EMİNE EROĞLU İLE HZ. PİR OKUMALARI: DÜZENLİ BİR HAYAT İÇİN ÜÇ ESAS

0:03 Oh my God, I am the devil, the one who is responsible. Bismillahirrahmanirrahim. Alhamdulillah, Lord of the worlds. And may the blessings and peace be upon your master and your servant Muhammad and upon his family and all his companions . Astaghfirullah. Astaghfirullah. Astaghfirullah. Elf salatin and alpha alfi salam aleyka ya habiballah. My dear friends, I greet you all with love . I greet you with love. I greet the unseen with longing and affection. I hope it will be a fruitful lesson . The main topic of the lesson I have chosen to study together today is

0:49 three principles for an orderly life. The master gives these three principles. As you know, we have three basic principles. One of them is organization, shift management, that is, organizing our shifts, living according to a program . Secondly, says Bediuzzaman Said Nursi, “Taksim al-Amal”. In other words, we can analyze our deeds by dividing them up and doing the work we will do by dividing them up. The third, says our master, is the elucidation of the principle of taavin. In other words, there are three basic principles to be able to benefit from the facilitation of solidarity and cooperation by working together and helping each other. Now, we are trying to incorporate these three basic principles into our lives.

1:37 We're actually going to talk about this in context today. The context in which we will discuss these three fundamental principles is this. The following question is asked to the Hodja Effendi. In some families this is actually very normal. Both mother and father are doing their duties, and it is desired that the work related to the service of faith is not disrupted. But children should not be neglected either . How can there be a balancing act to ensure family happiness and to prevent children from being neglected ? Our service duties and family duties are being asked to this Hodja Effendi. In fact, this question is not asked to Hodja Effendi just once. It is asked a lot. For example, nowadays, parents who are

2:22 devoted to the service of faith and the Quran cannot spend enough time on the education and upbringing of their children due to their busy schedules, and they complain about this. Hoca Efendi is asked again how to achieve balance in this matter. Here, Hoca Efendi gives us an answer, that is, an answer on the subject of achieving this balance, based on our master's three basic principles, and he always gives those three basic principles in perspective. This also applies to situations where we are stuck between two other things. Let's say we are a student. Well, we have classes, we have exams, but we also do service duties . How do we achieve balance? We

3:08 have family lives, we have service responsibilities. How do we achieve balance? We have responsibilities of service . We are trying to acquire knowledge. We are trying to deepen our knowledge. We are trying to enrich our prayer life. How will we maintain balance among all these and our service activities ? These dilemmas are always asked to the master in this business and he always answers with these three basic principles of the master . In other words, no matter what is asked at any time, in terms of establishing this balance, the teacher always shares our duties, organizes our working hours , and benefits from the facilitation of the principle of cooperation . These three basic principles,

3:55 in fact, the teacher calls them the three basic principles for an orderly life. These three basic principles. Now today we will discuss the issue more from the beginning, uh, children and service life . We will begin our conversation by discussing how parents who are devoted to the service of faith and the Quran should balance not neglecting their children's education and upbringing, and not neglecting their service responsibilities . Now, as you know, the neglected issues in religion are being brought to the fore by mujtahids and renewers. It needs to be revived. Because

4:42 in religion, there are issues that have been neglected, that need to be given priority , that need to be revived . There are religious responsibilities for believers, and mujtahids and mujaddids gave more importance to those issues in the periods in which they lived . They bring them to the forefront and make donations. In other words, they are giving more importance to that issue and accumulating more resources on that issue. Now, you and Hazrat Bediuzzaman are aware of this; what did he mostly mention during his time ? What stands out the most?

5:28 The master brings to the forefront the issue of the divine word of Allah, that is, the issue of enjoining good and forbidding evil on earth, which we call the increase of good and the suppression of evil. Because it is the most neglected issue. And Bediuzzaman Said Nursi states that for Muslims, this is an obligation beyond all obligations . In other words, an issue that is normally fard kifayah, that is, when someone does it, the responsibility is lifted from others, becomes the same fard during the master's time . And there are more and more obligations than obligations . Because it is a very neglected issue. It needs to be brought to the forefront and this responsibility falls on everyone . It becomes an obligation beyond obligation . Nowadays, it is obligatory to represent and announce the glorious name of God . Isn't that right? And we are trying to

6:14 fulfill the responsibility that knowing that this is an obligation actually places on us . But while doing this, we basically have a problem like this . Whether we have neglected our other obligations . So, do we neglect our children just because we serve ? Do we disrupt our lives of worship just because we are serving? Do we exempt ourselves from all our responsibilities just because we serve? This is what we need to account for, and there is a serious deficiency in this regard. We have serious shortcomings in terms of not being able to establish a balance . We need to take action in line with the goal, and we need to increase our efforts regarding the divine word of Allah and not neglect our responsibilities

6:59 . What do we need for this ? We all need to make the most of our time . In fact, we all need to make our time, the hours, minutes and days of our time bloom and bear fruit, like roses that give 7, 70 and 700. Now, as the teacher begins to explain, he emphasizes this. He says that if it is an obligation for us to do a job, then it is also obligatory to comply with the necessary conditions to fulfill that obligation. For example, consider ablution. Ablution is actually a condition of prayer . Ablution is

7:46 a deed that gains value not by itself but with the deeds performed with it . But since you cannot pray without ablution, ablution becomes obligatory just as prayer is obligatory . Isn't that right? Likewise, let's say we go to the mosque to pray within the framework of the rules set forth by Islam. Every step we take while going to the mosque to pray brings us rewards. Because we go to that mosque to perform an obligatory act of worship. Therefore, the acts of worship that enable the obligatory or the wajib to be performed, their preparations, and the acts of worship that are a means for them are considered the same acts . Now, dear friends, this also applies to the divine word of Allah. For example, let's say we are providing service. The command of good and the obligation of

