MC 1 l Understanding Ego l P2

0:00 Why is that? Why is that we need ego? Why do we actually need ego? Ego serves us. It protects us. It defines us. It um it motivates us to become a high achiever. It gives us a sense of belonging. It creates uh a growth pattern, an illusion of a growth pattern by competition, by comparison. Now go back to school. There are 40 kids in school and there is only one first ranker. But there's so much pressure on the 40 to all become first rankers. Is it even possible? So the system itself is

0:46 feeding us to be an ego an ego-minded being from schooling itself. Now go back to even before that two children are born. One is a boy and one is a girl. Now in the time that when I was born boys were like very like having a male child was very sought after. If you're having a child who's a boy, there's a celebration. If you're having a child that's a girl, there is no celebration. It's like, ah. But now times have changed. If you're having a child and it's a girl, there's a celebration. If it's a boy, there's not much of a celebration because it's a pain. He's a pain in the ass. So there is an imbalance in society. And this

1:32 imbalance is the imbalance of the ego in the society. The society is driving this. Boy or girl is the same. You cannot create a boy or a girl without a man and a woman that comes together. So how can you celebrate one and not celebrate the other? When you enquire into the truth, when you really enquire into logic, reasoning and get this clarity, you will start understanding it is not about boy or girl. Okay? Now you can apply the same logic into every aspect of your life. Whether it's relationships, whether it's finances, whether it's your health, whether it is family, whether it is your work situation, the problems of your world is only within this palm. Your health, your wealth, which is your finances, your relationships, your romantic

2:18 relationships, um your family and your work. And all the problems of life are only within these five. So when you understand the depth of your ego and what why we need this, you can easily overcome these problems just by understanding how you're showing up. Knowing the identities that you are seeking, knowing what actually is motivating you, knowing what is that you're protecting. Ego protects ego. So when we are defending ourselves and fighting and proving a point, it is the ego that's protecting itself. It does not one does not need to protect themselves if they are in awareness. For example, if a dog is barking at you,

3:04 only the one who gets annoyed barks back at the dog at by yelling at the dog like, "Shut up, get out of my way, blah blah blah blah blah." Right? It's the nature of the dog to bark. The one, the wise one knows that it's the nature of the dog to bark. If that dog's barking, you don't need to retaliate to bark back. It's the ego that gets triggered that how dare you bark at me? Do you know who I am? And that is wanting you to bark back at the dog by yelling at the dog. Now the dog is wondering, it's only in my nature to bark. Why is this idiot barking back at me? Now the dog has gone into an enlightened state where it's become wiser. It's become wiser than the human. So reflect on your thoughts, reflect on

3:50 your identity. Who are you showing up as? And start to inquire into your truth. Inquire into your growth of who you want to be and become this mirroring principle of you who you're mirroring. Choose wisely. Choose someone who you feel is a balanced, grounded, equinimous person who's speaking the thoughts of his mind and acting the words that he speaks. He or she speaks. Okay. At some point you'll realize there separation is what ego is. Ego is ego is separation like I am. I am. Do you know where the word ego comes from? Ego comes from the Latin word I which creates an illusion that you are

4:36 separate from this world. For example, how this separation looks like on a crystal clear pond. You put a stick and the pond looks like it's separated by the stick. And the stick looks like an eye, right? Say this eye. Okay? You put it on a pond. There's two parts of the pond. Now the eyes think the eyes think that this eye in the middle of the pond a clear pond the pond here is the mind is the separate self but when you take the stick off it is actually an illusion. The pond was always the one. The pond was never separate. But this notion of I placing that eye in the middle creates the separation.

5:22 Now a profound truth here the separation that we are the separation of I is from grace. Every time when we acknowledge ourselves as the I and I is the separation from grace. So the pond is the integration of the mind. The clarity in the pond is the integration of the mind, body, spirit to grace. And the separation is the eye which is the stick in the pond. You might have to hear this. Listen to this. 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 100 times before you get what I've just said, but it will come through if you sit and think about it in your own time. What are the pros and cons of ego? I thought ego was all bad. Ego because

6:08 that's how everyone said. But the one who's thinking ego is all bad is also the ego is only thinking that ego is all bad. All right? So when you say that ego is all bad, the the one who's saying itself is comparing and judging that ego is bad. So that ego is judging the other ego because that cannot see its own reflection. Some of the pros of ego is it provides gives you that confidence of self-awareness. Now if you look if you notice um someone an enlightened being a being who's whole who's complete they hold a certain amount of courage and poise. They walk through they walk through life. They walk through spaces without being affected by anything. That is the confidence we're talking about.

