The Surrender Method: When nothing is working, you must surrender fully.

0:00 Quasi here in today's video I want to share something very very important with you and this is the concept of surrender how to attain a full and complete surrender. So those subconscious those pesky subconscious resistances that you find that you've been holding on to you can finally release them once and for all. So if you've been feeling like lately that you've been stuck in this groundhog day like the same pattern that keeps going on. You're in the same cycle of fear, doubt, and worry. um you know, you're just seeing that you're stuck in this uh same level in your business, maybe same income level, or you're stuck in your career at a at a particular level, and there's just no way out. You just can't see a way out, and you've lost the spark in life. You don't wake up feeling excited anymore. You're not passionate about life. You're just doing

0:46 the dayto-day, the bare minimum, and just getting by. Maybe you feel this this lack of energy. Maybe you feel like you're procrastinating. You set these commitments with yourself, but there's no excitement to really follow through. Well, if you've been experiencing any of that and it feels like you're just stagnating in your life, this video is definitely for you. And this video will show you how to release that subconscious resistance, all the false ideas, the the limiting beliefs that we hold on to within our bodies. Okay? These are bodily held emotions that are preventing us from moving forward. So, I want you to stick around till the very end of this video because towards the end, I'm going to give you an exercise, a very simple exercise that you can begin doing right now to see immediate relief, especially if you've been going through unexplainable surges in in

1:34 anxiety and fears and and doubts and and doubting yourself. Okay. So, um the very first thing I want to get started with of the most important thing that we have to understand is there is two different types of conditioning that we have. There is uh what's known as survival conditioning and there is this is a word I think I I made up but I it couldn't be any truer. There is thrival conditioning. Okay, so survival versus thrival. I want you to take a moment to reflect on this. What kind of conditioning? What kind of fuel are you running on? This was an important um epiphany I had with one of my one-on-one clients. And you know, it was a big breakthrough he had when we spoke of the

2:21 fuel that keeps you running. For his whole life, the fuel that kept him running was trying to avoid guilt, not feeling guilty, doing right by his dad, doing, you know, when he he would show up to his business. His dad was always there, but he wanted to take some time off, but he would feel guilty taking time off because he's in a family business. And, you know, his his dad is always working. But, you know, in reality, his dad didn't care if he just didn't, you know, if he took some time off, if he took a vacation, I'm sure he would be happy with it. But in his mind, he feels guilty doing that, right? So, he's in this people pleasing cycle. And what he noticed was this stemmed from his childhood, from his uh relationship with his mother. Nothing he ever did for his mom was good enough. And his mom really, you know, conditioned him to believe that rich people are evil. So even when he made his first you know big

3:08 money and he felt so good about himself he went to his mother to to you know just just show off not show off I guess the the better word is to when he um wanted to share his accomplishment with his mother. uh his mom immediately put him down saying, "Oh, just cuz you make money now, you think you're you're better than everyone else." Instead of rewarding him, instead of helping him feel seen and he has vague memories of him as a kid, you know, always wanting to impress his mother, like making his room, tidying everything, but he never got that kind of approval that he needed from his mom. And so he held that within his body, which later on um led to him attracting a feisty woman, right? you

3:54 know, a which was a failed relationship. Um, a woman who was very very narcissistic because it felt familiar to him. That feeling felt familiar to him in his childhood with his relationship with his mother, right? And so this rich people are evil narrative uh got deeply deeply programmed into him which you know prevented him from expressing you know prevented him from experiencing the greatest life that he could potentially experience. And so what he was running on was this survival programming have having the ego survive. He couldn't get into thriving. He couldn't be motivated by the things that actually, you know, excite him coming from a place of love,

4:39 coming from a place of joy, coming from a place of deep deep deep happiness and fulfillment. Instead, everything was programmed towards survival. So even when the business would, you know, something would happen to the business, it would um not go quite well as he wanted it to, he would immediately start worrying about not being able to pay the bills cuz, you know, he's building two different houses and he's like, "Oh, you know, I need funding to do that." And so if um the business isn't going well and again, he has a multi multiseig business. He has an eight figure business, right? Very very big business owner. Um, but he would worry. He would be like, "Oh, what if I can't pay my gym membership dues, right?" Which is insane. Like the mind will project and go all the way there to worrying about the stupidest, dumbest stuff. Because