8:34 evil are the same. But our actions and deeds will be obligatory, as the command to do good will lead to the negation of evil. It seems permissible to us. Some actions seem like Sunnah to us. However, in terms of fulfilling the duty that the master defined as the divine word of Allah, which is the command to know what is good and what is evil and beyond all obligations, all of our actions, what can we say, our consultations, all of the responsibilities we have undertaken, our coming together, our consideration of issues, all of these seem permissible, seem like the Sunnah to us. But since it is for the fulfillment of that obligation, we

9:22 open houses and carry out dialogue activities . Sir, you can include all of these in the work. Since all of them are actually about fulfilling that obligation, what happens to all of them ? There are actions that earn us the reward of obligatory acts of worship . Now, if a person is aware of this responsibility, what does he do with his women and men ? He makes it his life's goal to serve the true religion of Islam in different ways and with different methods according to today's conditions . What do we call this? We call it illiyi gayye. What do we say to all this? This is what we call an ideal for all of us. Our life has a purpose. We have an ideal. We have ideals on our own journey.

10:10 We want to realize. And we are all trying to organize our lives around this ideal, which we call the aim of our dreams. We have to do this and we have to take seriously all the preparatory elements that emerge in order to achieve this goal. Because it happens with them. It is happening. In other words, it does not happen when we act without consultation. It doesn't happen if we don't establish brotherhood. When we neglect one unit of life, it still doesn't work. So what do we need to do? We want humanity to benefit from the knowledge we have inherited from the past, from our depths related to the roots of spirit and meaning

10:59 . One of the concepts that my beloved teacher brought to our lives is our roots of spirit and meaning. Our roots of spirit and meaning . We have roots that originate from the age of happiness of our Prophet (peace be upon him), his sunnah, and the Quran . We have managed to survive with our spiritual and spiritual roots for centuries . But what has happened as of today? As Bediuzzaman Said Nursi says, “We are trying to repair a castle that has been in ruins for centuries .” A ruined castle. And you can actually define it like this. It

11:51 is a matter of restoration of religion, restoration of the fortress, repairing it with its fard, sunnah, wajib and recommended acts. So what will happen? We wish the truth of la ilahe illallah muhammad rasulullah to echo in the hearts of all our servants . This is our aim and dream. We would like to evaluate every opportunity that will serve the realization of these goals . Isn't that right? In fact, when we say service, we see that service turns into something that encompasses our entire lives. We put our heads together. We are holding consultations. We are bringing our gifts together. We approach this in the same context. We bring our services together. We produce strategies according to the conditions of our own era and the conditions of the country we are in. We are trying to reconcile hearts. We are fighting against ignorance

12:37 . We are fighting against oppression. We have a lot of areas to fight for. Perhaps such activities themselves may not appear to us as the divine word of God . However, since there are steps that need to be taken on this path, we gain the same reward . Therefore, we do not neglect any of these duties . Now we put that aside. Now let's talk about children. While all this is being done, one of the things that should not be neglected is children. You know, we said that when something is neglected, you need to highlight it. One of the things that is neglected is children. You need to highlight that too . In other words, if the street does not provide anything to the child

13:24 , the school does not provide anything to the child, the temple does not provide anything to the child, then the responsibility that falls on the family increases. God has personally given those children to our care. If He has given us, our responsibility, the care, appearance, supervision, upbringing in the best possible way, ensuring that they are imbued with the highest Islamic morals and are educated, then this is one of the things that should not be neglected . The Holy Quran, well, some people insist on this. The Holy Quran calls the servitude of children a fitnah. But the meaning of this fitnah is misunderstood, says my teacher. Hodja Effendi, the meaning of the fitna mentioned here is actually as follows.

14:10 You can win with them, or you can lose. This is the meaning of this fitnah. You can win or lose with them . The teacher even gives an example. Let's say a student is taking an exam. The questions put before him are a fitna, says the Hodja. Because he will either lose or win the exam with those questions . Therefore, the fact that children are mentioned as a source of discord in the Holy Quran does not have a negative meaning. Our teacher interprets it as meaning to win with it or to lose with it. And he says that Allah tests people with their spouses and children . What happens if you get along well with your spouse and manage to

14:57 develop a relationship based on mutual love and respect ? You bring your endeavors together with your spouse and turn your home into a corner of heaven. Your home becomes a corner of heaven and if you can raise your children with Islamic upbringing, this is called a home in our own literature. This is actually the meaning that the nest carries. When you call it home, you make others call you that too . You make us say this is what a home should be like. Isn't that also service? You make us say that this is how family life is lived. This is how a home is made. This is what respect between spouses looks like. Sir, this is how children are disciplined.

15:42 You make me say it is within the framework of Islamic morality. In this way, you pass the test and manage to include your own family life in the service category, as you present it as a model to humanity and social life . Here, the Holy Quran paints a picture of the afterlife. It paints a very horrifying picture . The afterlife really does seem like a terrifying picture to many people. Verses 34-36 of the Surah Abesse . Allah says that on that day, people will run away from their mothers, fathers, spouses and children . Now, while these verses are being read, the

16:28 imam cries in those prayers with recitation . These are verses that will really make you cry . God Almighty says in the verse, "On that day, a person runs away from his brother , runs away from his mother , runs away from his father, runs away from his wife, runs away from his child." Because the afterlife is a difficult day. Because on that difficult day, spouses will flee from each other, parents from their children, and children from their parents. Why would they run away from each other? Because the duties that need to be done in the world have not been done. If the person had not taken responsibility, if he had not been brought to his place, then the task was very difficult for him. If

17:14 efforts are not made to ensure that children grow up to be good people and receive a good upbringing, then those escapes will occur. What will happen if the talents and abilities of children are not developed, if no effort is made to make them useful members of society and servants of the true religion of Islam ? Parents will run away from their children and anything is likely to happen. Those puppies haven't been given a good upbringing . On top of that, if they are released into society without having received that good training, those children become a trouble for both themselves and others . And they take responsibility for it. In such

