[LIVE] Kajian Muslimah: Tipe Perempuan dalam Al-Qur'an - Ustadz Adi Hidayat

0:04 Asalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. May the peace, mercy, and blessings of Allah be with you too. Praise be to Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, and may He be glorified and exalted, and may He be glorified and exalted, and may He be glorified and exalted. Faya ibadallah ahallahi waab rasulihi sallallahu alaihi wasallam. [Music] O Allah, grant me the mercy of the Muslims. Are you all well? Thank God.

0:50 Thank God. Hopefully all my mothers and sisters, both those in the mosque area, around the mosque, and those who are connected and online together with our studies will all be blessed by Allah subhanahu wa taala without exception. Amen. Ee, that blessing is not enough with amen. So the blessing is ziadatul khair wastimraruhu. Ziadatul khair is the constant increase in good values. Wastimraruhu and consistent ongoing carried in life. So a person is said to have received

1:35 blessings, his life is full of blessings, he is blessed, blessed. This means that there are good things that increase in him. A blessed tongue is a tongue that when used always produces good words. Blessed eyes are eyes that when used are always directed towards good things all the way to the toes. A blessed life is a life management that always has an orientation towards achieving good things. That is a blessing. Well, being blessed means trying to increase those good values

2:22 and consistently carrying them throughout our lives until we die. The characteristic of male and female believers when presented in the Qur'an is always that faith is paired with goodness. I often open meetings in every scientific assembly. For example, by first giving an example of the character part of our body, namely the eyes. For example, people often say that the function of the eyes is to see. But when the eyes are owned by a believer, a believer, whether male or female, then that faith encourages the view as a

3:08 function of the eyes towards good values. Those are blessed eyes. For example, for women there is the Koran Surah Cahaya, Surah Annur. Hey, it's better to display the names of the surahs in the Qur'an with their Arabic names even if there is a translation. So there will be words that absolutely must be said in Arabic, such as prayer. There are many lessons to be learned . Apart from the meaning that cannot be translated into other languages, there is depth, solemnity, and it also maintains the originality of worship. Because it is the only religion on

3:54 earth whose worship is unified, its movements, its readings from when it was taught until whenever, that is only in Islam, prayer. Yes, my mother or sister can check just to compare. We don't have to then delay something that is not good for people's beliefs. We have the teachings of lakum dinukum waliyadin. But if we want to learn to strengthen our faith, please check it out. Every other belief has worship in each place, the method can be different, the readings can be different. But please check the ones in Arabia, the ones in Africa, the ones in Asia, the ones in America, the ones in

4:40 Europe, the ones in Chicago, America, the ones in Chicago, the ones in Bandung, right? Singapore, Singaparna, Singapore, right? They're all the same, right? This shows the truth or in cool language the originality of Islamic teachings. Still original. Well, the most interesting thing now is that we return to the previous meaning. The reading is Arabic, the call to prayer is in Arabic and it becomes uncomfortable when it is changed. For example, Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar. Is it delicious? Is there a vibration to the heart? There isn't any. Because there is a verse. Innamal

5:27 mminunalladinazaukirallahu wajilat qulubuhum. The characteristic of a believer is that when the name of Allah is mentioned, there is a confirmation of vibrations in his heart. Ah, so Allah has set the law for every change of time in a day. So in a day there are five changing times starting from dawn, dawn disappears and becomes noon, noon disappears and becomes evening, evening disappears and becomes Maghrib first. Yes, the sun sets first and then appears at night five times a day. Well, every time there is a change of time, there is a check of faith. Is the faith still there? Whether his faith is weak or not, his faith is in a strong position or not. Well, among the ways to check faith,

6:14 one of the most standard is by using the call to prayer. Heard in the ear. Ear is the Arabic word for uzun. The plural of adhan. Why is it called the call to prayer? Because this call is the only phrase that is heard 24 hours a day on earth without stopping and is heard by anyone who has ears and hearing. That's why the times are different, ma'am. Bandung and Garut are not very different, right? Yes. Then move to Ciamis, to Java there is a difference of 5 minutes, a difference of 10 minutes. The whole earth rotates 24 hours a day and continues to pronounce the call to prayer without stopping. Ah, as soon as we hear Allahu Akbar Allahu Akbar there is a vibration in our hearts, yes, Allah has called the call to prayer. It used to be

7:01 so different if translated, yes, for example, people from Jakarta translate the call to prayer like this, just this is an example. Sir, I'm big, sir, I'm big, he said, it's connected to Cipadung. God is great. Allah is so great, right? That's not nice. Not good. That's why the phrase cannot be changed, it cannot be translated. Translated into meaning the call to prayer has a translator, right? If written translation is possible. Ah, including the names of the surahs of the Qur'an, there are translations but the Arabic version sounds nicer . Yes. What are you doing, sister? What letter is the review?

7:47 Beef isn't tasty, right? Ah, what are you? Bee. Huh? Al-Baqarah. An-Nahl. Is that the euceu nu ny mawa surah naon? It's like annamel syrup, right? Oh, yeah. So he had to use his native language. Quran surah Annur in verse 31 for example. Wail mukminati wail mukminati. And say, spread Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam to every believing woman. Watch out, there's a difference. Well, we believe, we don't believe, right? Example. So, what are the characteristics?

8:34 Come on. What distinguishes the characteristics of faith that we have from those of people who do not yet have faith? I always choose the word not yet a believer because I hope that everyone can have faith. Yes, right? What are the characteristics? It turns out that faith always leads to blessings, to goodness. So for example, faith, sorry I stood up and entered the eye. So when faith enters the eyes, the eyes will be guided by faith to see only what is good . When what he sees is not good according to his faith , his eyes are guided to turn away. Turning away from

9:19 what is not good according to faith is called gaddul bashar. basil mminati min abin and say make Muhammad viral to women who have faith then their faith will guide their views to see only what is good according to their faith. Ah, so the standard of faith is clear. Maybe for some who do not yet believe or whose faith is not active, the signal is weak, they will see the standard as cultural standards. Ah, if culture can be relative, yes. In Indonesia and America, the clothing culture is not the same. For Americans, skimpy clothing can be

10:04 respectable but according to their faith, it is not good to look at. Look away from the eyes down to Oh, don't just go straight to the heart, go to the mouth first. From the eyes down to the mouth. Try looking at the oral verses, the mouth verses in the Qur'an are opened using faith first. Yes, my friend, trust in your faith first. La yashum drink. Yes, O believer, guide your tongue to say good things. That is a blessing. Keep away from bad things. It's not good to criticize each other. The one who is born is born . Don't make hoaxes, don't gossip, it's not good. So, in short, I would like to open our study first

