PERBANYAK BERSYUKUR AGAR TIDAK MENJADI KUFUR || USTADZAH SITI FATHIYAH KHOTIB

0:00 Bismillahirrahmanirrahim. Asalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. May the peace, mercy, and blessings of Allah be with you too. Alhamdulillahilladzi allafa baina qulubina fasbahna binikmatihi ikhwana. Ashadu alla ilahaillallah wahdahu la sharikalah. Wa ashadu anna Muhammadan abduhu wa rasuluh la nabiya ba'dah. Thank God and thank God. Hopefully today everyone present will be grateful . Amen. I have said a

0:47 beautiful prayer for his heart, for his mind, for his family. Hopefully, those present today will be given good health and long life by Allah. Amen. Amen. A peaceful household, pious children, hopefully Allah will gather us all in Jannah. Amen, O Lord of the Universe. Don't forget to convey our best wishes and greetings to our beloved Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam who gave us a special stamp. Special for whom? For those who are always grateful for what they are given and patient with trials.

1:35 Why did Allah give the sentence ajaba liamril mukmin? The behavior of believers is special. Because truly, believers are grateful when given blessings, and patient when given trials. There is no third door, namely complaining. While we always choose the third door, choosing to complain. How come? Because in the Qur'an Allah explains that humans were created to like to complain and sigh. Today we really want to get enlightenment from Surah Al-Ma'arij where Allah gives tips on

2:20 how we can stop complaining often. Allah says, nauzubillahiminasyaitanirjim innal insana khuliqo idahusaru jazua waid massahul khairu manua. In fact, humans were created to like to complain. Keep complaining. Unless mentioned later if he has eight criteria can minimize complaints, increase gratitude. That is a special gift from Allah Subhanahu wa Taala.

3:07 Many people read the Qur'an, many understand its meaning, but are not given the strength to apply it. Hopefully those who sit here will always be given consistency. Amen. Given the power to practice what is in the Koran. Why? What a wonderful gift . What a wonderful gift. No need to go far, sit here, sit here. This is a gift from God. Not everyone can sit here. What's fun to do at this hour? Some are sleeping, some are cooking, some are washing, some are going to the mall. Yes, but masyaallah the Darussalam congregation chose to sit here. Hopefully it can be

3:53 maintained until the end of our lives, God willing. Amen, O Lord of the Universe. OK, our qariah can help. Today we will see what tips Allah gives us so that we don't complain. Sisters and brothers, may you please open surah Al-Ma'arij surah 70 verse 19 to verse 35. Yes, Miss. Please. Auzubillahiminasyaitanirrajim. Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.

4:41 Innal insana khuliq halu idza massahusyaru jazua waidza massahul khairu manua. mus [Applause] alladina hum shatihim daimun walladzina fi amwalihim haqqu shamem lisaili wal mahrum walladzina yusoddiquuna biyaumiddin

5:26 [Applause] innazabbihim [Applause] gir makmun innazaba rabbihim ghairu mun walladzina humfurujihim hafidun [Music] malumin. It 's already 30, Ustazah. Up to 35. Oh, 35.

6:14 [Applause] Walladzina hum bisyahadihim qoimun. Walladina hum aa shatihim yukhafidun. [Music] [Applause] Qallahim. It has a meaning, Neng. There is. There is a translation. If there is no translation, there is. Please.

6:59 There will be eight tips later. Ma'am, please note how to minimize complaints. This means that humans are truly created to be complainers. When trouble strikes him, he sighs. And when he gets good wealth, he becomes stingy. Except for those who perform the prayer, those who remain faithful in performing their prayer. And those in whose wealth a certain portion is prepared for the poor, both those who ask and those who do not ask. And those who believe in the Day of

7:45 Judgment and those who fear the punishment of their Lord. Indeed, no one feels safe from the punishment of their Lord . And those who guard their chastity except from their wives or the slaves whom their right hands possess, then verily they are not blameworthy. So whoever seeks outside of that, such as adultery, molestation, and lesbianism, those are the people who transgress the limits and the people who keep their promises and mandates. and those who hold fast to their testimony

8:32 and those who guard their prayers, and they are the ones who will be honored in Paradise. Masha Allah. Allahumarham Prophet of Quran. Masha Allah. Jazakumullah khair. Alright, mothers, brothers and sisters who are blessed by Allah Subhanahu wa taala. God created us. Allah knows exactly our shortcomings. Allah also knows the solution to cover all the shortcomings that we have. Before getting married, people complain, it would be nice if they got married like that. It turns out that after getting married he complained too. Oh my God, this kind of marriage is really like this.