18:01 a case, the child will chase his mother and father in the afterlife . They will run away from their children to avoid being held accountable for their negligence. But in any case, the parents will be held accountable for that negligence . If the child has not fulfilled the rights of the parents, this time the parents will chase their child on the Day of Judgment. Now look what we said? One of the things that is neglected today is child education. Therefore, we said that what needs to come to the fore today is becoming obligatory and its means are also becoming obligatory . One of those issues is child discipline. If neither the street, nor the school, nor the mosque

18:53 can fulfill their function in the environment they are in, if they cannot give the child a soul, if they cannot give meaning, if they do not equip them with the equipment they need to have in terms of their religion and piety , their life in this world and the hereafter, then just as in the duty of the divine word of Allah, says the Hodja Effendi. Just as it is the duty of the divine word of Allah, child education also becomes a much more important obligation for parents . You will remember that there are four basic elements in terms of a child's healthy upbringing . What are they? Family, street. When we say street, we mean the social environment. The circle of friends, the circle of family, the quality of the people that surround that child

19:43 . The street, the family, then the temple and the school. It no longer functions as a temple. The street does not function. If the child cannot get what he needs in school, then who bears the burden of responsibility? It rides on mom and dad. Because this important task that must be fulfilled falls entirely on them . That is why it is very important for us to open a school for your child in the service of faith and the Quran . The teacher says, "Oh, school, these are the four elements," and perhaps the most important one is school. Because in family, what you give, you get back. The school is taking it seriously. So you give and he takes. You fill it, it

20:29 empties it, the street rings. Especially the temple cannot fulfill its function today. Therefore, opening a school is very important. It is very important that children go to those schools, grow up in those schools, and grow up in safe hands. But if these are not available in the places we are in, the responsibility falls on the parents as well and the obligation becomes the same for them. Because this important task that must be fulfilled falls entirely on them. In this case, parents need to work together to raise their children in the best possible way and try to do their best for this . If this is neglected, both the home and the society

21:17 may experience a shock. Because home is the molecule of society. When molecules deteriorate, society also deteriorates. In other words, when we fail to raise our children properly and release them into society, society becomes a society composed of those children. Hazrat . When Hazrat Pir Bediuzzaman evaluates the society, he sees the issue as it is not possible for a society whose parts consist of sins to be healthy . A society whose parts are made up of sin . Give the opposite concept of this . Imagine a society whose parts are composed of good deeds . That is the kind of society that has risen to the level of true humanity . Otherwise, our homes will become

22:03 homes that will prepare the collapse of society . What will we do in this regard? Look, know the command, what is good and what is evil, what is fard . And raising the child is also an obligation . It has become that way. it has become that way. What will happen then? We have to fulfill both of our responsibilities. For this reason, we need to spend quality time with our children. We should never neglect it. Especially during the subconscious feeding period. Experts bring this subconscious feeding period up to the age of 7 . Hodja Effendi brings them up to the age of 15. The period up until the age of 7 is a chapter. A chapter. But

22:50 in one chapter, up to the age of 15. Until the age of 15, the child has a subconscious feeding period . And this period of subconscious nourishment is so important that it saves people from drowning in deep waters, says the Hodja. It saves from drowning in deep waters . Like a lifeline. In fact, in another article, the teacher addresses the issue as follows. Let's say you're traveling on a plane. Sometimes you run into turbulence. Isn't that right? There are times when a person, too, falls into turbulence in his or her own life journey. There are times when he falls into turbulence both in terms of faith and practice. When we fall into that turbulence, says the Hodja, what protects us from crashing, from hitting the ground, is

23:36 our subconscious knowledge. It saves us from that void . Or we will swim in deep waters. It acts as a life preserver for us in deep waters . Subconscious acquis. If that subconscious background is not solid, for example, those children may crash during turbulence. They can drown in deep water. Therefore, we all need that subconscious resource that pulls us up and enables us to travel safely in those deep waters . What should happen as children grow older? should also be included in certain programs and activities. In other words, we can take them on some service responsibilities. If they will not be neglected there ,

24:21 if they can benefit from it and if the peace of the environment will not be disturbed, we can take them there too. We can plan and program their activities among themselves. These are things that should not be neglected no matter what the circumstances are. And we want the things we see at work, that impress us and excite us, to have an impact on them as well. On the other hand, it should never be forgotten that the attitudes and behaviors of family elders have a deep impact on children. Our attitudes, our behaviors. The teacher says that children learn by massaging . Massaging is what a sponge does when it absorbs water, kids.

25:09 They learn by absorbing rather than learning theoretically. They absorb emotions, they absorb thoughts. You think they are not listening, but they are listening to the conversations . From there they absorb things into their souls . The brightness of your face, the misery of your condition, your despair, your joy, your hope affect them. Therefore, the attitudes and behaviors of parents have a deep impact on children . Each of us must live a life that will be an example to them, to the best of our ability . We don't have to display everything in front of them, we don't have to reveal every emotion in front of them. We have to be careful. We have to be careful. Hodja Effendi says that personally,

25:55 since my childhood, the things that have had a great impact on my life are my teachers and elders. I benefited from them a lot, but what I benefited from the most was during that subconscious nourishment period. Let's say the tears that Munise's grandmother shed when she heard the word Allah, the tahajjud prayers that her grandfather performed until the morning, she was very affected by them. The teacher says that in this respect, parents and family members need to be strong pillars that children can lean on and draw strength from. Ruknu Shadid means solid pillar . Parents

26:43 should be a strong pillar for their children. So do adults. So are the elders in the family. The corners must be sharp. It can destroy the child's world . Instead of engaging in conversations, attitudes and behaviors that can fill their ears with the mortal, wretched and miserable things of this world, parents should make an effort to be a support for them, to be a strong and solid pillar. Now let's come to our main issue in this regard. Three, the main thing. What do we do now? These two are both very important. On the one hand, raising children is very important. The difference has become the same. On the one hand, we

