0:00 Hello everyone, anyone will be happy to chat for hours with El if you can master the program or system that we will discuss in this video, so let me introduce you first, you must be confused, who is this appearing on YouTube El, right? And who is this person? There is a whiteboard. There are pens and all sorts of things in his hand, right? So let me introduce you first. My name is Jason Stanley and I have more than 5 years of experience in the field of communication science, so I deepened science communication where in science communication we dissect communication from the psychological side, so we see how people communicate, what happens in their brain processes or from their psychological side. So we dissect Psychology to its roots
0:46 for the context of communication and I also have my own edotch platform called Stanley Academy, which now has 750, it should be around 800, so there are 800 people who have experienced drastic changes after applying the material they learned from my edotch, Stanley Academy, into their lives and this is not only limited to the context, for example, students or maybe entrepreneurs. from all fields People feel drastic changes so I have a little credibility to talk about the topic that we will discuss in this video well in this video my promise is that you will be able to chat for hours with anyone you meet and this cares for you for example whether you want to be in the world of campus you want to be in the world of
1:33 office in the world of work want to be in business negotiations l networking when you go to events and or maybe you are with a crush So you can chat for hours with the girl you like or maybe the guy you like so what I will discuss in this video is a system a system sorry if my writing is not visible but what I will B video this time is a system Okay not something that is called ee Tips so if the system is different from tips is that the system that we practice today consists of three main steps that you need to do Okay so these three steps if El does it to anyone it is
2:20 different people at work for example Here for example let me draw a picture yes the picture is a bit ugly but suppose you apply three eh this system so this system consists of three steps where if these three steps you applied for example to satbu yes work context one more example in the context of eh students one more example in the context of a crush for example yes whether it is in Romance work or in an informal context El will get the same result which is that you can chat for hours with anyone and this has also been applied by more than 300 people who at that time I had the opportunity to hold a webinar and all of them got this context and the result when we followed
3:07 up again Via WhatsApp further and via email most of them said this trick was successful Okay so I really beg you to invest just a moment of your time this video is free you only pay using your time and I really appreciate your time okay that's why Uh here I will go straight into the material because you must be confused Like Bang what is this system and How do I do it like that and How can I apply it to my life in the next 30 days okay in the next 30 days whoever you meet later El will be able to chat for hours with him by applying a system that I call The System Of
3:53 Golden which I call system yes so the name of this system I call it The System Of Golden Top and I have validated this myself from Psychology and there is also science communication that we have studied and has also been applied by many people so this system is called the Golden Topic System Of Golden Topic now bro What is the system of Gold topic right so the system of Gold topic That explains basically Suppose we will dissect a little with s suppose we have a friend with me yes suppose we have a friend here let me draw this eye this face suppose this suppose our two friends name let's give our friend's name
4:40 yes suppose his name is Kevin here Kev let's give a little professional so we can be clearer suppose Kevin is a really fun office friend Kev office friend in the new office world together for example Kan just moved jobs like that with me Well we have a friend named Kevin here gender is male or female is free basically his name is Kevin in general is usually male like that right Well Kevin as a human we will define first so we understand the system Kevin is categorically himself he is human
5:27 okay okay human Kevin is human now I want us to think laterally more deeply because Kevin is human then Kevin consists of two components first there is a guess what the first is the brain okay the second is the body this is broken I will get a few questions from the field for example from biology Bang brain and body not the brain is a part of the body yes right Bang but what I mean in this context for these two is the brain that moves information to the body so the brain
6:12 sends information to the body so for example I move my hand now that is information from my brain to move my nerves to raise my hand up lower it down there are a lot of explanations but the short story is the brain moves the body So from here What we can get the point is Okay Because Kevin is human and Kevin consists of brain and body then what we can conclude is Kevin's brain moves his body well this is what is interesting from the field of System Of Golden topic that is if Kevin's brain plays a very important role until his body is moved by his brain then I want to dissect his brain first okay because his brain is the main key in unique
6:59 also the same as Kevin's brain basically we will look at the aspects of communication for a moment I will definitely get questions Bang what is the relationship between this brain and communication like that because I'm discussing communication in this video, I'll just discuss communication, it's up to you if you want to discuss it biologically. His side is related to enzymes, Bang, what is our brain communicating? Well, in Kev's brain communication, what I'm going to dissect more is now I want to add the scenario, suppose El and I are talking to this guy, this guy or this guy, yeah, this is Kevin and this
