Rewriting Your Life Story: How to Take Control of Your Narrative | Ed Mylett

0:00 you were born to do something great with your life human beings are a series of patterns those patterns though where do they come from they come from a story you and I as humans will do everything we can to live consistently with this story We Tell ourselves the lead character of the story of your life is you you are the author you and God are the co-authors of the story of your life if today was the final chapter of your life are you okay with the exit have you written all the chapters you want to write the good news is you're one plot twist away all you got to do is grab the [Music] pen so hey guys it's been said that we really have two ages there's our true

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1:34 shipping visit Fielder greens.com and use promo code Ed Fielder greens.com promo code Ed welcome back to the show everybody I'm so grateful that you're here this week I want to remind you of something as we begin today's program and I'm going to get right to the point you were born to do something great with your life I'm going to say that to you again listen please you were born warned to do something great with your life and I just want to be a person who reminds you of that today maybe you say Ed I haven't felt that way in a long time and I don't know how to get going I'm going to talk about that today with you you might say Ed I'm I'm on the road to doing it and I'm here to tell you today I think we can do it faster and bigger and I want your dreams to get

2:19 bigger I want you to stretch your vision it's very difficult in life to stretch our own Vision it's very difficult to see beyond what we already see and my challenge to you today is just to remember that you know as a person of faith and as a Christian you know whatever you believe in your life but in my faith I believe he holds you in the palm of his hand and he made you in His image and likeness and great DNA runs through you and maybe no one's told you that in a while and maybe you're going through a difficult time and you need someone to remind you of that and maybe give you some hope and some skills and I'm going to do both of those things today for you because I love you and I do believe in you the reason I believe in you is because I know where you come from and if you're already doing something great and you're on the road to doing that I want to assure you that that

3:06 dream in your heart is real it's not a hallucination it's not you're not crazy it's a preview of what's possible for you in your life everybody has a dream most people don't realize it and the reason they don't realize it is they expect it to be easier than it is they expect people along the way to help them they have an improper narrative about their life they've had some kind of trauma in their life and that story has stamped them and marked them in a certain way that they've never overcome that story and so today is about the story of you and I want you to step back first of all and realize that as human beings we are living in patterns about 90% of what we do every day is in a pattern our behaviors our thoughts the words we use they're all about 90% the

3:51 same every single day about 10% is variable human beings and you and I are a series of patterns those patterns though where do they come from they come from a story and so each human being that's operating that's above about five years old is beginning to build a story about themselves and by the time you get to a particular age usually in your early 20s it hasn't happened then by 30 maybe a trauma happens in your 40s but you become a story and a human and you and I as humans will do everything we can to live consistently with this story We Tell ourselves so first thing I want to say that if something traumatic happened to you when you were a child there was some kind of trauma when you were young and that started the story for you and that's not everybody but it happened in my life and it happened in many of your lives I want

4:38 to say something to you that I want you to hear it's not your fault it's not your fault please remember that and you were born to do something great and if you could drop that narrative that somehow you caused something or there's something wrong with you or your bloodline or your family it's just not true for some of you go that didn't happen to me but stuff has happened in your life where you've become a story and most people are unaware of the story they're telling themselves and they're unaware of the reticular activating system in their brain so let me just explain something to you I talk about the RAS often if you know my work it's

5:23 the centerpiece of a lot of the things I teach but there's a part of it that I've not talked a lot about before which is that it's a story confirmer so if you believe something I'm a victim I'm hurt I'm an underdog I'm not enough I was I used to be whatever you believe about yourself the reticular activating system is going to prove you right it's going to see circumstances that validated it's going to find you people that will confirm that thing you believe about yourself this story it will let you hear things feel things see things experience things watch and listen to things that confirm this story cuz everything about being a human is to be consistent with the story they tell themselves that's why Tiger Woods became the greatest golfer of all time because he had this story being told him since he was a little boy over and over

