0:00 Hey, Tony G here. Now, welcome to where I take you inside the mind of a healthy married mature man. So that if you are trying to better understand men, I think that this is how we bridge the gap because one of our flaws in the world is we don't talk to each other enough. We don't bridge the gap. And so that's what I'll be attempting to do on the videos when I get the time. So, hey, get your pen and pad, take your time, come back to it. If you fall asleep to it, wake up, listen to it when you driving to work, at work, doing mindless work, and you able to listen. And I'm going to be able to walk you through it. Now, I want to I want you to understand this and and
0:46 first, let me tell you who this is for. This is for women who are healed. This is for women who are whole. And that doesn't mean 100% that doesn't mean you're perfect. What I mean is you're not angry with your ex still. You're not angry with your current guy that you getting ready to leave. You're not broken and hurting. you don't. This is also for women who don't follow women online and listen to women who are giving you manipulative tactics to seduce a man and to lure a man. If you are any of those things, you not
1:35 what I'm talking to. This is not for you. So, please hush and shut up and stay out the comments. You are annoying and this is not for you. If there's many places online where you can go and watch. I don't care about your opinion. I am here for who God sent me for. And there are women who understand that in order to get a man, in order to attract a man, they first need to know what a man even is looking for, but not one of these lame mamm boys on a podcast who still does not have a wife,
2:20 but from a real man who is married and faithful and is a provider and a man of God. what we look for in a woman that we will give up our life for. That's where this is coming from. And that's the type of woman that I'm talking to. If it's not you, hush. We don't want to hear about why you have to do all of this. Why? This is so hard. This is all that. Why are you over here? Find somewhere else to go watch a video and have your pity party. Love is a job that you cannot retire from. It is not easy and we were not
3:05 taught in school. That's why I'm here unwillingly sometimes, reluctantly every day, but obedient to my father in heaven, sharing the wisdom that he has given me. So listen to me now. First thing I want to start with is inner beauty. And this and this is just a natural thing. And what I mean by this is as men, we are hunters. We are killers. We are warriors. We are gogetters. We are naturally entrepreneurs. Even if we work a job, we like to seek. We like
3:52 to explore. We like to find. We like to gather. We like to enlarge our territory. So because of how we are made, we have a very deep, strong, keen sense of awareness. We read what you're not writing. We can see what you're hiding. So that is why the personal work, the internal work is the most important. Women don't know that we can tell by how you walk and how you hold your head and how you
4:41 rest your face. If you are healed, we can tell if you have a life coach. We can tell if you have a good life coach or a good and a good therapist and or we can tell if you read your Bible. We can tell if you are healed. See, even though some women try to hide it, if she listens to sprinkle sprinkle, if she listens to bitter women, if she listens to unattractive women internally and externally, women who are only pretty to other
5:26 women, but not pretty in any way, shape, or form to a man, like the women y'all listen to, then we can tell it. It's a certain little face. It's a certain little pouch in your lips. It's a certain speed and pep to your walk. Certain little speed to your walk. It's a certain false arrogance on your energy. It's a certain tone to your answer. It's a attitude because what you don't realize is you're feeding yourself with the knowledge of bitter, broken women who practice witchcraft, who they practice love, love spells.
6:15 They practice manipulation. They are Jezebel spirits. They want to conquer. They want to kill. they want to devour spiritually and some physically. And so when you listen to those women who have no clue what they're talking about because they are not a man, I would rather you listen to the gay men that are giving you advice about men than to a woman giving you advice about men. Because I want to help you. It's a reason why Sheree Gaskins doesn't give advice about men. It's a reason why wise women don't give advice about men. Because the only man that a woman understands is her man.
7:04 That's it. And she barely understands her man. She's still learning her man. My wife is still learning me 20 years into marriage. I'm still learning her 20 years into marriage. But one thing I understand is men because I'm a man. One thing a woman understands is women because you're a woman. So the first thing you want to do is establish your internal beauty. And that is where I what I call the brains. And what I mean by that is you are getting the knowledge. What is love?
