Bạn rất cuốn hút mà bạn thậm chí còn không biết – Đây là bằng chứng tâm lý học | Carl Jung

0:00 Before starting the video, I want to tell you a very light thing. In the future, the content and new videos will be uploaded more on the channel An Nien Tam, a new space where we can continue to share, listen and accompany each other in a deeper way. If you have ever seen the same thing as what is here, I hope you will come and follow and support me on the new channel. The link is below the description. Thank you very much. Now let's start. Have you ever thought that just your presence alone has enough to influence others? Sounds a bit hard to believe, right? But stop for a moment and think more carefully. Right now, when you are watching this video, you may not realize that you are

0:47 carrying a very special energy, something that does not need to be said, does not need to be shown, but is still felt clearly by others. And what I want to say here is not a kind of fake encouragement like "You're amazing" or "Believe in yourself". No, this is a very realistic psychological perspective. Because the truth is, sometimes you just need to step into a room, say nothing, make no difference, but the atmosphere still changes. No color, no clarity, but there's something. Movement. Maybe you've never noticed, but others have. Some people suddenly become quieter when they're near you. Others are more attentive, as if they are in a

1:33 state of awakening. Some people try to impress you, even though they don't understand why. And you, you are just yourself, completely natural, not trying. And that's what's interesting. You don't realize your attraction is not because it doesn't exist, but because the human mind is not designed to clearly see the impact of yourself on others. You feel the world from the inside, and others feel you from the outside. The two views are completely different. That's why there are things about you that others see very clearly, but you don't. Psychologist Carl Jung once said that the strongest parts of our human body are usually in the subconscious, hidden, hard to recognize, but

2:18 are felt by others in an unconscious way. And today, we will share with you something that many people have never realized in their lives. you can be more attractive than you think. Not only about the appearance, but also about energy, emotion, and presence. Once you start to realize that, you will not be able to ignore it. Let's start with a truth that can surprise you. You are the worst at judging your own attractiveness. Sounds a bit crazy, but this is science, not personal opinion. Your brain is designed to prioritize familiarity over objectivity. You see your face every day, see how you talk, how you react, over and over again. And when

3:04 something becomes too familiar, your brain automatically reduces its value. You no longer see it as special. But with others, it's different. You are a new thing. You are a mystery. And the human brain is extremely attracted to things it cannot fully predict. That's why sometimes you see someone for longer than usual. And your first reaction could be, "What's wrong with my face?" or "Is there anything wrong?" But in reality, there may be nothing wrong. They're just trying to trick you. There's a concept in psychology called projection. This is when people unconsciously put their emotions, desires, fears, or imaginations on others. To put it simply, when

3:51 someone looks at you, they don't just look at you, they look at what you represent in their mind. With this person, you can be calm. With others, you are a mystery. Some people feel confident, some people find you unpredictable, some even feel threatened, but don't know why. And interestingly, all of that comes from them, not you. That's why we are human, but each person has a completely different feeling about you. And when you start to understand this, you will realize that strong reactions from others are not random. They have a reason. And that reason lies in the mind. Now, let's talk about specific signs. Things you may have experienced but never understood. First sign:

4:39 Everyone behaves differently when they are near you. Have you ever had this situation? A completely normal person when talking to others, but when they turn to you, they suddenly become confused. They speak faster, or speak more than normal. Or vice versa, they are silent in a way that is hard to understand. Their eyes also change. Some people avoid looking at you. Some people look at you for too long. All of those things are not random. It's a combination of attraction and uncertainty. When someone feels something strong from you, but they can't explain it, their brain will fall into a state of slow motion, and the result is that the behavior becomes inconsistent. The attraction is not always smooth. Sometimes, it's quite confusing. Second, you attract attention even when

5:27 you don't try. This is a very delicate thing. You may not always catch the eyes of others looking at you, but you may feel it. A very light feeling, very hard to explain. As if someone is paying attention to you. And in fact, it is true. Attraction creates concentration, and concentration leads to observation. People tend to observe things that make them curious or attracted, not in a conscious way, but instinctively. They pay attention to how you talk, how you react, even the small details that you think are not important. And those small details make you different. The third sign: There are people who are hot and cold with you, but you don't understand

6:13 why. Sometimes they show interest, closeness, sometimes they become distant, cold, and you start asking yourself what you did wrong. But you may not be wrong. What's happening is a conflict within them. Some of them are attracted to you, but others are overwhelmed by that emotion. And when the emotion is too strong, the human's natural reaction is to retreat, not because they don't like you. but because they feel too much. There are even more annoying signs, even making you misunderstand yourself. But in fact, it is a very clear evidence that you have more attraction than you think. 4. You accidentally make some people not like you. Sounds negative, but look at it

7:00 from another angle. Have you ever met this case? Someone is annoying to you, cold, even a little tense, but you can't find a reason. You don't say anything wrong, don't do anything too much, even don't have much interaction with them. And you start to ask yourself, "What have I done?" But the truth is, you may not do anything at all. This is where "projection" appears. Sometimes your presence accidentally reflects things that others are not ready to face in themselves. For example, your calmness can make a person living in chaos feel uncomfortable. Your confidence can make someone who is anxious feel threatened. Your independence can touch the fear of being left alone. And

7:46 instead of realizing that it's their problem, they are unknowingly pushing that emotion towards you. They don't really hate you. They just don't feel comfortable with the feeling that you make them face. And the important thing you need to understand is that you don't have the responsibility to belittle yourself just to make others feel more comfortable. 5. People remember you longer than you think This is a very interesting sign because it often happens in a quiet way. You may think that you don't leave any special impression. A normal conversation, a short meeting, and that's it. But then you are surprised when someone remembers very small details about you. A sentence you say out loud, a small habit, a way you react in a very normal situation. You don't even remember what