27:31 have service responsibilities that have become obligatory beyond obligations. It is usually done like this . They are trying to share things like, "Men should serve, women should raise children ." But we say fard ayin. Look, both the mother and the father will do their duties. The mother will also take responsibility, the father will also take responsibility. As such, they will also share family responsibilities. Now it 's not like this, the father will forget the way home, the mother will raise the children. There is a problem with this too. Isn't that right? In other words, children should not be deprived of the influence of paternal authority and paternal care on their children . What will happen? Both mother and father will do their duty. But since mother and father are

28:16 obligatory beyond obligations, the divine word of Allah. But neither mother nor father will ever neglect their children. So how will it happen? Now you can look at it like this, for example. So you can look at it as if it is both this and that. Whenever the Hodja Effendi is asked, this issue happens, it happens and it happens like this, these three basic principles of ours, the Hodja Effendi, he considers and says: "What does it depend on for a person to fulfill his duties towards both the society and the family members without any delay ? It depends on a good work schedule, the Hodja Effendi says. A good work schedule. The individuals who form a group will distribute the work very well among themselves

29:03 . What is this? Division by division. Our second principle. The first one will distribute the work very well . The second one is the individuals who form a group. For example, children will also have duties in family life . The mother will have duties. The fathers will have duties of their fathers. They will distribute. Well, they will distribute the duties among themselves. Then they will organize their work schedules and help each other to the maximum extent . We usually talk to you about these two principles, but the master adds a very important third principle to this . What does Bediuzzaman say?

29:48 His Holiness? He calls it the refinement of the principle of Teav . In other words, the issue of helping each other . That is your duty, this is my duty. Okay. We shared the duties. We shared the service as well. We did not share only at home. We shared the service responsibilities as well. But the effort to help each other, the facilitation of being together , the facilitation of teabûn, togetherness, and thus helping each other and getting rid of the waste of time and energy by helping each other . In this way, everyone will have used their time very efficiently. They will find time to fulfill the responsibilities that they hesitate to fulfill regarding themselves, their

30:36 families, their work, and their service . In other words, they will not neglect their servitude while doing these. They will not neglect their Evradu eskar. They will not neglect their readings, their efforts to deepen in knowledge . They will not neglect their friends. They will not neglect any of them. Hoca Effendi says that I think our real problem is the problem of not being able to organize time well . The problem of not being able to divide the tasks that need to be done correctly, says Hoca Effendi. What we do in the name of service There can be no question of neglecting our services because of our children or being busy with the nursery

31:21 in our lives. In other words, I have no right to neglect my child because I am serving. This cannot be possible. Or I have no right to abandon my duties because I am busy with my child, says the Hoca Effendi. There is no such neglect. In one case, we neglect the divine word of Allah. In another, we neglect our children . On the contrary, what we need to do is not to waste our time. To use our time efficiently. Sometimes we neglect the service and sometimes the nursery. This places a great responsibility on us and we

32:13 need to reconsider the work schedule and the distribution of work so that the reckoning for this does not occur on the Day of Judgment in the form of those escapes. For example, says the Hoca Effendi, there are some important meetings and interviews . Let 's record our thoughts about the topics we will discuss in advance. For example, we last talked about the subject of consultation last week. Hoca Effendi repeatedly expresses this regarding the etiquette of consultation . He says, "We should share our ideas Let's go prepared to explain. Let our agendas be clear. Let's put them out there in writing. Look at what we will do in a planned manner. In order to use time well, we need to plan it. And the teacher says that sometimes we leave the issue to the flexibility of improvisation. You know what the flexibility of Irtanin is, right? We say whatever comes to our mind . Someone says something, the

32:58 other gives an answer. If necessary, the word can be extended. If something that can be expressed in a single sentence is already handicapped in expression, if some people cannot express themselves, and if some people are embarrassed and excited about this, then something that can be expressed in one or two sentences can be expressed in 10 or 15 minutes. And that's not enough. He can get on someone's nerves because he tries to say whatever comes to his mind with the flexibility of his improvisation. It may cause discomfort to some people. Answers are being given. There are unnecessary discussions going on. The word is getting longer. That's why the issues we try to present sometimes get caught up in our scattered thoughts,

33:43 sometimes in our inability to express ourselves, and sometimes in our feelings and excitement. So what we are trying to say gets lost in the middle . Sometimes we even hurt others because we cannot express our intentions clearly or choose the right words. There are ruptures, resentments, and then mutual bickering begins. Vicious circles are being entered. He's talking nonsense. The business is growing. If we are to observe economy in everything we do, if we are to be economical in everything we do, we have to be economical and economical in our areas of responsibility, with Allah's permission and grace . Then we will have nothing to neglect. We will spare time for our families and our work. What

34:30 has to happen? Hodja Effendi says you made a promise to someone. You promised to start the lesson at this time. This is like the start time of our lesson. If necessary, says the teacher, go there early. Don't waste people's time. Don't delay, don't delay in starting. You go there if necessary. Let that lesson start on time. You know, the sign of hypocrisy is the issue of making a promise and not keeping it . What will happen? Does a consultation last for hours? Does the consultation last for hours ? The initial agenda items are discussed at length and then the final agenda items are passed around in a row. Would this consultation be worth it ? What needs to happen?