9:21 Having an ugly husband who complains. Oh God, it's embarrassing to be invited to a wedding like that. Handsome husband, oh my God, he's so flirtatious. Keep complaining. When he didn't have children he complained. It's great to have children, you can chat with them. It turns out that when she was pregnant she complained. Oh God, I can't sleep. Where the baby continues to move in the womb and has given birth. Oh my God, it really hurts. Turns out she gave birth. Where the child is not being looked after, Masya Allah. Just for knowledge, everyone has

10:06 gone through the process. If he is not married, he should be happy, comfortable, not married, able to go anywhere. without permission. Just look at the happiness. Thank God I'm not married yet. Imagine if your husband is jobless, has no job or has domestic violence or has an illness on the first night of his illness, an ambulance comes to pick him up. So, what is seen as the good consequences of marriage is that on the one hand, people are happy that they can go anywhere, but on the other hand, when they return to their boarding house, they can only see walls and a roof. That's the consequence.

10:54 After getting married, she couldn't go anywhere freely. But when she comes home or her husband comes home, they can look at each other, hold hands, even though they don't fight for long. That's normal. That's the consequence of marriage. So. My husband is tired at the office, when he comes home there is a pious wife, O Allah, that makes him very happy. Beta is at home. Later, when we don't have children, we will see that if we don't have children, we can sleep soundly. But when in normal conditions it is lonely, there is no baby crying. But he was sleeping soundly. When he

11:41 has children, he doesn't sleep well, he can't sleep soundly for a while while his grandchildren haven't peed and it's just like that. But there were people who stroked him, kissed him, pampered him. That's all it is. Then, some of our children will get married, some will not, and some will say, "Oh God, I've worked so hard raising them. When they grow up, someone else will take them." I said, "Mom, if no one picks it up, it'll be even more stressful." Uh, yeah yeah. That's it. That humans need someone to remind them. Thank God, mother, someone took her child and someone wanted to accompany her. Imagine if he gets old and no one takes him, no one accompanies him, we will continue to accompany him. It's sad too. So

12:28 because Allah created us to be complainers, that is our true nature. Later, when he is sad, it will be nice if he has money, if he has a position. Oh, it would be so nice to be someone who has an identity, popularity, facilities, and a bag. That promise is really good. But Allah said that after being given material things, he turned out to be stingy. Why are you so stingy? Because he felt it was the result of his hard work. He forgot the hand of God at play in his success. So Allah says, if you don't want to have these two characteristics, don't complain,

13:13 don't be stingy, practice this verse. There are eight therapies that Allah has given, tips so that you are not stingy, so that you don't complain too quickly. God said, what comes first? Alladzina hum aa shatihim daimun. It's in verse 23. that one is lost. It will never be done by people who are faithful to their prayers. Mom, what does loyalty mean? Not every corner has one. Loyalty has no reason to turn away. If a person is loyal, there is no reason

13:59 to turn away. Similarly, a mother who is loyal to the Darussalam religious study will never have a reason in her mind not to be present here. So if a person is loyal, he will find a way not to leave it. Unlike an unfaithful person, he will look for a reason to leave her. prayer, Koran reading, fasting, worship. If he is faithful to that deed, he will find a way to stay on that path. Unlike people who are truly unfaithful, he looks for reasons. What will you do tomorrow if a friend asks, "Why don't you study the Koran at Darussalam?" What is the reason? He got that 1000 reasons he will

14:45 get it. Aha. The reason is yes. But a loyal person will never look for that reason. The same thing applies to prayer. A person who is faithful to prayer will pray in any condition. Even with Allah it is made easier when we are on a journey, it can be plural. Plural means combined, right, ma'am? Zuhur and Asr prayers combined. Maghrib and Isha prayers combined. That's sorry, you can't cheat. Maghrib and Asr prayers are not allowed. That's how the couple is. If it's dawn, I'm indeed single. So it can't be shortened, it

15:31 can't be combined. There is no dawn prayer, so it is one rakaat because there is no shortening. Well, when we are on a journey, it is made easier to use plurals. So, there are different laws. The plural is combining, qasar is summarizing. So when he was in a sick condition, unable to stand, he would sit. He ca n't sit, he can't lie down. Lying down can't be done without nodding your head. The head can't do with the eyes. He will find a way to not miss prayers. Unless you really ca n't do anything, you can pray for it . So let's not never go to the mosque, never pray in congregation. Once we go to the

16:16 mosque, our position is in front of the imam because the deceased is being prayed for. The saddest thing is never having to pray in congregation when you go to the mosque and pray in front of the imam because he has passed away, he has passed away. That's the saddest. So, Allah gives people who pray a stronger mentality than people who don't pray. If someone says, "Mrs. Fatiah, my friend prays diligently but his mental state is astagfirullah." For example, if he prays, his mentality is like that, what more if he doesn't pray. So. Why? A person who prays is honestly communicating with Allah. People who confide in Allah have a

17:04 broad heart because they have spoken to Allah, "Oh Allah, please help me." That's it. How do we know that people who pray are mentally strong? From Surah Al-Muzammil. Allah gave a tip to people who are diligent in praying, especially night prayers, that it is said to fill their souls more heavily, fill their minds more strongly, and reading at night is more impressive. Meanwhile, Allah said that the five daily prayers are aqimah inat tanhail fahsya wal munkar. Establish prayer. Why? By praying you