6:55 Not the confidence that someone pops in some anti-depressant pills and shows up on stage and gives the most amazing speech that they've downloaded from chat GPT. That's not confidence. That's makeup. That's showmanship. That's acting. Someone who embodies confidence. who embodies self-awareness is showing courage in the faith that they walk through because they are in grace. They are walking in the path of grace. They know that they're not separate from grace. What drives their success and what drives their ambition is the flow of grace itself. They are not thinking anything separate out of grace. They are following the the path of dharma. They're driving the ambition

7:41 of righteousness. What they define as success? Success can be defined differently by different people. Someone who feels that they have won the wealth of the world, they feel successful on the outside, but on the inside they might be having full of ill health, full of suppressed emotions, completely depressed, broken relationships, broken family. They are confused who they should write their will to. They have worked all their life 60, 70, 80 years of making this massive empire and then they come to the point of not knowing what to do with this empire of wealth and they have the wealth of ill health as well. So would you call this success? Because this su success is not sustainable. It's depleting. It's diving nose diving. It's falling apart. So then

8:29 what would be success? Success would be something that is more sustainable. something that you understand the purpose and the truth about who you are. Someone who comes into that clarity of knowing and embodying with courage and discipline, respect and truth, that is success. Now, start to redefine your success based on what success looks like for you. If you are in a place where you're influenced by a bunch of alcoholics, substance users or liars, people who like to steal, all of this is just mental health and some of it is addictions, which is also part of mental health. Respect you. You could be in the middle of a crowd of chaos and still be

9:16 absolutely calm and aware because you know you. You know you. When you know you that ego of knowing yourself with that path of grace, the ego is become integrated with grace. Then you're not separate. So you're not affected. That is the boundary. That is the boundary. That is your protection. That is your truth. When you know you, that is your protection. That is your boundary. You could go anywhere. You could be sleeping in the middle of where yakuzas are having a war and not be affected by it. You could be in the middle of a dance floor where everyone's screaming and popping pills and doing coke and and you're not affected by it because you are with grace. It's you just happen to be tested out there to know whether you are with grace or you are actually falling in for the

10:01 addiction, the distraction and the confusion, the chaos of what people call life here. The cons of ego fuels comparison, judgment and conflict. We've spoken about this. This starts very earlier on. Comparison. Hey, look at that guy. He's a first rank holder in class. I want to be first rank, too. Actually, he he doesn't even care to go to school, but the parents want him to become first rank holders. Hey, look at that neighbor's daughter that she's become an engineer. What are you doing? Why are you still a cook? Creating conflict in the mind. But this guy loves to cook. That girl does not like engineering at all whatsoever. It was through pure peer pressure and social pressure that she had to do it. She's suffering and struggling from the inside because the conflict is inside. creates attachment to outcomes. Now, you can

10:46 turn this metaphoric examples that I'm throwing here and there into relationships, into your health, into your wealth, into family. Those five problems I was talking about, you can accept, you can sit and analyze in your own time. How am I showing up in my health? Who am I comparing my health to? Whose health am I judging? What's the conflict that's going within me? Then you can use that same concept with your wealth, with your finances. You can use the same concept with your family. You can use the same concept with your relationships. Is my girlfriend hotter than his girlfriend? Is my husband or boyfriend as good as Chris Hemsworth? Are you worthy of Chris Hemsworth? You know, that sort of

11:31 comparison and judgment going on like, am I looking good? Should I be losing a few pounds to fit in that sexy bikini so that I can go and swim around in Baron Bay? Chris Hemsworth has got his mansion overlooking the beach. But see the picture that the ego creates and paints and we fuel it with all that energy that we build. We go and do kle and we swing around and we show this that we do mental clarity one and then suddenly you sit there and dream about Chris Hemsworth and paint a whole picture. Now Chris Hemsworth could be your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your husband, your wife, your infatuated illusionary someone. But all of this you're creating a massive illusionary compounding life which is not real. It's a lie to self and that's the conflict that we living in. It creates attachment to outcomes and expectations. How it creates attachment is my say you found the most

