a lot of recognition for the things that I would do or the accomplishments that I would achieve and that was like this loow hanging fruit version of recognition where it's like this dopamine rush it feels good to be seen But at the end of the day you're being seen for what you're doing instead of what you're seeing and it doesn't have a sustainable and Lasting effect right once again like junk food recognition
16:08 and instead when there were people in my life that would really see who I am as a being my wisdom my insight the unique way that I see things those were the people that I felt like I had this sustainable flow of positive energy with those were the people that I felt like were really aligned for me in my life and in our former former careers like this was the main thing that was really dragging me down was I was really good at what I was doing I was working as a behavioral therapist for children on the autism spectrum and people were complimenting me and wanting to give me raises and all of that soaked my ego and allowed me to eat this recognition junk food but there was this underlying feeling that when I would Crash from those compliments and I would go home
16:55 and I would be still just like it feels off I still still feel invisible in some way like I still feel like they're looking at me but they're looking right through me instead of seeing my Essence and it felt very unfulfilling to me and it felt really trapping and like I felt a lot of bitterness from that place and all of that was because I was getting that recognition for what I do instead of the things that I was able to see or my unique wisdom or unique perspective as a projector yeah and it's really interesting because you know when you don't recognize yourself you get the high or the junk food high from recognition and compliments anywhere you
17:41 can because you're kind of seeing you're kind of like searching for like oh is that who I am am I a really good behavioral therapist am I a really good manager for me it was am I really good at putting out fires and I can take on anything and accomplish and bulldo anything like is that that who I am I'm getting all of this recognition and so I'm getting kind of high on that but then once again at the end of the day it's like gosh but if I had to do that for the rest of my life like that's not me that's not it but I don't know what is it but everybody else is telling me that I'm so good at this and that I'm they're really seeing my talents here but it just doesn't feel like me at the end of the day so that's why you know in our
18:27 projector Master Class we really talk about how to recognize yourself and going on the Journey of figuring out who you are and building your Lighthouse and really following those Fascinations so if being a projector is new to you and you're listening to this we recommend taking our projector master class or reading our book your human design to really get a grasp on how to see yourself as a projector because when you don't see yourself other people aren't seeing you either and you're just living compliment by compliment little bit of recognition scrap by recognition scrap into a an inevitable ditch of burnout so um you can find those resources we have the projector master class in our besties membership actually along with all the other type master classes it's a
19:13 really great um valuable resource our best used library and that's only $33 a month so if you wanted to go watch them all you could and then you could you know leave besties which like probably shouldn't be promoting that but it's the truth you could um the smart thing to do but you won't want to leave because besties is so amazing but anyways also in our book you can find some of that information but seeing yourself as a projector you're here to see you're here to guide and so that also includes you're here to see when you're not being recognized or when you are but it's not actually for who who you are and your true Essence yeah and one of the things that's really confusing it's like a conundrum about being a pro is that you
20:00 have this aura that is focused and penetrating it penetrates into the other you are designed to be able to deeply deeply see the other and to penetrate into systems in that way and that is something that is such a special talent energetically right it's what makes you such an amazing guide to be able to guide the energy use of others because you have that aura but we have that blind spot when it comes to seeing ourselves because of that right and so in very traditional human design it's like they'll talk about how being a projector like you need to be invited for everything and you have to just wait and wait and wait until someone invites you and while that is true if we take that too literally I feel like it can be very disempowering if you're a projector
20:46 and you're just sitting around forever waiting for other people to recognize the real you and and give you invitations that are really aligned for you and you're not doing any inner work it's just it's going to take forever it might happen there might be these Angel people in your life that really see you and that's beautiful when that does happen but it's disempowering to feel like you have to only wait for other people's external validation or recognition to start seeing yourself instead as two projectors ourselves we have found that it is extremely important to take the initiative to start loving yourself first believing in yourself first getting curious about who are you right what are your gifts what are your Fascinations all of that stuff