10:49 to see whether until this afternoon, at this very second, we have been given the opportunity to live, have we felt the standard of faith that we have at what level? Be careful, because even chips have standards. Spicy level 1, level 2. So, which standard is our faith at ? Is it weak, in the middle or has it improved? The characteristics of a person whose faith standards are strong are not only seen in their enthusiasm for carrying out obedience. Praying diligently, reading the Qur'an diligently, it turns out that the standard for successful prayer is also good deeds, goodness. Try someone who has successfully performed their prayer, the proof is not that they

11:36 look calm and solemn, but after their prayer they feel innasata tanha anil fahsya. from evil. Those who read the Qur'an are not concerned with how many times they have completed it, nor with how many chapters they have memorized, but rather with the standard. Waminhum sabiqu bilhairati bidnillah dalika huwal fadlul kabir. Do you understand? And Allah says that a successful Quran scholar is not determined by how much he has memorized. how many juz he has recited is the main one, it's a good name, fadlun. Memorizing the Koran is main, special. Read, recite the

12:23 main Koran. But among the special ones, according to hual fadlul kabir, the greatest is sabiqu bil khairat. How much goodness can be created from the verse we read. So read the eye verse, your eyes will immediately improve. Read the oral verse, the verbal is immediately good. That is why it is about to enter the Asr time, there will be the Asr letter, Surah 103, where it will mention the faith of the partner and good deeds. Wal asr innal insana lafi khusr illalladzina amanu wa amilus shihat. So, now the big question as a woman is, is there any guidance in the

13:10 Qur'an that leads a woman to be not only good, but the best before Allah as her creator and encouraged to prove her faith in Allah Subhanahu wa taala. So we will find the types of women in the Qur'an which hopefully will ultimately lead all those who study this afternoon, Muslim women, to be good in the sight of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala. Amen. Okay, since it has been agreed, we will end our study today. Okay, this is just the introduction, we have n't started yet. Now let's get started, shall we? So I'll give you an introduction first so you understand what we're going to discuss today.

13:57 Hey friends, my sisters and family, in the previous meeting we discussed several examples from the lives of the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Today I will try a little bit first, not wanting to jump but to build a solid principle first about women, then later come back to the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Okay, I ask permission to stand so that it will be easier to be seen and interact with you later. First of all, I apologize for sitting a little higher than the congregation just so you can see . In the name of Allah. Types of women in the

14:45 Qur'an, eh, I won't ask whether they are visible or not because it's been seen many times . Can you see it, ma'am? I see, ma'am. It looks like. It looks like. Good, Mom. I haven't written it yet, it's visible, ma'am. Types of women in the Qur'an and Sunnah. Hopefully it's visible. There is a screen too. Hey, I apologize to the men, Muslim men, please just follow along to see which type your wife is at home . In the Qur'an and Sunnah. And the sunnah. I am always short with Aqsa. This is the solution to the Qur'an and Sunnah

15:34 . Let 's learn the basics first, okay? I prefer to understand rather than memorize. If you understand it, it's easy to do. Please focus for a moment. First, let's remove the women in the Koran. But let's set the standard first. From what angle, from what side do we know him? Now from the perspective of the past, the old times. To whom was the Qur'an revealed ? Yes, Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Yes, the standard here is that we write the prophet first, Prophet Muhammad

16:20 sallallahu alaihi wasallam. We divide it in two. First, women are depicted in the Qur'an before the era of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Who are the female figures in the Qur'an who are mentioned, depicted and whose lives were described before the time of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam? Good. Who do you think is number one? Ah, no need to think, let's just write it down. One, Sayidah Hawa was the first, right? Who is his wife? Prophet Adam.

17:07 Prophet Adam. How do you know that Hawa is actually the Prophet Adam? Yes, it is true. Al-Qur'an in the 2nd sura of the Koran in verse 35 for example. This is the status of the wife of Prophet Adam ( peace be upon him). Bye waqulna ya adamuskun anta wazaujukal jannah. And we say with my majesty Adam, take your wife to live in a beautiful place temporarily during Jannah before serving on earth as caliph. Is it clear up to here? one two. Who

17:53 else? Oh, according to the period first, okay? It's okay if we sort it out slowly. It is not named. The name mentioned in the story later in the Quran only his partner is mentioned. But there it refers to a wife, meaning she is included in the female category. What was the name of Prophet Noah's wife? Noah's mother. That's right, Mother Noah. Yes, it's up to you, mom . Please, the committee, take note. Once again. There was something when I got home . It is okay. Good.

18:43 Okay, combine it with the third one. Prophet Luth's wife, yes, mother, yes, whatever . Some call it wailah, the second wahilah. But that's history. Later there will be rules in the interpretation, if the name is not mentioned clearly and completely. This shows that the character, nature, and circumstances that apply to the woman will happen again in the future with different characters, at different times. But if

19:29 his name is clearly mentioned along with his descendants, this shows that the events experienced by that figure will only happen to him and will never be experienced by anyone else living on earth. Clear? Please note it down carefully later. That is why I have explained it slowly so that my mothers and sisters can understand this principle. We will practice it later after we have explained each derivative one by one. Later we will understand why this is not named. Because it is not to find his identity, but to study his character, his nature, that there is potential for it to happen again in the future with a different character. It is clear that for example we find

20:16 this combination in the Quran, chapter 66 At-Tahrim, verse 10. Who else has four wives or so? Abraham. Prophet Ibrahim was a contemporary of Prophet Luth Alaih Salam. There is a story that says that Prophet Luth was the nephew of Prophet Ibrahim. There is a story that says so. Therefore, later when the angels announced that Prophet Ibrahim would have descendants from Sayidah Sarah Alaihissalam, after that it was reported that he would go to Luth's place to punish Luth's people who had asked for punishment. It is clear that later on, among other things, it will be found in the Qur'an, chapter

21:01 51 Azzariyat, from verses 29-30 for his wife, this 31st goes to the Prophet Luth. So one day there may be two prophets found. How many wives did Prophet Ibrahim have? Why slow? One is Sayidah Sarah alaihissalam. Second who? Yes, I wrote five so that the number can be known. Sayidah Hajar ee Siti is an abbreviation that in

21:48 our basic language is sayidah. Sayida. Sayidati, my respected madam. Sayidi, sayid for boys. My respected sir. Only Arabs usually only abbreviate the male ones. Sayidi Sidi yes. Dear Sir, I respect you. But Sayidati is rarely shortened to Siti. Because there is another meaning of Siti, which means grandmother. Oh yeah. Abraham. I wrote this saying to pay my respects . May Allah bless you with

