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0:00 What if I told you anything you could ever want in life, who you want to be, who you want to date, the kind of life you want to live, all of it was 100% possible so long as you follow four rules. I'll teach you what these rules are, why 99% of people don't follow them, what you can do to become part of the few who do. These rules aren't just theories. I followed these rules for most of my life. It's how I've got into Harvard for undergrad, Yale for medical school, and Harvard again for residency. It's what I did to find the girl of my dreams. And it's what I've done to grow this channel to where it is today. But before these four rules make sense, you have to first understand what I call the four gatekeepers of life. The first gatekeeper is actually exactly that, your life. The other day, I asked my
0:45 friend why she hasn't pursued her dream to be a chef. This is what she told me. My job isn't so bad or I must leave at all costs, so it makes me lazier. Well, she's actually not lazy. No one's actually lazy. Laziness is just a label people give themselves because it stops the conversation and clears them of responsibility. What What can I say? I'm just lazy. No, you're not. You're in a state of laziness because your current life is simply good enough. Changing it requires a short-term dip in quality that you just aren't willing to put up with. It's the same feeling when you're in the shower and you're done, but you don't want to step out because it's freezing. is probably the most painful experience us wussy modern humans get to experience on a regular basis along with stubbing our toes. Same with getting out
1:31 of bed in the morning when the alarm is blaring. The bed suddenly feels extra comfy for some reason. It's bizarre. You're probably in the middle of some wet dream. But there it is again. The same principle. To get what you really want, you have to leave comfort behind and step through momentary hell. The same pattern is found in almost everything. It's just a fact of life. But that's why this is the first gatekeeper. To get anything worthwhile in life, you have to first face the dip. Most people don't dare. And that's why they continue on in their dead-end job. They continue on living that lie, having no purpose, no future, their entire lives already mapped out. The shower is now barely lukewarm. And yet, they're still clinging on to it like it's the only thing they have left. Is that not depressing? That's why the first rule of
2:18 life is this. [ __ ] good enough. Chase greatness. If your life is in this weird state of just good enough, do yourself a favor and turn off the shower. Give yourself no choice but to get out of there. Screw up your life if you have to. Hit rock bottom and find the fire to push beyond to that next level of existence. Because when your current life is hell on earth, you'll do anything to get out of there. No one is lazy when they find themselves stuck in a burning building. You don't need a productivity or motivational video to tell you to use the window to jump out. You just do it. It's the most primitive, most powerful human instinct we have. I call it primordial resilience. Corner someone with no way out, and you'll soon see what they're capable of. It's what allowed us to become the most dominant
3:05 species on this entire planet. We can follow an antelope over the savannah until it literally collapses from exhaustion. Is that not insane? You don't realize it, but you have that ability, too. You've just pushed it so far down and covered it with boxes of glazed donuts and doomscroll sessions. But if you do embrace the dip and move forward, you'll graduate to level two and meet the second gatekeeper to understand how to defeat the boss here on level two. Imagine this. God comes up to you and invites you to the most insane shopping spree ever. Whatever you can fit in this cart in 10 minutes is yours. On these shelves are everything imaginable. stacks of cash, Oscar trophies, Grammy awards, Mona Lisas, keys to entire cities, six-pack abs. But
3:51 there's a catch, though. To do this, you have to first wake up at 5:00 a.m., run three miles, jump into a freezing shower, read an entire book, and high-five a hamster. Okay, weird. But of course, you'd still do it, right? You'd be an idiot not to. Okay, what if I told you you have to stick to this regimen for 10 days in a row? Would you still do it? What about 100 days, 1,000 days? At what point are you going to say, "Okay, no more. I'm done. I don't care about the shopping spree anymore." Where do you think that line is for most people? 200 days, 500 days, 7 days, less than 1 week. That's what the research shows. 25% of people will give up on their New Year's resolutions in less than one week, with almost 50% giving up by the end of the first month. To put into
4:37 perspective how stupidly difficult it is to get past the second gatekeeper. Let's imagine 1,000 people at the start line. To win this race, you just have to keep your New Year's resolution. It's simple, right? Not only do you get to choose your own goalpost, literally everyone can win. And yet, research shows out of 1,000 people, 700 people don't even show up. They're still stuck in the shower, too scared to even get past the first gatekeeper. And of the 300 who show up, 70 people quit the race by week's end with 80 more quitting by the first month. By the end of the first year, how many people are left? Just 27 people. Stretch this to 2 years and who's left? Just one dude. Push a little bit longer and suddenly there's no one left at all. This is called the grind. That's what
