SOP MODULE 14 | Albert Friday

0:00 [Music] Um, good evening everyone. God bless you all for joining us in this section. Once again, you are welcome to School of Purpose week four. Week four. This week, by the grace of God, we're going to be learning on marriage. That's kingdom marriage. We're having two classes on um relationship and we're having two classes on marriage. So um this week by the grace of God I'm telling you is a section that I am so happy indeed by the grace of these keys that I'm going to be sharing with you this week. Um I rejoice. I thank Jesus for the privilege

0:49 for the understanding and the wisdom to be able to have access to this knowledge. You know um what we are doing. Don't forget we are having a buildup. A buildup. So from spiritual growth to purpose discovery, personal development and down to the very week we are right now which is the marriage class. Then we seal it up with the financial class next week. It they are all important. They are all important. So um I want to sincerely um appreciate every one of you. You have been putting your best in place to learn. It is not easy. Please listen to this. you are paying the price right now so that you can get the price. I want to use this opportunity to um I admonish everyone of you. Please never think coming to learn

1:35 online is a waste of time. Um by the grace of God, I know the quality of information that God has given to us by privilege to release to every one of you. And if indeed you follow these keys and principles I'm sharing with you and you follow that your notes what is in that your notes I'm telling you your life will never remain the same. You will not know anything called failure in life. You will not know what to do. You will be stable and you will not be moving from one um place to another moving to and fro in a journey of life confused. I don't know what to do. So uh that's the reason why in this section we're going to be starting the this week we're going to be starting the relationship section um with purpose and

2:20 relationship. I'm going to be teaching on that today. Then at the same time um we're going to be learning also how to make it right tomorrow. Then we have the two marriage class um Wednesday and Thursday. Now before we progress I want to quickly say this. I know many of you you have been in this program and I don't need to really um speak much again because you have seen for yourself that what uh about Friday promised you he wasn't actually lying I wasn't lying I told you people that when you come to this program there's so much value you are going to gain from this program and your life is not going to remain the same and um to the glory of God the testimonies I'll be receiving feedback I'll be receiving testimonies upon testimonies appreciation Sabah Friday. Thank you. Thank you for

3:07 you know the knowledge. Thank you for the information. It has been testimony upon testimony and we have not even completed the class yet and testimonies has already be flowing from the very beginning of this program. So I I want to quickly say this you have seen this program and I am not doing this. Let me make it this clear. I am not doing this online because of money. Although money is involved yes but I am not doing it because of money. If you are see somebody teaching you can perceive somebody's motive from what the person is even said at least spending um more than 3 weeks spending five weeks a with a person you should know at least to a level what this person stand for what am I saying is I'm saying is to um encourage you you have a loved one and

3:54 you have a a coworker you have a in a classmate you have a pastor friend you have somebody you know that is strongly and the person doesn't know purpose Imagine this information you have right now. Your your your friends get to know about it. Your friends, you know, your relative family relative get to know about it. Your husband get to know about it. There is one of us here who joined us in this edition and um she decided to invite the husband. It's like ah no I cannot take this alone. There are several additions like this. We see people coming and they say ah I cannot take this value like this value is so much. they they will just register their husband or their fiance in the next edition. So you're in a relationship. What I'm going to be giving you this week is so massive. I'm telling the truth. What is coming your way? Please

4:40 prepare your heart for it. And at the same time, you have a fiance, you have a classmate, you have a relative, you know that this light, if they have it, their life will never be the same. I'm saying this, use this opportunity to talk to us again. Let's meet up our target. Every one of us we are to uh in refer 10 person each you see as an assignment and we are to finish that task maybe um for your graduation day yes before you write your exam and do your final graduation so um let's invite persons you can use your social media platforms your WhatsApp status I don't need to tell you to repost the flyer pick the flyer take it as a responsibility of your own contribution to see people transformed.

5:25 Yes, do that. Is it because um I am playing my part. God played his part. God saw there's a generation a large number of people on earth who don't know their life purpose and God decided to send an answer in a person to a generation. And I also played my part by ying to the calling. I uh you know paying the price to get the the the growth price that to get this information to be able to understand um how these things work by the help of the Holy Spirit. Then at the same time set up a program like this to also help you then you also have a part to play. Your part now is that to also become an extension of that same goodness that you have received that God have showed you mercy. God have restored your time. Open

6:12 your eyes to several things that you never thought you know. Open your eyes to several things you never believe that you can go have at this phase of your life. Then you should also been able to reach out to someone. Talk to a your friend. Ah hello I have a program that I believed you need this program. Listen this program changed my life. And you are not just lying. You there there are proofs in your life. This program changed my life. But most of the things you see me doing right now it is from this program I got them from. So what you do is that pick the flyer and tell the person what's the registration fee. The registration fee is just 5,000 NRA. Then the person register and send us payment sleep. Then we send the person registration form link for the new addiction. Then the person begin to um join because person join the platform

6:58 where you receive the class for the next addiction classes. So what I'm trying to say is that every one of you should invite people. Yes, you are a married person, you have friends, invite people. You're a pastor, invite person. You are a CEO, invite your, you know, people. It could be that you want a special training for your workers. You said I need my staff organization to have this on. You need your friend to join. Your friend should come. Your fiance, your fiance should come. If what I am going to be teaching you in this week, your fiance have the same knowledge. I'm telling you that relationship must end in marriage. I'm I'm not saying may end must end in marriage because light is what makes the difference. So what am I saying is please let's also do well to play play our part. We are to everyone