22:35 peace. Who else? Ah, before that time, Maryam alaihissalam was the daughter of Imran and Hannah alaihialam. Let's go back to the era of Prophet Moses. Sharpen. Lady Asia Asia daughter of Muzahim. Who is Muzahim's wife mentioned in the narration? Pharaoh. Sorry, I boxed this . I closed it so it wouldn't come loose. Why is it written Pharaoh? Later to

23:22 show the important thing. Because this is so important, the microphone sound has also changed . If it fits the test, bismillah, it fits, don't change it again. Sometimes I deliberately put it closer, sometimes I put it further away just to adjust the volume. Then who else is there in this era? The mother of Prophet Moses. Oh, I don't use it. Oh, Musa Alaih Salam's mother, right? Giving birth, releasing into the Nile. We will find the verse later, okay? Who else is there? Yes, the sister of Musa Alaih Salam. Surah Thaha was later

24:08 discovered by his sister Musa Alaih Salam. Who else is there ? Two women who were having difficulty getting water were then helped by Musa Alaih Salam. Whose child is that? Ah, Prophet Shuaib Alaih Salam. That's right. Two daughters of the Prophet Shuaib. Prophet Shuaib Alaih Salam in Madyan only passed through Musa and then 10

24:54 who? Ah, before entering Maryam, who is Maryam? Noble wives of Egyptian nobles. That's right. Imraatul Aziz, the letter of Yusuf. Egyptian noble wife . It is rumored that her name is Zulaikha. Have you heard of that? But I don't agree with that naming. Egyptian nobility. Although there is a history of 11. Queen Balqis. That's right. If there is no prize, hurry up. Mother of Saba letter 12. Imran's wife. Maryam's mother used to be.

25:41 Where was Mary born? Her mother is Maryam. Imran's wife. Imran's wife alaih will later be found in Quran surah 3 Ali Imran in verse 35. Who else? Prophet Zakaria's wife in the past. wife of Prophet Zakaria. The mother of Prophet Saleh. The mother of Prophet Saleh. The mother of Prophet Saleh. After that who? Just Maryam. Ma'am. Maryam peace be

26:27 upon her. 15. Who else? Sayidah Aisyah radhiallahu taala anha. Sayidah Aisyah radhiallahu taala anha. In surah Annur later 16. Who else? Lady Hafsah. Sayidah Khadijah is not mentioned. Later it will be in the hadith. Whose daughter is Sayidah Hafsah? Umar bin Khattab radhiallahu taala anhu. 17. Who else? Lady Zainab. In the Al-Ahzab letter later.

27:13 Zainab radhiallahu taala anhu. Who else? Fatima. It's not mentioned, no need to make it up. Hey, there was a woman who complained about her husband. When the complaint was made, the opening verse of the surah was immediately revealed and directed the Prophet to resolve the case. A woman who complains in Arabic is called mujadilah. The combination is mujadalah. You can follow it first. Allahumma Allahummayyiban nafi'ah nafi'ah on the outside, move a little to make it

28:01 more comfortable, that means if there is space, divide it so you don't get too much rain, follow it a little Allahumma Allahumma hawalaina hawaina wala alaina wala alaina Allahumma Allahumma hawalaina hawina wala alaina wala alaina Allahumma Allahumma hawalaina hawalaina wala alaina wala alaina well that's asking for a damper a little rain 18 already here 18 name.

28:49 Haulah binti eh Haulah his wife. Ts'abah. Hawlah. In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. One more. Ah, Abu Lahab's wife. Wow, it's Abu Lahab's wife's turn. Mom knows it by heart . Abu Lahab's wife. It 's okay now. This focus. Already. Come on, read the letter of Allah. Auzubillahiminasyaitanirrajim. In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

30:06 [Music] I'll tell you the chain of narration at the end . Well, there are about 19 of them, right? Approximately 19. That's it. If you are focused, there is actually a part that we have not reviewed but I have included it. Do you still remember? I divided it into two, before the era of the Prophet and during the time of the Prophet Muhammad. Well, we divide these 19 into two because they are mentioned as living in the era of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Anyone? Sayidah Aisyah one, Sayidah

30:54 Hafsah two, Zainab 3, four, Khaula five, Abu Lahab's wife. So of these 19, if we divide by two, five are mentioned in the era of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam. 14 which were mentioned before the era of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Is it clear up to here? Okay, take it slow . So if I ask like this. In the Qur'an there is mention of women. How much is it? 19. 19. How many people were mentioned before the life of the Prophet Muhammad? 14. 14.

31:43 How many people are mentioned in the era of the Prophet Muhammad's life? Five. Five. So how much is the total? 19. Later we will find 19 types or characters of women found in the Qur'an. Clear? Good. One first. 19. How many people are married? How many people are not married ? How many people have become mothers ? Come on, come back here, those of you who are married. Come on, let's look at the wife of the Prophet, Prophet Adam, right? Prophet Noah had two wives, Prophet Luth had three wives, Prophet

32:33 Ibrahim had four and five wives. Four and five. Then Asiah binti Muzahim is also six. Then Musa Alaih Salam's mother. Seven. Moses' sister is not mentioned, two women are not mentioned. Yes, even though later one married the Prophet Musa Alaih Salam. Let's just call it seven first. Next are the eight wives of Egyptian nobles. Queen Bilqis is not mentioned, although her mother Maryam was clearly married nine times. Then Imran's wife

33:18 10, Prophet Zakaria's wife 11. How many are enough? 11. From these 19, focus first. There were 11 who had married wives before the Prophet's life. Now, Sayidah Aisyah is married, Sayidah Hafsah is married, Sayidah Zainab is married, then Khaula is married, then Abu Lahab's wife is five plus 5. So how many of the 19 are in the position of wife? 16. 16. Be careful, this study seems light

34:03 even though it is deep. Later, mother will learn who is already married and who is now a wife. Who do you think is similar to these 16? Later, it will be found that there are types who are diligent in studying the Koran and types who are seducers . I am serious. We'll see what the solution is later. This seems like a normal thing, but when we take it out, we will see the characters that come back to each woman. Next, how many people are married and have become mothers? We will divide the mother into two. One mother is genetically married.