17:50 can prevent evil and evil deeds. That's why the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said, asaatu nur. Prayer is light. What does light mean? If we walk in the dark, we are confused, oh my, turn right or left or go straight, there is no light. God gave a glimmer of light. There is a light that guides us. We can go wherever we want. Prayer is the light for our lives. So, God willing, people who pray are mentally stronger than people who don't pray. I noticed that someone was going to commit

18:36 suicide. Ah, the majority of them pray inconsistently. That's why there are so many roundheads in Japan. They don't believe in God. Relying only on the world. Bullied roundly. Didn't get an offer or didn't get the round project. Why isn't there a place to lean on? If we are a place for Allah to lean on, when we pray our hearts will be calm. Imagine and notice who is sitting here. This is all problematic, try it. But it's not that different, right? Why? Because we are still praying, still talking to Allah. Even what does

19:23 God say? Auzubillahiminasyaitanirrajim. Wasta'inu bisobri wasalah. Ask for help with patience and prayer. So be faithful in prayer. Never be left behind. Wherever we go, the first thing our brain thinks about is where to pray. That's the first thing we think. Don't make it easy to pray later. It doesn't have to be easy. Where to pray is what we think about first. At the rest area or wherever, that's the first one. Prayer is in our minds. Be faithful in prayer. That's number one. What is the second word of God? Walladzina fi amwalihim haqqumalum lisili wal mahrum. A

20:09 certain portion is allocated to pay zakat or alms. That's the second one. So as not to be stingy. So, to be consistent in paying zakat, don't be stingy. in giving alms. That's why there is the sentence haqqu maklum. Some commentators say it is zakat. Why? Because there are certain parts. That means 2.5%. There are also those who say that zakat and alms are common. Why? Lisaili wal mahrum. For those who ask and those who don't ask. Sorry, pious mothers. We may have younger siblings, older

20:56 siblings, nieces and nephews, neighbors. They actually can't afford it, but they are embarrassed to ask us. So allocate funds like that for us to give to them. Whether they ask for beger ee or beggar or not ask. But we know they need it. Don't wait for them to ask. Give. Example. Have we ever seen an old man selling a mortar? Do you understand what a mortar is? Excuse me. I'm afraid this is millennials, right? Mortar. What is a mortar? That's what you do when you grind it. Now. Yes. The

21:43 men selling it are incredibly heavy. we are not necessarily strong. Make it easier for us to buy it. Or there are those who sell peyek, we buy it, we add it. There are lots of grandmothers who sell. That's how it is, lisili wal mahrum. Try to make giving more extra a habit. Especially in the month of Ramadan. Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam said that in the month of Ramadan his alms were like the wind that blew. Have you ever seen the wind stop blowing? No, right? T we immediately h

22:30 very cool. When the wind blows, it never stops, never thinks, "Hey, is it coming this way or not?" Never. People who give alms sometimes act like this, they want to give alms but they already have the money in their hands, but they see that they are still young. He stopped giving alms. If the wind blows, it won't stop. That's how the Prophet Muhammad said. If later he misuses my apology, that is between him and Allah. Even though sometimes we share, it turns out he is like that, filthy rich for example, well, God's hand has already received it before his hand receives it. So, if you give alms, you need to be selective

23:17 and effective. If we know each other better, give it. What's the difference ? If charity can make people rich. alms. If there is zakat, there is mustahik. Seven groups are in surah at-Taubah verse 60. Those are seven groups. There are the poor, the needy, the converts, the amils, those in debt, ee travelers, fisabilillah, they exist. But charity is free. We have parents, our parents are richer than us. Then we make the most beautiful parcels to give to our parents. The

24:03 angel immediately recorded it as a reward for alms. Our husband is rich, we know he likes eating snapper heads or satay. When you bring it home, the angel records it as a reward for alms. No need to say, "Dad, this is a big fish head for charity. The bones are all stuck here . Why is the big fish head for charity like that? Our child is moving up a grade, our child has finished his murajaah, so give him whatever gift he wants. The angel records it as a reward for charity. Well, this is a doll. Charity from mom, dear. Oh God, that doll is just crying while playing. Why? A doll for charity,

24:48 right? Without us saying it, the angel has already recorded it as a reward for charity. The same goes for treating friends. Let's have meatballs, be quiet. Let's have meatballs, let's give charity. Oh God, those meatballs are hard for us to swallow. Why are they for charity? We look at them, Oh God, these meatballs for charity are so delicious. No need. That's called lisaili wal mahrum. Those who ask and those who don't ask. We are destined not to ask, they are the ones who want to share. So if we give charity, we can make others happy. That's the reward for our children,

25:36 our partners, our parents, our friends. Treat them often. The reward, mashaallah, is not small change. Allah will replace it with something better . I wouldn't be sharing this if I didn't feel it. Masyaallah. Don't be stingy. Why? People who give alms know that this wealth is a trust from Allah, so I must distribute it in the way of Allah. Later, the wealth will return to me. We can't say, "Oh Allah, I just got it." No.