6:09 did he have to put the Reps in and the work and hit the golf balls and have some genetics all that yeah but the bottom line is it's to confirm a story his mom and his dad told him as a little boy he had to confirm it you're confirming a story that you're telling yourself about you every day and if you want to change your life the key to changing your life the beginning of it there's many Keys it's not just one thing but the beginning of it is taking control of the narrative changing the story even if it served you I'm constantly changing my story and by the way it's been a pretty good one but I don't want to repeat last year I don't want to repeat my 40s I don't want to repeat my 30s I want to get better as I said many times I'm addicted to the expansion of my being and I'm an imperfect person I've

6:55 made so many damn mistakes in my life I'd like to make fewer I'd like to create more stuff in my life that's beautiful I'd like to be happier I'd like to be more successful I'd like to make a bigger impact I'd like the people around me to feel more love I'd like to feel loved more and the only way I do that is I don't hang on to whatever the story is I'm telling myself now I was raised by an alcoholic dad I could have told that story the rest of my life I've also made lots of money I could be telling that story I've influenced a bunch of people I could tell that story I could be an underdog I could be a victim I could I could to rest on my Laurels but I know the key begins with the story so we are a series of stories and you're trying to prove it every single day let me tell

7:41 you how big your pattern is cross your arms right now just I'm crossing my arms if you're watching Youtube just cross them hit your chest you know you cross your arms okay now change it and do it with the other arm doesn't that feel weird doesn't that feel weird that's Chang in your life so as simple as the way we cross our arms is so habitual that even changing one arm to the other feels awkward feels uncomfortable and guess what we will do we will revert back to the way it feels right because it confirms the pattern and that's what we do in our lives with our story that's why most people don't change because they don't change the story you can't just change your habits right you can't it's not just changing your habits although that's

8:27 part of it you can't just change your associations although you need to you got to start by changing the story and that begins by knowing one thing the lead character of the story of your life is you you are the author you and God are the co-authors of the story of your life however you view God that's your business you all know how I view God but you view it your way you're the co-authors of the story of your life and once you understand that and that you can create in your life and if you ask for the right blessings you prayerful about it that great things can come into your life that if you plant the right seeds that there's a harvest that comes at some point in your life so we are a story now here's the thing to understand about our story the higher the emotion level the more the story

9:12 sticks right so that's why when you meet most people if you get to know them for any length of time think about people that you meet within the first meeting or second or third they're going to tell you about a particular time in their life and you know when they're going to tell you about typically the most emotional or their childhood or both most people will tell you I was raised here my dad was this my mom was that I was this and then they'll tell you the story about an emotional time my dad died I got a divorce someone broke up with me I had a bankruptcy someone had a setback I made this huge mistake I got hurt over here so the emotion makes the story stick so if we're going to create a new story it has to be emotional for it to stick we have

9:58 to work on that we have to create the emotion so first off number one today what's your narrative have you looked at it lately like who are you as a character and be honest it's just you and I and I can't see you or talk to you right now so who are you as a character in your life are you a person who is a character that you're hurt are you an underdog an overcomer is your story you're not enough this your story I used to be I was are you a victim just be honest is the deck stacked against you story is that your story is your story and by the way it may be you may really have had someone screw you over you may really have the deck stacked against you you may really have been hurt you may really have had issues in your family

10:45 like I did that you're not proud of like you know I I always always used to wish when I was a little boy why can't I be in that family where there there's no yelling in their house and you know so the truth is it may be an accurate Story the question isn't a minute we'll ask you whether it serves you or not maybe your story is I'm better than I'm better than them I'm doing better than they are what's your story right and be honest about it and be real who are you as a character you know a lot of my friends are always overcoming life which is a noble thing hey man I'm overcoming I'm overcoming you know that sounds good and if it gives you motivation great but life should not always be just about overcoming everything what a crappy way to go through life everything you have to overcome right at

11:32 some point it ought to be able to shift where you're living a dream I have people that I know that were Overcomers when they needed to be and now they've got a dream life and they still live like they're overcoming all the time because they never changed the story so what's the story number one number two how really true is the story how true is it like the problem with answering this question is you re activating system has validated so many circumstances that you've seen that have proven you right so you're going have to step out of all of that and say how true is this story like you know how long are you going to wear the badge of that divorce and that be the story is there a shelf life on that is there a moratorium