5:25 that's how the mind works. And that is a prime uh example of survival conditioning. When you start worrying about petty and you start holding on to money, you're in scarcity mindset all the time. So, what survival mindset is is the reason why you've been stagnating at a certain level in your business and your career. If you're a business owner watching this right now and you find that you're always anxious even though you're making money, you always feel anxious. You always feel nervous about losing it all. This is the reason why you're in survival conditioning. You're like a squirrel trying to stockpile nuts for the winter and you have enough nuts, but you just keep trying to stockpile it because in your mind there are no nuts, right? So, you just you just don't know what you've got. Um and you just you know like viscerally you can't feel it within your body. In your body you're still stuck in that childhood um conditioning of

6:12 scarcity which again you know a lot of people say like oh you know to be successful you need to be in high vibration you need to be happy. No you don't. You just need to be aligned to wealth because there are successful people who are deeply deeply miserable and they just keep accumulating more. And there are um unsuccessful people I mean successful people who are also very very joyful. you know, they're very very happy. They're very, very grateful. The the latter has fulfillment, the former does not. And as a great man once said, success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure. I read a book recently. It's called Barista to billionaire. And this guy documents his journey of of how he went from being a barista to being a billionaire. And how, you know, even after becoming a billionaire, he was like, what's next? It was never fulfilling. And then he started to go

6:58 into billionaires neighborhoods and they were all comparing with each other even though they had more than enough. They were like, "Oh, but if I had, you know, my house is the smallest house in this whole neighborhood, which is ridiculous, right? My house is a shack and it's like a multi multi-million dollar mansion, uh, compared to my neighbors who is worth, you know, a hundred billion or 10 billion, you know, whatever it is." Um, so it's always interesting to to see that. And if you've gotten to a point where you just keep comparing even though you are moderately successful, you know, you just keep comparing, you just never feel enough, chances are you are in the survival conditioning, okay? And that's why you've hit a wall because this survival conditioning, what's gotten you here isn't what's going to get you there. To get to that next level, you need to unlock this part of

7:44 your psyche, which I'm going to show you how to do. So survival conditioning is motivated by moving away from intent from intent. So if I'm moving away from intention, it's a moving away intent. I want to get away from failing. I want to get away from being stuck. I want to get away from being broke. I want to get away from feeling hurt. I want to get away from heartbreak, right? I want to get away from mediocrity. That is survival conditioning. Thrival conditioning is moving

8:30 towards right moving towards coming from a feeling of love, joy, happiness, contribution, the larger higher vibrational feelings. So for a lot of people they stay stuck in this lower survival conditioning where it's I want to get away from my job. I hate my job. I want to get away from it. Um few people are able to move to thrival where they move, you know, focus on what do I want to move towards? What is the thing that sets my heart on fire? What is the thing I could do for free for the rest of my life? And I was in this too. You know when I started I really wanted to get away from my job. But the more I kept focusing on getting away from my job, guess what happened? Life doesn't care about what you've you know your your um the context of your focus. Either you're trying to move away from something or move towards something. It

9:16 gives you more an abundance of what you actually focus on multiplied by the intensity of the context. The only time it compare it cares about the context is by the intensity of it. So for example, if I hate something a lot, I'm going to get that thing in abundance. If I love something a lot, I'm going to get that thing in abundance. You know, most people say like, "Oh, okay. If I hate money, wouldn't I get more money?" No, you can't sincerely hate money because, you know, true amount of wealth would unlock a lot of freedom for you. Um, a lot of really great things in your life. And deep down your soul knows that. So, it can't hate money. Um, for people who genuinely do, I think they do have money and like, you know, they they just keep seeing more money and like more problems piling up with money and that's why they typically hate it because they're so