26:22 Why do we thank you, we receive, we give again. Thank you, we give again. That's gratitude. That's the philosophy. People who give alms understand that wealth is a trust. That's why they won't be stingy. They won't be stingy. People who are given abundant sustenance won't be stingy if they know it's just a trust. They will compete to find my wealth that I donate, like that. So if we love wealth, some of it is for us. in the world, there is something for us in the afterlife. Don't just create the world. There was once a question from Rasulullah sallallahu

27:08 alaihi wasallam to his friends. O my friends, you love your wealth more. Or do you prefer the inheritance of your heirs? They answered, "We love our wealth more. Then give it in charity." Why? The wealth you give in charity will accompany you on the Day of Judgment. Meanwhile, the wealth you leave behind is for your heirs. So, some are for your heirs, some are for us to accompany you on the Day of Judgment. Be proportional, which is for this world and which is for the afterlife. That's it. Don't give it all to the world, don't give it all to the afterlife

27:53 until our children are in debt everywhere because we put their wealth in the afterlife. If we are good parents, we should ask for permission or inform them. Qadarullah, when my deceased parents were in communication, we collected it. Be sincere . If the land or house here is for waqf, what is it for here, for example, a school or religious study. Yes, be sincere. For you guys over there, be sincere. Meaning they informed us, and we put it in what? We informed them. Don't do this, my wealth is free. Right. But if we communicate with the heirs, it's wiser. Some are wise here, some are wise here. So that

28:41 both are comfortable. Well, there is this world and there is Hereafter. Remember those who diligently give charity, their heart disease will come out. Their stinginess, arrogance, and greed will come out. Who said that? Allah says in Surah At-Taubah. Auzubillahiminasyaitanirrajim. Khud min amwalihim shodqaniruhumakihim biha. Take from their wealth as what? Charity. Khud min amwalihimqataniruhum. So charity cleanses their wealth and hearts. If suddenly we are anxious, greedy, arrogant, try giving charity.

29:28 And giving it depends on the nominal percentage of our wealth. If we have a lot of money, we spend a lot, then our disease will come out. But if, for example, we spend it, giving charity from 1 billion rupiah, only 1,000 will come out, that's very little. If Allah says something, it's valid. Those who diligently give charity, God willing, their heart disease will disappear. The desire to be arrogant comes out, but it doesn't happen. The desire to be greedy is suppressed again, it doesn't happen. Why? Allah makes our charity cleanse our hearts and our wealth. That's why He won't be stingy.

30:14 His heart disease is removed by giving alms. That's the second point. Third, how can we increase our gratitude? It says here walladzina yasoddiquuna biyaumiddin. Confirming the Day of Judgment. Why? Oh, the Day of Judgment is the day when all our deeds are shown . The slide is opened. We are complaining, we are grateful. This morning ask our hearts, "O heart, have you been grateful? Open the curtains, O Allah. Masyaallah,

31:00 our plants are fresh. Thank God. Sitting at the dining table there is food that we can use for breakfast. Thank God. Thank God. We'll be leaving here later. Thank God we can move our legs. Dear Allah. Thank God. We can't imagine waking up with our body paralyzed. This is what we need to be grateful for. Oh Allah, thank God I can still take this body to the mosque. Met friends, thank God for the friendship. We come home with peace of mind. Don't be erased by our chatter.

31:48 Oh God, I'm really sore today. Masyaallah, seeing him, oh my God, is so annoying. Don't look anymore, ma'am, this hijab and clothes don't match. Yes, he laughed. Well, don't do that . That's a big deal. Let's finish our study today. Just focus. Focus on today's recitation. As a child says, "Dad, I don't want to go to the mosque tomorrow. I don't want to pray five times a day at the mosque." Why, son? In the mosque, many people gossip, many people sleep, some play games. What's that for? Okay, said his father, "You can, son, not go to the mosque, but there are conditions." What is it? The condition is to bring water. Bring a glass of water. Don't spill

32:36 even a drop. Oh, that's all. Okay, dad. His son said that he poured water into a glass and went around the mosque. Going around the mosque. After finishing, Dad had finished bringing the water. His father asked, "Did anything spill, son?" "No, nothing. I'm focused on bringing it." In the mosque, someone is sleeping, I don't know. I'm focused on the water. Someone is playing a game, "I don't see, Dad. Is anyone gossiping?" "I didn't see that." Same, "Son, you go to the mosque just focus. Later when you arrive at the mosque, it won't be seen in our eyes who gossip, who lie down, who play games. What? Every time we

33:21 perform worship, focus on that worship, don't think about anything else. Why? Later on the Day of Judgment it will be shown. Moreover, we know the verse, azubillahiminasyaitanirrajim. akartum laidakum kafartum inabiadid. If you are grateful for my blessings, I will increase, I will increase, I will increase. But if you are ungrateful with my blessings, remember my painful punishment. You were given a healthy body, where are you taking this body? You were given abundant sustenance, where are you taking that sustenance? So if you want to share this Ramadan, okay , Mom. Mom, please open the closet, put