35:17 In writing, no one will violate anyone's rights . He will not violate your rights and will not waste your time. We won't waste each other's time. What will happen? Here, our agenda will be clear. We will go prepared. We will take our agendas there in writing. We will not spend 10 or 15 minutes explaining something that can be expressed in two sentences. To summarize, says the Hodja Effendi, neither the duty of the divine word of Allah nor the spouses and children entrusted to us by God should be neglected. Their rights should not be ignored. Neither of them can tolerate neglect. Children cannot tolerate neglect . Each of them is an important responsibility that we have to shoulder in its own right

36:06 . One of these should not be preferred over the other. This turns them into a source of pride for some people . Some people said, " I served so much that I couldn't take care of my family." He tells this as an example of how much I serve . No, such a thing is not possible. Look, these are the sentences of the teacher. One of these should not be preferred over the other . Neither of them can tolerate neglect . Each one is very important in its own right and one's rights should not be trampled on by another, says the Hodja. One person's rights should not be trampled on by another. In this regard, abiding by these three basic principles, helping each other, facilitating work by helping each other,

36:52 sharing the tasks, sharing them within family life , and then making a very good working schedule. Do you know what the teacher says about bringing these three categories together, bringing these three principles together ? He says to live life filtered . Living life to the fullest. Throwing away unnecessary things from our lives. We always hear a complaint like this, right? Our age is the age of speed. People don't always have time to stand like this . Ask anyone and they'll tell you they're very busy. I'm very busy. I'm very busy. You don't hear anything else from people. I'm very busy. I'm very busy. Ask anyone and they're very busy. Life passes in a hustle and bustle . Constantly trying to get somewhere

37:38 , constantly trying to finish the work, but there are a lot of responsibilities boiling under all of this. Unfortunately, this causes us to miss many things. This is a very busy, very busy understanding. For this reason, we want to live our lives by filtering, feeling and thinking . Filtering our lives, feeling, emotionlessly, like a machine, from here to there, saying, “Let me finish this job, too .” Oh my God, this will be ready by evening. Oh, let me take this from here, oh, let me go and leave this here. This is not it. What do we want with a serious program and serious discipline ? Living life by feeling it, living life by thinking about it, living life by filtering it

38:23 . Isn't it Gültan Akın's name? "Oh, no one has time to stop and think about the finer things," he said. No one has time to stop and think about the finer things. However, it is our responsibility to think about the subtleties. Being a parent is already a service. That already means thinking about subtle things. It means living by filtering, feeling and thinking. So what needs to happen? You see, I can't keep up with a robot, a machine in life. I can't keep up with it. My life is a rush, it's not like I'm so busy, I'm so busy . This is possible with a serious program and serious discipline. When we stand before Allah, we give account of those 24 hours . No one can say that, right? You can say to

39:09 your Lord, "Oh Lord, the 24 hours you gave were not enough for both children and service . They were not enough for both servanthood and knowledge. You cannot say that they were not enough for me to pass my exams, graduate with a good degree and fulfill my service responsibilities. If you divide your work among yourselves, see that the teacher always brings the issue to the same point. If you make the principle of cooperation work, if you organize your work very well, he will place the tasks you need to do on a certain plan . The time plan will place it on a very good plan. If you concentrate on them very well, it is a good

39:54 concentration. Lack of concentration also increases the work to be done in an hour to 5 hours . If you concentrate very well, speed and pace will start to work in your favor, not against you. In other words, a person should not be slow. Slowing down means taking things slowly. A person should not be slow and use their power to the fullest and do the things they need to do quickly. Yes, it is important. But what does achieving this depend on? It depends on living life systematically and methodically . You will have methodical formulas. You will have a methodology. You

40:42 will have a systematic. In fact, what does the five daily prayers made obligatory by dividing a day into certain times actually teach Muslims? It teaches to live in a planned way. Is n’t it? It should teach . Living in a planned way. What does Allah do? Look at the five daily prayers for you in a certain plan and systematically. In other words, you cannot say, “Let me perform the obligatory first, then the sunnah”. Is that sunnah the last sunnah? Is it the sunnah first? You do not say, “Let me go to ruku first, then stand up for qiyamah”. Systematic, planned. What does Allah do to you? He teaches you to live in a planned and systematic way. Bediuzzaman defines a person’s orderly and orderly life

41:31 as actually living in harmony with the order in the universe . If you pay attention to this, so what happens? Your tasks are solved quickly. You concentrate, you can solve them, you can complete all the tasks. But do you know what happens when you do not pay attention? Running like a steed We say. Even if you run like a steed, after a while without realizing it, we get caught in the wheels of events. Why are n't we systematic? Why aren't we planned? Why can't we concentrate? The work done causes us to get tired. After a while, we get bored . We run like Köhel. Well, we get tired. The characteristic of Köhel was not to get tired, but we get tired.

42:19 But what should happen? We need to serve until the end of our lives. In other words, that energy needs to take us to the end of the road . If we can't think correctly about our work and the problems we encounter , if we can't make the right decisions, this is what we end up with. This causes the efficiency to decrease and the productivity to be ineffective in the work done . Therefore, we fail . Therefore, we fail. What happens? Let's say we take on the duty of being a sister at home, but after a while, we start to get tired of that duty. Let 's say we take on the duty of mentoring one student, the duty of being a sister

43:04 . The duty of being a brother We take on the responsibility. We start to get tired of it . What should happen? Look, before and during marriage, we are actually responsible for living our lives systematically , living planned, and programmed, and incorporating these into our lives . When we do this, we can do it in our married life. When we do it before, when we are students, when we do it in our students, we can do it in our married life. The time we go to bed is certain. The time we get up is certain. The work we will do is certain. It is planned. We can concentrate on them. We have certain formulas. We can think systematically. We can get all kinds of help we can get from people about the work we will do

43:49 . We can share the tasks and carry them. Since many of our friends do not know how to share the tasks, they take all the burdens on themselves. However, we have very competent, very nice, very well- equipped friends around them who can take responsibility. But what can't he do? He can't share the tasks. What happens this time? The whole burden falls on him. However, the real success is not doing a job alone . The more people we can share it with , the more people we can do it. If we can include it in goodness, we are that successful. Remember, we said that the things we do are