8:36 you did. But they do. Why? Because when someone is attracted to you, their brain will handle information about you in another way. It marks you as important. And when something is marked as important, the brain will store it more detailed, longer, and clearer. That's why there are people you only meet once, but they still remember you for a long time. And this is a truth that not many people say. Attraction is not just in appearance, it is in the way you appear, the way you step into a space, the way you keep quiet without feeling the need to fill it up, the way you listen without trying to hide, the way you exist without having to try too hard. That energy, that natural, non-pressure, is extremely rare. And

9:23 because it is rare, it becomes attractive. Maybe you have never been truly invisible. Maybe you are just looking at yourself from an incomplete perspective. Because you see yourself from the inside, where there is a lot of thinking, doubt, self-assessment. And others see you from the outside, where they only see what you show and what they feel. Two completely different experiences. Try to imagine this. If you can see yourself through the eyes of others, just in a few seconds, you may be surprised. You will see your version clearer, more stable, even more interesting than what you think. You will begin to understand why there are strangers when they are near you. Why there are long gazes? Why there are feelings that you cannot explain?

10:14 Now, I want you to do something very simple. Remember a situation in your life. Maybe when you walk into a room and you feel something changes. Not clear, not at all, but you know it's real. Or maybe when someone starts to behave differently when they are near you. They avoid your eyes. or looking at you for too long. They become restless or suddenly try to show their confidence in a way that is a bit too much. They sometimes get close, sometimes far away. And you stand there, not knowing what's going on. You think it's just a coincidence. Or worse, you think you did something wrong. But now, look back at those moments from a different perspective. Maybe that's not your fault. Maybe that's their reaction to your presence. There's one

11:04 thing you need to understand. No one really explains these things to you. No one says that just being alive can also cause an impact. No one says that your silence can also speak. No one says that your energy can be felt even before you say anything. So when these things happen, you easily give up or misunderstand. But once you realize it, you will see it everywhere, in the way people look at you, in the way they react, in the small moments that you previously thought were not important. Now we come to the most important part, and also the part that many people find most unacceptable, which is the reason why you cannot see your own attraction even when it is clear to others. Let's go back to a very

11:53 basic principle of psychology. You don't experience yourself the way others experience you. It sounds simple, but the consequences are huge. You live in your mind every day. You listen to your thoughts, doubts, worries, times you feel not good enough. You see all the moments you are confused, the times you say wrong, the times you wish you could do better. In other words, you see the background, and others only see the stage. They don't listen to your thoughts. They don't know what you're worried about. They only see what you show, the way you stand, the way you talk, the way you react. And sometimes, that version is stronger, more stable, and more attractive than

12:40 the way you see yourself. This is why you always feel normal. Because to you, you are too familiar with yourself. Your feelings are no longer new. Your voice is no longer special. The way you react, you've seen it thousands of times. And your brain, as I said before, tends to devalue what you're used to. But with others, you're not normal. You're an experience. Something new, unpredictable, and sometimes very exciting. And there's one more interesting thing. You can't feel your own energy the way others do. You can't step out of yourself to observe yourself from the outside. So you easily underestimate your own impact. You

13:26 think, "I'm just being myself." Right. But it's the "just me" that other people feel the most. Think about the people you've ever been attracted to. It's not always them who talk the most. It's not always them who try to draw attention. Sometimes they're just there. But there's something in them that makes you pay attention, makes you curious, makes you want to understand more. And if you look back, you'll realize they may not know they have that attraction. Just like you. Now, the question is: If you can't see your own attraction directly, how can you perceive it? The answer is not about changing yourself, but about starting to pay attention. Pay

14:11 attention to other people's reactions. Not to analyze too much, not to become self-conscious in a stressful way, but just to observe. For example, when you talk, do other people tend to look at you? Do they remember the little things you say? Have they changed their behavior when they are near you? Some people become more confused or try to impress you. Some people become more silent, as if they are feeling you instead of just listening to you. That is trust. Another important thing: Don't get confused between attraction and perfection. You don't need perfection to be attractive. In fact, imperfections, human details, make

14:57 you more real. And the truth, the truth, always has the power to attract. Maybe you used to try to become a better version, talk more confidently, act more accurately, try to impress. But the more you try, the more you lose the natural thing that attracts you from the beginning. Because the power to attract really doesn't come from trying to become someone. It comes from being comfortable with yourself, not having to prove yourself. And this is the key point. When you don't try too hard, your energy becomes clearer. When you don't have to fill every quiet moment, your presence becomes stronger. When you don't find an impression, you become more memorable. Let's go back

15:42 to a question that I want you to really think about. Have you ever stepped into a room and felt something change? No one said, nothing was clear, but you knew it was. Or have you ever seen someone behave differently when you were near you that you couldn't explain? If the answer is yes, then you may have experienced this many times before, but you haven't called it. And maybe from now on, you will start to realize in the conversations, in the looks, in the small moments that you used to ignore. Before ending, I want you to do something, not to impress anyone, not to prove anything,

16:27 just to realize. Pay attention to how people react to you in the coming days. No need to change anything. Just observe. And if you realize things that you haven't noticed before, remember that it's not something new. It's always there. It's just that now you're starting to see it. If you've been through these things, moments that you can't explain but you can clearly feel, Share it. Not because you're curious, but because sometimes what we think is just what we see is the common experience of many people. And when you realize that, you will no longer feel like you don't understand what's going on. You will understand. And once you understand, you will not be

17:13 able to look back at yourself anymore.