34:10 aside the clothes you don't wear. If possible, match this with the hijab so that the wearer doesn't have to worry about looking for the hijab. Then, if that's the case, close your eyes. Hmm. Like that. Because if we don't open them again, it seems they will still fit. Ouch, It's no longer possible. We said to our husbands, "Are there any clothes in this pocket that are still wearable , son? Are there any clothes that are still wearable? Please set aside." Why are we distributing it before Ramadan? Why? It could be that the clothes we no longer wear, but

34:55 they become Eid clothes for them. And it's very often during Eid al-Fitr they pray at the mosque, masyaallah our clothes are used for Eid. Even though we don't use them anymore, as long as they use them for good, the rewards continue to flow to us . That's why when I look at the closet, it's not just my clothes, it's not just that. Which ones are rarely worn? This seems to be rarely worn, like that. But please adjust. Don't say, oh, rarely worn clothes, bring them to the Koran study. Eh, bring a kebaya to the Koran study. Oh God, it's complicated to sit in a kebaya, right? I mean, we rarely wear these

35:42 , we also rarely wear these, but it's adjusted to the hangout place, the Koran study place. We can hang out with our partners, right? In fact, the ones with the greatest rewards are hanging out with our partners, with our children. Let's eat together. Especially mothers, when hanging out with their partners, their hands hold like this. Yes. So that our hearts are united With your partner. Young people do that, right? Why ca n't we do that? Or in the car or when chatting at home. So when we chat, don't be too far apart, get

36:27 close and hold hands, do this and that. That's the reward. There will be a reward for that on the Day of Judgment. Oh God, his wife is so pious. When my husband holds me, I get annoyed, he's already old. Don't make him happy. He holds us, we hold him again. No matter how old our marriage is, it doesn't matter, it's halal. Don't let us regret it later, okay? Let's try doing this first. Why? The Day of Judgment is the day when all our deeds are shown. The good ones are shown, the bad ones are also shown. If we are not grateful to

37:13 our partner, that will happen later. That's what Allah said, what did the Prophet say? What? Women are in hell the most because they are not grateful to their husbands. The best husbands are generous with their wives. The best wives are the most grateful to their husbands. So that both of them have a good time. Later, we will tell both of our husbands, Ma'am. Not Dad. Mrs. Fatiah said, a good husband is the one who is most Royalty with his wife. Don't just say that, but the best wife should also say that so that it's both comfortable. Well, this is the third.

38:00 Then what's the fourth? Walladzina hum min adzabihim musyfiquun. Fourth, people who fear Allah's punishment. Why? Because Allah's punishment is never safe from us. Even the slightest sin we have is shown. Why is there heaven and hell? Well, the existence of heaven is a sign of Allah's love for us. Imagine if we pray five times a day without being very devout and are given heaven. Why is there hell? Because of Allah's justice. So, if heaven is because of Allah's mercy

38:46 and love for us. If hell is because of Allah's justice. If there were no hell, how many good people and bad people would be in heaven together? It wouldn't be fair. Like that. In fact, the existence of hell is a form of Allah's justice. Similarly, we are given rewards because of Allah's mercy. Mom, last night I had the intention that tomorrow I would study the Koran in Darussalam. Just my intention was recorded as one good deed. It turns out that today, how many of us actually attended were recorded by Allah? 10. Why? Because we are rewarded with 10, that is Allah's mercy, different from bad deeds. For example, God forbid, for example,

39:34 we have bad intentions, like tomorrow I want to surprise a grandmother so she faints, for example. Is it just an intention recorded by Allah? No. No. It turns out that when we meet our grandmother, we really surprise her . It is recorded only one justice, right? If you repay kindness with love, repay evil with justice. As for heaven, it is because of Allah's mercy on us, Mom. Our prayers are rarely devout, Mom, but we are given heaven by Allah. Imagine if we and our husbands are not very obedient, our prayers are not very devout, we don't give much charity. But Allah gives heaven to us. Allah

40:20 loves us very much. Why does Allah test us in this world? So that later the reckoning will be easy. If we were never tested in this world, we would be arrogant. Our arrogance, Mom. Pharaoh was arrogant like that, Mom. He was never sick, never had difficulties, never became poor, Claiming God. Humans who are never tested are overly arrogant. And they love wealth excessively. Unlike people who are afraid of Allah's punishment. Ah, afraid. Ah, if you don't pay zakat, you'll end up in hell. You won't be stingy, Ma'am. Ah, afraid if you don't pray, you'll end up in hell. You won't leave your prayers, Ma'am. Why? Afraid of Allah's punishment. Oh, it's scary

41:07 if you don't pray, you'll end up in hell . Oh, it's scary too. It turns out that those who go to hell are those who never pray, those who never feed the poor, their bodies are gathered in hell. So hell is like a room, each of them is placed according to their sins. What kind of hell do those who like to gossip go to? [Music] Yes, Ma'am. Hell is Hutomah. You memorized Surah Al-Humazah. Auzubillahiminasyaitanirrajim. Wailul Likulli. Well, that's humazatil lumazah. Here's the one Those who like to criticize, those who like to gossip,

41:52 those who like to collect wealth because they think their wealth will make them eternal in this world, all go to the hell of khutamah. So when they gossip, each reminds each other, "Oh Allah, I'm in front of the hell of hutomah." Astagfirullah like that. Stop that, Ma'am. Something like that. Oh my, astagfirullah, gossiping again. Oh Allah, step back from the hell of hutomah, collecting money without paying zakat. Oh my, Allah, I'm in front of the hell of hutomah. Never mind. Ma'am, here are four tips to avoid being stingy.

