Craig Ferguson's 7 Flirting Tips That Make Women Chase You

0:00 one of the men that women find most attractive is Craig Ferguson lucky for us his ability to attract women is captured on his talk show I spend months trying to understand exactly how he did it getting women who aren't even available telling him all my friends I just think you're the sexiest they always ask me you know what's he like I have about 25 girlfriends who are madly in love with you how is he getting women to be so much more into him than other talk show hosts New York Times a charm on the show right like this is the makeup day how is he straight up getting sexually propositioned me though [Applause] a lot of YouTube already talk about why Craig is so Charming to women but I'm going to be

0:45 breaking down seven attraction techniques that make up the foundational structure of his social skills and how he uses these to get women desperately chasing him and by the way number seven is kind of my favorite because it's so easy to use there's nothing to memorize and yet 95 of men don't do this you might be thinking he's a talk show host he's famous and he's good looking none of this applies to me and it just won't work here's Jay Leno trying to flirt with Carla gujino you know that's a great dress I'm sorry thank you thank you very much first he mentions this out of the blue while he's talking to her about her father I'm trying to look in the camera I'm sorry second Jay is apologetic about it I'm talking to you I'm looking you in the eye I'm I'm talking to you

1:31 here's Craig Ferguson with Carla I'm really good I really like your dresses I really appreciate it do you mind if I just touch a part of it first he owns a compliment he's genuinely curious about the dress so it doesn't come across as creepy or out of the blue second unlike Jay he's Unapologetic and it's and it's stretched in some places in other areas it's true he owns the intention well well put yourself now in this clip obviously Conan is joking but even so he comes across as funny creepy fascinating we shot the whole movie in Africa pretty pretty girl one could argue that Conan O'Brien has his own nerdy type of charm and while it comes across as extremely

2:17 funny to the viewer and I love you don't be creepy there's no raw attraction being built incredible dresser that you've been dipped into uh in this case his cleverness always comes through but it always results in a slightly creepy nerdy Vibe yeah we go very well together yes let's get closer now take Ferguson with the same guest first he tempers his compliment if anyone's ever before but you're you're reasonably attractive young lady reasonably attractive keep in mind Miranda is a Victoria's Secret model second he challenges her to test the congruence of her complimenting him thank you and you're very handsome too yeah you got to throw a bit more oomph behind it a quick tangent if you're

3:04 going to compliment a girl compliment something that she's worked on her choice of dress her makeup if you had to give a beauty compliment a good trick to use is to be marginally attractive line this works particularly well if she's obviously gorgeous I've used it when I was in the modeling scene and here's another example from an unexpected source to hear that filthy language from someone so marginally attractive is frankly very unpleasant nothing teases an A-list model more than saying hey you're not ugly you're reasonably attractive when she's used to hearing you are gorgeous you're the most beautiful thing I've ever seen the truth is every decently looking girl has heard A variation of the line you're beautiful thousands of times by the time she's 21. in her unconscious mind whenever you say

3:51 things like that you're just another guy trying to get something from her Craig Ferguson is a good looking guy and I'm not there are plenty of good-looking celebrities who try to attract girls and still fail here's G-Eazy going straight for their clothes Christmas yeah stop we're on the street is you have a girl instead of taking a step back or trying a different angle as Craig would have done he just keeps going with the same strategy I really I don't know if I'm ever have kids or get married why unless it's you by the third time he's just accusing her trying to use my trick and change the subject when you get put on the hot seat this is the audience that you guys have a few questions look at the awkwardness of the audience's face and notice the micro expression of the annoyance from the host wow what a cop out excuse me despite his Fame his good

4:36 looks he does what most guys do put more pressure on the girl taking her from a positive emotional High to completely killing the vibe something that Ferguson would never do take another famous example Tupac Shakur these don't slouch in the looks department but he grew up in a different time when we were racially divided and yet Park overrides these barriers with a natural Charisma and if you break it down this is exactly what he's doing hello I'm sad we're on Venice Beach that's what you're supposed to do I've been in jail for 11 months Challenger you got to let me get a look that's why you can have the best setup in the world you can be super good looking you can even be famous but if you don't understand a woman's attraction circuits you're still relying on these other factors hoping that she