12:18 or we going to the next decade on it we going to go the next 30 years on it that breakup you've had like okay it's true but how long are we going to go is it still valid that thing you believe about yourself that's the deficiency is it true if it is you can acknowledge it it's true because I'm in a career that's dominated by men and I'm a woman and so that's difficult or it's true I'm going a career that's dominated by women and I'm a man or um I have a language barrier or my race affects me all those things can be very very true and you can actually answer the question yes it's true and that can be the answer to number two or you know maybe in some cases you go it's actually not true anymore I've exaggerated it I've overcooked it I'm not that big of a victim and I keep living like it and so I keep finding

13:03 people that make me a victim I keep seeing circumstances that validate my very narrow worldview and I'm proving it over and over again yet there are other people from the same exact background of an alcoholic father or an alcoholic dad or of how to divorce or in my ethnic group or speak my language and they're winning so they found a way to see a different path forward even if it is true third how old is this story how old is it okay just ask yourself that story it's fresh it just happened okay was it a year ago is it two years ago is it five years is it 10 years ago like what's the story how old is it four here's a big one you ready this is where we begin to change does this story serve

13:49 me not whether it's true that was question number two for half of you the story isn't even true for the other half of you you said no it's actually true Ed and by the way I will always acknowledge that if it's true it's true maybe you do it you you didn't start life on third base right maybe you didn't even start at home plate you've been overcoming a lot I have so many friends the the ones that I'm the most proud of are not the ones who started on second base and got to third or home I'm most proud of my friends that didn't even start on the field and have found a way to get on the field and found a way to move around the bases of life and win those are the most inspiring friends of mine the most inspiring ing stories and so does it serve you does it serve you

14:36 is it causing you to win is believing what you believe serving you and then five would be this what would the story need to be so that it would serve me so let's say you found out who you are as a character the dominant character you're a victim you're an underdog you're not enough I'm too much I'm this I'm I'm whatever your story is the character that you're playing two how true is it really honestly okay and if it is true how old is it and if that's you got the age on it does the story serve you if you said it really doesn't serve me it doesn't serve me of My Success or it doesn't serve you may say the story has served me because it's made me financially wealthy but that same story has kept my emotions my

15:22 fulfillment at a minimum so I had stories that I've told myself over the years that have caused me to accumulate a lot of wealth but that same story did not serve me emotionally and so at some point once I got the wealth I had to change the story so that I could live emotionally healthy some of you may say it's made me feel very comfortable and safe but it's cost me from progress It's cost me a relationship it's cost me money it's cost me my career it's cost me recognition it's cost me contribution and the difference I could make in the world and as I keep telling the story so what's it serve you and then what would it need to be so that it did serve you a good example of that might be like the fact that I was raised by an alcoholic father and but I was blessed the fact that my dad did eventually get sober but I could have you know you could look at

16:07 a family my family all the siblings turned out I'm really proud of my sisters but oftentimes you've seen this in many families two kids can be raised in the exact same environment one becomes an alcoholic and a drug act just like their parent the other one doesn't and becomes very successful there's a lot of studies like in the way that I was raised with drug addiction or alcoholism in families usually the kids go one way or the other usually not in the middle they're either really have a major problem in their life and they've got an addictive personality or they actually become type a very very successful people but same environment you can take two different conclusions because the story took on a different meaning in my case that story meant I wanted to be the one in my family I wanted to change our family forever and my dad certainly set the table for that by getting sober but I wanted to be the one I wanted to be successful I wanted to change our bloodline I wanted them

16:52 myet to think differently I wanted the myet to be healthy productive giving contributory people which by the way my father became once he was sober but also what I took from my dad's sobriety was that people can change I watched him change his life so I'm a big believer people can change that's the meaning I took from the story rather than using it as an excuse not to be successful or to be happy so what would you need to believe about that story so that it would serve you and everything I'm saying today I say to you with no judgment Hey guys you're busy just like I am and one of the things that goes by the wayside is all Home Maintenance stuff you're supposed to be focusing on and let me tell you one of the things you don't want to mess up which is your gutters or leaves getting in there I have to tell you well I messed up really really bad when I owned a house in Idaho

