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0:24 face down on the floor. Angels and the elders are reading songs of
1:26 See you.
10:07 You are. Welcome to our men only connect group. Come on. I want to hear you. Oh,
10:55 oh, oh. That's as much man as I got. I hope though that you had a wonderful time. I hope you were able to make it to our favor men's night out. It was awesome. It was incredible. I really hope that you encountered God in a beautiful way. All right. Tonight, this is the last connect group study in this whole series of living spirit filled, filled, filled, filled, filled, filled, filled, filled, filled, filled filled filled filled filled filled filled filled filled filled filled filled filled filled filled filled, filled, filled, filled, filled, filled, filled, filled, filled, filled by the Spirit. And tonight, because we are all men, we're gonna speak honestly, clearly, and we're gonna speak biblically. And here's the question that every man, whether he realizes or not, is answering with his life, and it's this, who am I and what am I living for? The reason is that men don't drift into strength. We drift into passivity. We don't
11:41 accidentally live Spirit-led lives. We live intentionally Spirit-led lives. And scripture is clear. A man who is filled with the Spirit must live from his identity, not his impulses, not his pressures, and definitely not his past. And so in this study, we're going to talk about what it means to be a Spirit-filled man, a man who knows who he is, a man who walks led by the Spirit, and a man who lives in a way that produces life around him. And I want to talk about this idea of identity before behavior. See, before we talk about what a spirit-filled man does, we must talk about who a spirit-filled man is. Romans 8, verse 14
12:28 to 15. In the NET version it says, All right, this is God. foundational from Paul here. You are not first a worker, you are not first a provider, and you're not even first a leader. You and I, we are first called a son. And when a man does not live from sonship, he will try and prove himself through so many other things like performance or control or anger or addiction. So obviously a lot of sexual sin, maybe silence or or even
13:13 just self-reliance. But when a man knows that he is a son, he no longer needs to prove himself. He learns how to live led by God. This is Galatians 5, 16. But I say, live by the Spirit and you will not carry out the desires of the flesh. You notice the order here that Paul puts here. It's very intentional. You don't defeat the flesh by fighting harder. You defeat the flesh by walking fuller in the Spirit. A Spirit-led man does not ask, what can I get away with? How close can I get to the line and God would still be okay? This is what a Spirit-led man asks. He asks this, what aligns with who I am? If I am a son
14:04 of God, then what actually aligns with that? And this is the difference between willpower and willpower. identity power. You know, I kind of think of this a little bit like a man in uniform. Maybe it's military or police. You know, the uniform that that man wears, it doesn't just represent authority. It reminds the man who he is and how he must act. He doesn't get up in the morning. If you're a part of the military, you don't get up and say, I might or might not wear my uniform today. No, you have to wear your uniform and you wear it Because identity will shape your behavior. In the same way, a spiritual man doesn't get up and go, how am I feeling today? Who
14:50 am I today? Will I put on? Will I be filled with the Spirit today? No, no. A spiritual man, he wakes up and he says, who I am in Christ is a son of God. And the question that I will live by today is, how does a son of God live? So here's some thoughts I want to throw at you is this. Number one, a Spirit-filled man walks in holy boundaries. 1 Corinthians 6, 19, it says, This is what a Spirit-filled man understands, that the Spirit lives here. The Spirit lives in me. That changes how we think about sexual purity. about pornography, substances, alcohol, what we
15:41 allow into our minds and bodies. If we look at alcohol, if we're doing something wrong, not look at alcohol, if we look at pornography, if we're doing something that we shouldn't be doing with someone that we shouldn't be doing it with, if the Spirit's living in you, you're not alone. This is what's amazing about boundaries is that so many times people have a negative perception on boundaries. Let me just be really clear. Boundaries are not punishment. Boundaries are protection for what is holy. A spiritual man doesn't avoid sin because he's scared. He avoids sin because he values the presence of God. You know, next thing a spiritual man does, he seeks accountability. You know, I talk about this a lot. Proverbs 27, 17, as iron sharpens iron, so a person sharpens his friend. Everybody loves that verse until
16:31 we actually get the sharpening bit where there's friction and sparks and everything. But I want to tell you, isolation is one of the enemy's favorite strategies against men. And a spirit filled man understands that strength grows in brotherhood. Accountability is not weakness. Accountability is is spiritual warfare. I love what James 5.16 says, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another. Here's why, so that you may be healed. A spirit-filled man, he invites trusted brothers to do this. Would you ask me real questions? Not just, hey, how's your day gone? How's your job going? But they ask real questions like, hey, have you struggled with your sexual purity this week? Real trusted brothers, they speak
