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0:01 You researched until you stumbled upon the jurisprudence of the self It's a strive to understand the self in the manner of its Creator Your references are different? What are the dangers of heart illnesses? They're a bride towards many of what we call mental illnesses The problem with modern psychology in diagnosis, origins and methodology Why did you have to dismantle them in this specific way? "I live for my husband and children", it's wrong I don't think anyone listening to the episode thinks... That they should compare their lives to others A common mistake is to deceive others with achieving happiness Who reached the age of 30 is hard to change And when they see such inputs and new information What should they do? Our work during the treatment Focus not on the feelings

0:47 - On the thoughts? - And the behaviors In the jurisprudence of the self, humans consist of a soul and a body? What does the self consist of? How does the self form? Wise but misguided? - How so? - Quran has never dispraised the mind Inputs are the first thing... We now have an illness called Barbie Syndrome - A stereotypical image about feminism? - Have you visited a psychologist before? Welcome to your place, the same spot Doctor, we'd like to talk about the jurisprudence of the self The methodology that you're specialized and interested in

1:32 Which occupies most of your efforts Whether it's described as a topic, science or jurisprudence That's why I'd like to explore this topic with you today I know that you studied medicine Then psychology, then psychiatry Then returned to Psychotherapy You kept searching until you found the jurisprudence of the self What's unique about the jurisprudence of the self? Which isn't found in medicine or general psychology? It's a good question as an introduction I just wanted to comment on a point Fearing that it could be misunderstood despite how correctly you'd mentioned it Upon specializing, I intended to specially in psychology

2:18 But I didn't continue as I felt that using medicine isn't what I wanted I sought the non-medicinal psychotherapy That's why I studied psychology then switched to non-medicinal clinical psychology Why do I mention this? as some might think that I was a medicinal psychologist But I am not, I knew that this isn't what I wanted Now, what's different about the jurisprudence of the self than others in general? This will bring me back to its definition It's good to begin with the definition to save our time The jurisprudence of the self as I define it It's a strive to understand the self in the manner of its Creator That's it A strive to understand the self in the manner of its Creator

3:04 When we say "to understand the self" It means to know what it is Its essence and identity Its components: soul and body Its illnesses, the causes and treatments All "in the manner and guidance of its Creator" Then, what about the rest? Psychology is the descendant of accumulated philosophies Most of which originate from Greece and onward Which completely exclude the spiritual aspect In psychology, you're a material organic being That consists of components, neurotransmitters and other things That's why we can say that Psychology treats you as an evolved animal

3:52 Which is as far as it can be from the jurisprudence of the self - Very far? - For sure They even conflict as I'll soon explain They do conflict We both study this being called the human But their definition of the human is different than mine - Your references are different? - Yes, the origins are different The names and terminologies are different too This is regarding psychology While general psychology and its branches like educational psychology Sometimes I even describe it as "what is known as psychology" I don't like to call it so, as it is neither a science nor defines the human self as we do It's also the descendant of other philosophies like Hinduism, Taoism, Buddhism, Confucianism or others

4:37 Also influenced by the Greek methodologies and others Along with some Persian teachings All of this influenced many of the known schools in modern history I don't like to get into the details now But you can't mention the name of a psychology school founder Without finding an influence by an atheistic philosophy While others are influenced by their personal experience One might have a problem of hating his father in his childhood This philosophy later on develops into a psychology school Another that hates his mother, influencing his psychology school The first if Frued, by the way The second is Maslow of hierarchy of needs

5:23 Another with a big problem of being unable to control himself and his urges His wife was ill with cancer while he went on to have multiple relations committing adultery and as such He later founded a school evolves around not judging the cases Like Carl Rogers and his school And so on, and Eric Ericson, the identity seeker A man born without knowing his father So, he called himself Eric Ericson, Meaning that he's the son of himself and so on So, I usually summarize the difference between the jurisprudence of the self and others It's important to understand an issue when I mention the jurisprudence of the self It's not just my school of teachings

6:08 Rather, it's a strive to understand the self in the manner of its Creator The jurisprudence of the self might be called Islamic psychology by others... Or the Islamic prospective of psychology This was my next question What's the difference between the jurisprudence of the self and others? I disagree with some other names And with some striving honorable brothers That we are still trapped in the cycle We aren't solving the problem Sometimes they ask me why I don't like the name of Islamic psychology? I reply that it's the same as having a hijabi Barbie Your main problem is with Barbie? The problem is trying to reconcile a whole system and culture with Islam So, no matter how much you try, your mindset is tied to their superior culture Which introduced the human self to the experimental laboratory

6:56 While we follow the teachings of Allah and His Prophet Which you have an inferiority complex towards So much that you might find some westerners Which is sad when it comes out from the west And not from some of the people of your religion Not having the same level of pride They ask Muslims where are their own theories? Why haven't we heard anything from you so far? They, themselves, feel sorry for you Some of them, of course, as most don't care nor even want you And you can look at any psychology book now Or any book about the history of psychology You'll find the history since before Christ Until the Middle Ages, then, they jump to recent history

7:41 And to when the laboratory of Font was established But wait, what about our golden age? Where are the advanced books from the first three centuries? Where is Al-Balkhi or Miskawayh... Where's Abu-Bakr Al-Razi? and their works? The people who described melancholy in a way that competes with current descriptions Where is all of that? Even intentionally, as a person with a famous book That was taught for six centuries while accredited to a westerner Until another Orientalist knew that it was stolen from a Muslim scientist When the other person had accredited it to him for six centuries In which there's an accurate description of depression That competes with the current modern description Anyways, what I want to deliver here

8:28 I have a slide that shows an abstract of a person standing Ahead of him are two ways, one is smooth and the other is meandrous They start in parallel, then intersect before dispersing again This is the difference between the jurisprudence of the self and others They differ in foundations, concepts and origins I'll further explain it in a bit They intersect in using some tools Then disperse in their purposes How do they differ in origins and foundations? I originate from the existence of a Creator that created a being and sent revelations While he originates from a being trying to understand a being on his own manner That's why the origins are different from the beginning