7:43 are to invite 10 person each. 10 person each. And if you happen to be that you say Sabbath I I don't have that time to invite people. I can pay for people. You can go ahead and pay at least I expect every one of us either um you invite people the 10 persons or you can pay for the 10 or you can pay for maybe two or three then invite the remaining persons. But um to receive this value and just keep quiet, you don't share the flyer, you don't repost, you have not told anybody about school of purpose is not really nice please. It's not really nice. As a student, anything that blesses you, you should also be a channel to others. I have this knowledge. So I said I can't have this

8:29 alone because I already discovered my purpose. I said I can't have this alone. I have to also let people know about this. That's why I put it in the program so that everyone of you should also know about it. Since you also know about this program then also also open up your heart to release the same channel for others to join. Say come there's a program I'm going to register you into. I want to be serious. Okay. Then you register the person and if possible you can follow up the person and if you happen to be that you able to register maybe up to five persons you paid for them. I can give you access free to the next edition so that you can monitor their classes. Then you can as well repeat uh you know the program and so join them to learn. But however please everyone of you do well to make sure that you refer 10 persons a minimum it

9:17 can be more than but a minimum of 10 persons refer them to next edition and the Lord will bless you in the name of Jesus. The Lord will bless you. Somebody said tonight are you set tonight? Let's make progress to tonight's section. If indeed you are set and you are excited that this is a relationship session, okay, it's not like other classes. It's a special class. Okay. So I I'm going to be teaching you word for word and every slide has a meaning has a contribution to your success in marriage and relationship. So please do what to make sure you pay attention. If indeed you are fully set, type in the comment section, I am ready to learn. Type I am fully set with my pen and my book and I am ready to learn. Type in the comment section please. Let's have that quickly.

10:03 Type in the comment section I am ready to learn. I am ready to learn. Now in tonight's section we are going to be learning on the topic purpose and relationship. Purpose and relationship. I believe somebody's excited for that. Purpose and relationship. The first thing I would like us to understand in this section is that the first person to date is not a guy or a lady but your purpose. If you first date your purpose, then turn it into a vision, the justice of God called favor will bring your life partner beside you. Because the life partner who fit your purpose is among the provisions vision breaks into your

10:50 life. You see the second slide, this slide only is a class on its own. Like this one is already an answer for somebody. What am I saying? You don't need to be looking how can I find my life partner? How can I just, you know, be looking for my life partner? Listen to me. I have found a place where everybody's life partner are to be discovered. No, these principles I'm showing you, these secret I'm showing you, they are not like um for only males or for those who are calling to ministry. They are for everyone. If you have access to it, irrespective of the niche you are according to, you have your answer. So the first person to date

11:35 as a lady or as a young man, listen to me. You are single. I'm so happy for you that you are listening to me right now because this class will change your whole life. And if you're in a relationship, just listen. So the first person to date is not a a guy or a lady. No, that's not the first because these are the foundation skills that helps you to have a stand before you can bring somebody into your life or even give you the right sight to know who is the person. So the first person to date is your purpose. How? Once you discover your purpose, please follow. Okay. Once you discover your purpose, then you turn it into a vision. Remember how do you turn purpose into a vision? Purpose in pictures is purpose in vision. Your

12:21 purpose is the problem you were born to solve in the niche. You have discovered the niche now. Then you are now in the niche. Then automatically you have now realized this is the problem I was born to solve in this niche. Then you have converted that um problem by seeing the picture of it talking about um the subconscious vision pictures of the future that God is showing you. You already have that future in your subconscious mind. That's what we mean by vision. So by the time you are able to see the path you are following in life and destiny, then something will happen. If you are already in that path, there's something we call the justice of God. The justice of God is the mystery behind favor

13:07 that rest upon a lady that compare that lady um to be carried by the grace of God and the eyes of a young man will be open to see you and say this is your wife, this is your um your your your life partner. that as a young man you have been walking with this lady for long but the day but the day you your you your your eyes was open to see this lady you just discover something entirely different like this is the person I'm to marry like there is this total inner weakness there's this inner weakness within you that this is the person how is that possible it is possible through the justice of God there's no call the justice of God and that justice

13:53 of God is what brings your life partner beside you and the place is your place of vision that that talks about your niche now because the life partner who fit your purpose. Listen, there are many ladies out there but when you are about to settle down as a young man, you discover that not every lady fit your vision. Are you getting that clear now? Please open up your heart and just pay attention. Okay. I I am by the grace of God through all humility I say this I am married already I and my wife dated for 2 years I didn't have headache one day and I'm don't have I don't have any headache in my marriage are you hear what I'm saying now it is not just by

14:38 luck there are exact keys and principles Holy Spirit showed me I learned from Okama mentors that I'm showing you right now that if you follow this path you will smile like me you will smile like every other person who enjoy marriage out there. Okay, just listen. So, not everybody fits your vision. You can see a lady beautiful, born again and you know godly with with good character and at the same time it does not fit your vision. Meaning not every believer who is good is even permitted to even be your life partner. So there is a there is a glass we use in viewing to know who is actually the person that fits my calling that fits my vision and

15:25 that is what I'm going to be showing you in this section. So the the person who fits your your purpose the person who fits your purpose and your vision is among the provision vision brings into your life. Listen, take note of the word provision and vision. Once you are running with the vision, automatically there is what we call the provisions of visions. The provisions of visions are those things that vision brings into your life. They are, you know, vision builders. They are quality relation. Remember those things I I listed for you during the vision classes that your life partner is among those things. So your life partner, I'm not talking about the one that will break your heart. I'm not talking about

16:10 the one that will inate you um you know abandard you do a lot of things to you and no I'm talking about the the one that you will come into his life into her life and you will see that this is an answer just like my wife my wife is an answer to me uh to my vision. Do you understand what I'm saying now? So take note of this. There is a provision that comes to your vision and one of those provision is your life partner. Now vision is the clearest tool to choose a life partner and also once you discover your vision your life partner is not far from you. So should in case you are here you are wondering like how can I know the person