5:24 the second gatekeeper is. The grind kills basically everyone. No one can stomach the grind. And yet, if you do, if you simply keep playing, even with zero strategy, you end up beating almost everyone. That's why the second rule of life is simple. Whatever you want, whatever goal you have, just hit it consistently for at least 1,000 days, and you'll hit a level only 0.1% of human beings achieve. That's what the research shows. And that's why I call this the 1,00 Club. I was complaining to my friend the other day about how I can't find quality people to hire for this channel. I knew he'd give good advice because he owns a multi-million dollar franchise business. He asked me, "How many people have I tried out?" I said, "Maybe eight." You know what he said? "How many times do you think I've done this? I have 250 employees, and
6:11 that doesn't even count the number of people I've fired or have quit. You don't even want to know the number of times I [ __ ] up to get here." That's when I realized this dude's operating on a completely different level. I've grinded through eight people while my friends grinded through over 1,000. We are several orders of magnitude apart. And yet there's me complaining about the little turtle dude on stage one of world one of Super Mario Bros. while the other guys on stage 10 of world 100 fighting an army of zombie Spartan soldiers. At that moment, I knew what I had to do. The second gatekeeper was staring at me straight in the face. I had barely begun. I don't care what engine powers this for you. It doesn't matter. It can be obsession, passion, purpose, insecurity, or even hatred because your
6:58 ex dumped you to be with some dude named Bob. Whatever it is, find it and use it. Find the fuel to sustain your journey over 1,000 days. Get out a calendar and mark it out like a habit tracker. Each day that you grind is another day you check off. Each check mark represents another 100 people biting the dust, eating asphalt, falling behind. Why not put a never-ending line of people behind you? This is my 1,00 day challenge to you. I've made a Google sheet that keeps track of all this for you and tells you how many people are left in this race. I've built it out assuming 100,000 people start at the same time as you and inputed formula so it calculates how many people are left the farther along you get. First 25 people that get it with the link below will receive it as part of my heartfelt thanks to you being
7:44 here or just become a Patreon member to get this and all other productivity tools I built. At this point, if you've been able to defeat the first and second gatekeeper, you've likely tasted a little bit of success and suddenly you think you know everything. This is the downfall of many and I call it the trap of hubris. The bigger you become and the more success you taste, the more you become trapped, rigid. You become set in your ways. Your ego dictates everything. I can't do that. I can't adapt now. I've done it this way for literally the past 1,000 days. Why should I listen to that guy? He hasn't put in the reps I have. That guy doesn't deserve it. He hasn't struggled like I have. And then when you don't make any further progress beyond his first taste, your ego destroys you further. You start to play the victim
8:30 card. Why am I still not there? Don't I deserve it now? I've grinded. I put my time in. It must be because the game is rigged. It's all luck. And down the excuse rabbit hole you go. It must be because I don't have the money, the connections, or the resources that other people have. Well, maybe. But who cares? There's probably people worse off than you, too. They're missing their left testicle or their right arm. Or maybe they're allergic to the sun. And yet, even they've still managed to make it happen. What's your excuse now? To defeat the third gatekeeper, you must follow the third rule of life. Kill your ego. The death of ego looks something like this. It's when you can honestly say that even after a million reps, you still know nothing. That you're still hungrily searching for ways to be better, to work smarter. But when you
9:16 meet someone, you don't care that they're just the intern or maybe the janitor. You can still learn something from them. Death of ego means you don't care if you look dumb. When you're okay with starting over and going back to the drawing board, that's when you know when you have no ego, you have nothing to prove, nothing to hold on to. Each day is just a new experiment to see what works. At this point, it's no longer about the grind. You know you can grind. You're way past the second gatekeeper. The people who don't make it past the third gatekeeper are wasting their energy protecting whatever identity, sense of self, or status quo that they've built. But not you. You have nothing to protect. And so with that free energy, you unlock a raw power that only the top 0.00001% of people get to use. In the right
10:02 hands, that power becomes unstoppable. It's like you built a little sand castle on the beach. It took you the entire day chipping away at it, but then you realize, uh-oh, the tide's coming in to wash it away. Instead of swallowing your pride and realizing you screwed up, you double down and you devote all your energy to protecting it. Now you're building moes and all sorts of crazy defensive wall structures to keep the water out. Instead of working smarter, you keep on working harder. A voice yells out to you from above. You turn around and it's this 10year-old kid building his sand castle 50 ft above the seashore in a place the water will never touch. He laughs at you and says, "Mister, you're an idiot. Instead of puffing out your chest, what you should do is immediately abandon your castle,
