Make Him Realize You're the One (And Never Question It Again)

0:00 Have you ever looked at a man and thought, like, if he would just realize what he has, everything would change? If he would just realize that I am the best choice for him, things would be so good. Because maybe he's showing you that he likes you. Maybe he's showing you that he wants you from time to time. Maybe he keeps coming back. Some of you are DMing me and emailing me telling me about all these men coming back. Maybe the chemistry is so incredible between you two, but for some reason, he still isn't all in on you. He still isn't choosing you. And now you're wondering, how do I finally become the woman he realizes he can never, ever lose? And I'm going to tell you something that might completely change the way you look at this. The women men see as the one aren't spending

0:47 their lives trying to convince him that she's the one. She already knows it and believes it about herself, and that's exactly what changes how men respond to her. The reason you're trying hard, so hard, to make him realize you're the one, babe, is because you don't actually know it. You're trying to sell yourself every single day to him, trying to prove to him why he should pick you, trying to be prettier, easier, more understanding, less emotional, more patient, the perfect woman, or the woman you think that he sees as the perfect woman. You're hoping one day he will finally wake up and realize what he has. Everything you do, subconsciously and consciously, is operating towards trying

1:32 to prove to him that you are his girlfriend material, that you are wife material, that you are commitment material. See, look at me, pick me, pick me. But the woman who truly knows she's the one isn't trying to convince him or any other man that she's worth choosing. The reason you're trying to convince him is because you haven't convinced yourself yet. You're asking him to believe something about you that you don't even believe about yourself. And that's why he isn't all in on you. You think you're chasing commitment from him, but you're not. You're chasing the feeling of finally knowing you matter, finally being enough. You think if he chooses you, then everything will be perfect. That if he commits, you will

2:19 finally feel secure and good enough. If he calls you the one, you will finally believe that you are the one. Before I go any further, if you're tired of trying to convince men to choose you, if you're tired of being an option, and you're ready to become the woman he naturally sees as his one and only, then grab my become his one and only. It is linked below. But if you don't already know those things about yourself, one, you can't get what you want. It definitely won't last even if it comes in for half a second. And no man, and I mean no man, can permanently convince you that you are. That's [snorts] why women who finally get the relationship they're chasing often will stay in anxious, insecure, feel not good enough, always waiting for the shoe to drop because they don't believe this is what they get to have.

3:06 It doesn't feel normal to them. So, the they keep foreboding and waiting and predicting the worst case scenario to take place. That this is too good to be true. The relationship didn't create the insecurity in you. It's just exposing what was already there and magnifying it a thousand times over. Now, let's look at the difference between you and between a woman who knows she's the one because you can become this woman. She is not far away from you. She is not wondering with any man where she stands. She isn't trying to earn his love. She's not trying to get him to pick her. She's not jumping through hoops and subconsciously or consciously looking for ways to show him that she's girlfriend material by doing

3:53 and over giving and over this and over that and always more more more more more while she's accepting less less less less less. She's not doing that, babe. She isn't trying to become someone he's finally willing to commit to. She expects consistency. She expects effort from him. She expects him to be on point, have integrity and honest, and she expects to be chosen and committed and given the world to. She isn't afraid to lose the man who can't meet her where she is. She doesn't chase certainty because she already lives from it. See, she doesn't need him to verify anything about her. She knows this is her and she owns it. So, you have to start asking yourself questions. How would she respond if if I believed I was the one, how would I be

4:39 responding to this person breadcrumbing me right now? If I believed I'm the one, what would I stop doing right now that isn't aligned with me knowing I'm the one? If I believed I was the one, what would I never ever tolerate and accept in my love life again? And then, here's where it goes even deeper. Because underneath those answers, some of you are like, "I already know this." Yeah, why isn't it changing? Because you're not willing to face the fear and reprogram it. See, you're not allowing yourself to become the one and only because you still are trying to avoid the feeling of if I release a version that is not on point, all those fears that get loud that I just lost the best

5:26 thing. He's going to give it to some other woman. I'm never going to get what I want. What if he was going to change? All the lies that you tell yourself to keep you stuck in the old version of you who doesn't believe she's worthy and good enough to be the one. Do you see the conundrum you keep putting yourself in because you're trying to avoid the work that actually has to be done to actually get what you want. So, you have to stop waking up every day and wondering, "How do I make this man realize I'm the one?" And start asking, "Why don't I already know I'm the one?" Because that's the real issue. Once you know who you are, you stop trying to sell yourself. You stop trying to prove your value. You stop chasing men to give you an identity that you've already given to yourself. And that's when

6:13 everything will shift and really start to change in your favor. And it can be with the same man, and it will be with new ones. And then you will sit there deciding who is the better fit for you, rather than "I hope I fit him. I hope he chooses me." No. Either way, you're no longer trying to convince someone to choose you. You're simply showing up as the woman who expects the best, who expects to be loved, devoted, cared for, treated, cherished, and given the world, too. That is the difference between you and the woman who I want you to become so you can get everything and better than what you've ever even imagined for in your own love life. Here's the truth, babe. There is no amount of proving yourself that will

6:59 ever make you feel good enough and chosen if you don't already know that you are good enough, that you are worthy, that you are more than enough. So, stop trying to make one man realize you're the one, and become the woman who never questions whether she is. Because women like that do not waste their time trying to convince men. They simply expect it, and they get it.