Talk To Yourself Like This For Just 3 Days (Sleight of Mouth)

0:00 If you want to manifest the relationship that you desire, it is important to acknowledge that who you desire desires you. See, a person may say, "Oh, no, that doesn't make any sense." And they wonder why they do not get the exact matches in their relationships that they desire. Because what they're subconsciously saying is who I desire does not desire me. So reality reflects those beliefs. The beliefs play out as theater and it's apparent in personal relationships, romantic relationships, business relationships. And I mentioned this for years. Just

0:46 release identification to that belief. Just stop identifying with that belief. create an auto suggestion that says who I desire desires me. Now, a person might say, "Oh, I have a hard time accepting that. There must be something wrong with me." There's nothing wrong with you. Listen, we're not interested in putting up a fight with the subconscious mind. I have no interest in that. I'm going to communicate exactly the way that does not trigger any kind of defense mechanisms from any beliefs that are stored in the subconscious mind that contradict the belief of who I desire desires me.

1:36 So if there's any kind of thoughts that arise if a person says okay who I desire desires me that contradict I know based on those thoughts the exact auto suggestions to create to record and play on loop to dissolve whatever beliefs that is generating those thoughts. So let's say a person says who I desire desires me and they might say well there's not enough people in this world. See those are thoughts that arise in mind from the beliefs and you are not the beliefs you are prior to the beliefs. You can change your beliefs. Person might say I

2:22 can't change my beliefs. Why not? Oh because this that person said so. Who cares? Why do you have to listen to what another person says? They gave you their reasoning as to why they can't change their beliefs. They can believe whatever they want. Do you want to believe that you can't change your beliefs? See, what we're doing is we're just questioning these beliefs. A person walks through life and it is recommended that while you're walking through life, wherever you are, you're questioning things. You're questioning if you want to believe what is suggested or not. You have the ability to do so.

3:08 So now let's say a person says okay well I can change my belief but it's hard to change my belief. That's a belief. Create an auto suggestion says beliefs are easy to change. Or if that generates too much resistance, you could say beliefs are easier to change more so each day with increasing frequency. It's easier for me to be aware of the beliefs to acknowledge that I am prior to the beliefs. Therefore, I can change the beliefs. I notice it gets easier and easier. So if you speak to yourself this way, the beliefs that suggest otherwise are not triggered. So let's go back to the example. Who you

3:54 desire desires you? A belief may show up and says according to statistics, all the good ones have been taken. All these kinds of beliefs, how can who I desire desire me? So we question those beliefs. We question them. Now when you question these beliefs, you'll come up with auto suggestions and you could turn these auto suggestions into audios. This is actually one of the main points of my subconscious mind program. If you're interested in it, I'll link in the description to it. The program that has reconciled relationships, that has manifested ideal

4:42 relationships, personal for myself, my clients, business goals, etc., whatever, because reality works the way you believe it does. So, if you believe it works this way, then it works this way. If you believe it works that way, it works that way. And you are not the beliefs. Here's what I mean. I have on my screen here what I call the point of life model inspired by the Robert Dilts logical levels. On the top there's an I which represents you as that pure awareness prior to the beliefs. Below that you'll see there's a cloud which represents mind

5:28 and then I in the middle of the cloud which represents speech as was stated in the hermetica. Two gifts were bestowed upon humanity equal to immortality. So that I on the top represents you as that pure awareness real nature being immortality. If you haven't realized that you are immortal prior to the beliefs that suggest otherwise, well, inevitably you'll real you'll realize that that pure awareness transcends all these things. It is the substratum that I am that you are which represents immortality. Now what did it say? It said two gifts

6:16 were bestowed upon humanity. Those two gifts were mind and speech equal to immortality. So prior to the body, you'll see here you have mind a container and you can place whatever you believe in your mind and speech is how you place it in your mind. So you could inwardly talk to yourself in a way that you want to see reality appear and reality will appear to reflect exactly what you say when you talk to yourself which is what we call a belief.