21:32 and when you take that initiative to start recognizing yourself and building that level of selflove it allows you to let go of your obsession on external validation or other people giving you that recognition and ironically that is the easy energy that then calls in that recognition if we are obsessed about other people and what they think about us and what they want from us we're going to be living our lives in a very disempowered Place overall and if instead we're focused on loving ourselves knowing ourselves taking the initiative to be our number one supporter in our life then from that place looking at how do I want to help other people how do I want to guide other people right that that selflove always has to be the foundation of it
22:18 and I think that's a huge thing that projectors Miss because our Aura is designed to see the other so while it's so important to develop a skill or to master A system that can help you guide other people and understand people's differences it's all going to fall apart if and have this um air of bitterness underneath it if it doesn't start with you recognizing yourself and validating yourself first and foremost yes and that piece is so important because otherwise like you said it is hollow and you become reliant on other people you're literally rant on them telling you you know why you should love yourself and what good about you and what they see in you but you're not actually fully seeing
23:04 the the full depths of who you are and what that is and I see so many projectors out there who are just waiting for their life to start who are just waiting for Prince Charming to come in and sweep them off their feet or who are just waiting for that perfect job to give them that perfect opportunity or for that talent scout to come and spot them and then book them on a show or book them on a you know thing and it's all coming from this place of superficially wanting somebody to love you but underneath you don't actually love yourself and that selfworth piece is the most important for projectors because if you don't love yourself like
23:50 truly like who you are and asking those deeper questions and like facing your demons and actually really navigating the reasons why maybe you have low self worth or you're not loving yourself then every single relationship that you have every single job that you do every single passion project that you decide to maybe try out is going to have this air of am I even good at this am I even worthy for this is this even right for me and you're not going to be fully committed to that thing because it's it has a a weak foundation so if you're just in the place of of um building your Lighthouse what we would say but really starting to see yourself as a projector I want to encourage you not to rush that process with the first
24:38 compliment you get or the first you know little bit of recognition that you receive but to really spend some time asking like why is this thing fascinating to me like what within it what within that like really asking like for me why is human design fascinating to me and that leads me to because it brings Liberation and because it's so expansive it can be applied to anything and why is that fascinating why is expansion fascinating to me because it's Limitless and it makes me feel like anything is possible right why is Liberation fascinating to me well that brings me back to my ancestry and also brings me to every single person on the planet who's trapped in their minds like why is that fascinating right so you can keep going and you get to this place
25:23 where you just feel so in love with your mind and so in love with the way that you see the world but I wanted to give that as an example because you can say like go on that rabbit hole but like you only go like two steps in and you're like okay so I'm going to be a nutritionist and so maybe I'm good at that and then one person tells you like you're good at that and then you keep going there but it has this sense of superficialness because you didn't keep going to ask yourself like what within nutrition is it the fact that our government doesn't provide good nutrition is it the fact that you feel empowered around your body when you're eating healthy is it the literal like plants and their medicine like really asking yourself those questions that's going to help you to fall in love with yourself and then when somebody comes
26:09 along who doesn't recognize you or who doesn't get it or who is genuinely not interested in asking you about yourself and what you do it doesn't shake you at all because you literally don't need their Insight in your Lighthouse or in your castle at all because they never were a part of it to begin with yeah yes I love that and you know we talked so much about sacral beings and their body being the main leading force in their life as a projector it really is your psychological mind that leads you so when we talk about Fascination it's that mental curiosity that just feels like this magnetism you feel your aura wanting to dip into that rabbit hole and if you can really fall in love with that
26:55 process for yourself first that is where you create so much magnetism of other people inviting you to then get to share that with them and guide them and share that resource whereas if you're just taking the first step of following your Fascinations and then looking around and saying who likes that I'm doing this and who wants me it's not going to be sustainable or or very successful you might have some success if you're doing that but it won't be sustainable and Lasting and real for you so I we really do recommend kind of going on that Journey of all of the different projector processes that we discuss in our book or in that master class and then once you've done that and you've really gone on that Journey internally then it's so important to allow yourself
