The Art of Seduction Explained in 5 Minutes

0:00 The first thing that I find that people who I've known gals who spent hours getting all dressed up and all fancy and spent money on clothes and they primp in front of a mirror for hours. And then they go out to a place and then they'll sit there like this. And if someone comes up to them, they turn their head away. I know you've seen them everywhere. You see guys doing it and gals doing it. They'll kind of lean over in a corner by themselves. And what we tend to think is that they're not interested particularly in us. They're not having any fun or they look unfriendly. So the most important thing to remember

0:45 here is that you have got to be willing to pay attention to the person you're interested in. Remember fifth grade parties when all the boys were on one side of the room and all the girls were on the other. That's what happens a lot of times. The boys are over here wishing the girls would come over to them and the girls are over there wishing the boys would come over to them. So the first thing that I want to teach you very obvious and very simple, but it's how to show attention to someone. And of course, it's to look at them. Give yourself permission to actually look at the person that you're interested in.

1:31 Instead of what a lot of us do, we look at the person we're not interested in and don't look at the person that we are interested in. Now, I know everybody does that, but nobody thinks anybody else does it but themselves. If you're a little shy, wonderful. I love shyness. I think nervousness works beautifully when you're flirting. Particularly a blush. So, if you're shy, actually be shy. If you want to look at someone, look at them and then look down a little bit and look back up. Or look at them and look away and then look back. Or turn your head to the side and look.

2:19 Now, these are very simple moves. Nothing's happening, or is it? You can tell just by the way that I look. I tilt my head. I wink. Most of what I'm doing is eye movements. And a little bit with my head. I haven't really changed the position of my body at all. We'll get to that later on. So, this is what I'd like you to do right now just for practice. Everybody is looking straight ahead. I just want you to take your eyes and look over to the side. Now, don't move your head. Just look off to the side.

3:05 Look over here. Just off to the side. Look back and pay attention to what happens inside. Your feelings change, don't they? Just a little sideways glance. It's a wonderful way to flirt with somebody. Just keep glancing over that way. Now, for those of you guys who are sitting next to guys and those of you gals who are sitting next to gals, that's the first mistake you made. Whenever you go into a meeting room where you'll be sitting in one chair most of the time, make sure that you sit next to someone that you want to get to

3:50 know. It'll make it a lot easier. You have a whole lot of seats to choose from. So, pick one next to someone that you're interested in. Okay. So, now I want you to turn around. Look with your head. Don't move your body, just turn your head. Now, if the person's turning their head the other way, wait, of course, till they come back, and then look at them. And then just nod. A lot of people are nervous about smiling, and a lot of people smile when they get nervous. But, the nod works really well. It's

4:36 acknowledgement. You have got to be willing to pay attention to the person you're interested. Otherwise, you look aloof and disinterested. And the other person feels uh rejected. The easiest thing that I found to tell shy people was that if you treat everybody in the room as if they are more shy than you are. So, do that now. Just pretend that everyone in this room is 10 times more shy than you ever were. And your job is to make them feel comfortable

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