10:01 wealthy. They're like, "Oh, you know, more money is going to cause me more problems." and then they keep getting more money and more problems as a result. I've seen that happen, believe it or not. Uh but most of the time it's in the sincerity of your heart, like what you're focusing on. So if I'm focusing on when I was focusing on getting away from my job, I was always stuck in my business because I viewed myself as this guy who was conditioned for the corporate life, uh not a business owner. I wasn't fit to be a business owner. I was trying to be a business owner, right? I'm a corporate person, a 9 to-ive full-time job person trying to be a business owner. It's kind of like the alcoholic who's trying to quit drinking. They view themselves as an alcoholic who's trying to quit. But the moment they change, they shift their identity to viewing themselves as, "Oh, I'm not a drinker anyways. I'm not a drinker, so why would I drink? It would

10:48 be unnatural for me to drink." Right? So when when I shifted that from viewing myself as this like kid who's been conditioned to be in the corporate world and 9 to5 world um who's you know trying to quit that I was always stuck but then the moment I shifted that is when I came to thrival but even then I was I was still stuck like even though I was growing my business there was still subconscious resistances because I grew my business to making like $100,000 a month but I remember always feeling anxious ious about losing it. And that's what kept me stuck at $100,000 for like 2 years, right? So, I was stuck at like $1.1 to $1.3 million a year for a really long time. And I felt miserable, too. You know, I felt like I was always on this

11:35 hamster wheel. I have to keep making videos and I have to keep like doing this to get clients. Um, a lot of the times I didn't like fully resonate with the stuff that I was speaking about because, you know, I would just do things that I felt would get views or get clients, right? it was always aligned to that instead of expressing my true um what I actually wanted to speak about what actually excited me and motivated me, right? I didn't have that inspiration. It was just motivated by okay, I need to keep stockpiling nuts. I just need to keep holding my breath until I make enough money. Which again, you know, when you're in that conditioning, there is never enough money. It's like the the guy in the corporate 9 to5 saying, "Oh, I just need to wait until I'm 65 and then I can retire and then I can begin to live my life." What a scary thought, right? Like, I'm going to sacrifice the next 40

12:21 years of my life until I can get to this point when I've wasted the the most important years of my life, the most vital years uh of my youth, and then I can begin to live my life. When, you know, I've gotten to the point where I'm no longer even excited about life. So, when you're in thrival conditioning, you will feel things start to open up for you. Like, opportunities will start to show up for you. All these coincidences will happen. If you've ever had it in your life where you know all of a sudden all the stars align and things just show up and you feel this state of flow, that typically means you're tapped into those higher feelings. That typically happens when I'm focused on making a video and I'm actually focused on serving the customer and the client as opposed to me making a video to try and get something to try and get a view to or views

13:08 multiple views or try and get customers etc. If I focus on giving value, I typically receive the thing that I'm I'm giving, aka money, the equivalent of that. If I'm focusing on giving value, I receive money. And at the same time, I'm excited to make this. You see the difference? So, that's that's the difference. Um, operating from a different field. That is the first step to making sure you're not creating subconscious resistance because otherwise it doesn't even matter what you surrender because you're going to keep accumulating more and more garbage. You're going to keep doing the wrong things and storing more negativity in your psyche. Okay, so let's talk about the two main keys that will help you shift into thrival conditioning. The first key is focusing on what is wanted

13:56 and what you want to move towards rather than what you want to move away from. So shifting your focus or attention. Okay. So shift your attention from what I don't want most of the time. What are we focused on? What I hate and what I don't want to happen. What's happened in the past that I want to avoid and what I want to avoid happening in the future. Right? That's most of the time what people are focused on. If 51% or more of the time you can shift your focus to what is wanted instead, I can guarantee you you'll move towards that. After working with over 1,800 clients, this is the key. Focusing on what you do want to happen. No matter how many times