5:21 will like you back in some cases it does work can I take you out to dinner we can go to Nanos I think my boyfriend wouldn't like that but otherwise that sounds great we can be friends okay okay but it works spite of not because of good social skills on this channel our definition of social skills sometimes people call it game is the ability to attract someone regardless of your looks your social status fame money based purely on your ability to communicate and that's what we're here to explore the purity of game the outer expression of your inner soul the first attraction habit is called self-amusement I would add Unapologetic self-amusement this is the attitude that we are only here for a short time so you have made a decision that you're gonna have fun while you're here no matter what Craig Ferguson has been happily

6:08 married since 2008 and if you watch the behind the scenes footage you can literally see he is there to have fun so so floppy maybe you could tuck on a little bit or something oh sorry man at the foundation his game centers around having a blast regardless of who the guest is self-amusement comes through in his conversations because he's not afraid of saying the wrong thing oh god well I'll make myself laugh and that's what counts not necessarily in show business but in my life that's okay in dating the sub communicates a very important attraction trigger I don't need you but if you were to join me I would love it if we can have fun together he cares just enough to get what he wants but not enough for his behavior is tied to the fear of a certain outcome go ahead cancel me

6:54 you'll see I have absolutely no effect on your network whatsoever one way that you can begin to embody this habit is this try going up to a girl or a guy that you find stylish and say hey I just wanted to say that I like the way you put together your outfit have a nice day what this does is that it trains your brain to become outcome independent you're conditioning your mind to give positive emotions to the people around you without expecting anything in return and when this happens you can make the dumbest jokes and still get a laugh what kind of doctor is your sister Internal Medicine internal medicine so all her work is done indoors socially awkward or lame responses actually now get a positive reaction you know what a wombat Is Right a wombat a wombat yeah is that a ladybug

7:44 and figure this out for the longest time then I realized it was because of one thing congruence what is congruence congruent is the level of Integrity between who you really are and who you present to the outside world every woman has faked it at some point not on your show in your outcome Independence there is freedom I need this job I don't know if I did and one way you can incorporate this into your life is the next time you tell a joke find a joke that you personally love and laugh at not one that you think that someone else will like and then tell the joke like you're hearing it for the first time another key aspect of self-amusement is this philosophy of having nothing to lose the truth is that in most dating situations the risk is

8:30 asymmetrical think about it when you go talk to that hot girl what is the worst case she says no or she says F off what is the best kiss she ends up being the love of your life I think the lesson that I learned the most from Craig is this in life there are things that you want but never that badly because at the end of the day you're the one that takes responsibility for your own happiness it is this embodiment that slips into the sub Communication in all of your interactions that makes a man attractive to women we don't understand but do you like it yes that's right yeah I love it I love it with Unapologetic self-amusement you can now make sexual innuendos with a lot more freedom than you ever had before a dream about the end of the world that's a sex dream what about when I dream about sex that's a sex dream

9:18 okay so what about sex dream because you're doing it to self-amuse and to bring about positive emotions I've been both upstairs and downstairs now admittedly Craig Ferguson is a master at this and you're not gonna get as good as him overnight but one way you can do this is just to pause and look at the other person whenever she says something that could be interpreted as sexual another way to do this is to add something after a pause like Jim no thanks I'm good that's what she said uh my mother's coming that's what she said a third way to add sexual innuendo is to have lines that can be interpreted in different ways in most social situations for example slow down I'm a guy I need to rest a lot of men are afraid of what