16:57 just find a vision of God for your life. First of all stay in that niche where God have called you. In the process of engaging that assignment automatically something will happen. Your life partner is among the provisions that visions we bring to your life. In other words, the sight we use in see the right person is not just fine face sparks money. Money is not a sight. No, money and other things they are all ingredients that build marriage. I also show you the ingredients. Okay, but listen to this. You must be able to understand this. The sight, the sight, the real sight is not dream. It's not

17:43 vision. It's not that I had one dream or I heard a voice. No, the real sight to marriage you want to make it right is vision. Vision is the clearest tool to choose a life partner. Many as a young man before you are thinking of marrying a person you must understand this that you must discover your vision. Why am I saying this? I'm saying this because I also say this again but let me just quickly tell you this. If you don't know your life vision, you don't have a vision for your life, that version of you does not need a life partner. He does not even need a relationship. That's why I'm so happy for you. For those of you are not even in a relationship at all, maybe you are in a

18:29 young man here, you are not in a relationship at all. Just pay attention. This class is for you. So by the time you first of all discover your purpose, you discover your niche, you are walking in it, be at the middle. In other words, start running in it already. So there is a level at which you will keep running with division. Then the vision will start growing. Then you will discover that the task is becoming a you know is now more than your capacity. Then automatically you will realize that then you now need a helpmate. In other words, you don't need a helpmate when you have not created the thing that the helpmate should help you with. Do you

19:14 get that? Now you know most of you you just wake up and say ah this girl is fine. is so beautiful. I love that. You know, all other things that you want to, you know, describing the life of a lady. But okay, the lady is coming to your life right now. Sir, I'm asking you, why is she coming to do? She is a helpmate. I believe somebody's getting this clear. Now, what am I trying to let you understand is that the version of you that is not having a vision does not need a woman. What direction that version of you need is to first of all have a garden that is already uh in the symbolic of your vision that you are running with. Then be at the middle of it or if possible start it first. You don't just need to get a woman you know

20:01 start running. No, you first of all have to get a vision. Start running with the vision first. In the process of running with the vision then that's when the life partner the vision will now bring provisions to your life. And among the provisions, there are ladies that the vision will automatically attract to you. Among those ladies that the vision will attract to you, one of them is your life partner. That's how to get it. And if I use the word one of them is your life partner, I'm not just talking about in quotes people who are around you. I'm talking about the places vision is going to be your vision is going to be taking you to in the process of working with your vision. the places that places that region that that garden that you will see the person around that place your

20:46 life partner is known outside the garden your life partner is in the garden now let's take this scripture if you read Genesis 2 now let's take this scripture if you read Genesis 2 verse 19 the Bible speak said and I want to open your eyes to light here please focus look at this scripture I want to show you powerful light and this will bless your life he said and out of the ground. The Lord God formed every beast of the field and every fowl of the air brought them unto Adam. Listen, brought them unto Adam. Remember God placed Adam in the garden. What is his job? God gave him a vision. The vision is to cultivate the garden and to take care of it. So in the process of cultivating the garden, then

21:32 that vision that God gave to Adam brought so many things to them. One of them is what out of the ground the go the Lord God formed the beast of the field and the beast of the field was among among them and every fowls of the air. This beast of the field now talks about you know in today word if I translate it it simply means your money your finances your help people influence uh you know fame value you know relevance a lot of things these are the provisions visions brings to your life brought them onto Adam who brought them vision to see what he would call them and whatsoever Adam called every living creature That was the name thereof. Did you take note of that? Now, verse 22.

22:19 And the ribs which the Lord God had taken from man made he a woman and brought her unto the man. Are you seeing light? Are you seeing this? Brought her onto the man. Are you seeing something? What I'm saying? brought her onto the man. Meaning it is your vision that brings your life partner to you. So brother, stop searching far. Your your your life partner is not in is not in sooto. Your life partner is around the garden. Eve was found in the garden. Adam was in the garden. Eve was found in the garden. Let

23:06 me explain these ribs to you. He said, "And the ribs which the Lord God has taken from the man." Meaning there was something from the man that God used as a similitude as a pattern to also create the woman. Meaning the woman that fit your vision will have a similitude of a configuration of your calling. Either called in the same niche, especially in the same niche. That same niche, they are most very important. Yes. The lady called into the same niche or have a a configuration regarding the kind of problem you were

23:51 born to solve which is which is not your purpose. having a similitude of that same kind of problem that she also inspired to provide solution to. Is somebody hear what I'm saying? Now what I'm giving you right now is like 1 + 1 1 plus 1 on how to make it right. Is very simple and if you follow this part I'll be happy with you 25 years in marriage you'll be happy. So many people don't understand this. You see a lot of people chasing life partner out there. You ask a young man what's your vision for life? He does not have. So I've taught you on that already. If you don't know that, go to the vision classes. You can as well go through that and get your vision sorted out. Is somebody blessed with this? I'm show Are you really blessed with this light I'm showing you in this class. If you are following, type in the comment section say, "I'm following you, sir." Type in the comment section, say,

24:38 "I am following you, sir. I'm following you, sir." I want to know those who are truly interested in this light I'm going to be showing you in this class. Every slide will change your life. Listen to me. Every slide in this teaching for marriage classes and relationship will change your life. Listen to the techno of this. When you fail to pay attention to the subject of purpose before marriage, the marriage will become your purpose, you will live your life as it unfold chasing the demands of marriage and not live your life as planned by God. when you fail to pay attention most especially for those persons who want to marry first before they discover purpose it is not like that you don't get masters and PhD first before you get