9:14 My origin is that our purpose is to worship this Creator As my worship will grant me peace in life and happiness in the afterlife While his purpose is for this self to live with a certain level of joy and happiness in life While the afterlife is discarded as the spiritual aspect is separate My origin is that humans consist of a material body And a spiritual aspect which is the soul While he originates from denying the spiritual aspect And if it existed, it'll have minor attention Where do we intersect? As I'd said, we intersect in studying the same being

10:02 But we differ in its definition So much that some writers... Are so extreme that they think such science shouldn't be called humanities Which are currently being taught, their reason is... Because we differ in our definition of the human For them, the human is an evolved animal For me, the human is a direction creation by a Creator that breathed life into him Therefor granting him the mental capabilities And that we should call them "social sciences" Studying a social being But they shouldn't be called humanities As their origins are wrong to begin with We also intersect in the tools As we also use the methods of observation or experimentation We also use the measurements and induction

10:48 We don't mind using them But they don't believe in Allah's teachings and the Prophet They don't believe in a Creator and in heaven or hell Nor in fate and destiny, they exclude them Then we differ in our purposes too My purpose is to achieve correct worship to obtain Allah's satisfaction and the heaven While their purpose is barely to obtain pleasure And if they failed to obtain it Notice how I said pleasure not happiness As happiness is a far reached dream for them And if they failed to obtain it, they just seek to prevent self-harm or crimes or violence Other than that, they consider you to be mentally healthy When you don't have hallucinations Our purposes are drastically different That's why we differ in our origins

11:36 We differ in the purposes, but intersect in some tools That's it, that's why the difference is huge In diagnosis, when talking about depression Do you have the same definitions for depression or anxiety? It's a good question, it's another issue Definitions impose a big problem, for example In our history, we have something called heart illnesses While they don't even recognize them at all What are the heart illnesses? in our Islamic culture They're a bridge that leads you to misery in life and afterlife Therefore, by treating them, you become healthy While they don't even have a definition for it

12:22 What are examples of heart illnesses? like pride or envy Distrust in Allah or in self - Or distrust in others - The others don't recognize all of this? This entire file identifies those terminologies directly linked to the materialistic organic definition Which have only apparent and sensible symptoms Meaning that in the case of pride for example Our definition of Pride is that it amounts to disclaiming truth out of self- esteem, and despising people Pride leads to eternity in hell And I just gave a lecture yesterday, In which I said if you ask me about my clinical expertise Which disease that I'd like to remove from the world?

13:10 - It'd be pride - Why? Why are there partnerships that fail Because one party refuses to concede Why are there homes that break apart Because the man or woman Refused to admit a mistake and that the other party was right Why are there kids that insist on their behavior Despite the advice of everyone around them? That's why the Prophet defined pride as which amounts to disclaiming truth out of self- esteem, and despising people When a person disclaims truth He feels self-sufficient "I have the right, who are you to grant it to me?" And despising people as mentioned in the Hadith

13:55 If you add this pride to any relationship For me, the hardest cases to treat Are for those who refuse to admit they have problems As they will refuse to even come And if they came, they refuse to speak honestly "I'm just here to listen, because my father asked me to do so" Can you see how dangerous pride can be? Some say that the first sin committed was... Pride, by Satan When he refused to kneel down That's why in order to scare my students I tell them “Don’t have a Satanic breath" "Be careful not to be like Satan" Admit your weakness but never be prideful

14:43 Despite how dangerous pride is, where can it be found in psychology? It slightly intersects with what's called narcissism It slightly intersects But you might find a clearly arrogant person Everyone around him suffer from arrogance He could visit a psychologist yet leave out undiagnosed with anything Even more, the doctor might praise his success too Praising how well he does in his life While he is a person filled with arrogance and sickness The danger of heart illnesses is that they lead to many of what we call today mental illnesses Meaning that this arrogant person is, undoubtedly, After a while, could suffer from a severe case of depression

15:30 He could simply develop borderline disorders For me, I don't occupy myself with the definitions of what's known as psychology Rather, I confront him with his problem of pride And how he keeps himself too busy with others So much that his whole life revolves around proving himself to others Then, how about stop being concerned with others? How about you make Allah your priority? How about you take some rest? Which is known by the scholars of the jurisprudence of the self And its graduates who perform psychotherapy When a client visits the clinic They admit to opening up topics that have been ignored for years

16:18 Why? because they only addressed the surface before - The materialistic? - Not necessarily As the cognitive behavioral therapy addresses some thoughts But it is still just the surface as they are so far from the root cause That's why I return to the question of diagnosis I might disagree so much with the diagnosis As in Islam, sadness in itself is a normal and healthy reaction Moreover, I fear that those who don't feel sadness might have some problems or illnesses So, I don't have a problem with it But sadness could last to a certain degree Which leads the person to what's known today as depression

17:06 For me, sadness could last and I will still not call it depression Why? when the person isn't angry at Allah, his life is continuing Cooperative with others Despite carrying sadness with him We have a famous example about that Yakub -pbuh- when he spent years away from Yusuf -pbuh- He cried until he lost his sight Can anyone dare, despite his sanctity, Let's exclude his sanctity Can anyone dare to describe him as depressed? No, because his life still continued and he continued preaching He still raised his children, but he remained sad and longing for his son - We can't call him depressed - His sadness is justified Yes, but if he reached a level in which his daily job

17:53 And his thoughts towards Allah, himself and others around him When they begin to distort, then we should pause Sadness here turns into what we call despair Which the Prophet sought refuge from The Prophet didn't seek refuge from sadness, but from despair Another example, What's the difference between sadness and despair? Despair is the complete loss of hope Which is an introduction to depression An introduction to depression For example, we all feel fear But not everyone despairs Not everyone panics Fear is normal as it saves you, it forces you to prepare for the exam It prevents you from jumping into the street - To be cautious - Exactly But when fear prevents nurturing and developing