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18:24 per household and I will also say this to you I know that I can't relate to your story right I I I come from a different background a different culture a different time a different age I could be a different language a different country a different ethnicity different socioeconomic background there's no assessment or judgment this is a brother trying to help a friend a sister or a brother okay but I'm gonna ask you the questions because I care I'm not one of these people that just creates content you're okay the way you are blah blah blah what a joke that is that's people that don't have any content that can change your life they validate people's weaknesses you don't even believe it anyway when someone tells you You're great just as you are there's a part of you that goes no I I'm listening to you because I want to be better I don't like my body I want

19:10 to change it I don't like my emotions I want to change them I don't like my financial situation I don't like what I'm giving I don't like my there's some element of your life you want to change and these you know the easiest way to get follows and likes now is hey you're you're amazing you're awesome as you are and you don't even really believe that maybe you are awesome as you are in 90% of the places in your your life but you've come to this content to improve the 10% or the 1% and so I don't want so you imagine with your kids you know your kid can be an a student or a B student and they're bringing home D's and you go you're awesome as you are how you believe in them that little to me great content is you can change your life you were born to do something great and if you're not doing it let's live up to our potential and I'm not going to just get you to follow or like me by telling you you're awesome the way you are that means I

19:57 don't believe in you it means I or I don't have any strategies to help you and I just want you to like me but I would rather you change your life and maybe potentially shortterm not always like everything I say and I'd say this out of complete love I do this to serve so what would the story need to be next if you could grab a pen and begin to write a new story about yourself knowing the lead character is you what would that story be what would the heroic story be about you what would it be I overcame this situation or I created this or whatever it is at some age I made a shift or I eradicated people in my life that didn't treat me in a way that I know I was worthy of deserving whatever it is

20:43 because remember this you're one decision away from changing your life one new thought one new shot one new story away and if you can anchor a big emotion to it you'll change you know I have a very dear friend who grew up in a very emotionally and physically abusive environment and she lived in that story for years and so she obviously had certain things stacked against her in life and particularly the things in her family and so we had to change the story and the story ended up being that she was going to change her life because of all the people that needed to hear her story and so it's all the people that had grown up in a physically abusive background sexually abusive verbally abusive background she was going to be the hero for people that are going through that so that children could see

21:29 a woman overcome that she was going to be a hero for people that look like her that loved like her and she wanted to become a hero for those people she wanted to be able to be somebody that says I have made my life something special and you can as well and so she changed the story's meaning not the story because it was real she changed the meaning sometimes the story isn't even real at all but if you could write a heroic story about you what would it look like because you are one decision away and remember the higher the emotion the bigger the reason the more the story sticks and becomes a pattern so if you can load up a bunch of reasons emotional deep reasons right for why that matters for me I get so emotional about my work because I I think of I I truly think I pray before I do this I pray before I

22:15 speak I think of that one person out there that's like me when I was young I had no self-esteem alcoholic dad shy introverted picked on in school bullied there's someone out there in the audience that could change millions of people's lives like I have if I can reach that person with my story I owe that young man that young woman that older man or older woman that's listening today my best my best and that heroic story of thinking I could change a life and what that person's life could do to impact other people causes me to prepare causes me to work changes the narrative I'm loading myself up with reasons it's emotional to me most of you don't know this but I started my career after college I flunked out of baseball I got hurt and I just wasn't good enough enough frankly longterm to play in the big

23:01 leagues I couldn't find a job I wanted I had hired a couple sales jobs and I couldn't take the rejection in sales I just couldn't take it and so my dad came home from an AA meeting and he got me a job at an orphanage called McKinley Home For Boys all my boys were Wards of the Court their parents were either gone incarcerated or had molested them and I ended up with these young men early in my life I'm not a psychologist and I wasn't a father at the time I have my own children and I had to serve these boys and pretty soon I figured out my example is What mattered most things in life are caught not taught I need to live a great life I need to achieve I need to succeed I need to grow and I know what it's like not to the extent they did but I know what it's like to

