0:01 In the name of God Today is the 19th of November 2020 This is the fifth video about the foundation of the understanding of addiction We will answer a question or something that you touched in the comments and lived it and touched it with almost everyone who was suffering from an addiction problem or sometimes even behavioral problems and sometimes some diseases or psychological disorders It is a feeling that supports the society and which may be derived from society and the environment that I am a short-tempered person or that
0:48 I am morally corrupt through this behavior that I do. Simply put, the food is the society, the house, the environment, the family, and the people around it. and what did you do? you're always in the regime's way you're always trying to pull yourself together, it's not right you don't see how you're doing sometimes the issue is much more than that to a great extent of despise the addict of pornography, the poor of manners the robber, the pervert, the one with two faces the one who is in front of people with something and from inside something the lustful These are
1:34 the voices that are inside him and that he sometimes hears from outside. He is addicted to drugs, drunk, loser, failure, and a smoker. Of course, for me, he is addicted to drugs and to many people. And for him, he was imagined by the media, culture, and the speech directed to him, that he is a little polite and that he is a moral traitor. alcohol addict, drunken, drug addict, drunk, and so on. The relationship addict is the lustful, the girl, the loser, the loser, or the opposite of the girl, the left,
2:19 the one who is a victim, and more than that. But no one ever told us that this is a disease. This is a disease that is not less than the biological in brain cells and its chemistry and the defect in the reward system. We are talking about Delta Fos B, which is a certain substance in the brain that causes behavioral addictions, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, addictions of the brain, Games for a long time, we are talking about a chemistry in the brain that controls and affects
3:07 and affects of course, so a disease, a chemical disease, a chemical disease like depression, like the second stage of diabetes, like diabetes, a chemistry that has a defect, this person, and this is what we are trying to convey today, is a change Or paradigm shift, changing the mind map in the vision of suffering that the addict has, makes a difference. What does changing the mind map mean? Simply, I am a patient, I am not a moral corrupt. I am a patient, I am not a little polite. I am a patient, I am not a short-tempered. I have a disease, and the disease is treated in such and such way. Yes, this disease is for treatment, and it will need you only for effort. and
3:55 you will need to bear a lot of pain and you will need to... but in the end you are a person who is not a moral corrupt or a person who lacks manners or needs a few words or two sometimes the speech directed to or from addictions or sometimes psychological disorders or mental illnesses in general is a shaming speech a speech that is very shallow and that increases and deepens the basic feeling that leads to addiction which is the feeling of shame so when I... When I eat at night, even though I want to recover from the addiction to food, I feel not only guilt, but also guilt. What is guilt and what is the difference between guilt
4:46 and guilt? This is the guilt that comes from this speech. I did something wrong. Guilt is wrong. Guilt is wrong. I made a mistake I made a mistake I made a mistake I'm a loser I'm a loser I'm a loser I'm a loser I'm a loser I'm a loser I'm a loser I'm a loser they will leave me. If people knew who I am, they would leave me. This is what makes the addict to deepen the situation of separation and hide himself for a very long time. That's why we said that the healing is that he comes out and gets up and be safe and transparent and someone sees him from the inside. Because he was trapped and suffocated on himself and hid himself and turned
5:32 around and appeared another self, a fake one, because of these internal sufferings. He is not a fake person or a fake person. No, he is a person who suffers from these sufferings. He closed himself to the truth inside, no one knows this pain, he laughs and he is ashamed of himself and his body, and it is from inside painful to the point. When I look at the porn and ask forgiveness, of course, this is important, everything is not denied, but when I see myself as a lustful, and evil and evil and hard and painful and I was hidden and if people knew my truth and deepened this religious discourse in these parts because addiction is not just a sin, addiction is a sin
6:19 "I am accused of committing a sin, I am consumed, I am accused of having a curse on me for the reason I have a curse on me, a sin that imposes me, imposes me to go to this world for the reason I am doing it." The subject is much deeper than that. I mean, we cannot just say "I repent and that's it." I mean, we sometimes see in the address addressed to people, it is clear in the question, especially when you look at the ASCA or sometimes in the fatwas, It shows from the question that the person suffers from addiction, from an addiction state, from compulsive behavior, from a depressive behavior. The matter is clear, his pain and pain are reduced, and he is told to repent or to know what awaits him. Oh, white river, what are we doing? We are all doing this and we are deepening this shame. So what happens here is that deepening this shame,