14:43 life knocks you down, you focus on what is wanted and what you want to create in your life again and again and again. And you just release the energy of the failures and the negativity because that's just past. That is just past conditioning coming to life. Um if you keep seeing that same pattern of negativity, the anxiety, fears, and doubts, that's just your past conditioning that is arising within you right now. Like if you're if you're going through a period in your life right now where you're facing a lot of challenges and obstacles. Um you're noticing current economy, what's going on, and within you there is this nervousness, this anxiety coming up. This is actually a great time. The fact that it's coming up for you right now means you are ready to handle it. And in the next um part, I'm going to show you

15:29 how to properly handle it, how to properly surrender it. Okay. The second part to this is understanding the three key ingredients to staying in thrival conditioning. So in anything you do, you have to show yourself a way in which it grants you autonomy, a way in which you're making an impact, and a way in which you're growing, aka continually improving. Kaizen, there's a great um I believe it's a Japanese word. It came from Japanese manufacturing. I learned this in college. Something good came out of college. What do you know? So uh I learned this in college. It it's called the word is called kaizen. It literally translates to continual improvement. Uh but you know if you're growing in a field, you're continually growing, becoming a little bit better like a

16:15 craftsman, you're going to uh feel fulfilled in that. And I got this from a great book called um be so good they can't ignore you. Um so good they can't ignore you by Cal Newport. That's the name of the book that I got it from. And in it that he talks about three main things. He talks about the people who are seeking passion versus the people who are just seeking craftsmanship and continual improvement. I realized, you know, there was a period where I, you know, kind of burnt out making videos and there was a lack of enthusiasm and passion for my making videos because I was trying to be passionate about it instead of focusing on how can I make this video better than the last, how can I improve a little bit in this video, you know? So, continue improvement is a big one. So, whatever it is you're doing, even if you're in a full-time job and you want to grow the corporate

17:02 ladder, you know, that's completely fine. A lot of people want to do that. You just have to show yourself that you have autonomy. It's a conscious choice that you're making doing this job as opposed to doing something else as opposed to starting your own business as opposed to working another job. You just have to show yourself that you do have autonomy. As long as your mind sees that you have autonomy, it will believe it. It will accept it. As long as it's a conscious choice and you're not in prison, you will feel some sense of fulfillment that I chose to do this. Right? And it must feel like you're making an impact on something larger than yourself. When I make these videos, I have I definitely have that when I see your comments. I know that I can I'm at least helping someone. Someone is watching this and someone is benefiting from this. So, I'm truly honored that I get to do this. Um I feel like I have

17:48 autonomy. I can make these videos or I cannot make these videos. That's completely fine. Um and I am making an impact and I also feel like I'm growing. I'm continually growing. I'm continually becoming better. I'm becoming wiser. Um, when I look back at my old videos, I can see how much of a transformation has happened. Um, even though it feels weird sometimes looking back at your old videos, but you can see how much growth happens. If you're someone who's been on a journey of any kind of creative work, uh, whether it's writing, whether it's uh, making videos or making music, you'll see how much growth has happened when you start to look back at your old stuff. when you start to consciously look back at your old journals of what kind of thoughts used to used to be in be forefront top of your mind. Okay. So,

18:34 AI the way I remember it is aig um I used to support a soccer team um back in uh 2008 2007 they used to wear a jersey Manchester United AIG. If you're a soccer fan you know what I'm talking about. That's how I remember it. AIG, autonomy, impact and continual growth. So, um yeah, they were they were sponsored by American International Group. But yeah, those are the two keys to getting into thrival conditioning to shifting your fuel source. One thing I want to leave you off with before I get to the next part and surrender is uh it is important to actually be in survival conditioning initially. Everyone begins there. But survival conditioning can get

19:21 the engine started. It can't keep the engine running without rusting or destroying the engine. It needs a cleaner fuel. Okay? It's like my personal development uh my um my fitness person my um fitness mentor uh used to say he says uh carbs the way his philosophy is carbs can get the engine started. You need a little bit of carbs to get the engine started, the fire started, but you want to sustain it with more sustainable um fuel like fats and protein. Uh you don't want to keep running on carbs because it's like a dopamine spike. It's like sugar. It's directly it directly deres into sugar, right? So it's kind of like that the fuel source that you have negativity, you know, you wake up and you think about competition. You think about all the negativity that you have in your