10:04 might happen when they do this and to be fair in today's culture you may not want to try this at the workplace but at some point you have to take a shot which brings us to the third and fourth attraction habits that Craig uses I refer to these as calibration he mitigates the downside even with a high shooting percentage sometimes you'll miss now when Ferguson risks the offense and goes too far he recovers by doing these three things and I mean this in a lovely way a slight slaggish qualitate to it I don't look like a flag no one he tries to calm the situation down by putting a positive Spin and because of the color blocking if this doesn't work he then uses the BBB method he keeps talking what appears to be nonsense gets the energy up and then changes the conversational threat

10:49 it's gonna slide when he can't get out of it this way he will go to the audience or another character no you don't look like a black you look like you look like a a hey Jeff JCB come on no I just do sometimes to preempt a negative response he uses the conspiracy technique this is when he brings you into his plan and makes you an accomplice all right thanks you too you were totally looking at her ass when she walked off and because he's unapologetically self amusing if he misses a shot if he goes too far if he risks offending the girl all he has to do is try again or move on

11:35 the fourth technique he uses to build on top of this Foundation is demonstrating individual value I get so many clients telling me their problems I'm too short I'm a minority I'm too fat I'm too skinny I'm too young I am too old I don't make enough money I'm in the wrong profession what they learn is that you need to turn your weakness into a strength Ferguson knows that he's old but instead of shutting it or making a weird like Conan does he owns it and he reframes it to make it a demonstration of value here is an example all right Jingles once I heard but it didn't go all the way around this is my new thing to get women to like me I had shingles once because I've been around ladies that talk like you have you read it as I am really you follow old man around

12:21 flirting with them no no I like the ones who engage guys I want you to give me a snake I'll give you a snake cup young lady yeah I'm not dirty I said I'd give you a snake top but you will receive one and you will enjoy it building demonstrations of value around your true identity is an exercise I want to talk about in another video but this also brings us to our fifth attraction habit which is the use of plausible deniability plausible deniability is the ability to charmingly deny knowledge for overflirting or going too sexual to do this Craig Ferguson goes between feigning complete innocence we never talk about anything about you in this show this is a very clean show I need to stop right now we're different people oh

13:06 okay you know anatomically really explain can you show me in some way well I don't know what hardcore porn is I don't see you why are you talking to me like this to a building that he is the evil mastermind so I'm getting this exercise yeah yeah you're right well you have to sit there though that's the rules oh really I'm good you know to eat and yeah what I just I was trying to look like I knew about shoes also I knew your leg would go in an old Direction and all my hours of review there was only one woman who matched his game and called him out but watch how he masterfully handles this exchange now I'm not gonna continue on with the role that you started well not gonna do it

13:53 what because then you would call me out on it first he reframes and then I would be a little embarrassed no you've just done that woman saying there you took so I clearly did not say anything nor was I trying to trap you and then hit deflects what's happening over here you just did that to me okay can can I ask you something yeah then he looks at the audience and do you know why why all these good people have come to come to because they couldn't get to the prices right and then he makes a joke you can't afford decent lighting we can't be giving away I know I know it's true bring her around to finally admit I don't even I was just I don't know where I'm going with this at all no no I want to know I don't know because I forgotten this you know after all this I still

14:41 think you're fantastic and that I think is the real secret between men and women yeah see that that is what I was saying yes I we don't understand but we like it yes that's right yeah I love it I love it when it comes to attraction emotion trumps logic because attraction isn't a conscious Choice attraction habit number six is the reframe this is a technique where you are reinterpreting something in your favor when it's done with a fun intention the outcome should be laughter and then and you're leaning again you're leaning again now you're leaning and tilting all right well we're out of time anyway as you may have guessed Ferguson is a master at combining the reframe with technique number two sexual innuendo I

15:27 like an SUV right to keep your cats give my papa cat in when we go to the vet you go to the vet a lot is your [ __ ] sick all the time what you blew in there [Laughter] apparently not just blow a little softer more consistently the last and most interesting technique is emitting The Meta as a dating coach I often use this on my dates because girls are expecting me to use a technique instead I tell them I don't use techniques on my dates but if I were to do so this is how this would go watch this is the power of admitting The Meta because once you admit it you take the power away from anyone calling you out on it you can also establish a precedence by noting