7:51 What isn't love? What is a relationship, a healthy relationship? What is a toxic relationship? What is a real woman, a good woman? What is a bad woman? What is a good man? What is a bad man? When you understand those things, you have knowledge
8:38 and you have wisdom. And if you understand them, you have understanding. Wisdom, knowledge and understanding will set you free. So if you are listening to the podcast and the teachers and the speakers who are not married and happy, you're hearing a jaded perspective. you're hearing a limited view and when I say married and happy that is also subjective. So their happiness must be rooted in your same belief system
9:27 because it could be a married couple who are in an open marriage and they claim to be happy but their advice is not the advice for you if you don't believe in open marriage. So you understand the caveats and nuances, but at the same time, what I need you to understand is it's not that complicated. It's not that complicated. So what you have to realize is that the inner beauty is going it's not the first thing that attracts a man but it is the thing
10:15 that will keep a man. And what a lot of women do is they do one or the other or they do it backwards. So that's what you need to understand. Get the knowledge, heal, forgive your ex, forgive your dad, forgive your mom, get coaching. It's a lot of women who can't handle my coaching because they want to be lied to. They want to be pampered. They want to talk in circles and talk about the same meaningless trivial
11:01 stuff. And so when I check out, they feel like, "Oh, you're not listening to me." Well, you keep going over the same kindergarten question that I've given you the answer to 50 times. The answer is not going to change. If you can't hear the truth from a man who is not putting pain in you, how are you going to hear the truth from a man who is? If you can't hear the truth from a man who is trying to help you and is doing nothing wrong to you. And just because the truth is not what you want to hear, you're upset and mad about it from a man
11:49 who is stable and balanced and healthy and whole and a man of God, how are you going to hear your husband? You won't be able to. And so that's what you have to do is get to the place where you can even hear and respect and respond to the voice of healthy men. If you if all you want to do is argue and debate and twist and pry and turn to get the answer that fits your puzzle piece and that soothes your brain and that makes 100% sense to you,
12:38 you'll never be able to keep a husband ever. So that's what you have to realize. Now the next thing you need to do is you need to get established. You have to bet on you. You have to invest in you. See what I am finding is so many women cannot take care of themselves and that is not good. So many women are working
13:24 single with no kids and broke. And that proves the need for a man. I've talked to one woman, but she could not prove it, who said she can touch $10,000. If you are single with no kids and you are working, you need to be able to touch $10,000. And you need to budget and save until you can do that. And that money is not for a man. It is not to loan a man. It
14:13 is not to invest in his business. That money is your safety net so that if you lose your job, you can pay rent for months while you are searching for another job. You have to get established. Too many women have their butt in the dirt and getting urinary tract infections from being in the dirt too long. You have to stop shopping and eating out
14:58 and loaning money to your friends and your family trying to look successful. You have to learn how to say no. Because a man, especially a man today, 50 years ago, 40 years ago, 30 years ago, maybe even 20 years ago, a man maybe wanted to rescue you. But to be rescued by a man is a dangerous place to be. That is why so many women are under the thumb of abuse. And it's a lot of women that don't want to learn that don't that that's why I created the soloreneur collective to teach you how I became a
15:45 godmade millionaire to give you every tip and every tool so that you could stand on your own two feet. You just got to do the work. I talked to a client the other day who's so smart but is clouded by confusion, has 51 ideas and just won't stop and focus and just do the first one. And I say you got to stop and you got to focus and you got to do the first one. And let me tell you, getting established, this is what I need you to understand. So many women come to me and they say, "Well, Tony, I can't afford the $1,000 for your
16:33 program because I spent $12,000 in this person's program and I spent $50,000 in this person's program and I spent $10,000 in this person's program." And I say, "So, okay. So, you listen to me and you see I have a program that's $1,000 and it's six months long with three calls a month. And you chose to sign up for a $20,000 to $50,000 program from someone a man who you've never even seen his wife. You don't even know if he's married.