7:02 Now we want to get good at questioning these beliefs. We want to get good at releasing identification to whatever belief that limits you. Like when a person says, "Who I desire does not desire me." If you ask anybody who's got some real self-confidence, real self-confidence, I'm not talking about based on condition, they're not going to say that what I desire, I can't have. They're going to say things like who I desire desires me and they're not worried about how it's going to manifest. So what reflects is spontaneously they end up in relationships effortlessly. A person

7:47 might be looking at that and say, "How is it so easy for them?" Well, look at their beliefs. They see someone that they're interested in starting a conversation with, they walk over and start a conversation with them. They're not worried about is this person going to reject me? They're not worried about it. And why are they not worried about it? According to their beliefs, they'll say, you know what, people can't reject me. If it goes this way, great. If it goes that way, great. Now, that we've seen a number of times is a result if a person growing up was never getting involved with these limiting beliefs. That's just how reality would work for them. Worked like

8:32 that for everybody actually if they believe it works like that. But let's just say for this kind of individual, they did not identify with those limiting beliefs of who I desire does not desire me. They did not identify with it. Now, another individual, myself included, got caught up with whatever kind of beliefs that suggest who I desire does not desire me in the earlier stages, many that I've worked with as well. But this is not a shame and condemnation point. It's not like we're screwed. We can't get the kind of relationships that we want. I know as a fact from personal experience I have the exact kind of relationships that I want

9:18 across the board but it wasn't like this in the earlier stages because I was identified with the belief of who I desire does not desire me. Now it could appear in whatever shape or form. Business relationships, friendships, romantic relationships. Your style which is the best style. Exactly what you desire. Not distorting desire through the lens of belief saying, "Oh, I should desire this and I should desire that because society said so or this world says so." Who cares what the world thinks? What matters is what you think. Remember your beliefs play out.

10:04 So questioning beliefs is very important. You know Steve Jobs he said in his commencement speech I used listened to it over and over again when I was building my IT business. What did he say? He said don't be trapped by dogma. We asked the question if you believe anything right now. Is this exactly how I want to live? Does this belief represent exactly the way that I want to live? I have the two gifts, mind and speech. With the conscious faculty of mind here, speech, I can think, choose, imagine, discern, decide whatever I want, and it'll be done for me. As was stated in Job 22:28, your decisions will be carried out and the light will shine on your ways.

10:51 The light is consciousness. Everything appears in consciousness. Everything appears to reflect your decision. So I personally recommend questioning beliefs. I personally recommend not identifying with beliefs like who I desire does not desire me. Person might say, "Oh, statistics, past relationships, who cares?" Now is where all the power is. Now, if you want to question beliefs, if you want to change beliefs, you can have a conversation with yourself and change the beliefs. Person might say, "Oh, that's hard. That's impossible. You can't do that. You can't just have a conversation." Oh, yeah. You can't have a conversation with yourself and change the beliefs. Listen, I'm not sure if

11:37 you're familiar with this book here. It's called Slide of Mouth: The Magic of Conversational Belief Change by Robert Dilts. I recommend getting a copy of this book. I'll link in the description to it. Robert Dilts, which again, this model I have here was built on the foundation of the Robert Dilts logical levels, which was inspired by the Gregory Bateson levels. If you're interested in that, you can study that as well. He [snorts] discovered 14 language patterns and there are infinite language patterns. You can create your own. I have my own language patterns. 14 language patterns to change beliefs through conversation. If a person has the ability to do this,

12:24 they do it and they do it effectively. If you look at people in perceived authoritative positions, be it politics, wherever, people listen to what they say and they don't think for themselves and they act exactly exactly like how they suggest without thinking for themselves. And that's the power of conversational belief change. They change their beliefs without even knowing that their beliefs were changed because of language patterns. And if you understand language patterns, then you'll be able to see based on what is communicated, how it's communicated, lots of nuance points. Person might say, "Oh, that's a lot of work to learn this

13:09 kind of stuff." Listen, do you want to walk around on this world here and believing whatever is suggested to you because someone knows how to use particular language patterns, orient from that, and call it fate or do you want to live exactly the way that you want to live? So now in this book he talks about 14 language patterns that he found that were effective in changing people's beliefs with respect to relationships with respect to business and I've created my own through my years of research. I've shared them here on this channel as well over the years. You may notice I speak in a certain way, not just in a certain way like how was articulated in the

13:55 wonderful book, The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Waddles. Certainty, but yeah, in a certain style. I'll use words in a particular way. A person might say, "What the hell? Why are you using words like that? Why are you using words in a way that does not fall within the best practices of English language? We do what works, what is effective. Do you want to do what works or do you want to do what sounds nice? Now, sometimes it can sound nice and work at the same time in all fairness. So, let's look at the slight of mouth language patterns by Robert Dilson. Let's have a conversation about these language patterns. There's 14 of them that he has. 14 of them.