27:41 to be seen a lot of projectors that we know feel really bitter because they feel like people don't see them or recognize them or recognize their gifts but it's like you have told literally not one soul that you're learning this thing you haven't let anyone see you doing this and so a lot of projectors get tripped up how can I let people see me while I'm still waiting for the invitation that is an art form and it is 100% possible and so this is where we're talking about waiting for the invitation being if it's too literal it stops you you know once you discover what you're fascinated in and you have your Viewpoint it's time to talk about it it's time to share it it's time to put yourself out there and not hide because only if people see the real and authentic you can they even recognize
28:26 you that feels vulnerable CU you're kind of putting yourself out there first right you're doing that sentence by sentence thing we were talking about sometimes it feels like dipping your toe in the water and if the water's warm then you can dip your foot in the water and if the water's warm you can start waiting in um as a projector so in general when you're sharing yourself with people or your Fascinations or whatever it is you're learning sometimes you will feel like you're kind of like dipping a toe in and seeing how open they are but as long as you're really staying in your Zone you're saying this is why I'm fascinated in this thing this is what I'm excited about you don't need an invitation to talk about yourself you just really want to make sure that energetically you're staying on your side of the street and you're not um pushing or forcing it into their life
29:13 like you need to look up this thing until that recognition and invitation is there yeah so one thing I really like to recommend for projectors is once you have that Viewpoint like Dana was saying and you you're fascinated with something and you're so lit up by it and and you can't you like want to talk about it right um having something like social media like a new social media that you create with the handle where you literally you're not thinking oh my Aunt Karen follows me on here and now I'm going to be talking every day on my story about you know um sexual Karma right like a place where it feels like it's safe it's completely safe for you to just talk about the things that you want and the people people who follow
29:58 you have invited you and recognize you um that's always a really easy free place to start and of course you're going to have zero followers or you might share it on your personal Instagram be like follow me over here if you want tips on you know overcoming your sexual trauma or whatever it is and then they can but having something whether that's a podcast or a blog or social media of some kind a Tik Tok where you feel energetically like you can share yourself and you're not going to be repelling anyone who didn't invite you because all of the people that are consuming it are choosing to consume it versus like um they were already
30:45 following you before if you will so with that energy I've seen a lot of times some projectors being like okay I'm gonna share it all right now on my platform like completely pivot and everyone kind of has this energy of like wait what like I had no idea like this is shocking and then they're like I put myself out there and now I'm not being seen or being recognized fully so there's different Dynamics like Dana said it is an art form but the goal that you're looking for is sharing yourself in a container that is free for you to fully talk about all the things that you're interested in without necessarily having to constantly gauge it so for us it was the podcast right and then that led to the Instagram
31:31 and it led to all the different things that we do but it's going to be different for you what's the way that feels easy what's the way that feels expansive and feels good use your Authority all of that stuff um but the recognition piece conversation by conversation is going to be dipping your toe in the water and seeing sentence by sentence and of course that can be a really great place to start too like just talking about with your partner or your best friend or your coworker like yeah I've been learning a lot about Karma and it's been really interesting to me and it's helped me in so many different ways if you're keeping it on your side of the street and not saying so you should do this then it's to like you don't need to wait for that invitation to talk about yourself to talk about the things that you're interested in and fascinated in you're
32:17 meant to share yourself you're just not then saying okay but now you do it and let me see what happens yeah and if you're meeting someone new maybe you can share it with them and if you feel their their eyes go blank they did not see it they did not register it's like okay I shared it and now I'm going to move on you know what I mean you don't have to keep going further like no you have to see how much I'm in love with this thing right going back to kind of that very first point that we were talking about here and just to give you all an example um when Shaya and I were first learning about human design we were in love with human design we still are to this day but we were on an airplane just reading books together about human design and I am not joking maybe five to six people on the plane rid stopped us and said hey
33:03 girl sorry to interrupt you what are you guys reading and we're like oh we're reading this book on human design and then we' wait and that's it and then they if they asked us further questions wow what is that I've never heard of that before and a lot of people by the end of the sentence they're like do you guys have a website can we learn from this this from you like where do I buy this book I'd love to have conversations on this do you teach workshops like people were really asking us and coming up to us just because they could see us reading a book so I wanted to share that story because that's another way that you can be out in the world you know reading about human design or working on a human design creative project in the park somewhere and someone might come up to you and talk to you about it where ver versus if you're or the same thing