17:21 You don't even know if he has any integrity. So, you are usurping the wisdom that I'm giving, but because he's selling a lifestyle and showing you his Rollsroyce, you fail for it. That lets me know that not only will you suck in business, but you will fail in life and in relationships because you were seduced. So, a man who came before you in plain clothes, you couldn't see his value and his integrity. But a man who came before you
18:06 in a suit and a Rolls-Royce, you fell for it. And now you want me to do for you for free because you fell for lust of material things and material wealth. That's what the Bible talks about when it says forever learning but never coming into the knowledge of the truth. And I see this all day every day. I I just I I've literally made eight figures, meaning over $10 million.
18:52 And I just talked to a client who spent $3,500 to join a entrepreneurship program at her church. And I had to clown her about that. She said, "They learning about Sam and Tam." I said, "Ma'am, you learning about Sam and Tam and you talking to a multi-millionaire and don't even know what that is. They teaching you rigomearo. and it stole your money. So now the people who teach in the class are not millionaires. They have not made a million dollars and they charge you 3500 in the house of the Lord and I got a program that is $1,000
19:41 and you can finance it. Come on now. And this is what is affecting millions of women in relationships. You are meeting plain clothed men who are men of integrity, but because they're not tall and chiseled and dressed to the nines, dripping with honey and money. You pass on them. You treat them like they are bombs. You treat them like they are nothing. You ignore them. You overlook them. And you go for the man who looks
20:29 the part. And then he scams you. You're doing the same thing in business that you do in life. or you go for a man who is so downtrodden and disheveled and you tell yourself, "Well, if I go for this man, I know that I know that I know he's safe because he's obese. He doesn't shave. He doesn't shower every night. He has dirty fingernails. He doesn't know how to dress. Oh, I am going to be his heaven, his world, his
21:17 everything. And then you get with that man and he doesn't even want to have sex with you. He is an incel, an involuntary celibate man. And why did you do that? You did it because of your fear. You did it because you wanted to play it safe because what you really really want and desire you don't trust because you want a Idris Ela looking man but you don't trust that. So instead of going for a regular looking man you go for a downtrodden man
22:03 to give you safety. And why do you want that safety? You want the safety because you haven't done the work to heal. You've done one coaching session or you did no coaching sessions. So, you have no knowledge of what a man is, what a man looks like. You have no reference point, no basis. And so, you just opt to just try to play it completely safe, leaning on your own understanding. and it goes bad. And here's here's the thing that I found too. Most women have a scarcity mindset.
22:51 I have a client right now who not only does she have me as a coach and she does video sessions and she pays for video session, she also has a femininity coach who from what she's telling me the femininity coach tells her 90% of it is is actually accurate. So the lady has really dialed in um based on what she's learned about men. She probably had to sleep with a lot of men or be be around a lot of men to get enough feedback to learn what femininity is, you know, to a man cuz she's teaching her how to be feminine with a man, which is a dangerous game to play. But most men can't teach that. It's probably 1% of us who can. So, that's hard to find. So, of course, hey, if you got the money to spend and and you you want to take the
23:37 chance, but one thing my client does is she does run it by me to say, will this appear feminine to a a masculine man? And I'm able to tell her yes or no. That is wisdom because the Bible says there is wisdom in a multitude of counsel. But what I found is I' I've had now this client is in the medical field and she makes good money, but I have several other clients who are in the medical field and single and earning hundreds of thousands of dollars and they don't sign up for coaching until there's a special a steep discount and they pay the same amount that a woman who is homeless
24:25 pays. That's a horrible mindset. That is a limited mindset. That's a scarcity mindset. That's a broke mindset. That's a trauma-ridden mindset to where you compete. You're at $200, $300,000 a year and you're competing with a woman who's at $16,000 a year for the same man because your mindset is broken. So when I say the inner beauty and getting established, a lot of this is a
25:10 mindset thing because I have a lot of single men that I mentor and I can't even I can't argue with them because they just are not every woman they meet and that we assess, not a single one is on their level mentally and emotionally. And so and and here's the thing and here's the difference and this is what I want you to understand. The reason being is because men who are the top level of men, they work on themselves religiously. They work on their mind, their body, and their spirit, but they're not really out like that. They're not really like
25:57 they're looking, they're paying attention, they're on social media, but women are being driven away by youthful lust. Women are being deceived like in the Bible that the Bible talks about in the in in the latter part of the New Testament. Women are being deceived and deceived bad and listening to every voice and just scratching itching ears and have no discernment. You know how many women are under the spell of a false prophetist? Millions.