7:46 guy. Well, from here, what we want to pay attention to is Adama or Berbara here talking to him logically, actually the one talking is not Kevin but Berbara, Kev's brain and son, got it, yeah, otakamaah, now from there, there are several possibilities that could happen, the main one is talking, then El's brain and Kevin's brain are
8:32 here, El's brain and here, for example, Kevin's brain, what happens is when talking to Kev, there will be various topics discussed with him, agree, oh, Bang, yesterday with Kev, the one who was told, guama, mis, say Entertainment, yeah, Entertainment, oh, Bang, for example, I'm still Kevin, yesterday I chatted with Kevin about your YouTube video, oh, crazy, thank you, really cool, mis, unscripted Jen Stanley, now that In general, what happens in The System Of Golden topic is
9:18 this when El talks about these three topics, for example, you and Kevin from the conversation. Sometimes there are topics that Kevin is just like Oh okay. There are also topics, for example, in the field of Entertainment, for example, talking about K Drama, yeah, talking about the latest drama in the world of perkopan, right? Kevin is immediately very enthusiastic, you know, very enthusiastic. Oh my, this is really cool, this is crazy. Yesterday I just watched it, I was the same, I just watched about Queen of Ars, for example, that's crazy, really cool, Kevin, like that, eh, he's just like this, oh, that's just
10:03 like that because it seems like he's probably interested, really Boss, now I'm going to use a little linear scale. Yes, when talking to K, he becomes the brain of the topics being discussed, in general, Kevin's brain will give an interesting rating, because Kevin's comment is that
10:49 he's not enthusiastic yet. The point is, when this happens, what you need to do from these three topics is to choose one topic that at least Kevin only answers oh oh or just like HH, it's like he's responding What are you talking about, his brain responds to what he's talking about, okay bro, I'm a little confused, so how can I find this topic, bro, because I'm really confused about being able to assess or find a topic
11:35 that is interesting for him, okay, I'll go back a little to the system of logic. The system of logic consists of two steps, eh, of three steps, one is listening, the second is observing and analyzing, the third is probing, this is what I'm going to discuss, this step is what I call the Dar leningser andkang section, bro, what is the clear concept of top, what you said is the
12:21 step of listening to Kevin and his K, for example, talking about three topics, so position yourself as an S or a researcher who talks about various topics with Minal, whoever it is, as a topic, for example, Fin, philosophy, business, or something like that, from these five topics, for the first system, in the listening section, see which topic makes
13:08 Kevin talk more, talk more here, but that's enough, it's clear that he talks more, the second is also to look at Kevin's nonverbal, namely his voice intonation increases Bro, how is the voice intonation so captivating? Bro, like this, eh oh Gun, I don't really like it. Oh crypto. Oh I. Yesterday I had the chance to invest in xrp. Do you know? Well, that is voice intonation. You can really see the difference. So, the voice intonation is produced from Kevin's brain. I even mentioned it before about the components of the
13:55 body and brain. The brain when receiving topics or information that are interesting to him. This is also explained in my course about central and peripheral routes, but it's too long if I explain it. Basically, if there is a topic that is interesting and useful for someone, their brain responds with increased intonation. Usually, I said e g. Oh xrp crypto. Oh, Marin, I invest. Bro. Well, that's really obvious. The voice intonation is okay. The third one is if at first he talks more. At first, maybe he's less active, he talks more, his voice intonation increases. And the third one is the most important. The third one is when you talk about a topic and Kevin does this. At first, maybe he's reading a book or he's
14:41 playing with his cellphone or he's looking in which direction he's like this. Focus. Okay, so he's focused. Bro, what are the characteristics of initial focus while playing with his cellphone, for example? put down his cellphone and gave it to you who was playing on his laptop before putting his laptop down, for example, before that, while reading a book, suddenly there was a topic xrp xrp Oh yeah, yes, yesterday I invested Bro, maybe not immediately, but after a while Oh yeah, yesterday I had time to trade Well, you see his body language, so what was initially while reading a book, for example, then he held it and he put it down for a long time, it is very likely that if you find these three steps, so you find these three criteria from a topic that was discussed
15:26 with the other person, then it is very likely that we have succeeded in the first phase, which is Okay, Bro, next, Okay, next, what else, Bro, I've finished, for example, the topic is Kevin, after I rated Kevin, he was most included in the criteria, next, we will keep the one that was on the user and this is what I want you to do when you already have e kpto here, this kpto topic is a topic that meets the criteria, what I want to do next in this system is I
16:12 want you to do what's called an AB test, okay, like this, in research, researchers usually have a hypothesis, okay, hypothesis or Duan Sara hipes, usually followed by later there will be The name EB testing so EB testing is used to test the truth of the hypothesis and later it will come out what is called the result or result, this result will prove this hypothesis is right or wrong, well this is what I will also apply in The System Of Golden Topic Okay Bang Okay hypothesis testing hypothesis results, yes I have found, for example, the topic he likes is I
16:59 suspect it seems Kevin likes toppto now we will go into the second part, observe and analyze, observe and analyze, this is similar to what is called testing, okay Bang How do I do testing in this context, this is what I do in the second topic, when I find a topic, I want to do this, I want to ask Kevin questions that are relevant to the