17:21 the truth. A trusted brother will hold up a mirror, call you out and call you higher. Not call you out to embarrass, but call you out to bring you higher. And a real spirit-filled man will pray even when he's tired. You know, it's interesting to me, I think about fire. I love fire. I was the kid that always burned everything. I didn't burn anything illegally, but I just loved burning stuff. And here's what's interesting about fire is that fire needs oxygen, right? Fire doesn't go out because it lacks heat. It goes out because it lacks oxygen. And men burn out not because they don't care, but because they try and carry the weight alone. Can I make a statement to you? The brotherhood here at
18:10 Favorite Church, the brotherhood of men around you, That is our oxygen. We need the brotherhood to help us stay on fire, to stay as spirit-filled men. You know why? My next thought is this, is that a spirit-filled man serves without fear. I love Mark 10, verse 45. A spirit-filled man does not need a platform to feel valuable. Spirit-filled man, he's going to serve in church. He's going to serve in his home. He's going to serve in his workplace, just in the streets. Because it's not about being visible, it's about being obedient. The Spirit never fills a man for self-promotion. He fills a man for self-giving. And you know what I see in spirit-filled men that serve?
19:00 Is this next thought, which is this, is that a spirit-filled man is bold about Jesus. Oh, I love Acts 1, verse 8. But you will receive power. It's that power. Same dunamis power we talked about in our last session when the Holy Spirit has come upon you. And what's the whole point of the power of the Holy Spirit? It's so that you will be my witnesses. You know, boldness is not about your personality. Boldness is a spirit empowerment. A spirit-filled man is not ashamed of Jesus. He is not ashamed of what Jesus has done in his life. He can speak naturally. He will live visibly and he will love God. courageously because of what Jesus has done inside of him. I love Galatians 2 verse 20. I have been crucified with Christ and it is no longer I who live
19:50 but Christ who lives in me. So men, this is the call. I don't need you to be perfect but I don't want you to be passive. I want you to be spirit led and spirit filled sons. A spirit filled son knows who he is. walks within boundaries, seeks a brotherhood, serves faithfully, will speak boldly, and a Spirit-filled son will live a surrendered life. I want us to close in just a moment. I want you to, if you can, whether you're in a house, a condo, maybe a restaurant, whatever it is, if you would feel comfortable, could you just close your eyes? Could you maybe lift your hands if you can? And would
20:36 you just pray this prayer with me? Holy Spirit, lead me as a son. Come on, say it with me again. Holy Spirit, lead me as a son. Let me pray for you. Father, I pray for each one of the great men in our church. Lord, it's not easy to be a man. There's a lot of responsibility. There's a lot of pressure sometimes, particularly for fathers and husbands as well. Lord, I pray that that we would know who we are as sons of God, that we would not live striving, trying to prove who we are, but that we would rest in the knowledge of our identity that is found in Christ Jesus. Would you fill us with your spirit? Would you help us
21:23 get over our own insecurities and pride and help us reach out to our brotherhood around us, that we would truly heal, that we would walk as sons filled with the spirit? So help us in that. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen. Amen. All right. So we're going to discuss this. And, you know, in our men's group, I know sometimes the reason why we actually do gender split groups, is because we want men to be able to really share without feeling any weirdness because maybe there's a girl there or a wife or a partner or something like that. And so men, I really want you, again, be authentic. You don't have to overshare. Don't let one person do all the talking, but really be authentic. Share. Open up with the
22:08 brotherhood that is around you. Okay, here's three questions I want you to talk about. The first is this. What stood out to you about the idea that identity comes before behavior? In what areas of your life do you find it hardest to live from your identity as a son of God? That's going to be a great question. Number two is this. What is one boundary around purity, substances, time, or thought life that the Holy Spirit may be inviting you to strengthen or establish as a Spirit-filled man? That's a good one. Last one is this. Who are the one or two trusted brothers that you can pursue accountability with this year? And what would it look like to invite them into your life more intentionally? Maybe you don't
22:54 have someone. Maybe in this group tonight could be the night where you actually come together, invite someone into your life. Love you. Have a wonderful discussion. God bless you.