26:43 Or a false prophet. millions like these women who were deceived by this false prophet to be his two wives like and these are these are humans. These are adults. These are these women are walking amongst us. And so what you have to realize and understand that there are men just like that. And those men who are just like that are now deceiving the majority of women. And what I found is most women who say they want a husband are unwilling to do the work on
27:30 themselves. So the women with the mind don't have the body and the women with the body don't have the mind. And the mind encompasses emotional intelligence, character integrity faith. And then the body encompasses not sleeping around, eating right, sleeping right, working out, sacrificing in those areas and doing what is required of you. And then the men the men who the men who aren't doing right, they're still able to go out here and get women and they're working on their
28:17 body but not their mind. Or if they work on their mind, men going to work on their body cuz men like muscles or like to be fit. But here's the thing. When men get the mind and the body, they get conceited. They get arrogant. Sometimes they get too haughty and they think the stuff don't sting. So it makes it harder for them. And no, that's not the type of man that you want. But guess what? That man, he can be chopped down to size. Meaning with intellectual conversation,
29:03 he will actually hear and he can stretch and he can grow, he can learn. And then a lot of men have the mind and the body, but they don't have the money. And a lot of women who have the mind and the body or have the money don't want to be with a man who doesn't have the money. So, you see how this works and you see why there's so many singles because there's always one piece of the puzzle that's missing. And in that piece of the puzzle that's missing, people don't want to sacrifice. People don't want to they don't want to be in that right there. Y'all, let me give it a little lotion.
30:05 So they don't want to they don't want to sacrifice. So in getting established, you got to invest in you. Give me one second. Let me take a sip of my coffee. You got to invest in you. So here you you have a career. If you don't have a career, you need to
30:51 get a career. like work at the 911 call center, work at customer service, do work from home for like MX or you know a bank or something like that doing customer service like just get a job like you cannot be unemployed. You cannot get if you have if you go go work at the shelter, go work at the dog shelter. Go work I wouldn't work at a gas station. You might get robbed at gunpoint, but it's jobs out there. It's just jobs you don't want. is jobs you feel like you too good for. A man don't care about your job. A real man who is an honest man, he don't care about your job. Let him know you got laid off in tech, you got laid off in government, you got laid off in medical, whatever it is, you got laid off, so you just picked
31:37 up what you could get because you refused to sit on your butt. You refused to sit on your hands. You refused to be lazy. He will love and respect that. Go get a job. The next thing I want you to do is create something that you cannot be fired from. It doesn't even have to make money. If let's say you have zero dollars and you're like, Tony, hey, I want to do the solarpreneur collective. I can't. What can I do? Start a Substack. Go to substack.com and just write like it's your mind dump every day. Wake up every morning, write an article, post it. Write a little note, post it.
32:22 If you don't know how to write, but you know how to talk and you're not camera shy, start a YouTube. Get your cell phone, what you watching me on right now, and just talk to the camera about anything. Whatever you do, if you walk to the store, if you garden, if you knit, if you crochet, sew, if you cook, if you lay in bed, if you watch your grandkids, if you watch your friends kids, your nieces, your nephews, like just talk to the camera. Talk to the camera and post it. Nobody cares. Nobody's paying you no attention. Nobody's judging you. Nobody's hating on you. Just post the content. Post the content. Create something that
33:08 you cannot be fired from. Just start with one thing. I know you got a million ideas. Put them all in a bowl. Draw one. Do that for the next three to six months. Just do that. Don't worry about nothing else. Just do that. And guess what? I guarantee you, you will find success. You'll find success. I'm telling you, if you don't work, you don't eat. But all hard work, the Bible say all hard work receives a profit. Something to that effect. If the Bible says it, it's true.