34:49 G. Second, the mother of the adopted child. A Sayidah Hawa has a child? Have. If we didn't have it, we wouldn't be here now. Yes. Good. This one has one child. Prophet Noah had two. How did Prophet Luth know ? There are three. How do you know? Because when his people wanted to come to the angel, Prophet Luth offered his daughter, not his wife, but his daughter. Yes. Next, Prophet Ibrahim, Sayidah

35:35 Sarah had Isaac, peace be upon him. Then Sayidah Hajar had Ismail Alaih Salam. Five. Then Asiah bint Muzahim, right? But he had an adopted son, Prophet Musa Alaih Salam. This is one, this is five. Continue. Prophet Moses Alaih Salam. It's clear who your mother is . Six. Moses' sister did not. Two women do not. Then the Egyptian noble wives did not. But have adopted children. Who? Joseph Peace Be Upon Him. Then Queen Bilqis didn't, her mother Maryam had one, Maryam's child, right? Good.

36:23 So how much was that? Seven huh? Seven. Then next was Prophet Zakaria. Yes Have a pious child, right? Yes, Yahya. Whose child is that? Yahya. This means that Mrs. Zakaria's child is pious. Eight. Maryam is a mother of nine. Nine. Did Sayidah Aisyah Nabi have any descendants from him? No. No. Lady Hafsah? No. Lady Zainab? Continue. Furthermore. His ancestry is not mentioned. Then Abu Lahab's descendants were not mentioned.

37:08 Okay, let's just take it down. Does this mean that this mother has adopted several of her adopted children? Two already. Wife 16, mother has character. Okay. The last one is the unmarried single person whose marriage has not been mentioned . One sister of Moses, two women. Let's put one of them in, okay? So we count two. Queen Bilqis wasn't mentioned, so we included three.

37:54 Next is Maryam. This sea sea already means there are three singles. there are three. Well, our discussion will be limited here only. Woman as a child, as a wife, as a mother. Later, their descendants will become grandmothers and so on. Live up and down and sideways as a brother. Okay, so we're going to make it like this up here in the middle. Here, for example, there is a child who has moved up a little bit to become a

38:44 wife, a little bit more to become a mother, and then up again to become what? Grandma. Grandma. Come here to be a brother or sister? Yes, later this will become a chart for inheritance, for inheritance. But it will be withdrawn from here later. So here there will be right, left, up and down. OK, let's discuss this first. 1 2 3 because this is the main point. Ready? Yes, now let's get started. This is the second introduction just now. If you want to take notes, that's fine. I've written it down and we'll summarize it later, okay? Good.

39:29 Later we will compare which one of your summary is more complete with mine. Let's get started, shall we? In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Let's start from here, all mothers and friends who are male fathers and so on. we can focus. Let's start from the first part which is quite a lot as the wife is divided into two. 11 before the life of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam and five after the life of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Come on, let's take it slow. One of Lady Eve. What is the first type that we can learn from Sayidah Hawa alaihissalam?

40:19 All mothers are pious. God willing, my sister, the name Eve, as I said earlier, is not mentioned directly in the Qur'an. But later the historical information that interpreted it mentioned his name. It is interpreted that the word Eve was found based on history. But in the Qur'an only his character and position are shown. Well, back to the previous formula. If only her position, character, and nature are mentioned, not her full name, it means that there is something important behind the character and nature mentioned that will be experienced by women in the future. Whoever the woman is and

41:04 wherever, whenever she lives. Understand up to here? Good. If we understand the rules, we will take out the verses. 2nd surah of the Koran verse 35. This is the first verse that mentions the nature of a wife. I repeat, the nature of a wife is stated in the Qur'an, O Allah. Waqulna and for my glory. I might put this sentence to husbands, men, how to position their wives and what their wives should be proud of as women with the greatness that Allah has shown.

41:50 Waalahat translated there is interpreted and we say. It is clear that in Arabic qulna comes from the word qala which meets nahnu. Qala met nahnu, this was put together so this qul was taken and the question was lengthened na. If it refers to male, female, or human beings, then nahnu is the plural form, referring to many. But if shown to

42:39 Allah, this does not indicate the form of a large number, but refers to the meaning of the greatness of Allah's substance to refer to events or information that are very great and special. The Arabic word takzimun nafsi presents the greatness of Allah to show very special information or events that are different from ordinary events. Example of short inna met nahnu. Inna means the event is special, the information is special. What night was the Quran revealed called? The Night of Al-Qadr. Don't use Lailah again, okay? Lailatul Lailah is that night, right?

43:26 Lail is night. If you use ta at the end, there is something special that night. So there is lail and there is lailah. If lail alone means night. Plural: layali. Good evening. Layali night is the plural form of 2 nights and 3 nights. 4 nights, yes. Lela, Lili Lala is her mother's descendant. Leli, mother of the night. If there is something special in one night, then add ta at the end of it from lail to lailah. Clear? For the sake of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted. Why use ta lailah? Because there was something special about that night, not the same as the others. That's why

44:11 using the long form na translates it like this. Plant it in the deepest part of your heart. I affirm with My Majesty that there is something special about this night that is not the same as other nights, that if you worship on that night, it will be worth more than 1000 months. Well, in the same way pay attention to the sentence. Wa, with my majesty, I order with my majesty something special for Adam. Who is that special one? Yes, there is a man who is like a man. Adam invite your wife. So the only holy book on earth that elevates the status of a wife

44:58 as special before Allah is only the Koran. So what I mean is when your mother becomes a wife, it's not just a matter of getting married. No. It is special before God. it's expensive, ma'am. Therefore, the sentence of the contract must use the word Allah. It uses the word Allah, that sentence is made permissible with the word of Allah, intercourse with the word of Allah. Because it's no joke. When you then take on the role of a wife, marrying and becoming a wife, your status will increase and you will be special. Well, the only problem is

45:45 whether everyone who has that privilege uses their privilege well, correctly or not? Let me ask you this, if someone is appointed as an official, is it special or not? Special, but he used his position for corruption. Special, isn't it? No. No. Well, when a woman gets married and becomes a wife, her status is raised to a special level. But if it is not used for good things, that privilege will lose its privilege before God. That's why the first sentence is to maintain that one special feature. Waamuskun anta wa zaujukal jannah. The

46:30 first sentence of its specialty is represented by the word zauj. Do you know what zauj means? Hmm. Wife. Good. What is a wife? Zauj. Zauj, in cool language, is cross- gender. There is no mention of male or female. Zauj is originally a pair that complements each other . Originally, if you wanted to distinguish between men, you could use the zauj, while women could just use the ta

47:16 zaujah. If there is a zaujah it just refers to the woman. Zaujati my wife, my partner who completes my life. Just add ta. Muslim men and Muslim women. The man is a believer, the woman is a believer. Soim is the male and female. Ah, you can find a partner who perfects each other, huh? Well, take it slow first. Take it slow.