7:09 deepening this shame, his feeling that he is poor and bad and not on the required level, and affected and can't control his food and his worries about his stomach and his drinking and his cup and his cup and his what not, his feeling about this leads to the activation of the deep addiction cycle. What does it mean? What led me to addiction from the beginning is my feeling of shame and my feeling of separation from the world. My feeling that I can't meet everyone and that there is something wrong that doesn't make me like people. I'm not like these people. These people know how to deal with their feelings. I have things that are out of my control. I'm less. I have a selfishness. I'm less than these people. This
7:54 is what makes me feel separation and shame. I'm not feeling well, so I need to do this. So I start creating this social self, and I start creating this secret life, or this new relationship that has a connection with an addiction. So I go to the food that is popping on me, I go to the sexual fantasies that I'm in, I go to the power fantasies. If I keep imagining that I'm strong, and that I fly, and that I disappear, and that I work, and that I succeed very, very, very, or I lose weight, whatever the need is, because I have a strong feeling of shame and shame, I start to look at this self-appearance and start making
8:41 a relationship Adopt these feelings A relationship that accepts me But with an object that destroys it more A relationship that I try to solve through it But this solution complicates things more So I did as we said I made a relationship with porn and the way he looks at life, he is completely mesmerized and separated from the world for two hours, so when he separates from the world, he separates from this inner pain, from this severe disgust, from his feeling that he is ugly, or that he is not perfect, or that there is something wrong, or that he is less than the required level, so he is fascinated even for moments In addition to the psychological sensitivity and the high dopamine rush that is present
9:26 at this moment, he will be exhausted and separate from these painful feelings. Then he will wake up. Here is the problem. We have the "dharbhaya" or the "intikasa" that has a momentary "ping". Then he wakes up and feels what? with the original pen, my pen is small, and he adds to it the pen of the miracle, the pen of the fall, the pen of me eating and falling into the regime, the pen of the white day, my weight will be how many during the coming period, the pen of my Lord again after I promised God that I will not separate again, I opened and separated, so I fell, so I feel what? The normal assumption is that people feel guilty, But when we look at it from a deeper perspective, we feel disgust, shame, and bitterness. We feel like the earth is being torn apart.
10:12 When I feel disgust, In the beginning, I can deal with it, and say, "I'm sorry, God, but I promise myself to do many ways to get rid of this habit that is more than the original one, because I add to it the warning." I listen to these conversations and these signals and this speech that is around me, and what I started talking about myself. What is my speech? My speech is a little polite. My speech is that you are morally corrupt. It is not a speech that tells me that you are a slave. This speech deepens the feeling of jealousy. When the feeling of jealousy deepens, what will you do? A certain time will come and the things I try to do to do them without addiction will fall. So what do I feel? I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and
10:58 so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, I'm so and so, And here is a very important trick. And what does the desire bring? The addiction tells you that you have no one else. No one will contain you except the harm. No one will contain you except the humiliating relationship. No one will contain you except food. No one will contain you except the drug. No one will contain you except the cigarette. No one will contain you, son, this is a joke. I am the one who is blessed with you. It is clear that she is dressed like this. So what does this desire lead to? to more denial and more of the ideas of justification for the addiction process fell into the addiction behavior again. When it falls into
11:47 the addiction behavior, the depression deepens. The depression brings depression, and depression creates ideas, justifications, and denial, and we will talk about this in detail. And this denial brings me more addiction behaviors, and the circle remains active, and with every fall in which the regime falls, it increases the pain and the addiction to food. And with every fall in porn, it increases my addiction to it. Why does it increase my addiction to it? Because the levels of shame and the levels of low despair increase. Changing this paradigm or changing this thinking and telling myself every day that I'm not morally corrupt,
12:33 I'm certain. completely different even if it started for us. This idea may seem to us on two levels. First, a normal idea, which means, "I'm a child, I'm not a moral traitor." We didn't underestimate her. She seems to be a normal idea. Or it seems to be a standard idea. It seems to be an idea that means I'm a child. This is a child? This can make me think that she is a child and there is a controlled substance, so it's ruined. You don't think like that, you don't fall. But it's okay. Here is a very important point. The child and the difference between them is that the Ayaan is not attracted to the old one at all even if it has some justification at the beginning because there is something in it that is controlled even if it has some justification, I'm not lying that it can be attracted to some people but it is not a motivator for