42:38 Afraid of the punishment of hellfire later. What's the fifth one? The fifth is in verse 29. Walladzina hum lurujihim hafidun. People who guard their honor. How can they guard their honor? It can prevent complaints and stinginess like this. I apologize, this is a bit vulgar, Ma'am. When a husband has intimate relations with his wife, he is grateful for his happiness when he has intimate relations with his wife.

43:25 It's the same as the happiness of mothers when they see branded goods in Discount. Wow, I'm so happy, oh God. This used to be 5 million Rupiah, now it's only 500 Rupiah. Oh God, we're so happy. God has entrusted it to us, it feels different. It's not the same for men and women. It's not the same happiness, it's not the same happiness. For men, the hardest test in the world is Oh, women. He's not allowed to see a slightly smooth forehead . Putting powder on them is immediately attractive. Putting powder on crackers can be attractive. He's so forbidden to see anyone wearing powder that he can't do that.

44:11 So when he can maintain his honor, being grateful for his wife for who she is gives him peace. It's the same as when we can buy branded goods. That's our hobby. But we hold it in. We hold it in. Nowadays, Mother, God forbid, the people who DM me to vent are women today who are not grateful for their husbands' conditions. She's willing to sleep with her friend as long as she gets money from her high school friend. She knows her high school friend used to like her and she's richer. It's okay to sleep with her friend as long as she gets money.

44:57 What's more It's scary again, there's a driver who told a story about a woman carrying a food container and saying to her husband, "What do you want to buy cooked side dishes?" She was carrying a food container and wanted to buy cooked side dishes. She stopped at a hotel and slept with someone first. The money was used to buy cooked side dishes. Nauzubillah. Why? She wasn't grateful for what her husband gave her. The husband wasn't grateful for his wife's condition. He was lazy about eating sour vegetables at home all the time. He wanted to replace rendang with vegetable soup. That's why he bought snacks outside. If people maintain their honor, they will be able to be grateful. People who cheat in their households will

45:43 not have a blessed fortune, their families will not be blessed, their lives will not be blessed. That's why Allah said that if you want to get that , have a calm heart, don't complain, be faithful to your partner. Maintain honor except to their partners. What I mean is, we maintain honor. Nowadays, we go out wearing a hijab, covering our aurat, ma'am. But if you 're married to your husband, don't cover your aurat, don't be too pious. There was a man who said, "Mrs. Fatiah, I'm married but my wife wears keep wearing the hijab, ma'am. Very pious." I said, "That's not pious, that's not understanding. "Tell me to come to the religious study group." I

46:28 said that. Why can't her husband do anything? If I hold him, "Astagfullahalazim, it 's already halal. He has to study the Koran again. People are already married , that's all. This is the verse. Illa ala azwajihim." Except with your partner, you don't need to protect your honor. That's what it means . If it goes deeper, I'm worried. This was uploaded on YouTube. So the point is to cover your aurat, guard your voice with other people. With your husband, you're free. With other people, you guard your voice.

47:13 Why? Many people now replace the letter S with the letter C. Maci. Father, make fun of me. Oh my. The letter S has all disappeared. That pain becomes an ass, a banana becomes a picang. Try it, it's strange. With your own husband, you're free. If you want to lisp, if you want to stutter, you're free. Why free? Allah says here, don't be afraid. In fact, if you're spoiled with your husband, you'll get a reward, if you're soft with your husband, you'll get a reward. That's

48:01 the nature of women. The Qur'an says, inna kaidakunim. Truly, her deception is powerful. What can you say about Satan? Truly, Satan's deception is weak. A woman's strength is greater than Satan's. In fact, she has deception. That's why she's destroyed. Men from ancient times, from the Children of Israel until now, have been destroyed by men in front of women. But the women here are all pious women. Amen. The trickery is used in a good way. Dad, I'm not going to the mosque, it's just cloudy, Dad, it hasn't rained yet .