25:25 your BSE and um secondary school SAT no you first of all get your secondary school SAT then your BSE then before masters and PhD do you get that now in other words when you discover purpose then you discover vision they start running with it. Then before you now talking about marriage that's the pattern. If you don't follow the pattern, you will definitely miss it. Listen to me. 90% of divorce you are seeing cases out there. A lot of things they are seeing out there that are happening. You know a lot of people are having issues with marriage. They they are not able to come together in terms of an agreement. It is because of this single statement that I'm showing you right now. I have had cases like this. They would

26:12 they would say to you know say to you sir sir I am married and I discovered that um I've not discovered my life purpose but now I've discovered my life purpose and all of a sudden especially calling to ministry. They are the one having major issue with this now sir God is calling me to ministry but I'm talking to my wife about it. My wife said she's not ready to be mommy jail. You see that now? So because the person you marry didn't have any she he was a banker. He was working as a lecturer working in another niche entirely or even working as a maybe or an an office entirely different from the the the the desire because listen there must be a destination there must be a

26:58 destination you are going to show that girl that lady that this is the path I am going. Uh when I was about asking my wife out after you know all the talks and everything then she gave me her answer I sure my blueprint my vision I'm not convinced you you can't just come to my life and just tell me uh yes like that no no no no no I must verify if you are the one that can fit into that my vision for life you know do you know the the the place God is taking us to listen if you truly discover your vision and you are truly your your eyes truly open as a young man to know the future God is taking you to. You'll be scared who you ask out. You can't just ask anybody out

27:43 anyhow. Is somebody following what I'm saying right now? Are you following what I'm saying? You can't just wake up in the morning and just decide to say sister Gloria or Sister Joy she's beautiful. She's chubby. I like her height. Let me just ask her out. like carry her to a destination that you didn't verify if she fit into that destination. Have you carry wrong passenger before in a bus trying to drive to a destination? The way they insult those drivers. Listen to me. Marriage is a destination and the destination of marriage the vehicle you use to get to that destination is your vision. Vision is the vehicle and the person who drives the drive the car is the man which is

28:30 the the vision is the one that gives you the direction and the lady is the one I usually call them conductor or the one the the one that attend to you know the passengers. Then your wife and your children and every other person that God is going to bring around you, they all your staffs and all your ministers, everybody under under your under under you that will come to you, they are the one that will stay inside the bus. They're your passengers. So let me give you example. If as a lady you are heading to a destination in the ministry niche and you marry somebody who is not having any desire in the ministry niche but call into another niche entirely. Listen to me. you both of you are heading towards different direction in life. So when I was asking my wife out, I asked

29:17 her, you know, you can't just satisfy me with that yes. That yes is not it does not really mean anything to me. For me specifically, what really prove it to me that you are the one is that I use there are parameters. One of them is one I'm showing you right now. just give you one is your vision that you are called into the same because I want to be talking about souls ministry fast in prayer and I see a lady who have such mindset to respond to me in the same pattern not that I'm talking about you know um how to go and go to that village and capture of them for Jesus you know go and host this crusade here host purple summit in this country host a purple summit in this other nation go across this region John, I host seminars, leadership conferences and

30:04 imparting lives and you are telling me that you are moving everywhere. You don't have my time again. I'm like, you don't you should know the kind of person you marry. Listen to me. Are you somebody get what I'm saying now? Are you getting what I'm saying now? And God so much blessed me to the glory of God and I'm so happy I'm proud of my wife that I marry somebody who is called into the same niche and we speak same language. Now this I'm not using my experience to only just teach you people. I have studied to the glory of God several marriages in the body of Christ and I have read some books and I'm still reading and by reason of what I discovered from scripture. You saw that light I showed you in scripture. There are many there are many. You see that light I show you in scripture. By reason of what I found that's why I'm showing

30:51 you this right now. Find purpose before marriage. young if you are single type in the comment section say I've heard you sir find purpose before you marry don't say I do relationship can break you can't break marriage like that don't don't come and tell me I do listen to me and another thing I want to quickly say this is that for those of you who are single don't be afraid okay relax don't be afraid I'm here to show you the oneplus 1 on how to engage relationship productively without fear after this class all your fears will disappear in the name of Jesus. So please take note of that and this is the answer that will have to you. Marriage has a lot of demands and if the demands

31:38 of marriage is not backed up with a vision automatically the demands of marriage of taking care of children feeding your family has the capacity to even create another vision for you. You will be feeding your children and taking care of your wife, paying bills for a lifetime and not even remember again whether you have a whether you have a vision and and at the same time one CEO out there because of the demand of the bees of marriage will that site completely by employing you because you are using your 24 your your almost 7 to 12 hours to engage a job so that they can receive monthly pay and get to feed the family. Whereas that's the person who because

32:24 you have jumped one class that's why you are like that. But if you have not jumped this class that's why many of you you really need to uh I say this humility to appreciate God for bringing you to school on purpose because what this program is doing to you is saving you so many headache you will have faced in your future is saving you that. So please take note of this get purpose clear sorted. That's why I did. I sorted out my purpose, my niche, the problem and my why, the vision, everything clear. I wasn't doubt if I'm called to ministry. I wasn't doubt if I'm called to be teaching on purpose or in evangelism. I have a clear vision before then the among the provision vision brings to my life was my wife.