12:19 amazing hot sexy hunk of a boyfriend right or husband. Don't forget guys um this is as much as this might be funny but don't forget to apply this to these five concepts of different aspects of your life. apply these, take this and place it in finances and think how it's showing up. Okay, I'm just holding on to relationships because it's funny because we all do this, right? I've done it. So, you create attachments like, oh, I've got a really hot girlfriend and she is educated, well managed, she speaks six languages, she brunette, she's blonde, she's uh tall, whatever like description of what you think is beauty in your own mind. What we think is beauty in our own mind. How we come to this conclusion? By looking at billboards and magazines, right? That's how you come to these conclusions.

13:05 They might not know how to cook. They might not know how to make their bed. They don't they probably don't even wash their own clothes. They like wear the same clothes for four days in a row. Wash their own plate after a meal. They come to visit your home and your your home turns into a complete absolute mess. And this could person could be you also, right? So, you have to reverse roles. Don't just judge the other person because that is the con of ego because you're busy judging this person right now. But in the mind of the ego, it's created attachment towards that being. Now this person could be all organized and clean and you know do everything based on their swatch based on their practice of yoga based on what they have good practices discipline discipline practices that

13:52 they have learned from young and they have been practicing. They know how to cook. They know how to uh wash, do their own laundry. They they take care of themselves. And they not just by one when one knows how to take care of themselves, they know how to take care of the other. So they are not self-sufficient. They are actually community sufficient. They take care of communities. Right? Now imagine the chaos that these two egos have created. There's a saying in Tamil. Oh, the grass is always green on the other side. So then these two meet. They're like, "Oh, we will balance each other." Now suddenly this guy from looking after communities, he's looking after this one chick that he feels is the hottest chick and he's so attached to her that he can't let go because he is identifying

14:38 himself as like my girlfriend is hot. Don't you think your girlfriend is hot like me? They even made a song right now. The world is seeing this guy. Oh man, he's tapping that babe. only he knows this truth that this guy has to work wake up 3 hours early to get her laundry done to cook her meal to make sure that she is all like sorted to get to her work space or whatever she's doing. Um or he has to work an extra job to make sure that he's paying for her bills and clothing and etc. Guys, swap roles. Okay, this is not about boy and girl comp comparison. This is just two minds. Okay, this is a comparison of two minds. You you can be the boy, you can be the girl. It doesn't matter. This is not separation of the boy or girl. This

15:24 is the understanding of two separated minds and how the ego is playing. Now this ego is playing like this is because of the attachment. This guy has expectations of her that one day she's going to marry him and they're going to have make beautiful babies and then we're going to show their families in the world like see how cool we are. We made all these sexy looking babies and they're all going to become celebrities. But then she probably does not have that. She's just hanging out with him because he looks after her. She wants to grow like she wants to become a successful entrepreneur where she's leading multiple billion dollar businesses, enterprises and be her definition of success is something else. So then his expectation is going to create disappointment. Her expectation

16:12 of him is going to create disappointment because they are not winging of the same frequency. There's a mismatch. What do you think is going to be happening there? Wherever there is expectation, there is disappointment. This is the first lesson of healing warrior tribe mental clarity. There is expectation, there's a clear-cut disappointment. When it is not a disappointment, consider it as a blessing from grace. Because it is those very few moments that when you have chosen not to expect in the way that you know you have you have chosen not to expect and something comes up and that is a blessing. So don't put your bet your money on a blessing because it's not meant to be put on a bet. Can't gamble with grace. Okay.

16:57 So expectation creates disappointment. Attachments creates expectation and that very attachment will kill you, will suffocate you. And all of these attributes attachment expectation disappointment are all based on the judgments and the comparison of ego. This is the mask of the true self. The intention of ego is that very suffering, that very thing that it breaks you when you lose everything. When you lose that girlfriend and she's taken everything you had and leaves you stranded in the middle of the streets without anything, that is your creation, not hers, that is the mask that uncovered of you to your true self. If

17:43 you lost your career, if you lost that dream and desire and the goals of becoming a multi-billionaire company holder and you ended up as a mother to five kids and you've lost your beauty, you've lost your sanity and you've gone crazy. It is not his fault because that is you uncovering the mask of your true self. You did not attend to your truth. You fell in for the ego of the other. This attachment. So tap into this space. Find out who you truly are. What is that truly that you want that you seek? If you don't know who you truly are, hang in after mental clarity one into mental clarity 2, which is a free offering from the healing