20:07 life. You nurture those thoughts. Those thoughts will run your life. But from time to time, yes, you know, you're struggling with a lack of motivation. You know, you're noticing that the promises that you make to yourself, you keep letting yourself down. Well, that's a time in which negativity can actually help you kick things started. Like, hey, you know, you've made this promise and you haven't lived up to it. Come on, you can do better. Don't don't be like that. Let's focus on what is wanted. Let's let's get things started because otherwise you will fail. If you don't do this, you will fail. if you do this, you will succeed. So that gives you a kick in the butt and that's why sometimes a kick in the butt is necessary, right? When you go off path and if you have a good mentor, they will do that for you, give you a kick in the butt. Um, but then when you're actually when you actually do have momentum, you are

20:54 someone who's already ambitious and you're moving forward. For a lot of you who are watching this, you are very very ambitious. You are very driven. You want to grow your income. You want to become better, more successful. You want to expand. Uh most likely you just need to shift into this into focusing oning on having more autonomy in your life, creating more of an impact and actually continually growing contributing more. Okay. So now let's talk about that pesky source of negativity and why all of this past conditioning from previous lifetimes from just early on in your childhood, why that keeps showing up in your life and what to actually do about it. Guys, if you want to access my exclusive email list where I can share stuff that I can't really share on YouTube because of the platform's limitation, uh, just go to

21:41 realitycreator.com/list and upon joining, you're going to get the five video series known as the identity shifting boot camp where clients, prospective clients who haven't even worked with us have just gone through that and they've gotten amazing results. Okay, so just go to realitycreator.com/list and you'll get access to all of those cool bonuses. I learned this from a book called Letting Go by Dr. David R. Hawkins and in that book he talks about how we handle our feelings and I learned this back in 2017 18 and it's completely changed my life since. Um it's one of the greatest ways to simply handle those unconscious pentup feelings uh that you don't even know how it got there in the first place but now you have a conscious mechanism a tool with which you can handle them. So

22:29 if you feel like life is fine, everything is fine, but all of a sudden you just feel this pang of anxiety whether it's in your throat, in your chest or in your gut, you know, you feel this fear, this uncertainty, and you don't know where it arises from. What we immediately try to do is we try to justify the presence of that feeling. So we say, "Oh, I must be feeling this way because of society. I must be feeling this way because of the news. I must be feeling this way because my business isn't doing well. I must be feeling this way because my relationship is on the rocks. Whatever it is, right? So, you try to justify the presence of that feeling. One feeling causes a thousand different thoughts. The feeling is what's causing the thoughts. Okay? I want you to remember that the feeling causes the thoughts because the thoughts are there to try and justify the

23:15 presence of that feeling. The mind invents things to try and justify why you feel this way. But the reality is these feelings, they are just past karma, right? They're just karma trying to work itself out. So, a feeling is just a feeling. There need not be anything else to that feeling. There need not be such deep identification with that feeling. The reason why people suffer is because they're so deeply identified with the character who you are now, the person that you call yourself now, the personhood that you're experiencing, aka me, quasi. Uh I've been formed a certain way with a certain set of uh beliefs. uh a certain set of ideas that I've accepted to be true which I then call beliefs and these beliefs have become so strong they have become convictions that

24:02 I no longer even question them right but this is just the character this is the identity that's been formed somewhat unconsciously uh but ever since I started doing this work 8 years ago largely everything that I've chosen has become conscious but there's obviously still unconscious programs that linger that's why I'm on this journey of life and I'm evolving Right? So within you from your childhood, maybe you've heard your parents say certain things form certain attitudes about money. Um maybe certain attitudes about relationships, how you saw them treat each other. It made you either feel very very insecure. It made you feel unsafe. Um it's formed your future relationships with your partners or your future relationship with money or just your attitude towards