33:09 Did you get that clear? Now, all right, take note of this. Marriage is one of those areas that controls 80% of your life. But if you have access to relevant kingdom informations just like these informations I'm showing you right now, sharing with you right now. All right. Reading books, believe it then you will become a victor in this segment. Marriage is not bad. Marriage is beautiful and he has a large percentage to control your life. Why is it um that so important? Because listen to me, it is not a it's not a contract for 3 years or 10 years or 30 years. It's a contract for a lifetime. So if you are truly going if if you are truly serious as a young man you are serious in life and as a young lady you are you are wise you

33:55 are wise you your your yes and you asking a person out you should be careful how you truly do it because you are bringing somebody into your life who will stay with you for a lifetime and you are treading that with emotion listen it's a sign that your you know when I see people who are dating with all emotions eating everything and forget about the future is a sign I just know that these people they don't have they don't have value for their future when you don't have value for your future you can bring anybody into your life and say let me marry this person but when you have value for the place you are going you have seen clearly the f future you are going you'll be scared who you even bring to your life you you scrutinize them very well not selecting

34:41 and no I don't mean selecting in other word have a sense of caution that I I don't just want to miss it but I want to follow the right path that I am showing you tonight that you can truly follow and you will get it right. Did you get that? Now take note of this also the ability for you to marry right is a favor from God but success in a relationship or marriage is not a gift but work. Please take note of that. You will have to work it out. It depends on the effort and impute of both parties. You are what you made your marriage or relationship to be. You must understand this. The first level, the gift from God through the

35:26 justice of God and through the help of your vision brings the right person to you. Stage one cleared. Okay. Then stage two. Now to make that relationship get to marriage, there are key work, I mean work, rework that you are going to do. And I'm going to be showing you that as we progress in these classes. Do you understand what I'm saying now? So you don't just say okay is the right person does not automatically mean you will be successful in marriage. You marry the right person does not mean you'll be successful in marriage. There are key factors that you are going to put in place and that is going to help you. Why? What it takes to sustain marriage is more than what it takes to get it right in the relationship. Therefore, you need knowledge. You need knowledge.

36:15 You need knowledge. Why do you need knowledge? Making it right is like writing an exam to gain admission into the university. But that is not what it takes to graduate. Many of you graduated from university. The entrance exam you wrote is that the the requirement for you to get that BSE or masters or PhD that was not the requirement. That was just an entrance exam. So as beautiful as that entrance exam, I'm still telling you that a lot of people still fail that entrance exam. Yes, they still fail it. They could not even still make it right because they not have vision. They were carried away with many things. They could not even still have vision. If somebody bless what I'm showing you right now. So you need to understand it. So why do you need knowledge? When I and my wife were dating, I I I told her clearly. I told

37:03 her clearly. I said, um, this relationship for it to work out, we need knowledge. I bought books. I bought books. I have mentors that or common mentor that training me in in the area of marriage. I didn't say e God will do it. No. Or I I I will marry where there's people like that. He will tell you I will marry well. Okay. You show me now the books you have read the knowledge you have accumulated about marriage that gives you the guarantee that you truly marry well. You think marriage is like is like a bet company. You do try and lock. You don't do try and lock. If you are going there to see how it look like, you won't like how it will look like for you. I'm telling you and I'm not scaring you. I'm just giving you a caution ahead so that you will not

37:49 wake up and as a lady there are some ladies they have never read one book and they have dated five guys and you are wondering why you are moving from one relationship to another. You are moving because you don't have the right knowledge on how to engage it. So what am I saying? I bought books, several books from mentors. I sat down. Those books are not expensive. 2,000 1,000 many of them 2,000 1,15. So how much is shawama? How much is a takeaway? How much is ice cream you know perfect? How much is it? And since you have been dating in that relationship, you have swallowed several shawama like I can't count the numbers. How many ice cream have you licked and you have not bought one book on how you know you you

38:37 you prefer the temporal pleasure than the future. So what I'm saying right now I'm your instructor. Yes, it's still about Friday. I'm the instructor. I love you and just allow me since you told me that you are ready to learn. That's why I'm teaching right now. Just allow me to give you this light and you will see how your life will switch and become beautiful. Because by the time I get to see you in the future, I don't just want to see you somebody who's fulfilling purpose. I want to see you also somebody who is successful. You say Sabbath look at my my lovely husband, my adorable wife, look at my adorable wife, look at my kids, look at my house, look at my company, look at the staffs, sir, my life is blessed and I'm so grateful for the opportunity that God gave me to come across to with this program. That is

39:23 what I want to hear. Not that you are somewhere making money, fulfilling purpose and marriage, you are a bad husband or you are a bad wife. That's I don't just want to say that that's the testimony I want to see in people's life in the future. Is somebody get what I'm saying now? So you need knowledge. You need knowledge. It's not a matter of saying whether uh will I succeed without knowledge. You won't succeed in marriage with relationship without knowledge. What helps you to make your marriage successful? Your relationship successful. Knowledge is one of them. So take note of this. If you don't know more than what your parent knew about marriage, there is a tendency for you to replicate their marriage pattern because they are your first marriage instructor

40:11 through observation. While you were growing up, the first person that taught you on how marriage look like than your parent. How you were observing the way your mom was treating your dad. your subconscious mind. You know, remember I said we learn through observation, through reading and through experience, right? You can still remember that pattern I show you during the, you know, personal transformation class. This observation is a direct learning straight to your subconscious mind. So many of you right now if you marry with this version of you with that image in your mind that still believe that it is not possible to stay with one wife, one one girl. It's not possible to date one girl because that that mindset that makes you believe that you need to

40:56 test test test date several ladies as as a lady. You need to have save several guys with several phone number all in the name just to get their money and just to double date. That mindset of double dating. Do you know where you got it from? Your polygamos home. That's where you got that that light from that polygamy because your dad married more than how many wives or the community where you came from. You saw it in the life of your siblings, your loved ones, your your your other brothers or your loved one. So there must be somewhere in the question of your growth process as you are growing up. You saw how that your dad married three wife or four wives. So that blueprint is still in your mind to date. You think is you you are you you are not stay with one person in a relationship. You see you think you