44:35 things that have the same rule as the fard. Since they are the means of that fard , whether they are recommended, sunnah or wajib, they are the things that earn us the same reward as the fard. Therefore, if we can include more people in that work, if we can share the work with them, their goodness becomes our goodness . And after a while, we are saved from falling apart and being left on the road. From this perspective, if you want to evaluate the life you live in the best way and get the highest efficiency from it, you definitely have to work systematically and methodically . Such a course of action, look, pay attention to the sentence. Such a course of action will

45:24 cause you to move 10 times faster. It will be more fruitful. In fact, I repeat the sentence from that sentence . Such a course of action will be more fruitful in your life without moving 10 times faster. God willing, it will be more fruitful. In the article on caste and determination, our teacher says, you know, the insurmountable You overcome with intent, you overcome with determination. Long roads become short for you with intent and intent . That's how it is. Because you work systematically. Because you travel methodically . Because you can keep your motivation strong . Because you benefit the most from the help of others

46:11 . What did we call this? Look, we called living life filtered. One of the important factors of living life filtered and evaluating it profitably is balance. A delicate order, a perfect discipline in all the tasks done, from eating to drinking, from working to worshipping, and a daily plan that does not see any of these as an obstacle to the doing of the other . Order, discipline, plan. These are all actions that require each other. What will happen? We will also give our body its due. Our

46:56 Master says so. Your soul has a right over Allah, your soul has a right over you . Your family has a right over you. Allah has a right over you. None of these will be neglected. Home will not be ignored. Society will not be ignored . Our friends will not be neglected. Our responsibilities will not be neglected. They all belong to duties will be carried out with a delicate balance and the rightful owner will definitely be given their due. As it is stated in the hadith of our Prophet, what did our Lord say in the 7th verse of the Inshirah Surah in the Holy Quran? Our Lord said, when you are free from one job, start another job. Isn't it beautiful

47:41 ? One of the verses we read the most is the Inshirah Surah and look, when you are free from one job, starting another job gives relief to the heart. That's why the verse of the Inshirah Surah is this. We got tired from another job. Starting another job. What did we call this as a formula? What did we call it? We called it resting while working, working while resting . Thanks to this, we can carry out many jobs at the same time without disrupting our work . Think of people who live their lives in a planned and programmed manner. At the same time, you see that these people are moralized with divine morality . Because, isn't it so? In other words, being moralized with divine morality requires living life in a planned and programmed manner . Because when our Lord created the universe, my

48:29 dear friends, He created it with a certain plan, a certain program He created. When we live in a planned and programmed way, look, we become moralized with divine morality. What did we call the divine plan and program with which Allah created the universe? We call it destiny. Isn't that right? From actions such as seeing, hearing and speaking of humans to the movements of galaxies and nebulas, all beings in the universe act in a certain system and harmony according to the scientific program laid out by Allah's all-encompassing, all-encompassing knowledge . God Almighty wants His servants to be moralized with His own morality and the

49:15 duty of the servants is to act in accordance with the destiny program . In other words, their lives also have a certain program . Moreover, when a building comes to us, you see that it comes to you as a project . First of all, you don't see a building built without a plan. You don't even see a building without a plan. Since human actions affect his entire afterlife, how can it be unplanned, how can it be without a project? You do a ground survey before starting construction . You also take into account possible earthquakes . Look, these are all systematic The basics of thought. Isn't that so? Let's say

50:02 you are sowing seeds in a field in the same way . Sowing seeds in that field is not a simple task. You are also taking it according to a calculation. You are also looking for its season . You are also conducting a soil survey for it. You are also investigating its irrigation possibilities . You are checking whether it is sufficient or not. You are checking the conditions of the weather and sunlight . Look, you are going to sow a seed in the soil . Now think about it, the seeds we sow in the soil , our own seeds of deeds, our own lives will affect our entire eternal life. How can all our actions be unplanned, how can they be unprogrammed? If serious calculations are made even in such minor tasks, it can

50:50 never be approved for a person to live a life blindly. His behaviors must have a serious static. There must be a soil survey . It is absolutely necessary to think about what the future and future of the attitudes and behaviors that will be built on that static will bring and what they will take . Yes, my dear friends, that's how it is. Well, as I said, the teacher insists on the importance of various issues. We will also discuss the importance of this with you again and again We stop. We call this living carefully . We call it living life by filtering it. And eee dear friends, I want to read another section from a new eee

51:38 another article in the same context to clarify the issue. In this context, the teacher says that it would be productive for a person to write down, for example, 20 24-hour time periods for a disciplined and productive time arrangement, the teacher says . Write it down. So what will happen? Here are 24 hours of my 24 hours. How many hours do I sleep? How many minutes do I eat ? How many minutes of rest do I need? How many minutes do I study? How many minutes do I spend with my children ? My service responsibilities, my troubles, my livelihood, my

52:24 work responsibilities. If you can do this, from getting together with friends in the orbit of chat canen to reading a book, from organizing our room to dealing with our evrad-i eskar, from consulting with our spouses and children on certain issues to resting, which work to be done at which time of the day will be clearly determined. Even from sitting down to a cup of tea to be drunk, to a meal to be eaten How many hours will be allocated, how many minutes will be allocated, these will be arranged and considered at the same time. For example, let's say you have allocated 20 minutes for eating . If it is enough, you can also allocate 20

53:11 minutes for preparing the meal . The time you allocate for preparing that meal gives you an idea. In other words, question whether such long hours are worth it for meal preparation. Isn't it? Can't we make more practical meals? Can't we eat the meal we made one day the next day ? It puts you in questions such as . The time you allocate for eating keeps you attentive. You stay alert. In other words, if you have allocated 20 minutes, if you have allocated half an hour for the meal, you can get up thinking that it is finished. You will save yourself from how much time is spent at that table after eating, how many gaps can be made