14:41 And you know when applying these language patterns I personally recommend as I always do think for yourself and vary them adjust them to the point where they are effective for you. Now the beautiful thing about this another positive side effect is when you learn language patterns when you watch the news or social media or whatever you'll be aware of the various language patterns being used and see you have the conscious faculty of mind this I your ability to think to choose to imagine to discern to decide and if there's any language patterns that do not represent exactly the way

15:27 that you desire to live. You just let it be. You won't even get frustrated by it. People can say whatever they want to say. You won't you let them be. They let you be. That's a good belief to have, by the way. I let people be. They let me be. They do their thing. I do my thing. I get exactly what I want. They get exactly what they want. And it does not involve conflict or competition. Now, I can speak with firm conviction on these beliefs because at one point I'm like, "Oh, these are great beliefs. They sound nice. They sound nice. I would like to eventually operate automatically from these beliefs. I would like to think, feel, and act automatically from these beliefs

16:12 because they're helpful." Now, if I say this to a person, they might say, "It's not helpful for me." That's great. What's limiting as far as a belief goes for one person may be empowering for another person. For one person it's who I desire desires me. So it's easy for me to start a conversation with a person that I desire to talk to. Now that person might say I don't want to go around starting conversations with people. I want conversations started with me. I want people coming up to me. So who I desire desires me. People who desire me start conversations with me. That's fine. One person may look at that and say, "That's a limiting belief. I want to walk up to whoever I see and start a conversation with. I don't want people

16:58 coming up to me. I want to be able to decide who I want to talk to." Great. The other person might say, "Well, no, that's a limiting belief cuz I don't want to actually walk over and start a conversation. That's too much work. I rather them come up to me." Well, guess what? You can believe both. I do. People walk over and start conversations with me. They DM me as well. They email me. And I walk over and start conversations with people both. Best of both worlds. Hey, you want it one way? Great. You want it another way? Great. You want it both ways? Great. Turn it into an auto suggestion. People approach me and start conversations with

17:43 me who represent individuals that I desire to talk to. Happens effortlessly in flow. Want to throw that in there. Person says, "Oh, that sounds forcepace." Just say it happens effortlessly in flow. Now all of a sudden it's not force-paced. It's easy for me to walk over and start a conversation with someone. Someone like, "Okay, that's hard for me to say that. I don't believe that. That's hard to believe." That's okay. it gets easier and easier for me to start a conversation. And then eventually you'll say with absolute conviction, it's easy to walk over and start a conversation. So now let's look at these 14 language patterns here. Let's talk about more specifically how I have and would apply these 14 language patterns my style.

18:32 And I do it exactly the way I do it, which is effective. And you do it exactly the way that you do it, which is effective. That's the important part. The conscious faculty, your ability to think, to choose, to imagine, to discern, to decide. You can talk to yourself in a way where you instantly accept a suggestion. Dissolve that belief. Whatever is generating the resistance just by having a conversation. So, first one is intent. shift focus to a different positive or negative motivation behind a belief. Let's say if a person's identified with this belief, who I desire does not desire me, which generates a lot of resistance. It's hard for them to walk over and

19:18 start a conversation. People don't walk up to them and start conversations who represent who they desire, their clients, inharmonious matches. Prospecting sounds force-based because they keep attracting people that they do not desire. All kinds of effects from believing that who I desire does not desire me. So may question it. Perhaps believing they don't desire me is my mind's attempt to protect me from rejection or disappointment. That's all. Notice how when I say that, a person's like, "That makes perfect sense.