18:29 warrior tribe. And that will show you the path of who you truly are. And what is that? Your truth speaks of you. Then make choices. Then make decisions. Invest in your learning. Take time. Because that time and that investment is what's going to shape your life, shape your future so you don't keep making the same mistakes. Someone recently told me it's a different version of the same lesson. They're calling it a lesson because the lesson is an experience and less in experience is all the times you fall into the big trap of maya of illusion. When you hit that rock bottom that is a lesson which is falling over and over. So this continuous learning of the same lesson pattern will break. You will learn new

19:16 lessons and not keep falling into the same pattern of the same old lesson going from relationship after relationship after relationship after relationship. You stop that because the suffering ends in goob sometimes in more places. If you don't stop it at relationship at the two you get married and it's two families and that that population is building. Then there's two families at stake. If you're creating kids, then there's kids and then two families at stake and all the friends of those kids, they're all at stake because it all affects mental health. Think about this before you take choices and decisions. Apply the same concepts into finance health wealth family and your work spaces. Okay? This mask of hiding our true self, how it shows up.

20:05 When we were young, we show up. I want to be a good son to my parents. But truly, you're a absolute Dennis the menace. You're running a muck at school. You're wagging school, but when you show up at home, you put on your good boy mask. I went to school today, but you were not at school. You were at the beach. It starts so earlier on, right? Because nobody attended. Nobody attended to this child, to this mind, this young mind as to what they actually want. Maybe they were not resonating school. They needed some, they needed education that was outdoors. They needed education that was related to nature, but schooling did not understand that. Neither did the parent

20:50 understand that, right? And then we turn around and wear masks for our teachers. Oh, the history teacher likes me to be this way, so we show up that way. The math teacher likes me to be this way. So, we show up that way. So, this constant conditioning of changing different masks. As a student, I'm like this. As a son, I'm like this. As a child, a daughter, I'm like this. As a girlfriend, I'm like this. As a boyfriend, I'm like this. And there's so much hiding. There's so much hiding and pretense that's going on that we forget the true self. We don't know who we truly are. We go to work, we are wearing a mask. As an IT professional, I need to wear a tie and show up as someone who is professional. But outside, I don't like

21:37 to wear a tie, nor do I like to wear anything that is closely formal to work. So why this pretense? No, find a job that actually suits you. You don't need to hide behind that suit, you know, don't need to hide behind that that facade that you think you need to show up like that to create this identity that is false. If you are a person who likes wearing all of that, then that's your truth and identify that. Then do that. If that's not you and you're pretending to be someone else, then there's a gap there. Inquire about the gap. So these constant masks that we are wearing in different roles as a as a successful entrepreneur have to be like that. When you go home, you have to wear the mask of a husband or a wife. And then you're looking at a children, you have to wear the mask of your as a mother or father, grandparent,

22:25 whatever mask, all the different masks that you're wearing are all different identities that you have created. You're actually just the one person bit like the carist behind it. They are all called karlic. But see how many different shapes and shapes and sizes there are. That's the that's how we have become. We've conditioned conditioned ourselves to become all these different aspects of the same being. But which one is the true being? Is the person that you show up at work, is that you? How you show up to your child, is that you? How you show up to your husband or wife, is that the true you? Who is the true you? The person watching this lesson right now, is that the true you? Ask this question to yourself. Who am I? Who's the true

23:12 me? It cannot be so many different versions of you. You can talk different content and you can talk different contexts. But the true self is just the one. The different context and the content is because of the experiences that you have and hold in your life is is how much knowledge you've embedded and embodied through this through this life. That's what's that talks through you. That is not you. You are the words that you speak. And if there is a conflict between the words that you speak and the thoughts that you hold, then that is the space. That's the gap that you need to work towards.

23:57 That's the gap that one needs to close. And that gap is ego. The ego separates. The ego wears masks. The ego shows up differently to different situations. The true self always shows up the same way. I'm not talking about how it's dressed up. Not talking about how it's putting makeup. I'm talking about how that mind shows up. It's always centered. It's always trying to seek that truth. It's always in respect. It's always in awareness. It's always in devotion to grace, humility, the practice of humility is