10:48 walk 50 feet up the beach, plop your fat ass next to his, and say, "You're so [ __ ] right." What happens after you destroy your ego? What else could you possibly do at this point? What other obstacle is left? The fourth gatekeeper, the final boss. To understand what this boss is, let me first ask you this. Isn't it interesting that the people at the top of any game movies could probably be made for all of them and they would all be good movies too because all of them would have something I call the moment. An inflection point when you, the person watching the movie, realizes, "Wow, this person is clearly not made like everyone else. He's cut from a different cloth." This inflection point is also the moment when you realize, "Yeah, that's why this guy is
11:33 going to make it. He just took a leap of faith and [ __ ] did it when everyone around him told him not to. He's a psycho. That's not normal behavior. It's funny because it's that moment where the movie is most interesting, right? It's not the end when the guy hits it and everyone's celebrating because he's a big shot. That part of the movie is boring because you knew it was coming all along. The ending was inevitable, but it was only inevitable because of that one prior moment, the inflection point. That's when the real celebration actually should have happened. But no one celebrates because the inflection point is invisible except to one person. You only you know when your moment is. Only you know when you've crossed the threshold and decided this is it. This is my inflection point. The rest is now going to be [ __ ] inevitable. Fourth
12:20 gatekeeper is none other than your own self-belief. It's what I call your hard limit. Some people push right to the limit. They they're literally right on it, squishing their cheeks on this glass ceiling only then shy away because they didn't believe they had it in them after all. And that's why there's not going to be a movie made about them. That's why they fade into obscurity. They came right up to their moment, their inflection point, and then they [ __ ] flinched. It's truly a tragedy of epic proportions because in all that drive, all that momentum from defeating all three prior gatekeepers, all that potential just suddenly becomes inert and sits there rotting away only to become the biggest regret of their life. Something they must come to terms with or die trying. The only way to defeat this final gatekeeper, this final boss,
13:07 is to unlock what I call the hidden gear of insanity. If you know Dragon Ball Z, it's when you turn into a Super Saiyan. It's when you do something that causes others to drop their jaw in amazement. You did what? And they just look at you and say, "That is insane." That's what Mr. Beast did to get to his level, right? He sat for over 40 plus hours straight, counting to 100,000 one number at a time. Alex Hermoszi quit his six-figure management consulting job, sold everything he owned, and drove across the country to open a gym from scratch. My other friend with the franchises, dude stayed up for 2 and 1/2 days straight managing the operations of his new store. 60 hours without sleep. Sure, I I've worked hard in the past. You know, getting to residency and becoming a doctor is a testament to
13:54 that. But have I ever worked that hard, especially with nothing guaranteed at the end of it? Honestly, I don't think so. At some point, the sensible thing to do is to give in, to cut your losses and move on. That's what the rational sane person would do. That's why almost no one crosses the fourth gatekeeper without discovering that extra gear inside of them. The hidden gear of insanity. The sheer level of commitment and faith of this gear is just on another level that the average person cannot even begin to comprehend. That's what's often needed. It's not talent. It's not hard work. It's not even grit in the end anymore. It's just insanity. A leap of faith. An inflection point you overcome that completely transforms your life. There's the before inflection point U and the after inflection point U
14:40 and the difference is simply astronomical. I don't know if I've tasted it yet, but it's something I don't want to die before doing so. That's the question you will ultimately have to answer yourself as well. I've created a canvas that puts the four gatekeepers in one place to remind you of this concept. Check it out at spoonfedstudy.com. If you're new here, I encourage you to check out all the videos on this channel because my goal is to give you the tools and mindsets needed to defeat all four gatekeepers, no matter where you are in life. You want to get into Harvard, I'll get you there. You want the right mindsets and habits so the life of your dreams becomes inevitable, too, I'll get you there. Whatever your goal is, join me on this ride. You only have so much time left on this planet. Don't squander even a single moment of it. Self-actualization is possible. Become a
15:27 Substack member or a newsletter reader. I send weekly actionable tips just like this. If you want to work with me, become a Patreon member and hang out with me on a weekly basis. I'm also revamping the spoonfed productivity community as well. So, sign up for that. There's so many ways to get involved. Don't just sit on the sidelines. This is your movie. There's seriously no reason why it can be [ __ ] awesome, too.