20:04 That's a ridiculous belief." Now redefine. Replace a key term with one that changes its meaning. They may not be rejecting you. They may simply be uncertain or emotionally guarded right now, which is okay. It doesn't mean they don't want to be with you. Look, I've seen this happen many times. You start a conversation with a person and they've maybe don't get approached. And you see this body language where they're holding one arm with their hand and their body language looks closed off. Now, a person may look at that and say,

20:49 "This means they don't want to talk to me." Which I've seen is not true. You desire to start a conversation with them. They desire to have a conversation with you. What we see as the conversation flows is their body language relaxes. The next one is chunk down. Break the general belief into specific details. What specifically have they said or done that proves they do not desire you back? And then you'll hear all the stories that arise from limiting beliefs in mind. that don't make any sense just by chunking it down. What specifically? Chunking it up. Place the belief within a broader

21:35 category. Whether they desire you right now is only part of the larger process of developing a mutually fulfilling relationship or harmonious relationship. So, you don't know if they desire you or don't desire you. Even though we're saying who you desire desires you, but at that point when you're having a conversation with them, like I don't know if they desire me or desire you. Not a problem. The conversation is part of a mutually harmonious fulfilling relationship or something like that. We're not even using the word desire. The word desire is to triggering. Person thinks desire is bad. I've mentioned this many times. Desire points to being. Desire means having. Whatsoever things you desire, pray as

22:20 though you have received it. Mark 11:24. One can say that's a great reframe, but it's actually the truth. You are that which you desire to be. You already have what you desire. As you are that prior to the bind and speech. Now talk to yourself from the premise of already being that which you desire to be. That's what this is about, having what you desire, but that might sound force-based. And so we can question beliefs using the language patterns. So with this particular one, we're chunking it up. This is part of the grand scheme of things of uh our relationship unfolding because I've seen this happen many times as well and I've talked to many people where this had happened many times as well. Apparently through the lens of conditioning they didn't appear when you had a conversation with them and you asked them for the phone number

23:06 they said no. So you continue the conversation because not like they're saying don't talk to me. You continue the conversation with them and then all of a sudden they give you the phone number. Well I thought they said no earlier. Now they are voluntarily giving the phone number because we can say it this way. The desire then emerged. The desire was there in the beginning. We just didn't see it. Or maybe we can say they didn't see it. Analogy metaphor. Compare it to a different situation. A seed may appear inactive before it sprouts. The absence of visible interest doesn't necessarily prove that no feelings exist. We've seen this many times.

23:53 You know, a person might say, "Look at statistics. Statistics suggest I can't have a relationship because of this or that condition and I meet all these criterias for a person that is within the scope of statistics not being in their favor." What does the statistic say? Oh, 95% of the people can't get whatever result because of this or that condition and I have this or that condition. Well, who's to suggest you're part of the 95%. Who's to suggest that? Apply to self. Apply the beliefs reasoning to the person holding it. If your feelings aren't always obvious to them, why must their feelings always be

24:39 obvious to you? If your feelings aren't always obvious to them, if they like, "Why is this person talking to me?" They don't really know that you and them are going to connect in some shape or form. Again, romantic life, business life, whatever. Based on that interpretation, it seems not obvious to you because through the lens of the conditioning, you get caught up with the body language. That's why, you know, little side tension that's related. I'm not a fan of this kind of body language. Oh, you got to act this way. Body language this way

25:27 means this way that. The answer is depends. The answer is depends. Just because you see this body language doesn't mean you have to act in a particular way with regards to this body language. Whatever the body language may be as I mentioned earlier person's holding on to their arm. It could be interpreted as they're afraid. Could be shy. Could be they really like you. It's just also something that doesn't happen to them very often. Now I'm not talking about being unccalibrated here. I'm not talking about disregarding emotional intelligence. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about questioning beliefs

26:14 that are not helpful. When you believe that who you desire desires you, you're going to walk up to a person that you desire to have a conversation with and you're going to start the conversation. And you may not know where that conversation is going. Maybe it's going to be a date, which is great. Maybe you're going to be friends, which is great. Maybe you're going to have a few minute conversation with them and you're going to get out of your head and you're going to be in flow, which is great. You might not even know why you desire to have the conversation with them fully. Say you have a conversation with this person, a couple minutes, they go on

