MC 1 l Understanding Ego l P1

0:00 Namaskarum. Welcome to understanding ego. Unlock your mental clarity. What is ego? Ego is an identity that defines us that shapes us that um gives us a formulation ourselves to the other to the world. Uh it's a sense of belonging. It's a sense of sh self. It's a sense of how you define self. And how does one how does one achieve or how does one accomplish to come to this place of defining oneself ego the definition of all these identities are a notion of how you have lived your life from birth to date I am

0:48 a son I am a teacher I am a father I am a brother I am a daughter I am a wife I am a husband I am a sister and so on and so forth And then after that comes based on your education. I'm an engineer. I'm a doctor. I'm a scientist. I'm a cook. I'm a garbage collector. I'm an investment banker. I I'm Elon Musk. All these are identities, right? Or I'm Elon Musk's I'm Elon Musk's automobile engineer. That is also an identity. So whatever influences your social status, whatever influences your um pride in the community, in the society defines the identity that you seek in yourself. So

1:33 you we tend to shape ourselves in that direction. So something that starts earlier on is when you're born, this is my son, this is my daughter. So then you feel that belongingness saying that, oh, I'm my father's daughter. I'm my father's son. And then my father is the magistrate of the city. So you are associating yourself with the magistrate of the city. So then you it's fed earlier on. So our birth itself comes into being born into ego. Right? Now why do we need this? Why do we need this? At some point when you decide and understand life a little bit better of how things operate here, you tend to seek for the knowledge of to showcase yourself. What

2:21 do I stand for? How do I represent myself? Who am I representing when I talk about myself and what am I representing? And that notion of I is what ego is. Now ego to be it can it is a complex subject. However, to break it down and to simplify the understanding of ego, one needs to understand there are four types of egos, the four types of egos are visha, a visha, linga, alinga. Okay. Now, this is what's written in the scriptures. Visha is I am special. I am special. I am the one. I know. I understand. And this pride, lots of pride and self-confidence

3:07 and compassness in themselves that is visha. A visha is the opposite of that. Uh the ego is fragile. It's low self-esteem. They are feeling like they're not good enough. I'm uh I'm not fit for this. I I don't know what I'm doing. Uh and so on and so forth. Then comes so they both are the same. Someone who's feeling extremely special and pompous and someone who's feeling low and fragile and lack of selfworth is also the same. So they both are not different. It's just two sides of the same coin. Both of them are ego. The third one is linga. Linga is hey I

3:52 am part of um this organization called ISA or OSHA or the parliament but he could be possibly he or she could be possibly a person who is uh sweeping the floors and cleaning the toilets of this place but the ego is inflated so much that as if they own the organization that's how much inflation of the ego is So there is a fair bit of entitlement saying, "Hey, I'm from ISA or I'm from Osho or I'm from the Parliament House and I deserve to be treated better." Right? Then the Alinga is uh picking up something that is of a minority nature. For example, I come

4:38 from Palestine. We are a war torn country. We have lost everything for all. You know, they might be a resident of Australia or New Zealand having a really great life. But somehow in their mind they feel that they've actually gone through war and they have lost everything and they've been sitting in a refugee camp without food and shelter for weeks or months or years. And that that burden has been recreated and programmed into the mind of this identity of a person of that origin as if they are going through it and we react to that. We react to that. This is quite common in a lot of war torn countries. If if someone has gone through a tragic tragedy uh a tsunami or

5:24 an earthquake or a someone who is a victim of abuse, someone else cops that and thinks that as if they have gone through and puts themsel in a low state. So a community and the other when the other society or a country or a race or a a group or tribe has gone through something that the other the one takes that blame onto them and sub suppresses themselves and with that they drop into a low state. Now these four types are from the scriptures. However, to operate in now in the society uh to have simplicity to understand it, we've made it into approachable types of ego which is separated into three. Healthy ego,

6:10 inflated ego, fragile ego. Right? Ego is not all that bad. However, the awareness of ego to understand how to manage it, how to be aware of it is the key here. And that's what we're trying to achieve. So the three types of ego here to the modern human to understand how we can operate it without going into the jargon of Sanskrit is healthy ego, confidence, self-awareness and selfrespect. All right. The three precepts of the healing warrior tribe is respect, discipline and devotion. When one trains and practices this in their mind on every action then they

6:56 naturally falling into the healthy ego which brings them confidence and courage. One requires courage to walk through this life. One requires self deep self-awareness. So you develop this discipline of self-awareness. What is my thought? Is my thought of an inflated ego? Is my thought of a fragile ego that seeks and resides in fear, in uncertaintity, in guilt, in shame? Is my ego sitting and coming from a place of superiority or entitlement? Or is it showing up in as arrogance or anger or despite? So when you sharpen that mind to become self-aware of how you're showing up that brings respect not only to the self

7:43 but to the other as well. So you're treating the other no less than how you would like to be treated. This becomes a healthy ego. So going back a notch when ego is the cause of birth. Ego is the cause of birth. If we are not in if there is no ego then we are subduing our existence in this mortal world in this material world in this world of illusion and competition we are separating ourselves from that competition right well when we are in this in this this journey of ego then that's when you're in competition with your own selves yesterday I was that today I'm going to be this and that creates competition separation within

8:30 within and you which is creating separation without you. Ah, how come my neighbor is got a better car than I have? I need to be driving a better car. So, you work two jobs or three jobs, save, reduce the amount, cut down to one meal a day and call it intermittent fasting. All the things we do, but only you know what you're doing because your mind is playing the trick. Intermittent fasting to reduce and be humble about how much you consume is different to intermittent fasting that I am in lack and I am in the low and I am in um poverty is different. You create the wealth you create. Okay, that's healthy ego. Healthy ego is about building that confidence, building that self-rust,