41:42 thought that is just a noms. Say it's not a noms. You can stay with one girl date her and marry her. It's possible. Are you blessed? Are you blessed? If you are blessed type in the comment section, I am blessed. If you are blessed indeed and your heart is open, type in the comment section I am blessed and my heart is open to learn. I want to get a response. Type in the comment section, I am blessed and my heart is open to learn. So true observation. So you are going to sit down and check the blueprint of your subconscious mind. The images that are there, I'm going to get to that also. The images that are there. How? Because the way your dad treats your mom is not the best. It is good for those of you who have good experience marital, but still not the best. There

42:29 is a more excellenced way to treat a woman. The way your mom treats your dad is not the best. It is good but still not the best. And as a person who it happened to be that I'm sorry about that. Maybe you couldn't um grew up with your parents, maybe you lost them when you were young and the way your uncle treated you, your guidance treated you, could be your auntie or a relative treated you, it is not still the best. No matter how you were treated, whether rightly or wrongly, there is still a more excellent way. Please. So because of this, every one of you, I charge you to do this. Get more information more than what your parent stops because you can't afford to pack in the same lodge when your parent packed and not expect to have the same results. Are you get

43:15 what I'm saying? Now the version of marriage I'm experiencing, my parent didn't experience it. They did so well. Yes, they are know you know 40 something years in marriage and at the same time they are not they don't have any issue. My parents they are living so well peacefully with standard moral character in marriage. Yes. But sir I still prefer a better version of that marriage compared to the one I have so far. That's why I have to go for more knowledge about how to you know handle woman handle man and learn more so that I can become a better husband and not just only a minister of God. Is somebody blessed with this? Now let's take um a look at some key word also help you. The word singleness

44:01 is divided into two. Please take note of this. First a person who is not yet married. Singleness anytime you use the statement single most persons missed it. They always refer it to someone who is not married. Singleness has two side. First is first to a person who is not yet married and second a journey to finding yourself. Please take note of this. The journey to finding yourself is actually what helps you to make it right in marriage. That's the journey that helps you find purpose, find vision, engage personal development like many of you have been doing so well in these classes. No matter how tired you are, you still come online to learn. No matter how you phone is the battery getting shut down you you keep the phone

44:47 you intentionally off your phone so that you can attend the class you intentionally you know make sure you reserve data so that you can attend the class it is sacrifice this is the journey to finding yourself and what a beautiful experience you have so far see how you find a lot of things your mindset have shifted by knowing more now I believe you can do better so that's how it is so these are the two keys You can be married and single. I am not talking about divorce but a journey to finding yourself. The concept of singlehood has two side. First to discover yourself and also as an unmarried person. Why did I repeat this? If you don't discover yourself, it will be difficult to discover the person

45:34 who can fit your vision. Did you get that? So most challenges many people have today they are saying ah I don't know who is the right person for me all the good wife they married them already or they married them already these jinsy ladies they looking for money listen to me there are still girls out there who are doing so well they are fully prepared walked on and they are ready to give you peace of mind in marriage but sir ab how can I find him you have to first of Go find yourself. Yes sir. Find yourself first. Yes. Find yourself by finding your purpose, finding your vision. That's how to find yourself first. Then that your finding yourself will go aside to find the person.

46:22 Do you understand that now? So to the case you are here as a sister maybe you said don't trust men. Men are not to be trusted because you have received heartbreaks from different persons. And please take note of this. I am not saying this. In case you are here, you must have received maybe you receive a heartbreak. I'm not saying this to maybe condemn you. Not all heartbreaks are a function of you know you are totally wrong. There are some that are you just jammed the wrong person. Wicked people. There are some people who are really wicked in terms of dating people. Their heart is so stubborn and it's like a heart of stone. So but I pray for you that you will not meet those people again in the name of Jesus. But however, however, one of the way to help you avoid those people is through the help of you

47:09 finding yourself first as a lady. And how do you do that for you as a lady? Every lady must know their niche before they think of going to a relationship. As a lady, you are not permitted to go and say I I yes, I'm ready to do this relationship journey with you or marriage journey with you when you don't know your niche. Because what you decide now to know he is the one that's the question I'm asking you like because he has money or because he's fine because he's beautiful. Now let me say this why do we lay emphasis on the concept of marriage? Because marriage is very important it comes to purpose. When you um neglect the concept of marriage and just focus on teaching people on purpose

47:55 and just you know um discover visions become great personal development and all that then they are able to actually make it right with purpose and start doing exploit and imparting lives. One mistake marrying the wrong person can bring that whole vision that all the classes we have taken so far can make everything we have taken so far useless. You understand what I'm saying now? Marriage is so important. That's why I have to sit back. God have to you know let me understand this that Friday you have to include marriage classes and relationship classes in this school of purpose to bring balance that is called balance diet to this program so that every one of you you will not just be somebody who is enlightened about your life purpose enlightened about vision

48:42 and you are so intelligent but at the same time you go and marry a guy a girl that have no trace to your future who cannot future in your future future. Oh my god, is somebody getting what I'm saying now? You need to marry somebody who can future in your future and that's how to get. So please, the problem is not let me go and find a lady. No, first of all find yourself. By the time you find yourself, then that site will give you the right mind, the right understanding to find the person. So what is singleness? Singleness is about finding yourself. Take note. Finding yourself number one, loving yourself, valuing yourself, appreciating yourself, and placing a high priority on yourself. If you understand singleness, you don't