27:00 their way, you go on your way, you did exactly what you desire to do, which was start the conversation, then you see somebody else you start a conversation with. And all of a sudden, you got quick wits because you're not stuck in your head. And so the other person played an important role. Now listen to as I'm talking, as I'm sharing, I'm sharing my beliefs, but I'm also sharing reframes. All reframes are is looking at it from a different perspective that's actually helpful. So then when you use a blanket statement like who I desire desires me then you can see how it releases identification to a lot of limiting beliefs and that's why a person may have a hard

27:46 time saying who I desire desires me because they're identified with a lot of limiting beliefs in their mind and they are not the mind and not the limiting beliefs in mind which is why when someone says oh reality reflects what I believe it must be me then it's not you you are prior to the beliefs you could change the beliefs that's a very empowering position to take I am not these beliefs you are not the beliefs I am prior to the beliefs I am prior to the individual who can believe this or that whatever I want because with the two gifts I get to shape my experience of life

28:31 exactly the way that I want you get to do it as well. So, another outcome, shift attention toward another desired result. Instead of trying to determine whether they desire you, focus on becoming available for a relationship in which desire is mutual and openly expressed. Now, this doesn't change the fact that they desire you. It just shifts the attention in a different direction so that you begin to think, feel, and act from the premise of fulfilled desire. And then when you see them, you start a conversation with them. Or the other belief of they start conversations with me. It plays out because you're not

29:19 contradicting it by you'll see in my diagram here old reality or we can call it undesired reality and desired reality. We want to think, feel and act from the desired reality which is who I desire desires me. Not who I desire does not desire me and act from that old reality. We can call it that way. Now, we're getting very specific and we're saying that's a belief because it is a belief. But that belief comes with a lot of subbeliefs, supportive beliefs. Just as if a person calls it a limiting belief, who I desire does not desire me,

30:07 it's going to come along with a lot of subbeliefs that belong to that microcosm, macrocosm, which is going to be reflected in environments behaviors capabilities you'll see here, which represent again old reality. So, we're questioning beliefs to prove the point that it's easy to change the beliefs, which is a belief that I have now. It's in the earlier stages. I would have thought that didn't make any sense. That's why changing your beliefs works because reality appears to play out your beliefs.

30:53 Now, you are not the beliefs. When I say your beliefs, I'm not talking about you. I'm talking about the beliefs that you can identify with or not. And you can choose to identify with whatever you want. Person might say, "Oh, no, I can't because of this or that reason. Identify with this or that." You can identify with whatever the hell you want. You have the conscious faculty of mind to talk to yourself in a way that suggests that you are that which you desire to be. You believe this, you believe that. Reality reflects accordingly. The next one is model of the world. Now, some of these might not be helpful for you. Some of these may be helpful for you. Some of

31:40 these may be helpful for you in a variation. It's not to suggest that you got to use all of them. Sometimes just one of them is an effective way to change the belief, release identification to the belief. Whatever thoughts that are being generated from those beliefs that contradict who I desire desires me and generate unnecessary resistance in your mind to accepting that suggestion model of the world. Question whether the belief reflects reality or one interpretation. Now that's a nuance point. Let's get into this one. That is your interpretation of their behavior. But someone else might interpret the

32:28 same behavior as hesitation, nervousness, or self-p protection. That's your interpretation of their behavior. Which is true. As I mentioned, one person interprets what a person says as rejection. I'm not good enough. I'll never be good enough. The statistics are proven that I can't get what I want. The other person looks at it as optimization data to optimize what I say, how I say it. This is fun. This is fun. or they relate to it as well, it's not time to leave this conversation because that's just one interpretation

33:14 of the body language or what they're saying, which I can look beyond those interpretations and I see this playfulness there. We're just going to tap into that playfulness. We're going to, you know, with some quick wits get involved with that playfulness and now all of a sudden it shifts. Body language relaxes. They're open to the conversation. Did not seem like that in the earlier stages, but that doesn't hold you back. So there are infinite interpretations of everything. Choose the interpretation that helps you, that represents exactly the way that you desire to live. Next is consequences. Examine what happens when a belief is maintained. If you continue believing they don't desire you, you may withdraw