18:43 Then this fear isn't normal It turned into a type of despair and panic Which we call today as panic attacks All the way to clinical anxiety Clinical anxiety So, do we intersect with the general psychology and its diagnoses and treatments? Within some aspects, yes, we do intersect But we surely have origins for definitions And origins to achieve a healthy prospective that's different than theirs I'll give an example of a person that thinks himself to be the center of the universe How a satellite is monitoring him, and his boss is... I ask such person to cure his distrust and to focus on himself

19:31 As the Egyptians say "focus on your paper" That's it If the life of such person is functioning properly Where he goes to work without a problem In psychiatry, he's fine, but for us, he has a problem He suffers from distrust and must be treated When do they pay attention to him on the other side? They wait until he fails to continue his meetings Why? because someone is looking at me "And this one too" Until he has a breakdown and flips the table Only then they diagnose him with paranoia and begin treatment But he had a problem all along, he suffers from distrust I also have a scientific paper that I could send its links to you

20:18 About issues that must be read by whom are interested A paper by Dr. Nizar Al-Aani It's an old paper, more than 20 years ago In which he discusses the crisis of modern psychology In diagnosis, origins and methodologies All while having five patents under his name in general psychology Meaning that he isn't a person from outside of the system Moreover, there's a well-known book too A book called "Saving normal" Notice the title, "Saving normal" It discusses how modern psychology doesn't cure patients, rather it sickens the healthy - Some people agree with that - There are books about it If Allah wills, I might dedicate a full PDF file with references regarding this issue

21:06 - All are western too... - We'll add it to the description My point is that in this book "Saving normal" What does its author say? He wrote a nice phrase in the introduction - He says "If I..." - This is it? Saving normal? Yes, that's it This is the book title, "Saving normal" - What does he say in the introduction? - He mentions... - The author isn't just... - An amateur No, it isn't a conspiracy theory either, He was once a director... Responsible over the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders Which they describe as the Bible of Psychiatry I know about it, I once read it

21:53 - It led me to thinking that we are all ill - Yes - This is what it says - Yes Amazing how quick the search is - It's instant - This is it The crisis of modern psychology in its theory, references, methodology and standards By Nizar Saied Al-Aani, may Allah bless him My point is, what did he say? He said, if you ask yourself... Am I healthy or not? you must add another question too Which is a quick summary... Have you ever visited a psychiatrist or not? Meaning that you'll remain healthy until you visit a psychiatrist You won't leave without having a problem Do you suffer from this? or that? As the methodology that current psychology follows Is influenced by philosophies, as I'd mentioned As they seek to reach a type of the "superman"

22:40 Which is what we call "the delusion of perfection" The holistic human - Who is holistic? - No one So much that that is now a new western proposal That visiting psychiatrists should be the last resort And to accept your weakness Take some pain Don't rush to visit a doctor as you'll leave with more diagnoses that what you actually have Of course, this last proposal is a bit extreme Because being in the middle is always the best "Neither excess nor deficiency" Don't ignore yourself to a dangerous point Nor also exaggerate as how it became a trend over here "I'll visit a psychotherapist" Why? As when a woman once visited me She told me that she seeks to be cured from a phobia

23:28 A phobia from what? "From cats" she said So, I asked her if she lives in a farm, she said no Or if there was a cat shelter nearby? she said no How many cats do you encounter? Then why do you seek to be cured from such phobia? Why? because it became a trend A trend that because I'm so important, I must have a life coach Or a psychotherapist It was much easier before, that's why I have a challenge Or let's keep it for later after I'd replied What did he also say in the introduction other than being healthy He said "If I were to choose to become ill..." "In Baghdad at the eighth century" When the first psychology ward was established in Baghdad during the Abbasids era

24:17 This was eight centuries before the first psychology mental hospital in the west 800 years prior "If I were to choose to become mentally ill in Baghdad during that time" "Or in New York at the current time, I'd choose Baghdad" - A big statement - Yes Why does it make us happy? Because it's rare to hear such confession from an opposing side Other than that, they don't even recognize us Even if you ask them about Al-Balkhi... They won't know him I gathered more than 80 western books About the history of what's called psychology Out of all of them, only three mentioned Muslims

25:03 One mentioned Al-Ghazali One mentioned Al-Balkhi, and Ibn Sina And that's it Where's our culture? especially if I show you the list of our publications And after talking about Erin Francis Let's go back to the challenge which I have been proposing for more than 20 years And so far, no one was able to win it I challenge them to find a mental illness in modern definitions During the first 140 years of the Islamic empire In the first 1.5 centuries I challenge them The huge difference between the jurisprudence of the self I repeat, by it, I don't mean my school

25:48 I mean, any strive to understand the self in the manner of its Creator Some call it Islamization, Islamic psychology, or the Islamic theory It's okay, even though I try to stray away from the name of Psychology As I'd said, I don't want to accept the good and the bad I find what I have to be sufficient And it's okay if we intersect sometimes The big difference is that we believe in a Creator We seek the root causes and treatments We also use different terminologies like heart illnesses All of that still doesn't prevent a person from tribulation But even with tribulations, there are tools that directly lead to solutions Not instantly as in magic but...

26:35 For example, one of the things I'm criticized for "What's the relation between faith and mental illness, Doctor?" "Do you know how many bearded people visit the clinics?" I respond that this is excellent What does that mean? that they're religious So, can I disagree with you? "What do you mean?" What's faith? Is it to recite the five pillars of faith? Is that it? Then, how will I understand a Hadith like "None of you truly believes until..." "Until he loves for his brother" Explain it to me, does it mean they are disbelievers? God forbids But their faith won't be complete They won't reach a good level of faith... And the rest of scriptures with the same meaning

27:22 "He whose neighbor is not safe from his affliction" He might be Muslim and religious But he might have a problem that he always parks his car in front of his neighbor’s garage This is not... And even moreover When the Prophet -pbuh- Advises a person not to get angry Does that mean he forbids him from a normal reaction that Allah had created which is anger? Of course not, but he means... Don't lead yourself to reprehensible anger And I usually use this phrase Don't let others control your emotions Don't make it easy for others to anger you With a dislike or an unfollow

28:09 Don't let that anger you Why do we discuss anger now? Sometimes we need to revise our understanding of terminologies Let's return back to the clinic I can't count how many people that visit, Faisal And I hope I'm understood within the context here People with beards or wearing Niqab or a short Thoub People who follow a certain sect What's beneath the shell? Massive love for Dunya (Life) Pathological attachment to children Problems regarding wealth and real-estate Where is their faith? Where is their belief in fate and submission? Where is their satisfaction?