24:48 things, right? It's always the relationship, my attitude towards something. What is my attitude towards something? It's been formed by my earliest experience that I have of this. Okay, so going we can go as deep back into childhood conditioning. However, there is no point doing this because we can't change the past per se. But what we can do is change our current relationship to it by going deep into the feeling that arises, the feeling that our inner child has held on to. So there's four main ways in which we all deal with our feelings. Three of them are the most utilized. And the lowest form is repression. Repression is when a feeling that hasn't that has been so deeply

25:34 stuffed down. This is wonky, isn't it? Yeah, it's wonky. Hope you pardon my wonkiness. Uh so repression is when a feeling has been so deeply stuffed down, it's not even in our conscious awareness. Typically later on in life uh in your 40s 50s you kind of like people have a midlife crisis. That's why it happens because something has been deeply repressed for so long. Now a level above repression is suppression. That's more of a conscious decision to do. So you suppress something because you don't know how to deal with it. You've never been taught to deal with this before or you've been taught that you know feeling this is wrong. Oh I had an evil thought. This is wrong. stuff it down. Oh, I had a lustful thought. This is evil. Shut it down. Right? Oh, I had

26:22 um you know, insert negative thought. It's bad. Shut it down. Level above that is expression where you freely express what you're feeling. This has become popular uh from Sigman Freud's teachings. Uh but it's been a big misconception. Sigman Freud only said suppression is bad and it causes later uh psychosmatic illnesses. He never said expression was the actual cure for it. People just assumed that oh what's the opposite of suppression? It must be expression. However, expression isn't it because when you feel angry and you express your anger, it actually makes the anger stronger. It feeds that anger and then the remaining amounts that hadn't hasn't gotten dealt with get suppressed and

27:08 then repressed. If we suppress something for long enough, it will eventually become repressed. Okay, this is what we want to avoid. Repression is what we want to avoid. Uh suppression is energetically a level higher. Okay. Uh expression is definitely energetically even a level higher than that. Now the best way to deal with feelings is what is surrender. Why? And what is surrender? Surrender is the refusal of trying to change, justify, alter a feeling and just fully accepting it as it arises. If I if there is a feeling of anxiety, there is no longer an identification with that feeling. I am not anxiety. I am not fear. There is a witness and an

27:56 experiencer and the thing being experienced. Okay? So there is a separation. Now if I can watch something, if I can fully accept it, therefore I am not it. The character is simply experiencing this fear, this anxiety, right? So if you feel the feelings, unwanted feelings or even wanted feelings, and you just fully feel them, you allow that feeling to exist without trying to judge it, without trying to alter it. The next time you feel anxious, just sit with that feeling. Instead of trying to change it, sit with that feeling and see what arises within you. Okay? Typically what will happen is that feeling the lower feelings will get transmuted into higher feelings. You will go from apathy, guilt, shame to anger at why you felt

28:42 this way to then when you surrender the anger, you begin to feel courage, right? You begin to feel those higher level feelings. Okay? So that is the journey uh from repression to surrender. And now the question is how do we surrender? Right? How do we focus deep on the feeling as opposed to the thought and getting distracted in the thought? There's four main steps to doing this. And guys, when I tell you this is the most powerful thing you can do, check this out. One of our clients, Louise, learned how to properly surrender. She quit her corporate job, went into her business. Her business was struggling. her agency, her marketing agency was struggling and she had no choice because she wasn't making enough to sustain herself. She almost gave up

29:28 and went back until when she started working with us. She went through this release, this full complete surrender. All of a sudden, clients started reaching out to her out of the woodworks. And she went from barely making 5K a month in her digital marketing business to making 30K a month. And now she gets to spend Mondays at home with her daughter, right? she doesn't have to go back to that that 9 toive job, that corporate job anymore, that burnt her out. This is the power of what can happen. Things will magically start to align in your lives. Your core desires will start to become manifest, not because you want it so so badly, but because you just surrender the energy of that and you kind of surrender it to God, right? You're surrendering it to God and God is taking you on that that um the flow of life. There is a flow of