33:48 right if you do that and then you share it on your Instagram share that you're reading this book that's a great way too so I just wanted to share those real life examples because I am not joking like that works and if you're feeling under recognized underappreciated undervalued in your life do this process for yourself for real and then when you're ready and you've done all of the inner work allow people to see you authentically and courageously and and see where that takes you yes and I do want to just add when in doubt talking about like literally just what you're doing and what you're interested in is always the way to go so like the difference right between saying here's 10 tips to change your life with human design do these 10 things right on your Instagram where
34:35 everyone you ever met follows you that's like literally they're going to come across that and be like whoa don't tell me what to do I don't even know what you're talking about but if you say I just learned these 10 tips and holy it's changed my life then people are like oh that's interesting how has it changed your life like you're not directing that at me you're literally just talking about yourself and there's a lean in that happens um versus like a whoa hold on I wasn't expecting you to come into my aura and like tell me what to do so just noticing that energetic difference that's it that's all it is when it comes to being seen is there the pushiness or is there the just letting yourself be seen and then of course if you're in a space where literally people recognize you then great share the 10
35:21 tips that people can do today to change their life with human design right um so yeah I think that that's May a really like we're using human design as an example but you can apply that to like literally whatever thing that you're fascinated in and then letting yourself be seen within that yes I love that and within this process of you know going on this journey to build your own Lighthouse and let people see you something that I think is extremely important that projectors probably don't want to hear is that it's important to be patient about this right you're not following your Fascinations for external validation if you're doing it correctly you're following them because you are fascinated by it and it fills you up to follow that and to learn about the world
36:07 and to see the world in your unique way and so if you start creating something or start sharing something like this example Shaina was giving is starting a brand new Instagram where you can tell people I'm sharing this here if you want to follow me and learn about it you're invited but you know you come to me um if you decide to do that and you only get let's say a hundred followers after doing it for a year you really have to be honest with yourself am I doing this for the right reasons if I love doing it and it's my creative Outlet to express my viewpoint and my insights and the hundred people that are here following me recognize me and I love learning too and are engaged with me like if that is
36:53 all real for you then that is a huge success and out of a hundred people that follow you guess what if you start a container that's a group coaching or a group workshop with 10 people you have 10 times the amount of people that you need following you so please do not get in uh discouraged by the external validation that's showing up I think one of our biggest keys to success with day Luna was that we literally didn't give a what anyone thought we didn't care who invited us we didn't care like we gave ourselves permission to just do it for the right reasons which is that we're fascinated in it we love it we're sharing because it's aligned for us and we didn't put pressure on the external
37:39 to catch up so quickly that's important that patience is so important and as a projector we are efficient beings we want to just get to Our Success already but there's a natural unfolding that happens and when you're being too hard on yourself you're just falling right back into that external valid ation trap that we talked about from the beginning of this episode so having that patience and that selflove like it applies in all of these different angles in all of these different ways um so being okay with the once again people not recognizing you being okay being invisible to some people being okay if you only have a hundred followers like all of that is a form of self-confidence and of self-love and if what you're doing is aligned for you you have to
38:25 just trust that things will unfold in the way that they're meant to and the timing they're meant to yes I love it so just to solidify everything here that we've kind of talked about the tips for cultivating authentic recognition in our lives the first one is working on loving yourself first that has to be the foundation and the word love feels like so overused and almost doesn't mean anything like love yourself it's like okay cool I do now what right like really loving yourself looks like really looking at yourself really being okay with other people looking at you and talking about your wounds and that confidence that comes when you don't care what other people think about you