23:46 grow up afraid to grow up scared grow up not proud of your family sometimes I know what it's like to grow up with anxiety in your life and worry so I connected with these boys because you're most qualified in life to help the person you used to be and so I could have held on to that story my dad's an alcoholic I flunked out of baseball I can't hold on to a job I'm living at home with my mommy and daddy and I'm 22 years old and this job is minimum wage by the way that could have been the story and it would have been valid but I had to change it and by the way my reticular activating system was proving it all the time this guy made it in baseball and I didn't this guy's got a $100,000 year job and I don't this guy's bought a new house and I'm living in home with my mom and dad I'm at minimum wage I remember a buddy of mine going hey man how's this thing

24:32 where your babysitting these kids all day long I remember him saying that to me I remember saying hey uh dude I'm not babysitting these kids these guys are like my sons these young boys and they need me and I'm making a difference in their life and then I remember I just reframed that story it's the same thing it was the same job but my story was different about it and the conclusion I reached is I need to win for these boyss I need to show them kids like us can win People Like Us can overcome and it makes me emotional to this day to know that there are people that are in a drug addicted or alcoholic family that know everything can be okay or any type of abuse any type of dysfunction in a family I feel an obligation to those

25:18 people or actually I feel an obligation to anybody who doesn't feel good about themselves all the time because I relate to that I have an obligation to anybody who's got a big dream and wants to be somebody CU I'm that guy too any dreamers anybody wants to be somebody anybody wants to make their family proud of them anybody wants to make God proud I I'm with you I want to be an example I want to teach I want to inspire I want you to Aspire maybe to do some of the things I do and so whether you come from a really difficult place I feel compelled to help or and if you got a big dream and you want to win you want to kick some butt in your life make something great happen with your life I'm in that camp too and so what would

26:05 you need to believe what's the heroic story about yourself the higher the emotion the more it's going to happen remember this you're one plot trist away from changing everything in your life you're one Decision One plot twist away plot twist and here's how you do it you grab the pen and you start to write the new chapters I believe you should physically write them out or make a video or an audio what's the new story going to be what's the new character walk a little little more confidently bow your back a little bit stand up a little bit straighter look people in the eye a little bit more fake it if you have to on your confidence for a while get around the right people eliminate the wrong people in your life let me ask you a question If today was the final chapter of your life are you okay with the

26:51 exit if your great grid kids came along and read the story of your life and it ended today if you written all the chapters you want to write have the best chapters already been written some of you go I've already won I exited my company I did this or the other thing okay so that's it that's the story or do you want to write another chapter and if you do you better change the story and quit telling yourself how great your life's been and maybe up the ante a little bit and if you haven't written the chapters you want which is the vast majority of us time's running out the good news is your one plot twist away all you gotta do is grab the pen it's actually simple but it's not easy there's a difference it is simple but it isn't easy I'm not ever going to tell you winning is easy winning is hard in fact winning is so much harder than you think it is you

27:37 probably wouldn't get started if you knew how hard it was but I can tell you it's more worth it than you believe so the plot twist the writing the new chapter is simple but it isn't easy but it's worth it way more than you think so if you were to grab that pen what would you write who would you be how would you walk how would you feel how would you look how would other people look and what if we truly just lived inside that story human beings will do everything within their power to be consistent with that story they'll use the reticular activating system to confirm all of it you will create that story if it's deep enough emotionally to you right if you've got enough Reasons I'm convinced that the beginning of every change is literally grabbing a pen in your life and literally beginning to write a new narrative and what's

28:22 crazy about life is so many people get out of the end of it and they realize they could have done it at any time they wanted to at the end of their life the regrets are typically acts of omission not things they tried and failed at most people on their deathbed regret the things they didn't try they didn't do they didn't see the people they didn't help the memories they don't have they regret living in that same damn story chapter after chapter looks exactly the same day after day feels the same they keep living this story out of some trauma in childhood or some mistake they've made or some setback or someone that's hurt them as an adult and then there's others who just live out of their victories and they keep writing that same chapter I was a high school quarterback I was a

