0:00 guys as of the making of this video I'm 54 years old and nowadays I avoid people and on this video I want to tell you exactly why let's talk about it now here's the deal guys I like people right but frankly I want to protect my mental peace at this stage in life guys Peace of Mind means everything right this right here is more important to protect than any other thing I can think of at 54 years old my mental peace is a priority at this age I found that avoiding toxic people toxic relationships or overly negative people that helps me sort of maintain some emotional stability if that makes sense guys let me know in the comments if you can understand what I'm saying in terms
0:45 of the importance of mental peace there are times guys at the age of 54 that I will take mental peace over money any day all day now another thing or another reason that I sort of avoid people is my time as I've gotten older guys I've sort of put more of a emphasis and priority on my time the value of my time and I have a much clearer understanding nowadays that you know time is running out for me and so I need to be more intentional with how I use my time and sometimes avoiding people helps me do that so I prefer you know if I'm going to spend my time then I prefer more meaningful interactions as opposed to some of the superficial stuff look when you look around you and you start seeing
1:33 people your age dying every day right it makes me become a little more stickler about my time and how I use my time and it makes me try to be more intentional with my time because time is precious right the older you get the faster time goes and so I want to be intentional about it therefore I try to avoid certain people certain situations that people are in because I don't want to waste my time now another reason I sort of avoid people nowadays is prioritizing my health look people can be stressful let's just be real about it people can be sort of a lot of stress on you and that can affect your physical health right stressful relationships can negatively impact the way you feel in your physical body and can increase the
2:18 potential risk of things like heart conditions heart attacks diabetes high blood pressure all these things that are triggered by stress and sometimes avoiding NE negative people or negative situations that involve people that can impact your health more than we even know now another reason I sort of avoid people nowadays guys is focusing on my own personal growth right at the age of 54 look I want to pursue new hobbies I want to pursue uh new things get new information new experiences like involve myself in self-improvement activities right meet new people and things in those activities right but when all is said and done at the end of the day I really really really prefer Solitude or at least being around like-minded people
3:05 now this is not to sound selfish right or or overly introverted necessarily right because I strongly believe in helping and giving and doing what you can to provide value for other people and other people's lives you know like donating time donating my energy donating money and gifts and talents and all that good stuff right helping other people is important to me but there's also nothing wrong with just shutting it down sometimes and spending some time by yourself so you can focus on personal growth or getting better at something learning something new a new hobby or something that's an interest of yours right there's nothing wrong with just shutting it down and avoiding people now another thing I don't like is I don't like drama look at this age I'm trying
3:50 to avoid as much drama as humanly possible Right life has taught me guys that unnecessary drama or unnecessary conflicts with people is just not worth the emotional investment that it requires so at the age of 54 I'm not trying to get wrapped up into what I call OPD right you know there's OPM other people's money I'm not trying to get caught up in OPD which is other people's drama right I don't want to have nothing to do with OPD other people's drama but hey drama queens and drama kings are out there looking for you lurking behind closed doors and behind the trees watching you for when they can involve you in their mess or
4:36 their issues or their problems and if you're not careful if you don't avoid these people they will have you losing your natural mind with their issues and at 54 years old I'm going to avoid those people cuz I don't want to go there look I like and appreciate my solitude alone time is good right being alone can be fulfilling it gives you time to think gives you time to reflect it gives you time to visualize to dream to be creative to build something to think about what you want to produce or achieve next I mean there's all types of positives to alone time where you can relax without the pressure of conforming
5:22 to someone else or other people's expectations or just social expectations when you're alone you don't have to conform to any of that and you ain't even got to think about not conforming right you just enjoy who you are so for me alone time can be very very productive right I can get recharged when I'm alone right I can get I can start to think and start to really begin to be introspective when I'm alone and also you know this is a finance channel here on YouTube and for me I like keeping those financial boundaries because some relationship ship come with financial pressures right there's some relationships that you have out there where you feel like you have to perform
6:08 a certain way in terms of financially in order to deal with certain people right like lending money to people or people asking you to borrow money or maybe feeling obligated to spend money you know go on vacations do things that your friends are doing because they're doing it and you want to fit in right sometimes these relationships put Financial pressure on you and often times when you're alone it's easier to have those financial boundaries and you got Just Energy Right social interactions especially with demanding people they can be exhausting because they sap your energy from you and drain you and you can feel it in your body in your mind mentally emotionally you can feel yourself being drained by somebody else so for me avoiding people sometimes
6:56 gives me the opportunity to conserve some energy for more meaningful activities more productive activities so often times guys I avoid people and sort of limit my social interactions to Simply protect my energy listen as you get older you got less energy it's automatic it's called biology so if you want to preserve that energy sometimes you got to avoid some people and speaking of avoiding some people sometimes as you get older you got to shrink your Social Circles look the older I get the less friends especially close friends that I have and to be honest with you the older I get the less close friends I really want I mean think about the friendships you form early in life right they're usually based on proximity you're around certain people
7:42 as you're growing up and you're going to school and they automatically become your friend some do right you share the same environment you got your work environment you have these people from your job that you work around 8 hours a day 10 hours a day and they sort of become your friends some of them and you got your parenting Act activities that you take your kids to and all of a sudden you know dads are talking to dads and moms are talking to moms and next thing you know you you form friends that way usually it's about who you're around in your environment how you get friends along the way but the older you get let's say when your kids are grown and gone and you don't you you go to work come home go to work come home and next thing you know you you have certain friends from certain activities but for the most part your activity starts shrinking and then your Social Circle of Friends it starts to shrink too right
8:29 you change jobs maybe you have a new set of folks on the job and some of those natural built-in Social Circles they begin to change as you get older and your circle shrinks and you know what for me I'm okay with that because of all the reasons that I've mentioned here on this video for me as I've gotten older it's become quality over quantity and protecting my mental and my physical it's not to say that I don't like people but these are the reasons why I sort of avoid people nowadays and I try to invest my time and energy into genuine supportive relationships and that means distancing myself from more superficial people and superficial relationships and that makes my Social Circle shrink as
9:15 I've gotten older so those are some of the reasons why at the age of 54 I just avoid people nowadays and I limit my social interactions what say you let me know your thoughts on this topic guys do me a favor and drop a comment below and let me know if you can relate to any of the things that I've talked about in this video hey the best person who's going to take care of the old you is the young you guys take good care of yourself and take care of other people until the next video peace