39:10 because you know what you think about you and you love yourself right working on loving yourself first and foremost and then number two using your projector magic recognizing others from a place of of like your true Fascinations without an expect in in return so like your projector magic really is being able to see people being able to see projects and systems and whatever that thing is that you're so fascinated into like that penetrating order that you have It's Magic you're meant to have it people need that they want that in their lives it's just of course are you recognized to give it and then if you are great like have that deep conversation with that friend have that creative um
39:57 connection with that person or that client or that audience that's really wanting to go into that zone with you like you are meant to have that wisdom and that penetrating Aura and I wanted to say here with this uh projector magic being able to recognize people projectors are incredible at giving really specific and meaningful compliments to other people in that like perfect moment where it can just change that person's life to receive that is such a gift um never underestimate how powerful that is and I find a lot of times I might not have the level of recognition or the invitation to give someone advice but there is that recognition there for me to give them a really powerful and loving compliment
40:45 and um when you do that you you know as a projector when you see another person that's how you see yourself you see the way that you see others and that gives you even more self-love for who you are it's just about making sure that you keep it in that authentic Zone and you're not just giving someone a compliment because now they owe you something or they're going to invite you in something so it has to just be a really pure and genuine intention but use your projector magic and see the gift that you are to other people you seeing that is then going to create that authentic recognition that comes from other people um the third Point here is let people see you while you're waiting for the invitations we really talked about this with social media with going out into the world really make sure that you're not hiding your true self or
41:33 hiding parts of yourself you know one of the big unlocking moments for us in our Journeys we stopped hiding in the spiritual closet you know like when we were in work we were not talking about the all of the fascinating things we were learning and then we were feeling like why does no one recognize me and when we started just voicing that more letting people see the full spectrum of who we were who we were um everything started changing so let yourself be seen for who you are just make sure that you're in that realm in that energetic zone of waiting for the recognition waiting for the imitation yes and then the last point is stop wasting your precious energy where it is not recognized this is what I was mentioning before you don't have unlimited energy
42:18 so if you are not recognized by somebody great like amazing that's okay they're not aligned for you in that moment they might come around later they might not so if you have a romantic breakup or a friendship breakup if that means that you're being alone for a little bit that's great use that time to rest use that time to study what fascinates you use that time to recognize yourself and then share yourself in the places where it feels safe to share what's interesting and what's fascinating to you and what's lighting you up right now um focusing on the people that feel really good like feel like they recognize you and where it's safe for you to share those things and noticing when in the conversation it shifts and now you're not recognized and not being
43:03 you know bitter about it but instead being like okay cool great that wasn't recognized maybe it will be in the future I know I was right but that's okay um they don't need to know I was right because I'm GNA come back to focusing on myself recognizing myself and these steps especially in interpersonal relationships when it comes to like the hardest place where it is toit wait for the invitation which is with friends and family and giving them advice or unsolicited advice um these steps kind of repeat in a circle where it's like oh okay I'm so recognized and now I've said something now I'm feeling bitter and I'm repelling them and I need to come back to step number one of loving myself and recognizing myself and
43:50 focusing on the things that I feel really recognized in and seeing maybe the fact that am bitter that is recognizing yourself and so you go through those steps again and have that compassion knowing that you're not meant to be perfect you're going to say things that repel people you're going to feel like you have to force someone to recognize you at times and in certain conversations and Dynamics and that's okay you're not meant to be the perfect person to be worthy enough to be someone's best friend or someone's partner or someone's whatever it's that's that self- Lov piece that compassion piece of like okay I can trust that my close relationships aren't going to abandon me if I'm not perfect
44:37 or if I repel them for a week or a conversation right like I if I can check myself and know like oh I was repelling and now I need to back off and I need to come back to my own Zone that phrase that I've said a few times on the podcast not my circus not my monkeys that really helps me to come back to step number one here um because all of this is I feel in my life easier to apply to work and to sharing my genius but it's harder to apply in like my relationship with my husband or with my with Dana as my business partner my best friend or with all of my close friends and family I'll notice it slip at like one conversation dinner where everything was