48:48 Cool, right? Don't turn it around. Dad, where are you going? You want to go to the mosque, it's cloudy. You know, it's cloudy. It's about to rain. No. That trickery is not good. Like this. Here, it's almost here. Here, it's raining, no need to go to the mosque, no need. That's what's wrong with this. If you ask about zakat, have you paid your zakat yet? Let us be blessed, Dad, know that. Don't forbid it. Dad, why are you calculating this zakat? No need. That's just the neighbor's house. Uh, never pay zakat, never. That's the wrong trickery. We invite our husbands to do good with the trickery we have. If

49:34 women are too serious, it's scary, right? The husband is scared, "Dad, tonight we Tahajud prayer." Okay. Verses were revealed, hadiths, not like that either. Let's pray together tonight, let's fast together. Like that. So we have a trick that we use with our husbands. So we can enter heaven together. If we get a lot of money, dad will sit down for a while. Want to know when her husband interrogated her about where this money came from using tricks. Yes. Alhamdulillah yes. Where does he get his livelihood from? Asking that question is not an interrogation. So Allah teaches us, masyaallah, to maintain honor even with other people,

50:20 but with a natural partner, if possible, be as romantic as possible. Mothers, for example, it's okay for dad to step back a little. Why? He's too handsome. Once in a while, yeah. Once in a while is okay. Or if Mom or Dad asks, where are you? This is still a tourist city with traffic jams like mom's heart being stuck in dad's heart. Once in a while is okay. If it's rare, it's beautiful if it's rare. But if it's too often, it's too often Heeh. It's like throwing up.

51:06 Every now and then. A woman is grateful to her husband, her husband is content in heaven. What else can she look for? That's why it says in this verse that those who maintain their honor will never be anxious, they won't complain. Alhamdulillah, they get spending money from their husband. Alhamdulillah, that's it. How many is this? Fifth. Now the sixth in verse 32. But in verse 30, it was said by Allah waralika faulaika humuladun. I even allow us to fulfill biological needs, but don't go beyond the limits,

51:53 like adultery, LGBT, right? That's going beyond the limits. If it's with a partner, it's legal, halal. But if it's lesbian, gze, bisek, bisek likes everything. Humans, animals, walls. Oh, yeah. That's bisek. There's that in the southwest, right? That husband is attached to a car. He married the car. Why? He's CM. Love to death. Love to death. The CM is with the car. There's a woman who married a

52:38 crocodile. Because if it's a human, it's said that the fur is too soft, she can't orgasm. If it's a crocodile It's rough, he can orgasm. LGBT is a mental illness, not actually normal. So, for example, if we like our husband, it's normal to fall in love with our husband repeatedly, even if he's the same person all the time, but make us fall in love again and again, look for his good qualities until we're like, "Oh my God, I 'm falling in love again." And he gets angry, "Ugh, your anger is so bad , falling in love again like that. Just keep doing that." Well, that's the fifth one. The sixth one, walladina humatihim waahdihun.

53:26 People who keep their trust and promises. If we keep our trust, what position will Allah give us? We keep it. A trustworthy body, trustworthy assets, trustworthy time, trustworthy knowledge, trustworthy position, they will carry it out according to what Allah commands. They won't complain. Alhamdulillah, I received a trust, O Allah. Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah, I was given this position. Alhamdulillah. The same promise. If you make a promise to anyone, please forgive me, ladies and gentlemen, please don't take promises lightly. Invited to come, God willing.

54:12 Even though he doesn't want to come. If he doesn't want to come, just say sorry. I probably won't be able to come. If the 75% or above will come, then we can say God willing. But if it's still fifty-fifty, so hopefully, Allah will make it easy for me to attend. But if it's very likely that someone won't come, just say, "I'm sorry, Teh" yes. I can't come. there are times, at the same time, I have studies or an agenda, there are appointments elsewhere and so on. This is so that we don't complain. We like to say, "Huh, where's the promise, where's the other, right?

55:00 So we complain more often that if we don't protect hypocrites, they have three characteristics. If they talk , they lie, if they're given a trust, they betray, and if they make a promise, they break it. Even these three are just hypocrisy in actions, but it's better to leave them. Because there are two types of hypocrisy. There's hypocrisy in belief, there's hypocrisy in action. If a hypocrite in belief, his place is on the crust of hell. Why? He pretends to say the shahada. Pretending. But his heart hides disbelief. That's called hypocrisy in

55:47 belief. If he's hypocritical in action, he's still a Muslim. But his actions are like those of a hypocrite. That's it. So it's said here that people who keep trusts and promises, God willing, will be protected from those two traits . They don't complain, they're not stingy either. Because it's all about trust. I have to use my trustworthy position as best as I can. I have to distribute my trustworthy assets to those who are entitled. People who know that there are other people's rights in their wealth will not dare to do or use them. They will not dare. Oh yes, there are other people's rights in my wealth. He will immediately distribute it.