33:54 It will not return void. Whatever you choose to do, if you work hard at it, it will turn a profit. You just got to do the work and keep doing the work. You can't do it for two weeks and quit. Even when you get a job, what they what they call it, check in the hole. You don't get paid till week three. You got to check in the hole. You got to show up and work then you get paid. So that's what you got to realize and understand. Now on the last part of this, well not the last part but another part of this, I want to talk to you about the outer beauty. The outer beauty is going to be the first thing that a man sees. That's
34:39 the first thing. Now, it goes without saying your body and him being attracted to your body. Your body type. Now, how do you find your body type? And this is just human advice. You will find your body type by working out three times a week, eating clean, and sleeping at normal hours based on the circadian rhythm and eating inside of a window.
35:25 Just like that. You sleep eight hours a night. Phone down. Blue light is done an hour before bed. You stop eating a minimum of 3 hours before you go to sleep. You work out three times a week minimum. Six times a week maximum. Jesus, even God rested a day. So, six times a week maximum. And you eat clean. And I'mma tell you this right here. They say it's no science backing the blood type diet, but I bet it won't hurt you.
36:13 Go do a blood work. Go do a panel. Figure out your blood type. Google the blood type diet. see what it says is advantageous poisonous and I'm I'mma pull it up and give you an example. So the typeo blood type diet is an eating plan created in 1996 by a naturopathic physician Peter Diamo in his book Eat Right for Your Type. So this is actually a
36:59 physician who created this and so but they try to say it's no scientific backing and all of that. According to Damo's guidelines, type O individuals should focus on lean meats and seafood. Beef lamb ve, venison, fish, and poultry. Vegetables and fruits, leafy greens, kale spinach chard broccoli onions and various fruits. And then healthy oils, olive oils. Foods to avoid for type O. I'm type I'm
37:44 type O. That's why I pulled that up. The diet advises restricting restricting or cutting out grains and wheat, bread, pasta, corn, and most whole grains. Legumes and beans, kidney beans, lentils and navy beans, dairy products, milk, yogurt, cheese and butter, certain drinks, alcohol, and coffee.
38:32 I'm drinking a coffee right now. had some red wine last night. I'm That's why I got a gut. That's why I got bags under my eyes. Listen now. Look. Does it work? Science and risk. no scientific proof. Multiple clinical studies and sis systematic reviews, including a large review published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, have found no scientific evidence that blood type determines what you should eat or that the diet improves health based on blood type. Why people might lose weight? Any
39:19 weight loss or health improvement on this plan typically happens because it cuts out un ultra it cuts out ultrarocessed foods. Fast food and excess sugar while encouraging whole foods and exercise potential health risk. Eliminating entire food groups like whole grains, dairy, and beans can lead to nutritional deficiencies and heavy and the heavy focus on high animal protein may strain health if not balanced properly. Medical organizations and registered dietitians recommend focusing on a balanced personalized eating pattern based on your overall health history rather than your blood type. You can learn more about general nutrition perspectives from Ohio State Health and
40:04 Discovery and review scientific breakdowns via Healthline. So that's what I looked up the blood type diet because I was at a dinner for a friend's birthday and we were sitting with a chef and restaurant owner, a couple, and they were like, "Have y'all ever heard of the blood type diet?" Talking to me and my wife. And we were like, "No." And he was like, "What what blood type are you?" And I told him, "Oh." He said, "You crave steak, don't you?" I was like, "Yeah, I do." Like I I'm always like, "I crave like a certain time. I crave red meat." Like steak, burgers. He say blood type O is the only
40:50 blood type that can properly break down red meat. He said, "That's why your body needs red meat." And I thought about it. I'm like, man, I'm Nigerian at my roots, Nigerian and Cameroonian. And you know, the men in n Nigerian and Cameroonian and you know, Nigerians eat really really tough meat and they eat a lot of meat like animal protein and be real tough too. They they overcook it now. But a lot of the men are very strong. You know, my my son bench presses like 180 lbs. He's 19 years old, sophomore in college. I was bench pressing 250 pounds as a senior, junior and senior in high school. And so, and then when I got to college, I was bench pressing 200% of my
41:35 body weight. And so, I've always been just naturally really strong even though I didn't look it. But I thought about that. And then my wife told him her blood type, I can't remember what she is, A positive or something or B, whatever, negative. And he was like, "You like like salads and fish, don't you?" She was like, "Yeah." She was like, "I never eat red meat really, and I don't like red meat, pork." And he was like, "That's because your blood type." So that's how I learned about the blood type diet. So that's what I mean by everybody's body is different. Coach um Jessica Tanner who's in my year coaching program, she is I think she's raw vegan and she teaches a lot about fruits and all of that and things and I post her channel. Even though I'm not raw vegan,
