What A Decade In The Adult Industry Taught Me About Women

0:00 I've worked in the adult film industry for nearly a decade. 3 years as a high-class male escort servicing wealthy business women and 5 years as an award-winning porn star shooting for the biggest companies on earth like Brazzers and Kink. And throughout all this, I learned some rather eye-opening lessons about women including things they're attracted to but will never admit in public. And I'll be sharing five of those lessons with you today. So, let's get stuck into it. The first lesson I learned is that high body count women tend to be quite scatterbrained, especially in the porn industry because they're used to such extreme stimulation on a day-to-day basis. Not just stimulation from sex, but stimulation from attention as well. They're being

0:45 photographed all day, they're having sex in front of a bunch of camera crew, they're getting constant validation from their fans on all their social media, they're being invited to award shows, they're being invited to Hollywood Hill parties because they're a pretty young girl. It's just this constant, never-ending stream of attention, attention, attention. And it gets to the point where their baseline for stimulation has just been set so [ __ ] high that they can barely function normally anymore. It's a form of ADHD. And if you talk to them, you can barely keep their attention for more than a few seconds because they're always on their phone instantaneously. Because they're on their phone instantly. When they go to parties, they're the ones that have to be dancing on the table naked or doing drugs or drinking a bunch. And all of these women can't be happy in a

1:32 healthy, stable relationship. You literally have to be a criminal psychopath, otherwise she gets bored of you and cheats. And once these girls leave the industry and all that stimulation drops, they usually end up depressed or they have some kind of crisis and they find their relationship prospects aren't usually that great. They struggle to find a job and some of them even struggle to open or keep bank accounts open. But at the end of the day, don't forget that they're still a pretty girl. Meaning, there usually is still some guy who doesn't care about their past and will end up marrying them. Because they're cute, they're hot. That is literally what happens most of the time. So, it's actually not that bad of an outcome for them. But, unfortunately, because she's still that high stimulation girl, she ends up driving the guy insane. She'll likely

2:17 still be doing drugs and alcohol and maybe cheating on him on the side. So, the lesson here is that the women who have a very high body count tend to end up with a form of ADHD or scatterbrain. And women who are scatterbrained also tend to have a high body count. It goes both ways. These two things go very much hand in hand because sex is a form, the ultimate form really, of stimulation and attention. The second thing I learned is that the most beautiful women on the planet are insecure about their looks. The amount of cosmetic surgeries that I see these women in the industry go through is absolutely staggering. I've seen so many naturally beautiful girl-next-door types go through so much surgery in their first couple of years in the industry that they don't even look like the same person anymore.

3:03 Botox, lip fillers, lipo, facelifts, butt lifts, fake titties, everything. And it gets to the point where it looks like, comes across as like a mental illness. They all end up looking the same after a few years. They all try to look like [ __ ] Kim Kardashian. They probably even go to the same plastic surgeon as her. And these are all naturally beautiful women who are like 20 years old. And this isn't just limited to women that are in porn. It's women whose entire status depends on their physical appearance. They're the ones who get caught up with some small imperfection or perceived imperfection. And it turns into this big overblown insecurity for them. That's why you see so many women in Hollywood and Playboy models getting some kind of plastic surgery as well. This doesn't happen for the average girl. It's ironically the

3:50 most beautiful ones that get the most cosmetic work done all the time. And so, I think what you as a guy can take away from this is that beautiful women have insecurities just like everyone else. Probably even more than the average person, which I think is actually helpful to remember because a lot of guys tend to put beautiful women on this pedestal and then forget that these women are human beings just like you and me. The third lesson I actually learned when I left the porn industry in 2020. This insight really opened my eyes into how the female mind works and how they don't think the same as men at all. You see, when I left, I honestly thought I would have a hard time dating regular women, women who weren't in that industry. I had this assumption that women would be turned off by my past and that I would only be able to attract

4:37 [ __ ] women. But, I was surprised at how much women in general just did not care about my past. My background has made precisely zero difference to my dating life. Zero. Even the most stereotypical good girl, like a literal pastor's daughters, who was a virgin and goes to church every weekend. Girls like that were not ever put off by my past at all. In fact, many women were more intrigued by it than anything else. These are all young women who were raised very well, who maybe had one or two past boyfriends maximum. Some of them couldn't even leave the house unless their father gave them permission. And this was a consistent pattern that I noticed, which just goes

5:22 to show that men and women are completely different in how we think in terms of sex and relationships. As guys, when we find out a girl's had a rather prolific sexual past, it can put us off pretty quickly. But, for women, it makes basically no difference and it doesn't matter if she is a good girl or she's the [ __ ] party type. Now, the fourth lesson I learned when I started working for the BDSM site kink.com. And it's about what women are secretly craving in bed, but are too embarrassed to [music] admit. You see, kink.com is well known for very dominant, almost masochistic, sex scenes. And whenever I shot for them, even I was surprised at how viscerally and and enthusiastically these women responded to things like