13:22 more of the old one but on the contrary, it makes some of the old one less attractive when I look at myself, what does it mean? I'm a Ayaan, I'm not just a person who has little manners and is far from God I'm not just a person who has no will and fear I'm not just a person who knows how to play with it I'm not just a person who has little manners and no principles What is this? All this nonsense is a lie? Is this a disease that needs a cure? Like anyone who gets treated and raises his head? Some of the old nonsense begins to spread with the introduction of this idea in the brain So, this empty ring of the ovarian process starts to break. We said
14:09 that a pig gets a stomachache, the pig is less. So, despite my belief in controlling a chemical substance in my brain, my hope starts to increase. And when my hope starts to increase, some of my negative thoughts and my desires start to tell me that I have no other God but Him. I have a cure, I have a program, I have heaven, I have a close relationship with God, I am in the sight of God, I look much more beautiful than I imagined. What is this? I started to raise my head. What is this? I am a child, I am not a child. I'm not a moral traitor, or I need two points, or what's the point of writing? No, no, no, I'm just going to relax and see what's out there. He'll get me and kick me out of other ways, he's Ibn Hurmah. But there's a part of me that will stop getting in when he changes his
14:56 paradigm. I'm a non-moral traitor. And when I start, when I put it with the intention not to translate it, there is something that really changes. This episode breaks the very strong links. This is a link that breaks. Because a very big part of what drives me and makes me addicted is that I work on the origins of the habit inside me. So when I play in this part, it tells me every day that I am a child, I am not a moral villain. I need to heal, not just repentance, which is not important, but I need to heal. I don't need to say that I'm bad, that I'm bad, that if I knew my truth, no one would know what it is. You see only the good in me, God has hidden me, God has hidden you, etc. This is a nice
15:45 thing, not from me. But he works on my bad, I don't do something bad, he works on my bad to encourage more addiction. So when I find myself crying, and this is my pain, and this is my test, and this is my battle, the subject is completely different. Completely. To the extent that some of them, some of them, and we have heard a lot of them, say, I am the most thing after I recovered, and took his chance, and he was in his battle, and he saw his animal, and he fought it, and he did not see his darkness, and continue this path to the end despite his difficulties and the hole he is in, they say that the most important thing they have in their lives is that they were addicted and that they had this disease because this disease opened for them doors of spirituality, honesty with the self, and the discovery of the inside, and the discovery
16:34 of the world, and acceptance, and meaning in life much more than they imagined if they didn't have this life. So the paradigm shift is important Because I feel sometimes that some people who put on it Some people who ask, are you possessed by this physics? Are you possessed by me being bad? "Mohammed, tell me how to get even with you" "Give me the magic wand, the magic word, the magic book" "Tell me a program that is a week to respect myself after" "Imagine that there is an idea that will enter his brain and make him stop doing this" "He sees himself as a corrupt person, he needs two pens, but where is the honorable pen that will come to me?" It's not the end. There's a place that changes when I start to see myself as a child and this is my test. Like the
17:23 one who has depression and this is his test. Or this is his battle. Or this is his life experience that he needs to deal with. So after I finish, I mean, I mean, I got sick and fell. I don't see myself as bad anymore. I see the issue as a disease. What did they bring today, Tara? This is an illness today that I fell. It's an illness that I have. What's wrong with my show today? There were some leaks that's why I got in. Like Ayane the sugar guy looking at me and saying "Why is my sugar level so high today?" "Yeah, I ate this and that." He doesn't say anything like "Hey, Zian, my sugar level is high today." "I'm not going to tell anyone." "I'm not going to show anyone the analysis." "I'm going to hide it." No one does that because he thinks that's Ayane. What's wrong with me? I need to change my mood. I need to change my medication, I need to change my doctor. As a person with addiction,
18:11 when I experience changes in my program, I will look at it actively. What do I need to change? I didn't live today, I live tomorrow and yesterday more. I didn't communicate with people enough. I wasn't close to myself today. We will talk about the control and the attempt to control and when we talk about the things that can lead to relapse. So you look at the subject, what made the disease today to show its symptoms in this way? I did not take the medicine today, the dose was low and this will not lead to the fever, so it will not lead to more of the deepening of the immune process. I'm not a moral corrupt person, I always remind myself to say this simple idea to the extent
18:58 of the founding ideas in the healing. Thank you and see you soon.