28:56 One of the many examples I have... Once, I got a call from a woman in Dubai After the greetings, she asked for me She asked to visit my clinic but there weren't available appointments While she must travel next week to London with her mother for her treatment I asked her about the problem, so she said she suffers from aviophobia So, I said, what is requested of me, then? She said "I want to travel" I told her that requires several sessions and can't be done over the phone And in order to find a solution for her I asked her "How is your relationship with Allah?"

29:42 "What do you mean?" She replied "It's not an accusation, I'm asking you about your relationship with Allah?" She said "I visit Quran centers" "I memorize four chapters" and so on Then I asked her again "What's your relationship with Allah?" Even my kids go to Quran centers "You still didn't tell me, how's your relationship with Allah?" I insisted She continued "So much, but I didn't even want to say" "But I take care of some people..." But I insisted but she didn't understand So, I asked her "Are you prepared to meet Him?" Then she exploded in crying "What will happen to my children if I die?" "My husband will remarry and bring them a stepmother"

30:27 Then I asked her "Where have the four chapters of Quran gone?" "And all the visits to Quran centers?" "Then, we suffer from loving life and hating death" Also, an extreme attachment So much that we aren't well prepared to meet Allah Does that mean it's normal? Yes, as when Aysha told the Prophet in a true Hadith that "We'll all hate death" But He replied that "Who loved meeting Allah, Allah loves meeting him" Meaning that you aspire to meet Allah upon dying While it's normal in life to fear death Why did I mention this example? which has a complement Ten days later, she called me from London I joked with her and asked her "Where are you now?" Because back then, the caller number shows zeroes

31:15 In international calls, the caller number doesn't show Just zeroes Then I asked her "Did you walk all the way there?" She said "No, I took the flight, it was tough" And I quote a very nice phrase she said She said it was hard at the beginning "Then I remembered what you said, then..." "The higher the plane went" "I see the world getting smaller" "Then all the land disappears" "And when we went above the clouds" "I thought that everyone that I worry about have disappeared" "And the only one remained above me is the one who I'm not ready to see" Which is what I said before So, I told her that her rights aren't reserved

32:02 I'll quote this phrase, and indeed I did Back again, this woman that called me the first time Is she a believer or not? - She is - Yes In the general sense of belief Is it the same belief as after the call? No, belief isn't just one word That's why when people complain about it being harsh As people can't carry more burdens Because Dr. Abdulrahman talks about how believers should be like I don't claim anyone is a disbeliever, God forbids But I mean, how... As if you tell an obese person that he has a problem with not exercising

32:48 What does that mean? you don't exercise Do you mean that I am...? Yes, I do Should I lie? You have a problem that you don't exercise You eat junk food and consume carps You're too lean Eventually, diagnosis isn't shaming It isn't shaming, but we are too sensitive Even some specialists tell me that I shouldn't add more burden to people Let's assume I don't How about I tell them they just need to work on their belief? Is it better? sugarcoating the matter? I just said that his faith needs more work I'd like to begin dismantling the topic of psychology But we have the important example of not reserved rights

33:39 Thinking about it, people could be fans for some clubs While others are fans of only the club’s identity By just getting used to the club until it became part of his identity But does that mean they are really fans for the club? Let me tell you some practical examples during my current visit to Kuwait I was in a lecture and I told the attendees And I always feel like out of honesty towards the people That I shouldn't be too soft As I always identify myself in my lectures as a doctor, not a coiffeur The doctor's job is to identify the problem Then, we mentioned the topic of faith and mental illnesses

34:25 So, I told them "Let's be realistic" "Is it faith to break down if you fail to get a Coco Chanel purse?" "Or if you couldn't get the Bentley car?" "Or if your food order arrived a bit cold?" "Is it faith?" For sure, it isn't And for sure, no one could claim that I have faith While I spread chaos in the house after seeing a woman in a holiday trip with her husband in Bangkok or elsewhere Why don't I have the same? For sure, no one can claim this is faith Why did I mention this? Because such people have weak spiritual muscles

35:11 Unable to handle distress Or separation Not even that... A broken phone screen... Are we fooling ourselves? Tell me that you have problems with some concepts of faith Then let's work on them As when a person goes to a nutritionist "You have a problem understanding Cholesterol and diet and else" But people are too sensitive of judgment "Don't judge me" I don't judge, even if I do, but I tell that Let's just work together to reach where you should be at There's an importance concept that we might mention later, which is reassurance

35:57 We all memorize this Quran verse "Ta, Ha. We have not sent down to you the Qur'an that you be distressed" Which means why else would we send you down the Quran? It is called the concept of the opposite It means that Allah sent down the Quran for the opposite of distress So, to be reassured or satisfied The question now is... Whom does this verse address? The Prophet -peace be upon him- Some interrupt Ta, Ha as "O' man" or "O' Muhammed" Did the Prophet go through distress or not? So, what do I mean by distress? Who answered to this question? The end of the same chapter "O Adam! verily, this is an enemy to thee and thy wife" Which is the devil