48:04 Mom, look here. Well, friends, can you see, my sister, what hand do you see ? You don't need to do anything, just show your hand . Right hand, yes. This one is the left hand. Good. Is the number of fingers on the right and left the same? Same. Same here. Are the sizes the same or not? Okay. Okay, okay. Normally the standards are the same. Good. Now slowly. Right and left, even though they look the same in terms of number, do they have the same function ? No. Good. Do the right and left complement each other ? This means that the couple is called Zauj by name. Clear? Well, when Arabs say, for example, there is a hand, they say there is a hand, yes there is a hand,

48:51 yes zauj. My two hands complement each other . Right foot, left foot. Are the shapes the same or not? Okay, sorry the number of fingers is the same. Same. Same. The functions are the same. But even though their function is the same, supporting the body, they both have distinctive differences, right? What is the proof? The sandals aren't the same, right? Right and left are different, right? Try using left on right, right on left. Good. And most importantly, they must complement each other. Well, to complete it, it doesn't have to be the same. He knows its function. When the right one is forward, the

49:38 left one should be behind. When the left is forward, the right should be behind. If you force it, it's difficult. Clear. But the point is to complement means there are some things that are not the same. Completing means something is missing. So when someone then unites in a husband and wife relationship, each brings completeness as well as finances. So when paired with a male partner and a female partner, it's not just a matter of

50:23 uniting them with the words called marriage. Now this is what is called a true soulmate. The deficiencies on the man's side are complemented by the completeness of the woman's side . So what is special about women? what is special is the privilege that he brings to complement the shortcomings of his partner. That's the first one. Well, because what is shown in the Quran are its advantages, not its disadvantages. What did you bring? What is brought into the household when married is to explore the completeness, not the shortcomings. J if a household digs up

51:09 its partner's shortcomings, it will surely lead to failure. Because when united by Allah, what is lifted are the advantages, not the disadvantages. Ma'am, let me give you an illustration of something very important. For this reason, because it is so important, God willing, I will make quite a lot of sacrifices. I explain it myself, I write it myself, I delete it myself. This is not an easy sacrifice . It's for my mother's sake that I do this. But just over here . Where's Kang Da? Thank God. I want to check over there for a moment. If I write here it will look like I am

51:57 not writing. But this looks to the left and right. Okay, just go there and see it, okay? Look here. I boxed this. Well that's that then. Let's say I 'll just make it here . I'll limit it to this. Okay, yeah. Now look carefully. I'll give you a circle here . What is visible? Point. Point. What color is it? Huh? I'll repeat it here. What is visible? Point. What color is it? Black. What is visible? What color is it? I'll repeat it here.

52:43 What is visible? White. What color is it? Black. The problem is that when you get married, you only see the black dot. The white ones are mostly never revealed. So if you marry just to find a black spot, it will definitely lead to arguments and never end. It is impossible for a person to become a wife, a husband if they are not united by initial happiness and every little bit of it must have some whiteness. Ma'am, that's right. Yes Hmm. So the Quran's first declaration of being a wife is special. When can

53:31 this privilege be felt? When always digging up what advantages can be found to cover up the shortcomings of your partner. So if you find shortcomings in your husband, you should be happy. Don't dig into his shortcomings. Why? When a deficiency is found, it is because Allah shows it, precisely because of that deficiency, the mother is appointed as a wife to show the mother's advantages. Yes, there is only one creature created by Allah who is without fault, namely an angel. Quran surah 66 verse 6. Laa ya'unlaha maarageum waaf'aluna ma

54:18 yummar. Angels never make mistakes and always carry out their duties according to their main duties and functions. So if you feel like marrying a man who never makes mistakes, please look for a candidate among the angels. Let me tell you from now on, the angel Izrail doesn't have a partner yet. Ah, on the other hand, the only creature who does not know good and always knows wrong, he does not know good, he always knows wrong, is Satan. Therefore angels are mentioned 88 times in the Quran. Satan is also

55:04 mentioned 88 times. The angel of the mother's husband is not an angel, nor is the mother seeing him like that, bro, not an angel, not either, meaning when he is in the middle and is called zauj, he has advantages, but the mother must be aware that he must also have shortcomings. Well, faith is what leads a wife to always see the white rather than the dots. So the fourth surah of the Koran came down. The letter is a letter from a woman when she becomes a wife. An-Nisa verse

55:49 19. Quran surah 4 verse 19. This is still our basic. Yes, I am sure. Hi married couples , husband and wife who still feel they have faith. Lailluakumisaha. For husbands, when you have become a husband, have a partner, have a wife, do not pass on your bad traits, your shortcomings, to your partner. This is important information for wives. After marriage, the man does not look as ideal as he did before marriage. Before the marriage contract, the most handsome person was the prospective mother's husband. The most upright is

56:36 your husband. Okay. You may love his physical appearance, his handsomeness, his strong build, his pockets, please. But after marriage that can change. Mothers will probably find characters that they did not find before and that they may find unpleasant. How to? When you find that, be happy because your function as a wife is being shown in the Qur'an. Oh, I'm paired with AT who likes to store dirty clothes carelessly because I'm usually the one who is quick to put them away. That's why at the end look at the verse. Good

57:21 morning. If you don't like his attitude, don't get angry first. Maybe you don't like his attitude, but behind it there is goodness that Allah is showing. What is among the goodness? One of them reveals the special character of a wife to what point she can survive. Now the question is, what kind of husband is depicted in the Qur'an who has so many problems that it is clear what the wife's special qualities are like and how is that displayed in life. So the figures of husbands are shown who, sorry,

58:09 seem to be experiencing a lot of problems and that is what wives will face in their married life. straight one. Do you want the good first or the bad first? The good ones first, okay? Good husband but busy. Okay but what? Busy. Prophet Ibrahim Alaih Salam. Yes, slowly.

58:58 Already. He is a prophet, not an apostle. I repeat it so that the understanding is the same. The prophet is not. Amen. Apostle, isn't an Apostle a husband's duty to earn a living? Have. Yes, pay close attention. The Prophet Apostle had the task of earning a living, working to carry the message. So busy not only local work. Sometimes he crossed from Iraq to Mecca, to Palestine and so on. Well, because of this busyness, but one point first. His busyness is directed towards what is good according to

59:44 God's provisions. Pay close attention. I'll repeat it . His goodness is directed through activities that are approved by Allah. So, the definition of good is good but busy. Good is good that is pleasing to Allah. Because later on, what humans think is good, but according to God, is not necessarily good. Okay, take it slow, take it slow. Due to this busyness, not only his wife, but also his newly born child had to be separated from him . Just born, ma'am. Long awaited. Sayidah Hajar was born, born Ismail. When a

1:00:29 newborn is given an order, take your child and wife to one place, but the place is arid, barren, there is no water source, only rocks, hills, and you have to leave him there without anyone to accompany him. Only the mother and her child are still red . It is in the 14th surah of the Koran with the name Ibrahim verse 37th. Quran surah 14 verse 37. Slowly. Rbana inni askantu minurnati biwin giri baitikal muharam.