49:28 need anybody to tell you you are beautiful as a lady before you know and feel you are truly beautiful. Did you get that now? Did you get what I'm saying now? So this is the real cure. There are so many people right now they will you know especially ladies they they they have so much you know that inferiority complex. They always want somebody to tell them something about who they are. You are beautiful. Listen I know that ladies are moved by what they hear. Um and guys are moved by what they see. Yes. But as a lady, you must understand this that if you truly find yourself and you you love yourself and you value yourself, appreciating yourself and placing the

50:15 high priority on yourself, then whether somebody tell you you are not beautiful or look at how you look like, it doesn't really matter because what people say is just their perspective, their opinion. A young man told you that you are good for nothing, break your heart. That his opinion, that's his perspective. There is a better guy that will come and treat you both better, who will see the good part of you. You know they always say one man's food is another man's poison. There there is somebody who broke your heart and said that you are the worst lady ever. The person is not aware now that you are going through school of purpose. Something is happening to your life because God is rearranging your life right now and this version of you that is coming out by the time he sees you in the next 4 years or 5 years he will have he you he would have prayed that he truly marry you. What am I

51:01 saying? Every ladies listen to me. You are the best. You are lovely. You are valuable and you are appreciated. And we place high priority on you. God loves you. God value you. God appreciates you and God place high priority on you. Please do not need somebody else interpretation of what you are not to make you now feel that it is now you are feeling who you are. Listen to this. You don't need a relationship or marriage to feel complete. Please take note for all of you maybe there there are some people because they are single they feel that like my friend is dating this one is dating this one is dating and they just feel like oh I need a guy right now to

51:49 make sure so that I can also have somebody who is testing me you need somebody who will be testing you who will be sending you text message and be loving you and making you feel as though that that's not what makes you conf listen you don't need a relationship ship or marriage. Marriage does not even make you feel complete. Jesus and the knowledge of your purpose is what makes you complete. A life partner only compliments you. Please take note. There are two words here complete and compliments. The first one to be complete means you are whole. A complete package. Yes. And what makes you been able to have that complete um unified part of

52:37 you is your ability to discover Jesus which will give you peace of mind and give you that eternal assurance that he is with you. Then at the same time find the reason why you're here on earth then you are complete and if possible and without humility without humility I say it is possible even if you did not still marry you can still feel whole and complete. Yes with purpose and Jesus you are still complete. So but marriage something we called compliment then which speaks of enhancement in order to enhance. So what do I mean right now? Like I am complete without my wife. My wife is complete without me. Sure. But what I do is that by reason of

53:25 the value that I have, remember that your assignment creating the solution to the problem you're about to solve. By reason of the value, the influence and you know the grace of God upon my life. Anytime I am now in the atmosphere of my wife, I compliment her. In other words, I add value to her. I makes her feel from what she already have. I will now add to it being able to compliment her, cultivate her, make her life feel better than the way I I I saw her at the initial phase. The same thing she also we do from her own part now then she comes up with her own value because listen everybody must have what they brings to the table. It is your purpose and your knowledge of Jesus that you

54:11 bring to the table. Jesus and the knowledge of your purpose is what you brings to the table. Then that now also complements you. Do you understand that now? So for those of you who are not in relationship, you are complete. Type it in the comment section. If you are single, type it in the comment section. Say, I am complete. I am complete in Christ and complete with my knowledge of purpose. Type it again. Say, I'm complete in Christ. I'm complete with my knowledge of purpose. Is somebody getting blessed? Are you getting blessed in this class? All right. Now, take note of the singleness is rooted in self-development. Marriage should not stop your self-development, but rather amplify it. That's where many people missed it. Right now, I am still single and the part of singleness I am

54:58 not chasing is the journey to find myself. Oh, I can't wait to meet meet the future version of myself. That is beautiful. you know the the the the global version of about Friday that will be moving from nations to nations, countries to countries, contin to continence and being a blessing to youth, married people and reaching out to several seminars and organizing leadership conferences across the nations. I can't wait to see that version. That's my journey to become a better version of myself. So you see somebody married because some people their vision is marriage once they marry it's like they have achieved their life goal. Listen that no life is more than marriage. You will think marriage will make you

55:44 complete and make you happy until you marry you discover that the true source of happiness is your ability to know Jesus and find your purpose. If you have these two you that's when marriage makes sense without these two Jesus and purpose marriage is very boring without Jesus and purpose marriage is boring now you will be looking at your life partner you'll be wondering like what are we even doing here because after all the talk everything is done and off then you realize that what are we even doing here is somebody get what I'm saying now so if you are married here You see this kind of program you have right now be attend this kind of program school of purpose conferences meetings like this reading books engaging you know becoming

56:32 a better version of yourself should be a desire of everybody what am I saying is that singleness is a journey to encounter and refine yourself being single should be the most valuable pursuit of every married person do you get that now please let's take note of that the most important keys in a relationship ship. Let's look at some most important skills now in a relationship. I believe we are still together. Are you following? If you are following, type in the comment section say I am following. I need people attention in these marriage classes and relationship classes. It's not like every other classes. It should be very active class. You know, I need you people to be active. Type in the comment section say I am fully following. Type it say I'm still following. I'm still following. All right. Now, take note of

57:18 this. You don't just marry the beautiful or handsome body of a person, but the person's soul and spirit. You don't just marry a lady as beautiful as that shape looks, as beautiful as that hamson sparks looks, as beautiful as the luxury around the young man looks. That's not just what you marry. You marry the person's soul. And I'm going to be explaining the soul to you. You marry the person's spirit. Now the spirit speaks of who the person is in oneness with. Whether is it God or Satan. Is he or she filled with the Holy Spirit? These are the foundational