16:13 The Meta ahead of time look at him over there you can't get enough of it yeah and then I'll get yours out reflection here I like your necklace thing are you a necklace yeah okay wow sorry I can tell I was looking at your necklace okay well it's right there I mean what you know it's you know you can't not see it it's say them no I didn't say them I said it I thought okay I can read hieroglyphics you know you can I can say boobies Ferguson is a master floater and even

16:58 these seven techniques don't cover everything that he's doing that being said everything that he's doing adds up to a sum that is greater than the parts and it all starts with self-amusement his looks his Irish accent his whole platform it all helps but this is the foundation of what makes it all work over time the reputation of the show is that it's expected now and women actually look forward to flirting with him my plan is to seduce you it's just me yes I heard you're a big flirt and I like flurries you might want to balance them up Ferguson can now talk about sex or get guests to talk about sex in a way that other hosts cannot yeah you you know you watch a lot of porn not a lot have I ever come across your

17:44 penis well have you Chelsea have you no but you're one of the comedians that I would have had sex with I know you're a married man now talk about the orgy movie do you want to talk about it yes I do I fight like I don't part in the orgy I don't want to see it though there would be a lot of holes depends on who's there I'm surprised that you choose to wear a hat because you're famous for your head I am while not all of us are born with natural social skills I believe that it can be learned by anyone once you know the steps and now you can use these seven attraction habits to improve your dating situation is Craig Ferguson someone who is so charismatic that maybe sometimes it

18:29 feels like an act maybe the guests on this show don't feel like they know who he really is you're like you think that I'm a terrible person is that what you're thinking what are you thinking oh that's not what I'm thinking that's what you're thinking here's what I'm thinking she's burning one piece of advice I will never forget I actually came from a female Mentor she told me people are judgmental at first therefore you have to learn to play the game before you get to know someone and I think it's better to have a plan and be prepared than to fail and be alone socially can Ferguson be so Charming that women actually become two aroused or too excited and say something that may cause them to lose respect publicly thank you well you pound me though

19:18 great power comes great responsibility but notice how Craig Ferguson always helps the woman save face well there's going to be a bangling tonight I think and this is one of the reasons that women find him so attractive no it's my first time I was a little nervous that I was gonna fall no you'll be fine here you mustn't worry this is very low-key it's not you know not important in any way affect your career he understands the female perspective when it comes to society's judgment and he mitigates it because he's a guy who's responsible for his capabilities it's like when you have sex with someone you don't want to have sex with you pretend to someone else yes I do know that given them sometimes have

20:03 sex and pretend there's somebody there I do that I'm just basically a [ __ ] this is what I am oh you are not play one on TV no no you're adorable he moves a potentially embarrassing Focus away from the woman and takes on the blame some of you might still wonder maybe he's just born like this I will never be like that I did some digging and what I found was old footage of when Ferguson first started his show he actually wasn't that different than other hosts a little creepy sorry I didn't mean to point I'm just kind of I'm kind of drooling and a little smooth he's in the U.S I got that yeah I'm sorry no please help yourself I've got nine more um but somewhere in between I still young though yeah you're very you're very young to be an actor um yeah

20:49 actress actress oh sorry what do I know he's finding his way all right no I'm ready no but don't you think um really you are very lovely aren't you really is thank you um when you oh my goodness me and while we see the Seas of Brilliance starting to grow he's nowhere near his full potential therefore it is my belief that flirting is a skill it's learnable and if you want some help with that start with the seven techniques in this video that we analyzed today if you really want to learn how to date the type of women that you know you deserve here's a chance to do that you can check out our Master course the first date formula using a step-by-step system that's already been proven to help hundreds of guys meet attract and date their dream girls at

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