30:14 life. When you're attuned to the sector of reality where your goal exists, you just surrender to the flow and the flow will take you there. That's it. You don't need to do much. So now let's talk about this four-step method to attaining a full bodily surrender, not just a intellectual level of surrender because that's where most people are. They're intellectually they can understand what they want, but emotionally it hasn't become embodied yet. Okay. So step number one, when a feeling arises, when there's a trigger that arises, you watch it. Watch feeling arise. So typically it'll be some kind of trigger that happens. And one thing I want you to keep in mind is, you know, an angry person isn't

31:00 naturally angry. Traffic, being stuck in traffic doesn't anger a person unless they have repressed anger within them already. We're like walking pressure cookers when we have a trigger now the outlet that all of the feelings that have been bubbling under the surface all of a sudden they show up. So the fact that certain feelings are showing up in your life again isn't a bad thing. It's a good thing. The only issue is you haven't properly handled it up until this point in your life. Okay? You've gotten to your late, you know, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and a lot of it has just been accumulating because you've been stuck in survival conditioning. Those lower feelings, right? The lower feelings is what causes the accumulation. Surrender is what causes us to release that accumulation. Okay. So, what you want to do is the

31:47 very first step is watch the feelings arise without any judgment. If you're feeling anxious right now, stop what you're doing. Just watch the anxiety within you arise and feel where it happens in the body. Okay? Take a few deep breaths and settle into that feeling. Sit into that feeling. The next step is give it a mental hug. Now, you might be asking, Quasi, what the hell is this? Why am I giving this a mental hug? Well, you're giving it a mental hug because you're no longer afraid of it, right? It's like uh you have an enemy and you're hugging your enemy instead of fighting your enemy. The more you resist your enemy, the stronger your enemy gets. We're neutralizing the enemy. That's where the word neutralizing comes from. You're neutralizing them by love, by acceptance. Hey, feeling, you're

32:33 arising. You are allowed to exist. This too is allowed to exist. Okay? Whatever you're feeling right now, it too is permitted to exist. Stop being so afraid of your darkness. Stop running away from it. The more you run away from it, the more it chases you. That's what your shadow does. This is how shadow work works. Okay? So, give it a mental hug and actually ask for more of it. The next step is to sit with that feeling. Sit with that feeling for as long as necessary. As long as it takes. Sit with that feeling. Don't interrupt and be like, "Oh, why hasn't it gone

33:19 away? I've been trying this for days now, for months, for weeks." What will happen is, you can do this, by the way. You can keep a journal of how you're feeling dayto-day, and you'll notice the feelings will subside. it will change form and then years later something from the past will come up again. This is your evolution and then over time you'll start to notice how lighter and lighter you get. If you're someone who's been watching my videos for the last, you know, maybe year or so, couple years, you'll notice the growth that you've had in your life, right? You'll notice that you have grown in your consciousness because you've been exposed to this vibration because you've been doing this work already just by watching this, by consuming this content. You've been pulled to this level of vibration, right? It just happens through osmosis. But you can only notice when you look in

34:04 hindsight. You haven't become a more negative person. You've actually become a more aware person. You've you've become more awakened. Okay. The final step is continue with your life. Don't stop your life. I hope you can see this. Okay, you can't see this. Look. Continue. I can't I can't even write right now. Continue with your life. Okay? Uh don't just halt your life and wait for it to go away. When you've reached a critical point where it's like, "Hey, I can I can continue now. Continue with your life." And the the other thing you want to do also is after a session of surrender, you'll probably be embid in a lot of negativity and working through your shadows. You want to continue, but

34:50 also reframe it to what is wanted instead. Continue and reframe Okay, look, continue and reframe. You want to reframe by focusing on what is wanted. So, you've just spent a a great deal of time focusing on what is unwanted, what you didn't want. Well, now shift that focus to one thing that you would like to see happen in your life. Maybe you visualize something positive that you want to see happen. We want to back up all of this negative work with at least some positive work because otherwise it's very very easy to get in to get lost in the source of negativity. Okay? And the law of consciousness states whatever I focus on I will move towards. I will create in my life. Focus creates attraction. And that's why to give you a

