Life Lessons for Young Men: The Hard Truth About Heartbreak

0:00 based on the videos that have really gained a lot of traffic with young men that have given up hope. I've decided to make a series of videos regarding this life lessons for young men that they should hear at a young age to prepare themselves for life. These are lessons I've given my son and anybody who's willing to listen. Being that I'm 49, I've made tons of mistakes and I've learned from them. I've helped thousands of people from all over the world and right now I'm focusing on young men. So, if you've given up hope about life and you don't know where to go, I want you to listen to me right now. There's tons of lessons in life. There's so many things that happen. And I know right now in your life, you're thinking it's final. Like maybe you're 22, maybe in your 30s, maybe your relationship ended, but you're thinking life's over. And the lesson I want to talk about in this video is you have to get used to

0:46 heartbreak. Cuz life, and I don't need to tell you this, many of you know this, life is hard. Life is unfair. There's a quote from Deadpool that I I heard and I just it stuck with me. Life is a series of fuckups with brief commercial breaks of happiness. You have to savor the now. When times are good, it's wonderful. You have to enjoy the moment, but disappointment is part of life. You know, I talk about relationships and how you have to get used to rejection, heartbreak. The same thing can go with anything. Friendships, it can go with jobs. You can a business that you started. You can give your entire heart and soul to a job, be there 20 years, and then get laid off right before your

1:32 pension kicks in. Or you can get fired for no reason whatsoever because the company's going to do what's best for them. You can have a friend betray you that you thought you could trust, that you've known since kindergarten, steal a girlfriend for you. You can practice in a sport for years and years and years and miss that final shot. Heartbreak is part of building character. A life with no adversity is not a life. And the important thing I want you to understand is that when things don't go your way, that is when it's time for you to build character. Because if you truly want to know the character of a person, put some pressure, put some stress into life, and their true colors will come out. They'll either implode, they'll yell at their their spouse, they'll

2:17 blame the other person, they'll play the victim. That's really their true colors. But you have to get used to it because when it does happen, it's going to hurt, right? Either if you're dedicating years to a woman, a job, whatever the case is, when it ends, and all things do, don't think of it as time wasted. Don't think of it that I can't believe I was dumb enough to fall for this or get laid off from a job that I dedicated so much time for. It's time to hone in and think about, okay, it's over. What lessons can I take from this? There's always a lesson in life. And I truly believe sometimes when you lose, you win because you find out what you're made out of. You find out that what you can take. And

3:04 granted, heartbreak, getting fired for whatever job, when things don't work out, it sucks. Take a moment, take a breath, and just think, okay, how can I be better? What can I do to move on and be a better man moving forward? What mistakes did I make? Maybe that woman that I I dated for years, maybe I rushed into it too soon. Maybe I was desperate and wanted it to happen. Maybe it was one-sided. Maybe I was the one giving and giving and giving and she wasn't. You know what? I'm going to learn from that. I'm not going to replicate that mistake again. A relationship has to be both sides. Right? There's lessons like that. You may think your life is over when these moments happen. But I assure you, I am

3:52 old enough to tell you when one door closes, another opportunity presents itself. There are many people who that I've spoken to who lost a job that they thought they love and they would retire at and they ended up finding another job that paid them more and they were appreciated more. I've met many people who dedicated 20 years to a person 10 years and they feel that they wasted time and they would never find love again. And lo and behold, healing, getting through that pain, learning from their mistakes and now they're in a better place. Life is hard and it only gets harder the older you get. So when things are great and you're doing fine, I want you to treasure those moments. Appreciate the friends that you have. Appreciate the job that you have cuz nothing's promised. Everything can end

4:38 tomorrow for you. And it can in a heartbeat. Illnesses can come about, an accident, things of that nature. Life is a wonderful thing. Life is a journey and it sucks sometimes and you may hate it. It's lonely, depressing, but it's also beautiful, man. It's also wonderful. It's also the greatest thing that could happen to you. There's two sides to life. There's a negative side and there's a positive side. And many of you who are going through this and having that negative feeling about life, there is the polar opposite of that, man. Maybe see the world in a different way. Don't let the past heartbreaks mold you into a monster. There are good people out there looking for good men. And deep down, despite all the anger, I know deep down, many of you have a heart