36:43 "So let him not get you both out of the Garden, so that thou art landed in misery" This will give you an error In the beginning He said "We have not sent down to you the Qur'an that you be distressed" Then at the end, He says "let him not get you both out of the Garden, so that thou art landed in misery" How so? let's continue a bit afterwards "Indeed, it is [promised] for you not to be hungry therein or be unclothed." "And indeed, you will not be thirsty therein or be hot from the sun." Until He said "Descend from Paradise - all," "Being enemies to one another. And if there should come to you guidance from Me - then whoever follows My guidance will neither go astray [in the world] nor suffer" The solution of the problem As suffering is either spiritual or material The material suffering is the descendance from heaven Since you feel thirst, hunger or heat, this is suffering Everyone shares it, all the rich and the poor

37:30 You always say that in the jurisprudence of the self, humans are a soul and a body Why did you have to break it down like this? Not in any other way? We'd like to talk about the body and the soul Let's get to know their definitions and nature Nice, I thought you wanted to begin with dismantling the jurisprudence of the self itself As it has a known trinity But if you meant dismantling the human self - This is what we are discussing - Dismantling the human self First of all, this isn't just me, I'm not a prophet Peace be upon them all I'm not a pioneer in discussing the human self All humans attempted to dismantle the human self Why? as when I tell you that there's a problem here

38:17 And when you attempt to find it You'll begin by thinking about what it is made of? That's why we defined the jurisprudence of the self as a strive to understand the self in the manner of its Creator Usually when I explain this to young students in my school I tell them that it's like a phone You use an android phone Can you attempt to install iOS system on it? Why? different products, I knew that when I dismantled it The hardware, software, chipsets and else... The human self is the same thing I must know what this self is made of So that I know how to treat it I can't handle it without knowing its components That's why we have two questions that confuse many people

39:05 What is the self-made of? And how does the self form? What is it made of and how does it form? It is made of a soul and a body How it forms is a different story Let's now return to the example of the phone What is the phone made of? - From hardware and software - Yes How is it formed? Using aluminum, copper and other materials Undergoing industrial processes After it is sold, its owner could add applications to it And it recharges Furthermore, why is this phone more expensive than this one? Even though the components are almost the same But this one is different, why? Because of a better memory Not just that, if you were to get it now...

39:52 The owner will edit the camera settings Notice that, despite having the same components But he developed it So, what are the components of the self? How it forms? what processes does it go through? Until it becomes Faisal, Abdulrahman or Muniera or anyone else Those are different processes Despite that we all have a soul and a body But your own soul or body, which we call "nature" Your nature is different than mine Different than the others Returning to your first question, what are the components of the self? In short, our Quran and Prophetic scriptures Upon studying them You'll find that there was a body in which the soul was breathed

40:41 That's it I'd like, for the first time, If you have a transparent glass - Is there one? - A transparent glass If we removed the sticker... - Yes, please - Just remove the sticker I like to give this example In order to facilitate understanding the self And what is the relation between the body and the soul with the self? When Allah mentions the soul, does He mean the self? In short... The word "body" refers to this material body which we know Which consists of skin, muscles, bones Proteins and chemistry, to the brain and the heart

41:30 All of this is the body But separately, what do we call that? Can we call it a self? - Imagine a lifeless body - We call it a corpse Yes, it is a corpse The word "body" Is this soulless object By adding the soul to the body Then, it becomes a "being" A common mistake is saying "the body language" - Which is a common mistake - It should be the being language Because without life, there is no language So, there must be life In order to show emotions Just add some powder to it... This empty body, the corpse

42:15 Isn't called a self without its software Which is the soul Both formed a new component called the self So, the soul and body become the self Together, they're called the self I wanted to... I wanted to ask you about the difference between the soul and the body but you answered it Nice, nice, nice Can I call something with a different name? Yes, as in figurative language Meaning that, for example... Let's pause That's excellent Does it appear in the camera? Can you see the black color? Excellent

43:02 This is the first time... I carry out this experiment in a podcast Yes Okay, let's begin In the name of Allah - Should I continue? - Yes, please Now, we said there's a body and a soul The body is the physical object from the realm of Shahada The physical object Which is what is the example of the phone? - The hardware - Yes The soul is this spiritual unseen element That the body can't function without It is what makes him think Before that, it causes him to come to existence

43:49 In the womb during development It gives him the instincts And the ability to think and form thoughts This factor is called the soul The reason why I asked for this Let's imagine that the powder inside Represents the body While the water here represents the soul Before I do anything - Can I call this powder a coffee drink? - No - Excellent, can I can this water as coffee? - No Okay, now What do I have now? Now I have a coffee drink This is the human self

44:36 It consists of a body in addition to a soul A body and a soul Now, this new component Has water and coffee ground The human self is also made of a body and a soul Some might find a linguistic issue over here "Wait a moment, doctor" When I say I, myself, thought Yes, you're referring to the element that did the thinking What thinks isn't the brain cell It's something within the cell, almost like electricity When I say, I, myself, like... Yes, you refer to this soul element that likes and dislikes

45:23 So, the self forms when the soul merges with the body? Yes, the proof on that... That you can't find the word "self" in Quran In other than two meanings The first is a linguist one meaning the same Like "I read the same book" Or the exact one An example is when Eisa -pbuh- said: "You know what is within myself, and I do not know what is within Yourself" We can't hear say it means a soul and a body Rather, he means that You, God, know what I have within me... And I don't know what's within you It's another meaning, like in "has come unto you a Messenger from amongst yourselves" Which is an absolute linguistic meaning It means the being of the thing

46:10 While the other meaning that matters to us refers to this being that thinks and feels This meaning must include the soul and the body So, you can't find the word "self" in Quran or Sunnah Without meaning the merging of both elements Some say "my personality is different with my friends" "Than with my parents" "Than with my wife or siblings" So, when they all gather during a social occasion I get confused on which personality should I use The formal personality to satisfy my parents And my friend will understand this But I mean that some claim that... Your personality, along with a good amount of flexibility, Must also have unified concepts and values

46:56 Whether in marketing during your job Or while raising your children Excuse me for I'll intervene a bit in your specialty You have something in media called... Called the ID The branding, and how everything must follow the ID What's the ID? it's the identity No matter where you go, it's even called visual ID A visual ID, okay? While in our society, we lost our identity We now have an identity for the career And one for marketing, and one for social life But I should be myself Meaning that this Abdulrahman sitting with you is the same one with his wife And the same one in his isolation time with Allah