1:01:17 O Allah, this is where I must fulfill your command to leave my wife and newborn child . The place is barren, hilly, there is no community, there are no people. Take it slow, okay? I want to ask Mom. If your mother has a husband, suddenly she has just given birth, the baby is still red, then she says something like this, "Mom, I have work to do, so please stay here for now ." Mother left him in an empty field with no water and told him to stay there. Wait until I get home, okay? What do you think ?

1:02:04 Critical. Okay, take it slow. Well, angry. Oh, well. The original came out. This is the original. Take a look here. Take note. Have you ever heard Sayidah Hajar angry at that time? Have you ever? Protest making status? No. There aren't any, right? He only confirmed this in the history of Ahadza Min Amrillah. Is this God's command? When I confirmed that it was God's command, I realized that if it was God's command, He would never waste me and our child. It is

1:02:51 impossible for God to determine this unless all forms of needs for experiencing household life have been prepared. Okay, take it. I took the highest one. Take this example, OK? Don't take the ustaz, okay? Is there anyone who is sorry that his wife is a soldier who has to serve on the battlefield? If you wear a uniform, it's called being busy defending the country. Ribat is in the category of jihad

1:03:38 fisabilillah. If you die, you're a martyr. If you're wearing a uniform while on duty, you're still praying, you're praying to Allah. That's guaranteed in authentic hadith, even if your body isn't eaten by the ground, its value in one day is better than the evening prayer in a month and the sunnah fasting in a month is so special in the Al-Qur'an. So, be happy if you are here, for example, the wife of a soldier, she is Muslim, she is on duty, her mother is responsible for observing prayers, she is reciting remembrance of Allah in her duties, that is her position is busy. Suddenly, just before giving birth, she had to

1:04:23 go on duty and didn't know when she would be coming home. My question is, are you sad or not? I repeat. Are you sad? Sad. Well, now from this kind of case, the Qur'an teaches us how to be a strong wife when faced with a husband's busyness, but her duties are justified by Allah and even special. What to do? Well, this kind of thing is expensive because it will definitely be passed through in life. That's why when it was mentioned in the Quran, Hajar was not mentioned , nor was his name mentioned. Why is it only hinted at? Because tomorrow there will be something like that again. Although not to the

1:05:09 same degree. If this is more than that, we haven't done anything yet, right? What does your husband think about me, for example, my wife's husband , how busy is he? It's not easy. not easy. So, what should happen next if there is a wife in this position, what should be done to organize herself so that she gets the strength of character that Sayidah Hajar once found? One, first identify your husband's profession which brings goodness that is loved by Allah

1:05:57 . I'll repeat it. First, get to know your husband's profession which brings goodness that is loved by Allah. So, for example, if a mother has a husband who rarely comes home, rarely visits and so on, try to see what his profession is, what his activities are , is it good according to God or good according to humans? That was it then. There were some who went home and were healthy, fine, but they didn't go home twice during fasting and twice during Eid . Brother Thayib, please let me know that you have studied it first. Understand your husband's profession. For example, I put it here, for example,

1:06:42 there is a real ustaz ustaz . I've been slowly sharing a little bit. Sharing a little [Music] before leaving for work. Usually I tell him, "Brother, Buya has an assignment, Allah has given him the assignment. If he has been assigned, surely everything that is needed will definitely be given. Surely Allah will take care of him, surely Allah will give strength to the children and so on. So, don't worry about everything that has been explained

1:07:28 , the wife explains again to the children. So when I leave, the mother explains to the children, Buya is teaching to convey orders from Allah so that Allah is happy. Later, if Allah is happy, ah, Brother will be given a gift. Our life will be comfortable, it will be made easier. by Allah. When everything is well established, the understanding is good, then pay close attention. Your husband's departure is not a departure that must be let go, but a matter of gratitude before Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala. Thank you, God, for sending me a partner who is not like the tasks you give to others. Learn, ma'am, the

1:08:16 glory his glory, look at the verse, look the hadith. So when he left, it was not to let go of his physical departure, but to be proud of the glory that Allah attached to him and to build confidence that he had left for Allah, surely I and the children would be looked after at home. That's what Hajar alaih salam did. Ismail cried, Mom. need water. Sorry, the breast milk didn't

1:09:02 come out. But what happened? She kept her child. This is while the hajj season is coming, right now. Pay close attention. She kept her child. She who went to look for water went up the hill. What is the name of the hill ? My question is not that. The question is what does safa mean? Clean. What does clean mean? Safa is the chair, Safa's chair is clean. Look here slowly. Safa. This hill has been called Safa since the past or since the incident experienced by Sayidah Hajar . Okay. From Safa to where? Marwah.

1:09:47 What does Marwah mean? Marwah is the peak of success of goodness. The desire that is highly expected is marwah. I guard my marwah, pride, my success. The peak of success that I want to achieve, to feel is the name marwah. What is interesting is safa. What is safa? Safa That's the result of a process called tasfiah. Its name is tasfiah. Tasfiah. Sao yusoffi tasfiatan. What is tasfiah? Tasfiah is originally filtering a mixture that is filtered so that

1:10:37 only the good things come out of the filter, the clean ones. For example, I want to filter this water in a filter so that the dirt is on top and the clean ones are clear at the bottom. That process is called tasfiah. The result is called safa . If it is attached to a person, it is called sofi. The woman is Sofya. Sofia is a figure who always filters everything she feels and responds with the goodness she is able to offer. If someone is angry, filter it first. Don't respond with something bad first. Then things come out that are better than what people say. That's Sofia. Her nature is a Sufi. It's clear. J

1:11:26 if there is someone named Sofya who is always angry. You can remind me, eh, sis Sofia, like that. Huh? Look here. Why is the hill called Safa? Because when she was going up to look for it, she filtered all her emotions, thoughts that were not Well. Try to imagine it, Mom. Can you imagine it? Not yet. Right? I haven't told you yet. Right? You become a new mother , the child is still young, left by her husband, the child is thirsty and there is no water, you have to look for it. Do you think your mind is calm or confused? Confused. Definitely confused. Well, atuh abdi teh dikantunkeun