34:02 and unintentionally prevent the connection from developing. It's a great one. Question the beliefs. What would happen if you continue to identify with the belief that who I desire does not desire me? What would happen? Reality strategy question how the belief is being verified. How exactly do you know they don't desire you? Are you relying on something they explicitly said or are you interpreting their behavior like we talked about earlier? Some of these have some overlap to them. Counter example. Identify an example in which the belief would be false based on how you'd like it to be. Have you ever desired someone without

34:49 expressing it clearly? If so, they could have been doing the same thing. Now again, I'm talking about being calibrated here, not being unccalibrated and being inappropriate. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about how much reality is distorted through the lens of beliefs that are not helpful. This does not mean act inappropriately. This does not mean violate boundaries. This does not mean be pushy and force-based. As a matter of fact, you would not manifest those behaviors. If you were to believe something like, I let people be, they let me be. Who I

35:35 desire desires me. You'll see the interaction play out in a harmonious way. And you may or may not know what that harmonious way looks like. That's okay. As I mentioned earlier, it can be in your favor. You talk to this person a couple minutes, they don't give you the phone number. Great. They give you their friend's phone number. You actually want to be with their friend. The next is hierarchy of criteria. Appeal to a more important value. Do you want to be yourself or do you want to people please? That's what we're talking about here. Can you just let it emerge naturally? I mean, you're going to know when you're not stuck in your head and you're in

36:22 flow, which is why I always say just make flow a priority because all this stuff happens effortlessly in flow. No question beliefs automatically in flow. And you're going to come up with your own language patterns. That's another thing we've seen in flow as well. Prior cause suggest a different source for the belief. Perhaps this belief comes less from their behavior and more from earlier experiences of rejection or abandonment. Ah that's a great one. Person's interpreting this from previous beliefs not living present now. No shame no condemnation. We'll see that in a moment. Say ah that doesn't make any sense. 14. Metap frame. Evaluate the belief

37:08 from outside its current frame. This belief is not direct access to their internal experience. It is a conclusion your mind has formed from limited information. Now when you operate from a belief of who I desire desires me, what you'll notice, you'll just magically, it's very interesting, happen to be around people that reflect that belief. And you're not going to need to force someone to believe it. You're not going to need to strongarm them, force them, act inappropriately. As I mentioned earlier, that's not what this is about. Okay? This is not about acting appropriately. This is not about acting like a stalker. This is not about acting delusional in a way that's going to get you in trouble

37:54 with the law. That's going to get you in trouble with security at the nightclub, get you thrown out. That's not what I'm talking about. Listen very carefully. if it's helpful. I personally recommend watching this video hundreds of times. This is powerful stuff. He shared these wonderful language patterns. I just talked about ways that I like to look at these language patterns and I've got my own language patterns. I recommend coming up with your own language patterns. To get to the point, we acknowledge that who you desire desires you. And actually, as a matter of fact, if everyone in this world is walking around believing that who they desire desires them, they would be matches all over the place. People connecting with people that they

38:39 desire to connect with. And it happens to be that the individuals that they connect with genuinely desire to connect with them. And they're not operating through the lens of limiting beliefs, which if so, that's okay. We could use the two gifts wisely, mind and speech, through conversational belief change. just by having a conversation. You could do this with someone. Absolutely. I recommend working with someone who knows exactly how to do this and not just use this 14 language patterns that Robert Dilts came up with, but whatever language pattern that's appropriate to dissolve whatever kind of beliefs that you're identified with that do not represent the exact life that you desire to live that knows how to do it effectively. And there are people that can do it effectively. They know this

39:26 stuff. They've learned this stuff. They've applied this stuff. And they've came up with their own ways just as you can come up with your own ways as well. So I trust you found this video to be helpful. Let's conclude this with an auto suggestion to further encourage. You could say who I desire desires me. I see this each day with increasing frequency with respect to personal life, business life, romantic life appearing more so effortlessly in flow. If you would like a copy of this mind map, the link is in the description. Thank you much for watching. I'll talk with you soon.