47:42 But each require different social skills For sure, my privacy with my wife or daughters Is different than with you, but eventually, But I'm not a person that applies Allah's rules only with my wife While I apply different concepts with you That's why, another factor that keeps the jurisprudence of the self solid against other theories In one of my slides, I say... I'll still mention all the modern time psychology scholars And let's imagine they all excelled Despite how some haven't, but let's say so

48:30 Still, the self is one no matter how different they are That's it, you could fill in the gaps So, should I raise according to Frued’s psychoanalysis method? Or to Ericson's method? Or to Rogers or Alber Elise's methods? That's why I think we turned into lab rats Now, the trend is to be calm Tomorrow it will be a psychological complex With root causes from the childhood and so on Then another opinion appears Who dictates this change? Whom should I follow? - I can't just... - How about who went through a hard childhood? - How they are... - By the way, I think...

49:20 Didn't Dr. Emad discuss this matter in his episode? Yes, he did Because he excels in this topic In short, what did I say before? The new modern psychology has become fragile It's fragile and fears judgment Let me give you an example from our history The Prophet - peace be upon him - Found Al-Hasan eating from the charity dates Okay... Is that a problem? Yes, the family of the Prophet don't eat from charity That's why the Prophet removes it from his mouth If this happened in the current time

50:05 You won't believe that the Prophet had done it You will call it child abuse Causing trauma to the kid Despite that, Al-Hasan grew to be the master of Jannah's youth And the leader of the year of Al-Gama'a I mean the real abuse like aggressively hitting the child Let me give you a general answer Any pain within a reassured context - Won't cause a problem - We all agree on that Even it is real pain that hurts But while knowing his father loves him But, pain in an abnormal context Is a rough tribulation for the children Notice how I said it is a tribulation, not that it'll surely cause complexes

50:53 Meaning that they will be in a bigger need for social skills In order to overcome what happened to him But, in a book for Malcolm Gladwell Called "David and Goliath" In which he says that children who grew up within challenges Tend more to find happiness in their future than others Why? because their immunity became stronger They became more resistant and skillful While the spoiled children that get all they want Will find a lot of trouble in real life - So, there could be... - More challenged than others

51:41 There could be a relation or not But, for sure, as a parent In essence, you must not be deviant You must be righteous And if you had to discipline a child As the famous saying "no pain, no gain" But this pain must be within a reassured context That's why you must have heard about it Especially with the older generations They fondly remember how their fathers used to hit them All while smiling Wait a moment, are you normal? Moreover, they might cry while remembering them Wait, do you cry for this parent? Yes, because he loves me May Allah bless him Because it was within a reassured context But we do have bad examples now

52:30 That reach up to psychotic behavior So, if a parent When you hear the stories of domestic abuse and psychological torture You'll say they're deviant, and for sure, the children will face hard challenges Does that mean he'll for sure grow up to be ill? no On the contrary, do you know what? Sometimes, the opposite happens as they refuse to become like their parents Exactly... That's why we usually say... There are inputs, processes, outputs This is the question which I wanted to lead to You took the question from me; what does the self consist of? It consists of three things Inputs, processes and outputs I began with the children question to lead to these factors You have three factors that make up the self

53:17 Which you always mention, inputs, processes and outputs How can we understand the inputs to start with? Let me just close off the topic of what consists the self It consists of a body and a soul - I hope everything is clear - It is We can take this away now Since we concluded the topic... We could keep it here between us Okay... You don't want it? Muniera seems to think It doesn't go along with our ID No, it doesn't - Okay - God bless her Now, let's get into how the self is made up? In order to give a comprehensive answer We give three answers to this question One of them is what you'd mentioned Which is an elaborate answer But I'll get to an objection to it

54:02 We have three similar answers But some answers use Islamic terminologies While others have modern terminologies as you'd mentioned Inputs, processes and outputs The first comprehensive answer is nature and nurture - Nature and nurture? - Yes - Which is nature and nurture - Yes The second is knowledge and work The third is inputs, processes and outputs Let's elaborate the first, what do nature and nurture mean? Allow me to use ourselves as an example Abdulrahman consists of nature and nurture You too as well The nature is either general or special The nurture is either compulsory or voluntary Let's elaborate each one Both of us have a general nature

54:47 We both feel hunger, thirst, love We love to be loved and praised We seek warmth We seek joy We are attracted to the opposite sex And so on, all of which are general natures So, could attraction to the same sex be a nature? - No - It is not? It can't be a general nature We'll get to that later if we have the time Okay The special nature is what's now called as character types Among your brothers... You have a special talent Since young age, you've been noticed to be quiet Or to be talkative

55:33 Or committed to something This is the special nature Especially with twins Yes, exactly What's strange is that we haven't yet found experimental evidence of a gene related to this - Can you imagine that? - We still don't know We have religious evidence, but not a scientific experimental one What is scientific experimental evidence? They still haven't found genes connected to particular characters But we have a Hadith by the Prophet talking to Ashaj Abdul-Qais "You possess two qualities that Allah loves. These are clemency and tolerance." So, he replied "Is it a nature that Allah had put in me?" Meaning that is it pre-installed? Or did I acquire it? to which He replied "Allah had put in you"

56:20 So, he said "Praise to Allah for giving me a nature that He loves" So, we have religious evidence That some traits could be given to you by Allah Good, sometimes I pause here Let's assume, or before that, You won't be held accountable for anything will be mentioned here except for the fourth part You won't be held accountable for the first three things? No So, we divided nature to general and special While nurture is what you acquire after the nature Do you remember the phone example? What's the general nature in the phone example? The general nature in the phone? - That all phones... - Run out of battery, for example They all require a battery They need to be recharged While the special nature is like a bigger memory for certain phones

57:08 - Or special cameras? - Yes And nurture is either compulsory or voluntary In our example, the compulsory nurture is our parents We didn't choose them The time in which you were born, it's also a compulsory nurture If you walk in a street filled with advertisements This is compulsory nurture Anything acquired by the self after the nature is called nurture This is regarding the compulsory nurture In the example of the phone, what's the compulsory nurture? The pre-installed apps Yes, which you can't uninstall - Can you? - Of course, When I buy a new phone, the first thing I do is uninstall everything The apps which I can't uninstall, I force stop them Why uninstall them? It occupies the memory and I don't need them - You don't use them? - No, if I showed you my phone now...