29:08 this I sold my company for that I got this degree okay that was before what about now right what are the chapters now what would it need to look like sound like how would you need to act how would you need to act I don't want you to end your life with a boring story I don't want to end your life where you go there could have been more but I lived afraid I lived afraid of changing I didn't want to leave the comfort of my story I kind of enjoyed this victim thing I kind of enjoyed the underdog I kind of enjoyed I used to be I kind of enjoyed talking about who hurt me and what happened a lot more than I enjoyed my own life I enjoyed the story I told everybody about me more than what I was capable of doing and when you get to the end of your life the one you were born to live greatly

29:54 the one you were born to change other people's lives I can promise you my friend at the end of it you're going to look back and go why did I keep living this stupid story that might have not even been true if it was true was old and if it wasn't old and it was true it sure didn't serve me and at any time God and I could have partnered up and I could have written some new chapters and had one exciting book I'm proud of that my great grandkids will read someday or they're going to pick it up and go well it started with some promise but man at some point all the pages start to run together it just kind of gets boring man they keep repeating it with the same people the same places the same things the same thoughts the same

30:40 stuff and they could have changed it any time they wanted I'm intervening right now into your life saying yeah you can change it and it's okay if it's true it's okay if it's not true it's okay if it's new and it's okay if it's old if something bad happened when you were a kid it's not your fault but it is your fault if the pages start to run together it's nobody else's fault because somebody just like you is winning right now somebody just like you is happy right now somebody just like you is helping someone right now somebody just like you is creating an amazing memory right now give yourself a review right now one to five stars on the story of your life if it ended right now review your book review your movie

31:27 you know what most people do by the way if it's a movie they allow the extras of life to rule the day you ever go to a movie and at the end it'll say like lead character whoever you know Denzel Washington Merill Streep and it leads it shows you the main characters there's like five or eight of them but if you stay long enough in the theater or you keep watching it it'll get to the extras you seen those you know mean cab driver number two bouncer number three you know what I'm saying security guard number four they don't even have names they're just like faceless people in life it's exactly that way there's the lead characters of our life it's us and God and then there's the people that matter the most our families

32:13 and our close friends those are the lead characters maybe you got five or eight but what most people do is they allow the extras of life to dictate the terms of their life they worry about the extras what are they going to say what are they going to think the extra from high school the extra from your divorce the extra these people are extras they're not the lead characters if they're not going to be holding your hand when you pass away if they're not going to be in the room if they're not the people you want to meet when you first get to heaven they're not the extras if they're not the ones you're going to meet when they get to heaven they're the extras don't let the extras of Life rule your life don't be afraid of what they think don't worry about them don't let them hurt you anymore they have no power over you when you

32:59 change the story let the lead characters and maybe right now it's just you and God and that's okay too because those are the two most important characters in the story of your life but live for the lead characters not the extras and if you do that you're going to live a great life but most people get to the end of their life and the story of their life the pages run together if they were to rate their own life it would be one or two stars and the reason it's one or two stars is all the extras made them afraid to go for their dreams kept them in their story the world wants to keep you in your story if you believe in faith the devil the adversary wants you to stay in your story small afraid discouraged doubtful delusional and delaying anytime he can get you to do

33:47 that but the new story you don't need doubt the new story you don't need to be discouraged the new story you don't need to be delusional the new story you don't need to delay you can get to write in that literally right now so give yourself a review and then by the way maybe today just get quiet if you can't get clear if you say I don't know exactly yet I can tell you that you'll find that answer in silence not in a big crowd go get quiet somewhere go take a walk go sit in the grass if you live near the ocean or the lake go sit by it go into a room and turn all the lights off and the sound off and the TV off and your phone off and just get still most answers are in Stillness and in the

34:33 quiet and that's when I think the Divine will start to Whisper back to you what if the entire time you've been living God whatever you believe about that has been whispering to you you're about to do something great you're supposed to do something awesome but the noise of the extras the noise of this story you keep telling has been drowning it out I find that when I get really quiet really still that's where the answer lie and if you do that regularly enough you'll start writing the right chapters of your life again I would write it down you could record it audibly you could actually to be held accountable you could record it in video you could ask someone to hold you accountable to the new story and the reason we want to record that story writing it down audibly or on video is that we can read it over and over it needs to be attached