1:12:12 diak for example, if he could speak Sundanese, that would be possible, right? Oh God, why must it be me? Why must it be like this? all thoughts are filtered by him, yes, only the good ones come out. There's no way I was ordered here because Allah, if not for Allah to prepare all his needs. There's no way my husband would just leave me if it wasn't a task that Allah liked. There's no way my children and I would be ignored if all of this came from Allah. all bad thoughts, uncomfortable emotional feelings are removed . They are pushed aside, filtered so that their status is raised to the top of the hill. The hill is named

1:12:58 Safa. If you experience a situation in your household as a wife, your husband is busy but his duties are noble, its benefits for many people, it must be realized that the turmoil is there. Mom, why is my husband so busy ? Yes, Mom. Why is Dad so busy? Ahmad is not busy, for example, that exists. So, how do you bring it up? Learn here. Ah, if it is a task that Allah has given, there must be a glory stored that I have not achieved. Yes, if it has been displayed, displayed, then later there is Safa, just chasing the dignity down, right? Safa's lesson to become dignity is that

1:13:44 taking something is not easy, Mom. Sometimes when you go down again, your feelings change again . But when you see an opportunity, chase the path to the top of Fatam Morgana. I heard that my husband is going to come home next week. As soon as he wants to be picked up, he is prepared, but he doesn't come home. When he wants to pick you up at the airport, the schedule changes. Has that ever happened ? Back and forth, back and forth. It turns out that Allah sent the solace not to the husband who is on duty, but to the closest person who is present around him. If a wife with such a husband's task always thinks well, then Allah will veil her anxiety and given happiness

1:14:30 to the closest people who were present beside him. So Hajar who went back and forth, Prophet Ismail who whined, his legs kicked. If a child wants to give, his hands and feet move, right? Right? My question is, why didn't the water come out when he got on the sofa? But when he went back and forth seven times, Marwah Safa, Marwah Safa, Marwah Safa, Safa, Marwah stopped, the water didn't come out. Back to Ismail in the seventh state, des kicked out. Sorry, the water gushed out. His mother said, look. Zam. Zam. Zam. Zam . What does that mean? No. What does that mean? No. Don't

1:15:17 force it. R million. I'm serious, Mom. What does that mean, Mom? Yes, not 2 million. No, yes, gather, yes? Don't stop. Gather, don't stop. Overflow, don't stop. Don't stop. Oh, don't stop. It's okay to be 2 million. Please look at the left side . Look here. Zam gather, don't stop. Zam gather, don't stop. Zam gather, don't stop. Later it

1:16:04 will known as the Zamzam well. Zamzam water means that its blessings always flow without ever stopping. If a wife always processes her feelings to present the positive, eliminates anxiety as long as her husband is sure to do good, then Allah will veil her anxiety, confront her with pleasure in those closest to her family and collect goodness without ever stopping. Understand up to this point? But what you have to make sure is that your husband is really good even though he is busy . Because there are good ones, sorry, there are busy ones but not

1:16:50 good ones. Is Pharaoh busy or not busy? Busy. Good or not? No. No. Well, what if someone finds that ? Come on, let's start. What is Pharaoh's real name ? 5 million. Seriously? Not Umrah. Five-star Umrah, right? Time's up. Bye. Ah, time's up. Enough. Come on. Who's raising their hand ? Eh, look at Google. Click. Enough,

1:17:36 enough, time's up. Enough, Mom. Like this, your focus has changed. I said earlier that if the real name is not mentioned, then what is meant is not referring to the state of his name but the character of the nature of the state attached to that figure that will be experienced again by people in the future. Pharaoh is from the word Farao which means a leader of officials. At that time there was the wife of the husband of the official. This is the highest leader of Pharaoh from the word Fara, the wife of the official.

1:18:22 Well, there were two wives of the official . There was the wife of the prime minister who was rumored to be called Zulaikha, Wamraatul Aziz, his wife of a dignitary in the time of Prophet Yusuf Alaih Salam. There was Pharaoh's wife. Asiah binti Muzahim, right? I've saved the good officials first. Are there any bad officials? Hey, I'll disclaim this first. I'm discussing Pharaoh, not discussing anything else. Don't link it first. Okay. Let's save the space first. There were activities. The point is we took the activities

1:19:08 because at that time all of them were not good. The one in Pharaoh's position was not good. The crazy Ris- Qarun was also not good . There were intellectuals, scientists too . Haman was a scientist, not good either. The most interesting thing is, there was a position that led to her husband's career being in a bad condition . And in at that time you became his wife. What is the picture, Ma'am? If you become the wife of an official but the official's activities are not good, what do you think, Ma'am ? I'll just separate. W can't do that. Wait a minute , wait a minute. Slowly,

1:19:57 slowly. Because there are also good officials. Prophet Yusuf was an official, right? Yes. Official. Coordinating Minister for Food, Prophet Yusuf. Prophet Solomon was an official, not the highest king, right? But here there is a condition, we will not discuss his position later. What we will discuss is if there is a husband's attitude and nature that is not ideal, whatever it is that is affected by his job . So it turns out that many husbands' attitudes can change because of the environment and the work he goes through. What I mean is that. When you first get married , you can ride bicycles together, ride

1:20:43 motorbikes together, right? But when you are promoted to manager, director together, only with other people, for example . Don't immediately imagine the strange things before with his friends, busy with all sorts of things. Well, he changed and his attitude became bad. Rarely greeted, indifferent. changed to being fierce like that. My question is, If you find a change in your husband's character like that, what should you show? It's possible. Ai akang teh kunaon like that,

1:21:28 right? Look here. So the Quran shows the most extreme, Pharaoh who likes to kill people. Slowly his hobby is killing people. He was just born and killed. Quran chapter 2 verse 49. Yudabbihuna abnaakum. Because he felt there was a bad whisper. Well, there is a whisper. Often those who have positions change to be bad not because of the person, because of the whispers around him. So what happens? Later there will be a baby born, it is predicted that after adulthood it will disturb the throne of Pharaoh. So the decree was issued. Accompany every pregnant mother by two intelligence algorithms, one

1:22:15 executioner. If a girl is born, let her go. If a boy is born , I'm sorry, I'm sorry, immediately execute him in front of the mother who just gave birth. So when a boy is born, he is thrown down and then executed. There is zabaha, there is dzabbaha yudabbihu, there is zabaha yadbahu. That's different. If it's just once, it's zabaha, if it's repeated, it's yudzabbihu. Dabbaha yudabbihu. This is yudzabbihuna. The evil is extraordinary, claiming to be God. Anbukumul a'la. If you're upset like this, Ma'am. If you're upset, just give an example . Your hair doesn't look good. I don't

1:23:03 like it. Please separate his head from his body. Alhamdulillah, you live in this era. If it was the time of Pharaoh, instead of being asked to shave, separate his head from his body. This is the most extreme. And Asiah as a wife is faced with this condition. Now I ask you, no matter how annoyed your husband is, no matter how annoying he is, at least he's good, Pharaoh, right? Ah, he's killed people, has n't he?