45:23 going great and then I said that one thing like why do you still have a relationship ship with that person and it's like oh that was not invited so just kind of knowing this is an Ever evolving Journey you're going it's going to be getting easier and easier and you'll be noticing the energetics easier and easier but as the projector you see things so deeply it has to start with you seeing yourself first yeah I love that and it's so true like even in our human design Journeys and our Journeys into becoming more of who we are more authentic like we've been in our human design experiment for over seven years now and it's really interesting to see the way our lives are literally completely different from when we started 1,00% like the amount of recognition we
46:11 have in our lives is really really beautiful and special I'm so grateful for it it's such a huge part of our success is to feel like our community and our clients really get us and honor our wisdom and they see us and like I don't feel invisible I feel like a real girl like I feel like seen right and that feeling is so beautiful to have and we have so such an abundance of it and like for example when we're at our retreat in Mexico like Peak alltime recognition where we all recognize each other to be in that bubble is just an a static State a bliss State and then for us then we come home and then I come back to like my family and a family emergency with my in-laws in a state
46:56 where I am just completely unrecognized not seeing it all invisible again so even though I've come all of this way and I've changed my life and I have this recognition and success in my life it's not like now I'm just living like I this is not a problem for me anymore like I don't have to navigate when I'm not recognized like you'll always have places where you're deeply recognized and places where you're not it never gets like easier and like now you don't have to think about it anymore as we were saying in the beginning it's a day to day conversation to conversation sentence in the conversation by sentence in the conversation thing and you know when you can Embrace that it actually makes it all more fun it makes it like living the projector game and um I just
47:44 wanted to highlight that because I feel like sometimes people see your end result you know at the end of a seven-year cycle and they're like wow if I could just get there my life will be perfect and I won't have to deal with these things anymore it's like no this is a navigation of every new Octave of your life and yes our life has changed so much I'm so grateful for that you know to have the level of recognition we have now is amazing but we still are dealing with these same things because it's the it's the way that you navigate so embracing it wherever you are is the most helpful thing because honestly it doesn't really matter if you are on one octave or the other it's the same internal process of you taking empowerment over your life you are empowered to change and as a projector that can be so scary like am I really dependent on other people to feel
48:29 empowered no you're not and we are here to be the voices that stand for that because I feel like there is some misinformation in the way that things are communicated in the human design space around projectors so you're empowered to make this change and embrace this process of navigating this because it will be a lifelong journey no matter what octave you're on yes I love that so I just want to encourage you to not waste your energy where it's not needed um we have even podcast guests that we have come on who don't recognize us and by the end of the conversation they do more like they recognize us more and so many people have like dm'd us um so many of our listeners are like oh my gosh I could tell in the beginning that he or she didn't recognize you and then
49:17 by the end of it they came around and they were like oh okay these aren't just like two dumb podcast that like you know super like don't know anything like we actually know things I mean do we does anyone but it's just so interesting like not even being offended in the slightest not being bitter in the slightest but just telling from a first conversation like you know first few sentences like oh okay I'm dipping my toe in a little bit slower here and I'm avoiding some of these other things that I know I'm definitely not recognized in right now and that's okay and maybe by the end of the combo that'll be gone maybe it won't and like I literally don't care I don't need to waste my energy there so I just
50:03 want to encourage you to save your energy projector queens and kings and beings um because it's yours it's yours to give away choosing where you give it to is all that's your freedom that's your empowerment yes so thank you so much for tuning in to this episode it felt really fun for us to get to dive in to the projector life path and share our own examples here so we'd love to hear from you how this episode landed for you you can reach out to us on our Instagram which is Duna you can find all of our offerings on our website de luna.com that's where you can find our human design reader training if you're feeling the call to learn more about human design and become a human design reader
50:49 that's where you can find all of our other offerings trainings videos um like Shaina was saying you can watch the projector master Class Type video in our membership which is called your human design besties and it is only $33 a month so it's a really good value for a really affordable price if you want to dive in there and learn a bunch of video or learn a bunch from different videos and do meditations do tappings meet with us for a live ceremony sometimes we even do live q&as we would love to see you in there it's always so nourishing to get to share this human design journey in that intimate space yes so we will see you soon deuna life.com Duna and leave us a review if you love this podcast or if you like this podcast I should say um
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