58:04 knowledge that helps you. Please listen to what I'm saying. If you listen to me, I will rejoice with you. If you don't pay attention to this particular one, may Satan not arrange his daughter for you in the name of Jesus. May Satan not arrange his son for you to marry as a lady. What I'm saying now is that you must check and I'm going to give you parameters to check. You must be able to verify this person I'm dating. When I was dating my wife, I checked it. Forget about going to church. You can't play me with marriage. I vet it plainly to check is this lady truly born again. And how do you know if a person is truly

58:51 born again is that you will see that person have first of all the fear of God and secondly the person is under the lordship of Jesus. In other words Jesus lord over the person. There are certain things that the person cannot do because of the person fear for God and Jesus and the reverence for God. Please take note of what I'm telling you. The spirit of who the person is in oneness with not everybody are saved. If the person is not born again, you have no business marrying that person because two kingdoms cannot come together. How many of you have seen two rivers before? They they cannot miss. And this is the

59:38 foundation that if you don't set this foundation, you will reap the harvest in marriage. How we reap the harvest? You'll be saying one, she will be saying two. You'll be saying three, you'll be saying four. Let me give you example. Let's say for example, um I am married and I am filled with the Holy Spirit. My wife is married, she's filled with the Holy Spirit. Let's say for example I offend my wife and my wife talk to me I'm feeling like you know you know that ego of a man I don't want to listen do you know what she will just do she will just go and pray to God the one that lord over my spirit then what there is somebody in me I'm submissive to our mother the person authority that's Jesus Jesus lord over my life so if the holy

1:00:25 spirit caution me there are times like that listen you can't bring those the the you know that mouth of you know that ego of a man one of the way to t it is to marry somebody who is filled with the holy spirit who's under the lordship of Christ by the time you pray then holy spirit will not talk to your husband and said go and apologize the way you spoke to your wife that's not good don't you know that she's both of you are one flesh that that's you how can you call your wife a fool how can you call your wife she's a useless woman you both of you are one flesh go Don't apologize. You are the one that is wrong. You see that statement I just make right now. If Holy Spirit echoed that in the heart of your husband, in the heart of that your boyfriend, in the heart of that you know

1:01:11 the person I am telling you the truth, you are you you you have already succeed in marriage with a large percent if you have that kind of man. Are you hear what I'm saying now? All right. So why am I saying this is because imagine now for example that okay the lady is not born again then the young man is born again then you not marrying the lady then it should not come up in marriage I am telling you Satan will speak the voice she will be hearing is the voice of her father which is the devil and the voice you will be hearing is the voice of your father which is Jesus and if God is talking to you through the Holy Spirit then you are hearing God you will be you will see a man so kind and so lovely and

1:01:56 you will see the way the woman will mesmerize her life scatter your vision tell you that through me I will make sure I useless your life and cause you to suffer and die until I kill you you will never succeed for as long I'm your life that is somebody you said you married you love the love of your life but you know what a believer who is under the lordship of Jesus cannot make such statement. You can't make such statement. Why? Because you will go and pray. You go and pray and see how Holy Spirit caution you and bring grief and and and Holy Spirit bring conviction to your heart that how can you make such a statement

1:02:42 then you see the calmness. Listen to me. this thing this this no this first statement this one right here if you miss this one I don't have hope for you in marriage because you're going to have so many problems in marriage and listen to this if you marry the daughter of Satan or the son of Satan you know Satan will stop fighting you because that one alone is already a problem that can take you for a lifetime you can see that now so that's why we needed to add this structure together so that you not go and discover your god's giving vision and once daughter of Satan or once son, son of Satan will come and spoil it. Make sure you you can see what I show you in the garden. The man Adam was a son of God. Eve was also from God. Taken

1:03:29 from the man also from God. Not that Eve was we didn't see Satan created Eve. Bringing Eve to Adam. It is God that through the vision brought Eve to Adam. Listen to me young man. I know you like fine shape. You love fine ladies. Listen to me. You better pay attention to what I'm telling you because without this you will you might regret it in marriage. All right. So let's make progress now. The soul realm the soul speaks of the quality of information in the person's conscious and subconscious mind. Is the person's standard of living governed by the word of God or by the word standard? Please take note of this. The soul of

1:04:15 everyone is um constructed and formed via the the five systems that build us up. What are the system? your upbringing environment, your uh your upbringing experience, the school you attended, then the your religion and your personal experience. Do you understand? Do you understand that now? So when you were growing up, there are some of you right now because the first battle you fight in a relationship is not even the battle of Satan, demon or all that. Is the battle of different perspective and different mindset, different upbringing experiences. That guy you see always love beating a lady, slapping and always fighting. That guy has a wrong foundation. He has a wrong image version of who a lady should

1:05:03 be. There are some ladies who believe that until a guy beat her. That guy is not yet matured enough. Why? The belief system of her mind is tempered with. Sorry what I'm saying now. So you are going to do this. This is what I did. I told my wife, "Okay, I loved you. You loved me." I sat her down. I studied the belief system of my wife and I studied my belief system. Right from time, I'll be working my on my own already. As a young man, you can do this. Even in marriage, if you're already married or you're in relationship already, do this. I I give you this as a you know, as a as a kid that work for me also. I studied the belief system of my wife. What does she believed? What are the things that formed her subconscious mind? What are

1:05:51 the pictures about greatness about a man about a male figure? Please in her subconscious mind I studied everything clear. Then now you must understand that every one of us we are from different tribes and different cultures and all those cultures and tribes they also influenced and pass informations and images to our subconscious mind which formed our belief system about who a man should be. There are some cultures that tell you a woman is a slave you should use her and dump her. A woman should always keep quiet. A woman should be oppressed. And that guy coming from that culture background, if that guy is not

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