57:56 Just the clock, the phone icon and telegram - Just that - Yes You must download YouTube to watch us, doctor Not on my phone, maybe on the laptop But this is my only use for the phone Are you subscribed to us? I don't recall Because, which will confuse you, - Even my channel - You don't control it? It doesn't have comments or likes - Just the content - Yes In order to avoid occupying the self with the matters of followers and numbers For you, you must need to know the feedback - But for me... - Your aim is different - This is the third part which is... - The compulsory nurture - Yes - Okay Which is now called nurture which comes from the environment and so on

58:44 Which are the inputs also Now for the voluntary nurture In our example, It is our choice on whom to befriend or what to wear It is a choice when you called and invited Abdulrahman And Abdulrahman's choice is to agree or refuse Also, choosing your religion after research is also voluntary nurture Why are these four things important? First of all, they explain many things about the self Secondly, you don't get held accountable for the first three things Allah doesn't hold you accountable for the general nature which He'd given to you Nor for the special nature Nor for the compulsory nurture Rather, for the voluntary nurture which is your work "And that there is not for man except that [good] for which he strives" "And that his effort is going to be seen"

59:29 This is your job which Allah had appointed for you in order to refine the other three - To refine them - Yes That's why, one might say that his nature is attraction towards the same sex Excellent, what about his voluntary nurture? You insist on going to their cafes To wear their clothes and watch their channels I don't mean this, but a person who is by nature and not by choice... - Is attracted to the same... - We are yet to have evidence of that Even the west tried to find a gene But failed, which is a long story At first, their slogan was "it isn't my choice" Until the NIH organization in America announced

1:00:17 That after many research, they didn't find a gene controlling this This was a shock; they wanted someone to them it isn't their fault So, they changed the slogan to "It's my choice" We want to be like that... After all, you must want this When I tell you we don't have any genetic factor related to this Because there are many misconceptions During the first years of the child, they experience many things Which explain their actions when they grow up Do you know how many months, weeks and days in four years? Years of exposure, while we think it is natural, how so? The nurturing began since their birth

1:01:03 Where does it come from, then? In my personal opinion... Part of it is private nature which is to test them And compulsory nurturing from things like parents’ treatment Their relationship, the abuse The harassment, which is one of the reasons But people pay more attention to it than others We don't have a proof that anyone gets harassed No, there are people who were harassed and still grew up to become healthy adults Who then become parents without problems Also, the issue of changes related to puberty The first puberty experience might be with one of the same sex Which moved certain feelings for them

1:01:49 Or a person with rejection as their first experience with the other sex Which led them to seek affection from the same sex There are many things that contribute Within the second and third factors And also, the voluntary nurturing too - Which is? - I have a story that I always mention A person brought in by his mother in the American hospital in Beirut She told me that he was engaged with a healthy relationship, by which she means... That his affairs still continued And he was engaged Suddenly, his fiancée told the mother That he has become strange and stopped approaching her

1:02:35 And stop reacting to her When she confronted him, he said that he will stay like that Since he's so and so Anyways... When I talked to him, I told him Your mothers says so and so, and he approved He said that he met with a person during a cultural exchange program This person took him to a gay club That's it He got stuck He liked it, as a trend He tried then got stuck So, he stopped feeling the same for his fiancée And stayed so - This is the fourth factor? - Yes, voluntary nurture That's why most of our treatment now

1:03:22 In this matter are voluntary nurture treatments By changing their clothes style and the places which they go to Change your company and TV channels Which all discuss the same topic Showing them as heroes and as such Then let's see when the input changes What happened to the process and outputs? So, the inputs are the first thing Whether in the topic of same sex attraction or... In order to broaden the topic more What are the inputs that people could go through... - That could affect them? - compulsory nurturing, in short, We begin measuring it at home Home, whom and what is in it Meaning the furniture

1:04:08 Even the bathroom faucet The shampoo, the soap, everything All of these are inputs that affect me, so much... That we have a disorder called "Barbie syndrome" Which is internationally recognized A researcher wrote about syndrome it called "The body image" In which she dedicates a whole chapter About the Barbie complex for American girls And how a whole generation in America That Barbie had disfigured its feminine identity How girls should have certain body features - Which aren't normal - This greatly affected them? Why did I mention this example? Because Barbie is just a doll at home Imagine, a doll at home But girls grew up with this doll

1:04:56 - Representing the female - A stereotypical image of feminism? For sure Therefore, the couch The closet, the wardrobe All are repeated inputs that create things within the self That later change into what we call as habits And the parents too Their characters, conversations, loud voices The screens that top the walls of every home Which I call "the idol in every house" We look into what and who is in the house Then, outside on the street Which I call "the hidden factor" People complain about how their children say words that they don't use at home

1:05:43 Despite going to respectable schools But what about the street? With all its advertisements, chattering and language Sadly, many people ignore this And the markets, needless to say You must have witnessed this in your work too They say that in a cosmopolitan city - Which is... - A city that's culturally diverse Yes, culturally diverse Or culturally crowded When you take a walk there You'll encounter around 700 to 1200 advertisements every day without being aware And they mention examples in cities like Singapore, Hongkong and Dubai

1:06:29 And New York also By walking, you'll encounter around 800 to 1200 advertisements without noticing And when you go buy a product You won't know why you'd bought it but it was repeatedly forced on you many times This is the basics of marketing products This will lead us to the issue of value I mean, is this advertising tool... Which is forced onto you, do we have a problem with the tool itself? Or with exposure to advertisements? The tool stays a tool For a banner is just a board It could show bad content -Or good content - But you... It will still influence you