35:19 to emotion and big reasons or we can listen to it over and over or we can watch it over and over and the reason that is is because the more we repeat it the more it becomes familiar the more it begins to eradicate our former story that we've repeated thousands of times if not millions in our own mind because our minds move towards what they're most familiar with the Mind moves towards what it's most familiar with and so the more you write it down say it out loud audibly can listen to it or actually can just begin to imprint the thought over and over again or watch a video of it the more that pattern begins to recreate itself in your life and you've created a new pattern in your life you've got to attach High emotion to it so one way to do that is actually to be repeating the story when you're working out okay so when you're training when you're doing cardio when you're lifting weights when

36:05 you're taking your walk when you're moving your physiology and shifting it if you repeat that pattern you're anchoring the new story in your body and your body is the subconscious mind okay so when you anchor it into your heart when you anchor it when you're working out when you're doing cardio when you're taking a walk when you're stretching you're anchoring the story much more into your neurochemistry and what happens is you physically anchor that into your unconscious and subconscious mind because you're doing it when you're moving at a peak State not enough people take advantage of their physical state when they're working out they just work out yeah you're cutting muscle fibers down yeah your heart's pumping blood but that's great and that changes lives but guess what it's also the greatest way to change your mind to change your mind is in a heightened physical state the

36:52 reason I said earlier that a motion attached to a story is why it's an is because of the the chemistry in your body during the fear during the moment during the drama so you can recreate that same chemistry in your body because fear and excitement fear in a peak state are cousins and so when you create that chemistry in your body you're essentially attaching the same neurobiochemistry that excitement does when you're in a physical peak State and so now you anchor the story in that physiology it's got a much greater chance of holding and anchoring itself and creating a new pattern when you do it in a Peak physical state it's not just the emotion that attaches the story although that's part of it it's the

37:37 physiology attached to the emotion that anchors the story so we have three things we can do with our new story one anchor it emotionally our children our future the people will help our family the people that have passed away that we want to make proud of us God that's one okay two is all the reasons right but third here's a hack no one will tell you it's crazy to me I teach it all my coaching clients do it when you're in your Peak physical state give yourself the gift of the new story say it out loud see it visualize it watch it hear it so when you're listening to that podcast maybe take a second and just listen back to that story or write it down and read it or think it or watch the video when you're in a peak State now you've anchored a different chemistry to that story and you got a chance of overriding that

38:23 pattern just like you would when you're emotional it's the neuro biochemistry in your body the neurology if you will that anchors the story and so that's why fear anchors the story traum seeing something horrible as a kid that's anchored because of the physiology that's taking place you can replicate that physiology almost not quite but almost by being in a Peak physical state of running cardio walking working out stretching okay and then anchor the story then and do it daily and you begin to Anchor that story that can create a pattern in interrupt one thing that's going to happen when you look back at the end of your life I promise you're going to look back and know that God was there the entire time and that anytime you can turn and say I need some help I need some clarity

39:09 I need some strength I need some comfort I need some Vision that's the real story the real story isn't this lie the real story isn't all this other stuff the real story is what I opened with you were born to do something great with your life in big ways and small ways and when you're doing it it probably won't feel like it it'll probably feel like work it'll probably feel like pain it'll probably feel difficult you'll probably be embarrassing yourself people will probably talk bad about you that's how you know you're doing something great with your life all of it lies outside your comfort zone and outside this goofy story we keep telling ourselves that's ruling all of the patterns of our life all right I hope this helped you out today everybody you're supposed to do something awesome and I mean you I know

39:56 a lot about you but I don't know you I've never met you before but I know that uh we're brother and sister and I know that you were put here for a reason and that you matter and you're not invisible You're Not Invisible you were qualified mostly to help the people you used to be just like those little boys that I helped think about pain you've had in your life and that might be the pathway to your purpose all right everyone God bless you hope you share this with somebody you love max out he [Music]