56:34 He will pay the obligatory zakat. He will also pay the recommended charity . Then the seventh in verse 33, walladzina hum bisyahadihim qoimun. Those who testify are witnesses. So, his witness is true. He said A is A, B is B, like that. That's why in cases of adultery, the witnesses must be four men . Why not women? If it were women, they might not have the heart, they might go overboard. If it were a man, "Did you really see her commit adultery?" Yes, by Allah, I saw her commit adultery. If it were a woman, she would

57:20 not have the heart, "Oh, I'm not sure. Not sure about him. If the one being slandered or accused is his enemy, he will exaggerate." That's right . Uh. Oh my God. He is indeed, hmm, exaggerating. If men are objective, women tend to, I'm sorry, this is because Allah created us and He gave us the advantage in feelings. That's an advantage. But this advantage can be misused. Feelings can be excessive hate and love, that's what I mean. That's why people who are bucin, those who are bucin are mostly women. Men exist but they are rare. Those who are bucin are women.

58:05 They are bucin with their husbands, bucin with their children like that. Because she was given by Allah that extraordinary feeling. That's why pregnant women are stroked by their fetuses. Healthy, right, son? Like that. If the father is at the office, he has a headache, he is leading a meeting, the baby moves. Oh, he will be different from mothers like that. Mothers will be stroked like that, right. They are bucin with their children and partners. Lastly, walladzina hum ala shatihim yuhafidun. This is a bit rushed because it's already time 11:30. And those who maintain prayer. My question is, the one above opens with prayer, the one below

58:51 closes with maintaining prayer. What's the difference between number one and number 8? Does anyone know? My question at the beginning opens with faithfulness. Faithful to prayer. At the end, in point eight, maintaining prayer, what's the difference? Why? If number one is continuous. Oh, the last one is continuous. If number one [Applause] feels close. Team A answered that. Number one is close, the second is continuous. Team B has a representative. What's the difference between

59:37 number one and number 8? Same. How? I deliberately asked so that no one would read the prayer while sleeping. Yes [Applause] it's like this. If number one is faithful to prayer, there's no reason to turn away under any circumstances, he will definitely pray. If the last one is maintaining prayer, maintaining its time, its etiquette, its sunnahs, its pillars, how to maintain its solemnity, that's number eight.

1:00:25 That's why maintaining prayer is so solemn, so that ee What? So that the manners are fulfilled, the sunnah is carried out. That's number eight. If number one is faithful, Iwun sometimes apologizes, sometimes he neglects his sunnah. The iftitah prayer is sunnah. Sometimes he doesn't read it, but he never misses his prayers. Meanwhile, number eight maintains his sunnah. Reading the surahs after the Fatihah is sunnah. If he's in a pinch, sometimes he does n't read them, right? But if he

1:01:11 maintains all the sunnah, he maintains it . Well, that's the deeper difference in number eight. However, when Allah wants to treat the therapist to minimize the ungratefulness of the blessing , the therapy turns out to open with the prayer sentence, and close with the prayer sentence as well. What does that mean? People who pray are calm. God willing, they will never be stingy. They don't complain much, they will learn again later. What does that mean? If we want to complain, astagfirullahalazim, I have

1:01:56 already complained to Allah. Astagfirullah. I've already expressed all my concerns to Allah. That means there's no longer room for complaint in front of humans except for sharing . Sharing, yes. I've had problems like this and that. But it's different than complaining. Oh Allah, uh, my rain is the heaviest. If I tell it, it's sad, that's the main thing. There's a difference between sharing and complaining. So if we've read this verse, read this letter over and over, hopefully, we'll memorize it. These eight things Allah has given

1:02:42 us as therapy. You can share them with your children. Pray Yuna so you don't complain too much . Give Yun charity so you're not stingy. Be patient, son. With Allah's tests, your sins will be forgiven on the Day of Judgment. So for those who believe that the Day of Judgment is the day of retribution, it's sad that we're here, we're forgiven . It's tiring to forgive sins. All the uncomfortable feelings in our hearts are forgiven. So when he complains, "Oh, yes, this forgives sins. So there's no need to complain, right? forgive sins. It's

1:03:27 tiring to forgive sins. We just lie down and crackle our cigarettes. O Allah, sin will be aborted again. Why do we know that on the Day of Resurrection there will be a reward for everything? Including mothers, I apologize if there are mothers whose hearts are hurt by their partner's words. Mother knows that our patience in maintaining the household will be rewarded like the reward of jihad fisabilillah. There is a cleric, Ustaz Mustofa Sibai said, "If a husband or wife sacrifices his or her feelings

1:04:14 for the sake of the integrity of their household, then the reward is like the reward of jihad fisabilillah. Be patient. Allah is removing our sins through the person we love most. So try to do that, try to do it whenever we are in a comfortable condition, in sakinah, that increases our good deeds. But if our condition is uncomfortable, try to be patient. Why? Because Allah is removing our sins. Hopefully,

1:05:02 we can carry out these eight therapies, these eight tips together to remind each other. If a friend complains, eh remember verse 30 for example. eh remember where it is? In Alma'arij verse 23 like that. So later, mom, please write down, for example, faithful in prayer verse 23, charity verse 24, maintaining honor verse 29 and so on. So if there is a friend who wants to try to cheat, remember Almaarij like that. Let's study the Koran together in Darussalam like that. Hopefully it's useful. So pious mothers.