42:21 I still understand that there's health benefits to eating that lifestyle and that it is for some body types and some blood types and some people can do it. She's doing it. She's fine. She seems healthy, living good. Everything going fine. So, but it to each their own. You got to get as healthy as possible. You got to fall in love with doing the work, with working on you and doing what you supposed to do for your body, your hair, your nails, your skin, doing the work. That's the first thing a man is going to see. Now, the other part of the body. So, we went brains, brand body, because remember to be established, that's the brand. First
43:08 part, getting the knowledge that's the brains. Then this last part, your presentation, how you show up, that's the body. So you got to do that work. And the other part of the body is keeping your body count private, keeping your body count low. This is where this casual sex generation, you meet a man, y'all go out for hookah or to the club to eat, y'all go back to his place or your place, you have sex. Man, that makes you a Do not fall for the lie and the trick of, "Oh, you sexually liberated."
43:56 Oh, the sexual liberation used to be able to do what men do. Men do it and men are too. Those of us who were out there moving around, we were Period. You got to understand that you are a Okay? If you're sleeping round, you're horror. It's not it's not about liberation and body positivity and you got sexual knowledge. You are a So I need you to understand that. I need you to feel that and I need you to change that because there is not a single straight man that is going to want a woman who has a high body count
44:43 and is liberal and open and happy about it. You're going to be single. I promise you, you are going to be single. But what about the men? Men don't tell our numbers. Neither should you. If you got a high body count, keep it to yourself. If the men are not going to come out and testify on the stand that they slept with you, it's neither here nor there. It didn't happen. If a man askked you, it's none of your business. Just like I'm not asking you about your business, you will be able to tell how many bodies I have by how I deal with you. Judge me by the content of my character like
45:28 Martin Luther King's head before he went to have his orgy according to the recordings that I listen to. And so you have to understand that a lot of women, well, it's only been 11. It's only been 12. It's only been 23. Well, I'm 60 years old. Of course, I'm going to have 30. Listen. Well, I had a rough past. I was wild in college. Keep it to yourself. Keep it to yourself. Keep it to yourself. Keep it to yourself. It's not about being shamed. It's not about none of that. It's about This is between you and God. Man is not God. Man is not your therapist. Do not tell him all your
46:13 business because he will not forget it and he will hold it against you. Remember, man is not God. You'll hold it against him. You don't hold it against me because I'm your brother. It's like, you ain't got to sleep with me. You ain't got to be with me. So, it's like I could tell you my number and you like it don't really phase you because you can't feel it. You don't have to live with it. You ain't got to deal with it. You know, it's just one of them type of things. I mean, my wife found out after we was already together, we was engaged to be married and I wrote my book. But before that, my number was five. And if a woman askked me, and she probably asking me cuz I asked her, my number was five. I'mma tell you, as a woman, you want to keep that number under five. I don't
47:00 care if it's 105. It need to be the verifiable men. Like, if you was married three times, your number is three. If you got pictures on Google with two men, your number is two. Three men, your number is three. Four men, you men that you dated. Like, you got three baby daddies, your number is three. You got four baby daddies, your number is four. You can have four baby daddies and your number be 18, your number is four. And I'm just telling you this for your safety. Oh, are you telling us the lie? Are you looking for something to argue about? Or are you trying to get a husband? because you ain't perfect. So don't come over here acting holy and righteous. I'm telling you to omit the truth because a
47:47 man cannot handle your truth like God can. So take your problems to the Lord and cast your cares on the everlasting arms of the Lord. If you cast your cares on man, you going to bust your behind. A man can't hold you. A man can't catch you. A man can't cover you. A man can't forgive you. A man can't heal you. Take your problems to your therapist and to God. Do not go to a man want to be a open book, open diary and telling him you done slept with 20ome men. Well, if he can't want me for me, the thing about it is the person that
48:33 you want, you're not wanting him for him cuz you don't know him either. He could have 500 bodies and he's still going to tell you three. So, while you want kudos and cookies for being open and honest and telling all your business, you're not getting cool points. You're getting fool points. Keep your business to yourself. But let me tell you, you could have two partners and then sleep with a man in the first month. And you know what that mean? Now you got first two months. Now you got six partners a year cuz 12 divided by two is six.