53:57 . You can even do the following while organizing your work hours . You can also add precautionary times to those 24 hours so that extra work that may arise does not disrupt your program. Precautionary times, in other words, the times you leave for extra work that may arise "You can also put it there, says the teacher. And in this way, you will have detailed all the work from the usul to the firun, that is, from the main issues to the incidental issues . Then you will see how much time you spend on worship in your own day . How much time you spend studying, how much time for your family, your children , how much time for the trouble of earning a living,

54:42 and you will see that you have reached a separate blessing ." says the teacher. Now, what happens if you adopt the morality of Allah? God will also bless your time . If you adopt the morality of Allah and act methodically, systematically, regularly, and with order, Allah will bless your time. And what does the teacher say ? It suddenly rises to ten, he says. The abundance of that time. Look, it doesn't say that it increases from one to two. It suddenly rises to ten, he says. Suddenly our time becomes blessed. In other words, your 24 hours do not equal the 24 hours of others. Your 24 hours may be like someone else's 240 hours

55:29 . Because if life is made regular like this, a person can gain complete discipline over time . When the teacher explains this, he says that we have to do it not only for ourselves but also for our children. In other words, when we are undisciplined, they also become undisciplined, and when they grow up undisciplined, they cannot later transition to a disciplined life. However, when they live a disciplined life, they already get used to it and can take that order with them wherever they go. For example, when a child moves from an undisciplined home life to a student house, he cannot do well there. He cannot achieve that harmony. He can't save himself from that mess.

56:15 Therefore, children also need to get used to living within a certain schedule . This is one of the rights they have over us . Do n't get me wrong. This kind of action, says the teacher, is not becoming a machine. On the contrary, it means being a disciplined person and living life with discipline . As we said, don't live by feeling, do n't live by hearing, don't live by thinking. When we don't do this, we become robots. That's when we become truly mechanized. Because we live without thinking, "I'm so busy, I'm so busy ." We live without feeling. We live without hearing. Such a disciplined person does not leave any gaps in his prayers, does not compromise in his prayers, and does

57:03 not neglect his duties. He never neglects the rights of his family members ," says our teacher. And there is one more point to be careful about in time management. There is another issue. Do you know what it is ? A person has to share the time management he/she intends to implement with the people he/she shares his/her life with . In other words, I made an arrangement on my own, but my household, I live in a student house. People who stay in my house. I have a family life. People I share my family life with. People I share my service life with, people I share my responsibilities with. They are not aware of my program. I

57:50 make a program on my own. No. A person has to establish an order, a harmony with the people he/she can get ideas and opinions from, and act together with . Therefore, for example, we are doing them a duty . We have to share the importance of our duty with them. We have to convince them too. If we are going to have common programs, they have to be convinced of that common program. In other words, in addition to the rights of our spouse, our children, our parents, our Allah, Allah also has rights over us. They have to accept these too . If the Quran has rights over us, they have to They should also accept it . If our parents have rights over us, they should accept this with our spouse, children and

58:36 family . A person should definitely reach an agreement with the people they share the same household with, with the friends they share the same responsibilities with, and with their help, we will be able to systematically organize the work that is hesitant for us, that program, that program. It will be possible by sharing the duties. Therefore, this is not a matter that we can realize or realize on our own . We have to focus on this. We will also underline one more thing and thus end our lesson . The teacher says that we talked about this a little in the meetings, but

59:21 our teacher expands on it a little more. The topics to be discussed in the meetings should be arranged in advance . Notes should be taken with complete seriousness. As we said, they should not be left to the flexibility of the reactionary . The topics we note with sound mind, sound feelings and sound hearts are very important. Because in this way, the issues we discuss remain within the framework . Well, and to all the waste of time, waste of emotion, waste of thought, We do not get into unnecessary discussions. After emphasizing this, where will the Hoca Effendi bring the issue again? In the period we live in that wastes us time, the most important loss we experience is

1:00:06 phone calls, being busy with the phone, the time periods we spend on social media. Hoca Effendi says that sometimes when talking on the phone, issues are extended so much that a significant part of the conversation is completed with things. However, the topics to be discussed should also be noted in advance. If we are going to enter social media, the hours for this should also be limited within that daily plan . There should be accounts that can account for how much time we spend where . However, social media has algorithms, as you know. A trap. When we enter a business, we are drawn into a trap . Those algorithms,

1:00:54 in other words, what attracts my attention ? What can connect me with? What can keep me in social media more? What can lock me in front of that phone ? This is very well known by the experts and preparers of that social media, what happens? Well, I enter for a job, I find myself in another job . I enter to look at something. Something else I find myself looking. Like a well . It has such powerful algorithms that there is something called ego in humans. In other words, social media pulls you towards the gravity field of ego like a magnet attracts iron . Therefore,

1:01:40 one of the most important issues in this program is parents. Especially in home life, family life, service responsibilities , service meetings, parents should be able to save themselves from this phone, while going home, entering home or fulfilling their service responsibilities, they should be busy with the phone or social media when necessary . Some of our friends may have a social media business. In other words, they may have a responsibility. It may be to carry it out . That social media responsibility should also have limited hours. It should be clear. At what hours he will fulfill this responsibility . Hoca Efendi says that I

1:02:26 always try to explain this to my friends on different occasions . What should it always be like this? There, there is a plan there too. Look, Hoca Efendi tells us that even when you are going to talk on the phone, there should be a note about what you are going to talk about , an agenda. Talk like that, says Hoca Efendi. Don't leave the issue to flexibility there either. It should be prolonged within the flexibility of the extemporaneous don't go. What does the teacher say? What do the doctors say to us? What do they say to us? Doctors tell us, for example, how much harm does it do to spend long hours on the phone, on social media, right, doctors? There are studies done. They talk about how much harm it does. There are many studies done on everything from brain tumors