17:57 topic [Music], for example, if Kevin still shows what I said earlier in the first listening, there are three criteria, the first is he talks more, the second is his voice increases and the third is he is more focused, yes, he is still focused on this part, for example, if I ask these three questions and Kevin is still one, he still likes the topic, in his way, it shows that he talks more about the topic, the second is he is more ee makes a sound or the intonation of his voice increases so it sounds more wow right the third is Kevin is more focused so he during
18:43 these three questions he still doesn't play with his cellphone or he even reads a book or what if this happens Okay if OL funds three questions and this is still achieved then El will move on to the third The third step of the System Of Golden topic This third step is what I said earlier El has done what is called one hypothesis from listening you look for a topic that meets three criteria and when you find it you enter Ebit testing in observe and analyze and if the results are still the same then you will move on to the last step that will be able to make El chat for hours
19:29 in this last step online t our topic Si Kevin this is a topic that needs to be done this is quite interesting Bang if for example top Anya yangak that I give Answers to questions yes remember so the main key of sem of sem this El is more teaching questions that listen position yourself as a listener where El Ben
20:15 wants to know the experience of opinions and What is thought about Kevin about the topic Bang that's the ratio How many can 703 be % listening and 30% speaking Well bro what does that mean? For example, for 2 hours, 70% of these 2 hours, L is the one listening, 30% of these 2 hours, then Kevin is the one listening, meaning El is speaking, El is expressing opinions, arguments, and SK, the kind you usually talk about, is only 30% of the total conversation, while Kevin is 70% okay Bro,
21:01 why is it like this? Because people are basically humans, their nature is to prefer being listened to rather than listening. You have to understand the main essence of humans, humans are selfish or they prioritize what they think and if for example there is not a little data, 90% of the population in this world are bad listeners. So if for example you are 10%, namely a good listener, then you can give anyone their biggest desire, which is to be listened to, but not only El listens to what they are talking about but must listen to the topic that is Golden, that's why I
21:47 call it the system of Golden topic. Well, I will continue a little about the system of Golden topic. This is if for example, ah, you find Kevin's favorite topic, for example, in Here you find it on kpto, every time Kevin gives an answer to the topic, for example, you ask V, did you invest in Emang yesterday, he immediately seems enthusiastic, this is the key, if you ask a question on a topic that he doesn't like, he will still be like rp, but if he really likes the topic, he will really give an answer that wow, he OHP Yes, yesterday I invested Yesterday I entered at what price, around 30,000, yes, if I'm not mistaken, it's like that, yes, he will indeed give an answer that is interested, if he is not interested in the topic, no matter what you
22:33 talk about, he won't answer, I said you have to find a topic, yes, for example, he gives an answer to the topic, what you need to do next is ask further questions, okay, bro, what do you mean, bro, for example, for example, like this, for example, I start with the first question, sir, one, yes, the first question can be, for example, Kevin's answer, for example, the first question is, I said V invested in XRP yesterday, no answer, for example, Kevin said XRP yesterday, I think I entered at the price R3,000 I have to ask further from Jan, so there could be two options.
23:21 Actually, there are two options that could happen, the first option I said, the second option, I asked. So I mean like this, yes, if Kevin gives the answer, actually there could be two scenarios that can happen, one I can talk further, so I'm like Oh, I'm also Marin investing, or I'm just asking two questions, so I can talk in turn or I can ask in turn. Well, if For example, the person who is working on this system of topics, the main key is in this response, this one, the second he gives the answer, the third, you have to ask, well, this is called probing further in communication science, so when he gives the answer, Oh, I'm coming in at
24:06 this price, right? I'm going to ask more than his answer. So when he says Oh, I'm going in at 43,000, I can answer like Wow, 43,000, now I'm wrong if I do. 47,000 means it's not bad, it's already big, it means it should be. Well, I'm asking further questions. Well, when Kevin gives the answer again, let's say he answers something like Oh yes, I was 100 hundreds yesterday, when he gives the answer, what you need to do is ask again, probing further again. Well, here I can say something like Oh, but El Oh, but in the future, are you sure it will still be bullish because I also want to invest, but I heard
24:53 someone say that the market will go down, what about that personally, well, that's me. ask, bro, okay, what will this cycle be like, bro, will I continue to ask or will I continue to be the listener, like I'm in an interview, so I'm really tired, is n't it, so this cycle is enough for you, you just keep asking, for example, if he answers, you ask again, he answers, then El gives the answer. OK, the answer here, you ask, starts with your question, then he gives the answer, Kevin and you ask again. Yes, so ask from his answer and from his answer in the
25:40 second one. This keeps asking, right from here he gives another answer, so it's one question and answer. So the first time he asks, the second he answers the third. Ask again the fourth time he answers the fifth, then answer but The Key from top is this, as long as you talk about his favorite topic, El will mostly ask more questions, well, this is what I call the main key, you can chat for hours because basically what I said is remember people prefer to be listened to rather than having to listen. El applies this Golden topic system to anyone and El will liked by everyone and they will be able to chat for hours with you without running out of topics okay well you just go ahead this topic is a system yes but for me Sir there are those who might want to learn more if they are
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