49:19 So every year past the age of 18, that's how many bodies you have because that's what you just showed him. JCole told these men that whatever number you say, multiply it by three. What's one time three? Three. What's 2 * 3? Six. You see what I'm saying? So if you say five, he's saying 15. Because these men are raised by rappers. They're raised by rappers. A lot of men were not raised by their father. So whatever Eddie Murphy told them in the movie, whatever JCole or Jay-Z told them in a rap song, whatever
50:05 their favorite athlete said in an interview, that is their Bible and that's what they live by. So understanding the rules to the game, you got to play within the rules of the game. And you can't come out and say, "Well, I'm going to make the game adapt to me." The game is not adapting to you cuz the game bigger than you. So you got to understand, keep your business to yourself. Talk to God in prayer. Well, Tony, I don't want to I don't want to feel like I'm deceiving him. You're not deceiving him. You're protecting him and you're protecting you. So understand what you don't know won't hurt you. And we know that's not true in every case, but in this case it's true for him. What he don't know won't hurt him. Now it's
50:51 different if you have HIV and he's going to contract it. It's different if you have herpes and you don't know how to live with it or you haven't figured out how to exist with it and he's going to contract it. Now you got to tell him. You got to be open and honest with them. But what I tell my clients is at least get to know him first. And yes, he may say, "Well, why did you lie to me?" Well, why didn't you tell me on the first date? Then you can explain to him if I didn't know if we weren't going to be a thing. Why would I tell you my business when you can run out and go tell anybody? And I know you're going to judge me from past experience. And don't act like I'm crazy for learning and
51:37 having wisdom. I had a cry a client on the phone who well several clients on the phone boohoo crying because they told the man that they really liked that they have herpes and that it's either asymptomatic or manageable or they don't really get breakouts. And everyone e every one of them except for one, the man said, "No, thank you." He said, "I'm I'm not going to be able to do it. There's nothing against you, but I'm not going to be able to do it." So, it's hard. And that's why I tell y'all, keep your business to yourself until you have to tell. Because one thing I'mma tell you as a man, if I've
52:24 already fallen in love with you and you tell me that you didn't know how to tell me and you waited because you wanted to protect yourself, but it's also why you weren't having unprotected sex with me or not having sex with me at all because you wanted to find the right time to tell me and then you told me and then but I've already fallen in love with you and especially if y'all didn't already had sex and he didn't contract it, he's going to be a lot more open to hearing it then than on the first date. Now, every man is going to tell you, "I want to know right away." But that's because a man doesn't care about you when he just meets you. He doesn't care about
53:10 your feelings. He care about his feelings. He protecting himself. He protecting his ego. He protecting his time. But if he loses that time and all of that and he can't get that time back and he's falling in love with you, then he's going to look at it totally different. Now, the the one client who told her guy that she has herpes and she act she caught her from a a rapper. Uh at that time was a pretty popular rapper. Um he's not as popular anymore. She caught herpes from a rapper and she told her man. But the thing about it was she was white. He was like
53:59 dark skin, unattractive black. She looked kind of like a everyday version of a Kim Kardashian, like a you know, kind of like that. And so you know the butt implants, breast implants, flat stomach, long black silky hair, you know, clean clear skin, stripper, escort. So just like high high sexual energy, high high femininity, all of that right there. and then had this man who kind of looked like
54:46 a African Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle. So he was like the lady on the podcast I did Lovers by Shan. He was like that I'll take all the herpes. Give me all the her. I want that. Cuz he was so in awe. He was just so ready. Like he was like yes. And he probably was like, "I got it, too. Surprise." So, he probably had it, too. Or he was just like, "Man, I'm good." Like, coming from where I come from, I have seen a lot worse than that. Like, her, oh, that's nothing. But then the black American men,