6:08 being tied up, BDSM, whips and paddles, spankings, hair pullings, extreme acts like that. In fact, there was one girl in particular who literally begged me to punch her in the face. No joke. Those were her exact words. Now, personally, I was quite uncomfortable doing that. So, obviously, I didn't start throwing haymakers during sex. Even though with other porn stars, she did some really, really extreme stuff. But, all I did was sort of tap her on the cheek with my knuckles like this. And that tapping sensation actually caused her to orgasm. And I just saw this same kind of pattern over and over again with women requesting for these more kinky, extreme things and how well they responded to them. And the crazy part is companies like kink have no problem getting women

6:54 to shoot for them. These companies are bombarded with applications from women who are trying to get involved in this. Women who are literally waiting for their turn to be tied up. And then, you contrast this with other companies I shot for which didn't specialize in dominant sex scenes. Whenever the girl and I had chemistry and we started to get a little bit too passionate, the director would actually stop us and say things like, "Look, you can't do any choking. You can't do any hair pulling. Don't be so rough. We do We don't do that kind of thing here. Give us a more vanilla performance." And then we'd be like, "Ah, fuck." And we'd we'd do that. And I could just see the look in the woman's eyes. She was so disappointed that she didn't get the sex she actually wanted. She wasn't enjoying it as much as she could. Especially if she liked me and wanted me to do these more

7:40 passionate, dominant things. So, the point I'm trying to make here is that when given the choice, women always choose more dominant sex over the the vanilla lovey-dovey type of sex. It's an innate desire that women have, and it's not just limited to women who are in porn. I saw this pattern when I worked as a high-class male escort for wealthy business women, and also in my personal life. All women have this darker side to their sexuality. It's just that most women never talk about it publicly or with men. They're too embarrassed to admit it. And speaking of sex, after being in the adult industry for so long and having sex with a girl or two, what I've come to realize is that women are a lot more similar to each other than they are different in terms of what they respond to physically during sex. They

8:25 pretty much all respond to the same things mechanically and psychologically. They all have the same buttons that you can push. Now, there's obviously differences in how extreme they like it. Some women are super kinky, and they want you to tie them up from the chandelier, and choke them out, and maybe get more heavy-handed with them. And they orgasm from that. And other women don't want you to go that extreme, but they will still respond to leadership dominance passion intensity. They all want to at least be manhandled a bit and thrown onto the bed. They want to be told what to do. They all want to be dominated to some degree. [music] They all find it extremely arousing. And again, it's not just limited to women who are

9:11 degenerate. I've seen this with totally normal vanilla nice girls as well. And the reason why is very [clears throat] simple. Being dominant demonstrates a man's capacity for violence. It demonstrates strength. Now, don't misinterpret what I'm saying here. I used the word capacity very deliberately. We don't want to actually hurt her, but by demonstrating that you have that capacity for violence in you [music] in a safe, controlled way around her. You're telling her on a very subconscious, instinctual level that you have the ability to protect her. You have the ability to defend her from life-threatening situations. Women are hardwired to be attracted to men who are capable of that, who are stronger than them. Because, if you think about it from an evolutionary standpoint, if we go back in time to caveman times, women

10:00 always needed a man for protection then. She needed it so that her and her offspring could literally survive. So, she was hardwired to seek out men who are strong and who are capable of being violent. It's only in modern times that women don't need men for survival, because we've made society, we've made the world so comfortable and easy to live in. But, that doesn't mean that the evolutionary hardwiring isn't still there. It very much is. Women are evolved to seek out and fall in love with men who are bigger and stronger than them. And by being dominant, you are conveying to her that you are those things. So, ironically, if you can be dominant in a safe and calibrated way, she will actually feel more safe with you. This is one of the reasons that I created my sexual dominance escalation video course, because a big problem I

10:46 see is a lot of guys, when they hear that they need to be more dominant, they go straight from like vanilla to tying her up and trying to choke her and slap her and [ __ ] Most girls are not ready for that straight away. You need to warm them up a bit first. She needs to feel comfortable with you. And more importantly, you need to feel comfortable with what you're doing. Because, if you're scared or hesitant or timid, she's going to feel scared and hesitant and timid herself. So, you need to get more comfortable and confident first. And that's why in sexual dominance escalation, I map out all of these different dominance moves and techniques and sex acts on a spectrum from like vanilla to super duper kinky. You know, vanilla being, you know, the super tame, where it's basically just teasing her and some light restraining. And super duper kinky being like

11:33 BDSM-style dominance, which I guarantee you will ingrain you into her memory forever if you get to that point. And I demonstrate everything step-by-step on real women. I put everything on a spectrum, so it's easy for you to pick something that's within both you and her's comfort level. So, any man can provide a good experience for their woman without crossing any boundaries. And obviously, you don't have to do the extreme stuff if you don't want to. But, I just decided to give you the tools and know-how, so you can go as far as you want. The link's in the description down below if you want to check it out. Now, with that said, if you enjoyed the insights that I shared here today, then you'll enjoy this video over here, where I go over six more insights about women that I learned specifically during my career as a high-class male companion

12:19 for wealthy businesswomen.