1:03:11 to the damage it does to memory, the damage it does to perception, the damage it does to the sense of reality . The teacher says to doctors, believing and complying with what the doctors say and warn them is obligatory in our religion. Since it is obligatory to believe them, the teacher says, "Why don't we pay attention to their warnings on this matter? Why do we not see them as obligatory? You know how social media can become an addiction, right? Experts say that drug addiction, social media addiction, game addiction, chat addiction are managed from the same center, say scientists. From the same center. That is, drug addict, alcohol addict,

1:03:57 social media addict, game addict. People become addicted to the same center . Now think about it, in order for an addict to get rid of his addiction, it is obligatory to believe in the advice of doctors, says the Hodja. Look, since it is obligatory to believe them in the matter of medicine, shouldn't we be careful about this issue? Otherwise, wouldn't we be committing a sin ? Waste of time, waste of talent , and waste of health are different. This will also be accounted for. Then we run away from our surroundings. In short, as people of faith, there must be a certain order and

1:04:44 measure in all our actions and behaviors. One must sit down with discipline and wake up with discipline. One must act and speak with discipline. We must always live our lives in accordance with heavenly discipline and rules . We must continue our lives in accordance with heavenly disciplines and heavenly rules . Just as we manage our own time very well and do not waste it, we should also be very careful not to waste the time of other people and the people around us . We must abide by the promises we make . Must start on time, must leave on time . Sir, we should not waste their time by explaining at length the issues that we can explain in short . We must show our sensitivity in whatever field we choose and

1:05:33 be a good example to others, dear friends. Yes. Let's say 'eh' and conclude our lesson today . Dear friends, this is more or less our framework. None of our responsibilities should be an excuse for neglecting our other responsibilities. This is generally the basic teacher's approach. Since these are obligations, and beyond obligations, since they have come to the forefront at the level of obligation, at the same level of obligation in the time we live in, if fulfilling these responsibilities inevitably requires us to live in a planned way, then we too

1:06:19 will struggle with this today, we will struggle with it tomorrow, we will have difficulty today, we will have difficulty tomorrow, but we have to put it on track somehow. My dear friends, we have to somehow put our own lives in order so that our children can live their lives in order towards our children, and I said and closed the articles. I'm opening the chat now. I'm starting the prayer phase. Yes. Well, first of all, I would like to thank the devoted team again and again . May Allah be pleased with them. May God bless their time. While they are fulfilling their heavy responsibilities, they

1:07:08 are also trying to spare time for these charitable works with such sacrifices and devotions. Our key concepts are balance of service, fard wajib, recommended, makruh, haram, fard kifaya, fard ayn. These were our concepts. But what was happening? Well, the matters that were neglected were considered as fard-ayn, and our other actions that could be a preparation for those matters and that would bring about those matters earned us the reward of fard. The aim of the dream, the word of God, the roots of the soul and meaning , fitna, test, home, child training, family, street, temple, school, subconscious acquisitions, subconscious nutrition period, work schedule, taksimül amal,

1:07:57 sharing of deeds, the establishment of the principle of cooperation, that is, making our work easier by helping each other, living life filtered, concentration, living with a systematic plan, living methodically, not being crushed under the wheels of hadiths and incidents, living a disciplined life and organizing our lives with heavenly rules. Our key sentences are as follows. Well, the first one is the Abasa Surah, verses 3436. Today was very key for us. On that day, a person will be separated from his brother, mother, father, wife and even his children. These are verses that will truly make you cry

1:08:44 . On that day, a person runs away from his brother, mother, father, wife and children. Home is a molecule of society. If molecules are broken, society is also broken. Nutrition in the subconscious period saves people from drowning in deep waters . Children learn by massaging . Parents should be a strong pillar that family members can rely on . Isn't it beautiful? They should be solid pillars on which family members can lean .

1:09:30 Parents, our main problem is that time is not organized well and the work that needs to be done is not distributed well. Our real problem is not the abundance of work we do . This is our real problem. We need to define the problem well so that we can find a solution. Neither should the duty of the divine word of Allah be neglected, nor should the rights of our spouses and children that God Almighty has entrusted to us be neglected. Their rights over us should not be ignored. Neither of these can tolerate neglect . Neither of them can tolerate neglect . Then when you run out of work, start

1:10:16 another one. This is the verse of the Surah Inshirah. When a person thinks about the application , I apologize, when a person thinks about the application , when a person thinks about the application, he should first open his arrangement to the people he shares his life with. Their thoughts and opinions should be taken into consideration. Then, he must explain to them the importance of the duties he has to perform and convince them mentally and heartily . This was also an important aspect of the work . Today, my dear Ms. Ayperi started our prayer session by sending roses to all of us . As far as I know, my dear Ayperi was in Umrah.

1:11:04 I don't know if he returned or if he is sending these to us from Umrah. I greet him . Even if they have returned, let us accept them as the roses of Medina. He sent enough for all of us. My dear Ayper. We will now recite the prayer of the Beloved Heaven. When I said celestial discipline, a prayer came from the sky. Oh God, give me the love and enthusiasm to fix my mess by using this lesson as an opportunity, oh Lord. Do not let your consent come after my base actions that seem indispensable . Well, give free rein to my will. "

1:11:54 I seek refuge in your grace so that I can carry out my deeds in a planned, programmed, orderly, and harmonious manner," says dear Zaman. Amen. Amen. My dear friends, I also use this lesson as an occasion to complain to my Lord about my own disorganization . I complain to my Lord about my own self, my disorganization. May Allah save us from our disorganization. May He make us disciplined people. May we be servants who live in harmony with the order and discipline in the universe, who always live their lives in a planned, programmed, systematic, and systematic manner, God willing. May we be good examples to each other in this regard, God willing. Now we will read the prayer of my dear Büş. May Allah grant me the ability to

1:12:41 act with wisdom and to consult with my loved ones while organizing my life . May He grant me the grace to weigh my responsibilities with justice and to fulfill the rights of my family, my fellow workers, and you upon me. In

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