55:32 they were more like, "Nah, I'm cool." Like, nothing against you. you're you're a great woman. We had great conversation and my clients would just be so hurt. Boohoo! Crying, broke down. And a lot of them caught her after being abstinent for several months, several years, one year, two years, three years. And then the first guy they give into have sex with, spontaneous, chemistry is high, date was amazing. So they just start having sex when they're at home making out. They do it unprotected because it's spontaneous. She wasn't planning to do it. He wasn't planning to do it. So neither one of them got a condom. They have sex. She
56:19 she contracts herpes and not the way she wanted it, not what she signed up for, not what she thought would happen. And the the downside of this is they know a lot of women who have slept with 50 men and don't have herpes, don't have genital warts, don't have HIV, and then they may be like under five men and have contracted a disease. So that's why my message is what it is. It's not about cold sores. You know, everybody in their mama get a a cold sore on their lip. It's not about that. You catch that from your mama. You catch that from your brother, your sister. You You catch it from your uncle, your auntie. It's not about that. I'm talking about your genital area,
57:06 your private area. something to where you have to get naked to contract something down there. Not just drinking off a dirty cup at at the bar that somebody had a cold sore and it would had a little, you know, a little opening and they drunk off the cup and then it went back to the dishwasher and they didn't properly wash it. it come back out you drinking off of it or at the Thanksgiving dinner or your your sister your brother your cousin like I've seen at school with my sons them and even back at my school I just never participated somebody they'll drink a Gatorade and they'll pass around a whole table and 10 12 people will take a sip out of Gatorade they'll have food and every single person will take a bite out the food and just because they don't even know they
57:53 don't even know and that's why they say 85% of people got the strand but you have to realize is all of this comes down to the body, which a man ain't tripping about that. And you can't trip by that either if it's something that's like common like that. But if it's something to where it's your body count, it's a it's a genital um STD, then that's something that you got to tell. Not the body count, but the STD. If he can contract it, you got to tell it. And you got to know when to tell it. And that's why I have these conversations with my clients because I understand human behavior. It's not about sexual education. It's not about what diseases can you live with, what diseases can you be in a relationship with and it not be spread. It's about human behavior and
58:40 how a person is going to view it, how they're going to take it. And if they don't have the same condition, it makes it even harder. So when you put these things together, which essentially what what I did is deconstructed the three Bs, brains, brain, body. This is how you will naturally attract your husband. This is the work. It's not hard. It's just I thoroughly explained it, but it really all breaks down to the three Bs. Brains brand body. So hey, thank you for listening. I know it's hard. It's hard for me to explain with no real slides and note cards and just speaking, you know, from the heart, from the spirit, and with minimal notes.
59:25 And so, understand if I omitted something or if I misspoke or what have you, charge it to my head, not my heart. And I'll keep diving into this stuff and talking about this stuff to sharing the knowledge for those who want it and those who ready, those who need it. And make sure visit tonygaskkins.comprograms. Apply to be in the solarpreneur if you want to learn how to use your gifts, your passions, your purpose to build a business. Join me. Would love to have you in it. The financing is through CLA or Afterpay. So, you'll see that when you get the payment link or there's the link if you if you know you want to be in it, then you there's the link on the page right above the application where
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