35:37 concrete example of this back in 2019 when I was trying to grow as an entrepreneur I was struggling a lot and you know I was making like 1 to 3k a month in the business in the coaching business uh and I desperately wanted to quit my 9 to5 and I couldn't see the a way out and the month of May was the worst month. May 2019 was the worst month in my business and every single day I moved back home uh my dad would come into my room and be like did you make any money yet? Did you make any money yet? Did you make any sales yet? No I didn't. It would make me feel inferior. It would make me feel like a piece of It would make me feel like um you know, I just I just wasn't good enough. And so within that, I was like, you know, this month I had made no sales yet. And you know, I actually ended up making no sales that whole month of May. It was

36:22 the worst month ever in business. And I remember just like end of the month feeling so defeated. And I remember even during that month, I felt so anxious, this ball of anxiety in my stomach because I was like, damn, I I have no idea what I'm doing. I feel so lost. I just felt so lost because I just quit uh a job to go all in on this business that I didn't even have certainty in. I didn't even know if I was going to make it, right? So, you know, um I I felt really really lost in my life. And I just felt every every time you can go back to my videos in May 2019. Uh I still made those videos. I still showed up. I did the surrendering exercise and I still continued. Life still went on, right? I still showed up to the best of my

37:09 ability. Why? Because I wasn't about to let that negativity hold me down. Because guess what? If you let it hold you down, what are you saying to yourself? You're saying that this thing runs your life. I refuse to let that run my life. I choose my destiny. Okay? So, I will do the best that I can with my lost dying breath. I will do the best that I can. And guess what? At the end of the day, when I did those, I actually ended up feeling proud of myself because I knew that I didn't feel like doing it. Those are the best days, by the way, when you don't feel like doing it, but you just show up. All you have to do is show up. It doesn't have to be pretty. It doesn't have to be perfect. You just show up. And the more you just keep starting to show up, you start to be able to create state on demand. You say, "No, now I will get into state." And

37:54 some of the most consistent people in the world, they do what? They can just regardless of what they're going through, they just show up. They just show up for their intended reality. They've made the intention to create uh a particular life, a particular vision. And those are the people that you see years down the line, they're like, "Oh man, how did you make it here? How did you get out of that situation to making it here?" That's how they do it. They show up even when things aren't going well. They feel those feelings. They let them be and then they show up. A lot of them, by the way, they don't let them be. They compartmentalize is a tool that they use, which is basically suppressing, and they never later on deal with it. And then it shows up like it did for Tiger Woods with the um serial um serial cheating, right? And uh

38:39 the public scandal that happened with him. Uh that's what I don't want to happen for you. uh that that typically happens when there's something deeply deeply deeply repressed in your psyche, something that hasn't been handled yet, a very deep shadow. Okay? The way out of that is here is doing this is continually understanding yourself and what's in the deepest, darkest parts of your psyche. Because I can promise you, if you correctly do this, the quality of your life will never be the same. and the goals that you want to achieve, not only will they be effortlessly achieved, not only will the walls that you've been hitting, you're going to find ways around them instead of trying to knock them down, but you're just going to have an overall much more happier, fulfilling life. Isn't that what you want? Isn't Isn't that what's more important than

39:25 just making ungodly amounts of money that doesn't fulfill you whatsoever? Right? So, isn't that why you wanted to make money in the first place? I hope this was helpful. Uh, leave me a a comment letting me know what you thought of this, what stood out to you the most, what your biggest takeaways are. Guys, I'm always looking for more feedback to make better content for you because I'm just trying to make content that is more relevant to what you guys are going through right now. So, leave me a comment. Your comments help me a lot. And, uh, you know, I just I speak to a I speak to a camera, so I can't see your face. Your beautiful face. I can't see it. Uh so so let me know in the comments um what you're going through, if this helped, uh if you've been doing something similar, and uh if you'd like to work closer together with me in my one-on-one mentorship, you can go to

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