5:26 and soul, and you're good people. You've just been given an unfair card. Somebody broke your heart. Maybe somebody gave you the wrong advice. Somebody poisoned you, telling you not to trust again or never to be stupid and give a woman a chance. All this idiotic nonsense. Never in history has a guy or anybody told a young man to give up on women. But now it's somewhat common. You have to be careful with who you listen to and take advice from. No coach, nobody who wants what's best for you is going to keep you in a state of hatred. Do you understand that? There's a lot of people on YouTube, Facebook, all over the place that are grifting and exploiting your pain. They giving you validation and not knowledge. And you need to be careful with what you consume. If the person you're following is making you hate another demographic or another gender,

6:12 you're being exploited because nobody who wants the best for you is going to turn you into a monster. And I want you to be patient with yourself because right now there's a lot of pressure and a lot of things that are asked upon a young man. Right now, social media, all the algorithms are telling you that, hey, by the time you're 25, you have to be making six figures and support a wife who's going to be the Pilates wife and drive a Porsche. That's all [ __ ] nonsense. That's not reality. So many of you have to separate what you see on social media to what's actually out there in in the world in front of you. There's a lot of pressure for you to look a certain way, be a certain height, have muscles, all this [ __ ] That's all superficial nonsense. What it comes down to is are you happy with yourself? And if you're not, what are the things that you're not happy about? What are the

6:57 things that you can realistically change? And if you can pursue it, then do it. Each day could be a mini goal. Meet each day, get up and do a little bit better. Set realistic goals for yourself. I don't know what those goals are, but set realistic goals for yourself that you could achieve them within a year. Be better from the mistakes and the pain that you see and be patient with yourself. I often hear like, "When did you have things figured out?" I'm 49. I still don't. Anybody who tells you they have life figured out, they don't. Things happen. I'm learning every day. Be a student of life. Every day, learn something positive that's going to make your life better. Don't go with something that's only going to reinforce maybe a stereotype that you've heard. Go and explore other perspectives and explore a different mindset because

7:42 keeping that hatred and keeping that that animosity inside you is only going to destroy you. Quick story. After my divorce in 2016, I was angry at the world and I thought I can use anger to get through the pain. In other words, be so [ __ ] angry that I wouldn't feel the pain. I destroyed my body. I got shingles. And now I have permanent nerve damage on the left side of my body. Anytime I get stressed, I get like this sunburn sensation on the left side of my body. Your health matters. And right now, whatever you're doing, I trust me when I say this, it'll come back later and hurt you. So, please take care of yourself at this young age. And I hope this video helps you. I know you guys are there's a lot that's asked of you. There's a lot of pressure and I'm here

8:29 to tell you it it's unfair. It really is. But who gives a [ __ ] what these standards and what these people are asking of you? You go at your own pace. It's your own journey and take your time. One day you'll be there. Focus on yourself. Self-love, self-respect go a long way. Be the best man you possibly can be. have an influential energy that makes people feel better about themselves. And I tell you, people will gravitate to you like a planet in space that draws moons. If you're positive, you're charismatic, and you love yourself, and you're happy with yourself, it draws people in. And that's how organic relationships start. That's how you meet people. When you're at that

9:15 point, it usually comes easy. And I hope this video helps you. Again, I'm going to do a series of videos like this. If you like it, put some comments below. If you want me to talk about a topic, let me know. I'd be more than happy to help you. But my heart goes out to you guys. I know I the past videos I I I can be rude, right? That's the whole basis of my platform, but I'm talking to those right now that are willing to listen, okay? And I truthfully want what's best for you. And I hope everybody's doing well out there. If you haven't done so, subscribe, let me know what topics you want me to touch on, and I'll go ahead and speak on that. Take care, everybody. Bye-bye.