1:07:16 For sure, repeated exposure will defiantly influence you By the way, this brings us back to the voluntary nurturing - While the other type is compulsory nurturing - Which you aren't held accountable for? Yes, like the issue of lowering the gaze Will you be held accountable for an ill-dressed woman on the street? No, you'll be held accountable for your voluntary nurturing - For the voluntary nurture - Not the first gaze? While not for the compulsory nurture But the problem is... That when the compulsory nurture is overly repeated Might have worse impacts more than you could imagine You might say that you avoid gazing But you still visit malls

1:08:03 In which most people are ill-dressed causing repeated compulsory nurturing A lot of repeated first gazes, by which you get used to it That's why I assume that one of the reasons why we no longer give advice or show guidance Is because we got too used to it Meaning that your eyes got used to it So much that it no longer drives you to give advice and guidance At least, I must feel bad about it Why? because of a process called desensitization In which your threshold is lowered... Or became higher, hard to stimulate

1:08:48 Or hard to function and work It doesn't easily ignite And I should return back to the issue of inputs But in a quick manner... The market, street, club or cafe are all hidden factors The cafe which you choose is filled with inputs Which is voluntary nurture by the way It's a voluntary nurture to compulsory inputs Then, the role of the educational institution Needless to talk about the schools and academia The type of teachers and workers in them The cars in which the students arrive in and their drivers All are inputs that influence you They affect your subconscious? - They affect your self - Okay Whether you call it brain or subconscious

1:09:35 All are things within the self Your role is... To do a very important practice which is called abstinence Your ability to abstain and be aware of what's happening Before this point... This is the solution, right? We still want to continue discussing the processes - The inputs are now clear - Also, the religious institute too The mosque, the Khutba, the preachers and the media All factors of this - The same with music - So, anything that can be seen? We define inputs as everything received by the self Everything received by the self Al-Ghazali says that senses are the portals of the self It's true, but we say... They are two-way inputs

1:10:21 They receive and send, so when I look at you now... My eyes send you certain messages which is an output At the same time, it receives your outputs too Also, the job institution contributes The companies, real-estate, hospitals All these inputs are regarded as compulsory nurture While my job is voluntary nurture Why? When I get dressed before the mirror Is my outfit considered an input, process or output? - The outfit is an output - Yes, correct This output is the result of my processes Which is controlled by my preferences Which is also highly affected by the inputs

1:11:09 Your job is to work on the processes and outputs Because, which is strange to many people, That your outputs will become your inputs in the first place We still haven't explained the outputs or processes? I know, because you used the word inputs So, your voluntary nurture Will turn to compulsory nurture for you first before anyone else How so? for example, every time you leave the house Or every time you enter, you put your... Shoes in its place, nice? This is voluntary nurture That turned to compulsory nurture as your eyes witnessed the act By repeating it, you see it again

1:11:57 So, your action with repetition will turn into a habit So, the habit is the repeated voluntary nurturing Yes, which turns to compulsory nurturing for you first before others Then it will be transferred to your brother Or sister, or anyone else - This is the first theory - So, I can be a compulsory nurture to another person? - Of course, - And I can influence others this way For sure, this is true In the jurisprudence of the self, we say We first define the human self as an existent being, then a created being Its existence means it has an influence This is just a cup here It exists; does it have an influence? - It does - What is the influence? - Its influence is that it... - Don't get into deep meaning

1:12:47 Let's keep it simple It reduces thirst This is its content, imagine it is empty - The cup? - Yes What is its influence? - I don't get it - Okay, I'll move my hand now - You could drop it... - Excellent So, its influence limited my movement It took space It reflected the light All while it is just a cup For us it is just a piece of paper Needless to say, the influence of a human I got it now Imagine how severe it is when saying someone is worthless No one is worthless But, doctor, some people have weak personalities Yes, and their first influence is when you realized their weakness... Which strengthened your personality

1:13:33 So, you said you're stronger compared to them Or when you say someone’s, existence is worthless This is a false statement Their existence showed you the strength of others that's why they are weak No one is without an influence, and let me take an ethical jump... If an ill-dressed woman walks down the street After advising her, she responds that it's her freedom I reply that this is excellent We won't talk about religion, rather about the existence and influence Does your existence have an influence? if she said no, she'd belittle herself Right? when she says she has no influence And if she said yes, then let's see what this influence is There are light waves that reflected off of this body Which my eyes have received

1:14:20 Stimulating my brain and testosterone and influenced me "So, don't look" Excellent, then your existence affected the freedom of my sight So, what's the solution? How about I keep looking? And I'll gaze too She'll sue me, but why? "Your gaze offended me" but it is just a Lightwave reflected on you The same thing, so why do you consider your influence... Do you get it? I mean that the issue of existence and influence And you can imagine the influence of the objects around us And the people, which we call "the objects and beings" All have influences Nothing is without influence And I have an example that usually touches the audience

1:15:12 The seed which a mother just felt at the beginning of the pregnancy Is a being that we just got to know about its existence Suddenly, the period stops After some tests, she finds out she's pregnant A being that might not even feel its own existence Causes the mother to cry Then begins celebrating Her life changes Changed her schedule The opposite might also happen in the form of pregnancy depression Caused by the fear of giving birth of changed body image Moreover, I know about stories For fetuses that led their atheist parents to convert to Islam I know people, personally, Upon knowing about the pregnancy

1:15:57 Their opinions about the universe, fatherhood, mercy And the divinity began changing Which is the influence of a being that you can't see yet You still haven't seen it, needless to mention... So, sometimes they say... How some enthusiastic young people during the events act They write "I passed through here" But, guys, just your existence has an influence It is a matter of whether it's a good or a bad influence From here emerges a word which we all know which is character Where is its root word? It's the word "persona" Which means mask in Latin Encompass the role being portrayed, Which represents the actions of the person The persona is the role

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