1:23:49 So if Asiah can do it, why can't you ? Give it back. Give it back. Because it's impossible to be paired with you, not with another woman. Because only you can. Kumay, Teh. That was then. But later on, we don't know the limit to which the ability to do it is measured. Later there will be again the verse is X Y Z. If in scientific language there are variables, there are standards. How far did you fight? Because Asiah also has her limits. She only took the final limit until death came.

1:24:37 You will also have your limits. If her husband acts like this, this is the response. If it exceeds this, this is the response. If it is more or less good, this is the way out. There are all of them. My question when married, do you find a less than ideal character in your husband, is it studied ? Maybe the whiteness is not visible. What is seen is only the point. That's the problem. And there is no household life without problems. None. So don't believe that there are people who are married and never fight. That's not true. Impossible. Because the Prophet also experienced household dynamics

1:25:22 . Yes, let alone me, the ustaz, all ustaz must have problems. It would be a lie if there was an ustaz who said, "We never fight." Eh, there must be that problem. Wives from different mothers. Born in different places, raised in different places. Their characters are different, not the same. They have to be the same. It's impossible. There must be adaptation first. In adaptation There will definitely be characters that emerge. Now, if we bring it to the typical wife, how? The Qur'an shows the highest status. This is Asia, Pharaoh's husband. Your husband is not bad Pharaoh. That's what the Qur'an says, if we use free language. So

1:26:07 where do you set the target? Where is the standard? How wrong is your husband ? If you think about this point, what is the solution? What is the solution to this point? And the greatest thing is that Allah must have prepared the tools to provide peace to the soul. That's why before Pharaoh's evil character grew towards his wife, Moses was sent as a solace. When he was angry, he saw Moses calm again. When he felt uncomfortable, he saw Moses cheerful again. All of that was prepared. And believe me, Ma'am, whatever the character of a husband is, Allah must have given an introduction to calm the uncomfortable state of the heart. It's

1:26:55 just that later we will learn the limits. Where do those limits come from? From the husband's behavior. His violation of the sharia is small, medium, or large. If he commits a small violation, what is the solution? The small ones usually just pass by, sometimes they can be resolved with a joke. No need to be too serious. I'm a bit surprised now that there are training, there is daurah, household is too serious like that. In fact, the Prophet said, household is full of jokes. Yes, if I communicate with my wife live or not live.

1:27:43 But it's okay, I joke a lot . Lots of jokes. Sometimes asked whether or not it's too serious like that , Buya where are you going after this? To Hong Kong. In fact, I want to go to Taman Sari, right? Later, from there it will go down again. So joking, finally laughing, finally doing all sorts of things like that. Household is full of jokes. The Prophet sometimes joked about running races with Sayidah Aisyah. Sometimes, "Oh, why are you so fat now?" like that. Ah, like that. Sometimes what? Making dough. The dough is then arranged and then taken a little bit is put on her forehead. Sometimes there are so many things that can be done. There was a husband who just came out to see his wife. His wife was

1:28:28 qadarallah extraordinarily beautiful . So when the husband saw her he didn't blink, his face didn't look away. His wife said, "Zauji is drunk, honey, what's wrong with you? He said, "I am grateful to Allah who has sent you as an angel to accompany me in life." His wife said, "Honey, we 'll both be in heaven." Her husband said, "How is that possible? Because you are grateful for my condition for you. I am patient with your appearance for me." Aren't gratitude and patience in heaven? They say it stings, but it's also fun. In the end, they both laughed. Danah is a true story. That's a true story, yes, a true story. Well, this is still small here,

1:29:14 what about medium-sized ones? Being busy makes it difficult to pray, it is difficult to invite people to join in congregation , your wife starts to be forced, for example, if you are sorry, you start to ask for changes in your appearance and so on. How to go up ? There it is again, Mother. For example, your husband is not yet successful, but suddenly becomes successful, at a high level, there is a family gathering, and all his friends don't wear the hijab. Suddenly you are asked, "Mom, this is to respect Dad's friends, please take off your headscarf for a moment." What is the answer? Hmm. Keep getting angry and so on. Well, there is a way for that in the Quran too. There is a way. It's so soft. Udua ila sabiliika bil hikmah. Show

1:30:01 wisdom. Darling. It's not that I don't want to obey or don't want to let go, but my mother has taught me until now that her greatest offering is to be brought home to Allah. This is my hijab. I was afraid that when I opened it, my death would come and I would die. Worn during life, died without a veil. Then the shroud is put on again with a veil. I'm embarrassed if asked about the man, for example. Okay, okay. Anytime, any time. For example, later it can change and it doesn't have to be debated whether it exists or not, oh, it's tiring, there will be more if this one appears, which reads in verse 34 of letter 4

1:30:46 . Try to calm them down first, try one in room A, the other two in room B. Try going to your parents to discuss it first. Try to find a wise person to mediate well. It continues like that. Even if you are forced to say goodbye, for example, try to think about it three times in a holy way first. People misunderstand talaq nowadays. Divorce was originally a rather long-range scheme to provide a final judgment. Are there still feelings of love, kindness, change, longing, and so on? If it's still there, the duration is

1:31:32 there. If you don't care, your sins will still continue. There will be another case later on if the husband suddenly becomes harsh beyond expectations, the domestic violence comes out, he never wants to pray, but he also never wants to separate. There will be another solution later. If you know the name, it also has a process. There is a way for everything. My question is, of all the household problems that may arise for a husband as a wife, have you studied that formula? I've only given the outline , not the details. So, where is this type of assignment? What kind of wife is A ? Like what B? And its derivatives.

1:32:19 There is something even more terrible . There is something even more terrible . The risk is high if it is done, it could cause separation, if it is not done, the adaptation will not be easy. But if you can get through it, heaven is guaranteed. We will discuss that in the next meeting. Time is up. Ah, so I'll just give you the main points before we part ways. Here it is. Are there any single parents here? There is. Have you ever published a verse from the Koran about

1:33:05 a mother who is guaranteed to go to heaven, her life is beautiful and comfortable, even though she is a single parent? Amazingly, he can educate his children better than his mother. And Imam Syafi'i, Imam Ahmad imitated his fiqh so that his children would grow up to be great in the future. Who is that verse about? Mary. Is Maryam a single parent? Single parent. There are others who are sorry to raise children, whose wives work far away like Sayidah Hajar. There are also those who are married and are told it is impossible for them to have

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