9:16 selfrespect, selfawareness and always looking within as to how am I showing up to myself. The thoughts, the words and the actions should should marry with each other. They cannot be a mismatch between the thought, the words and the action. If you're thinking that I'm a humble being and I am all Zen and I'm all and I'm going to show up like that and your words are of rude anger, despite and and and of judgment then it's not that is ego like that's coming out as show up as the way you think. It could be the other way around too. You could be speaking the words of humility glowing and lusting in this humbleness

10:02 and this this this uh like a monk like a sadhu like a syasi or like a saintly person and then the thoughts that's coming through there which is all filtered is all of how can I how can I become better than the other person and how can I surpass him how can I be superior how can I you know be um enlightened and using spirituality as a ego trip there's a lot of there's a lot of people out there so-called swam armies who dress and deise themselves into greater beings and showcase that they are something greater than God and that is a it's a truth that's a truth about how our society is moving

10:48 through in this time become aware don't worry about the other but think about you this could be you as well so always self-reflect self-reflect and how you're showing up inflated ego is arrogance superiority and entitlement we spoke a bit about this but that clearly is infl plated ego. However you show up saying I am vesa, I am special. I'm amazing. There's nobody greater than me and you expect people to listen to you. That's a bit narcissistic. So the narcissism shows up. It's been nurtured. It could not be just coming from you. It could have been inculcated through your family. Could be a dad, could be grandparent, could be a grandmother. Somebody in the family that you've seen them behave. So you've admired them and mirrored them to become that. But if you

11:34 become aware of that quality of yours, all you have to do is look around and you'll see if people are leaving you quickly enough without engaging in a conversation with you, which means it's showing that there is some work, inner work that needs to be done. So inflated ego, fragile ego is the opposite of healthy ego. It's I am in fear. I feel shameful. I am feeling guilty. These are all emotions of the lower consciousness of the uh consciousness chart. However, we tend to go through this time to time. Emotions are nothing but ego in motion. Going through shame is a trauma. When you recognize it, it as a healthy

12:22 emotion, as a healthy ego, one works their way to get out of it, becomes aware of that emotion and learns how to get out of it, upskills them, finds their way to get out and heal the trauma to get out of that space. So that way you can actually work yourself out of these these fragile emotions. So low self-esteem, insecurity, and constantly seeking validation and people pleasing is some of the nature of this fragile emotion. If you're someone who is seeking constant approval, hey look at me, I have scored first class in my exams or look at me I have um I created this garden bed all by myself or look at me the painting that I painted and I won first prize and but the first prize has

13:07 already validated their skill but they want to run around and show how much they have actually won the first prize to get more validation like an inflated validation because that is the hole that trying to fill by a temporary validation from the external and it is not sustainable. There will be a point when one does not get the validation that they expect and that disappointment will rip them apart, will tear them. So be careful, be aware. Have to be alert how this mind plays these ego games. What happens when you mirror someone else? How does that show up? Is that ego or not? Usually when we grow up, we are always mirroring someone. We are mirroring either our dad or mom or both a grandparent, sister, brother, who was

13:52 around when you're growing up. And at some point you start to admire certain characteristics of certain people, personalities. And then you want to create your own personality. Personality is nothing but a person that you admire of their nature of their characteristics and attributes that you want to embody. So this ego seeks identity of that ego. Now it could be one, two, three, four people. So when I was learning communication from one of my teachers in Australia, uh he said to mirror and embody five people that you really admire. I don't remember who the exact five was, but these five keep kept

14:38 changing and shifting and shaping as you build your personality. Now as as you build your personality you start to embody the other e the ego of the other into yourself. So your ego is shaping your this ego is shaping the ego its ego based on the other ego. Now not all of it might be healthy. Sometimes your uh teacher could be quite arrogant and show superiority and could be coming as um uh someone who's really strong in the way they deliver and you don't want to be embodying that because you are inculcating that ego into you. Someone who might be amazing at drawing or

15:24 painting or creating art could be suffering through low self-esteem and is painting and showing their portraying their art to get that validation that they're good enough to live in the society. It is not coming fully out of their true joy through inner joy. So, and then if you're embodying the artist side of things, you got to let go of the low self-esteem side of things. I had uh one of my teachers, one of my martial arts teacher, a warrior arts teacher. He had so much knowledge, but his alter ego was incredibly painful. He had so much um he had so much uh pain within how to deal with his relationships. So they you have to separate that. You take the martial

16:09 arts, you take the warrior arts, you just hold on to the arts, you let go of the person, how they're struggling with their relationships and how they feel insecure in relationships and how they feel that they need to constantly get validation to feel that they are greater to showcase their superiority. Um, and the so when you become aware of these three types of ego, you remember the four types of ego. Ego is not necessarily always sitting on top. The one who's feeling low is also ego. The healthy ego is to know the balance and become aware. So if you're embodying and mirroring someone, only take what feels healthy and right for you. If you don't know what is healthy ego, talk to us,

16:54 research, get more information, become clear what is healthy for you and then embody that. Don't blindly embody someone. And don't embody the whole thing either. only take what feels healthy, what feels righteous to you, what feels dharmic to you. So we wonder what what are these where all of these egos step in from? How I how I how did I even get into this ego game, this ego suffering, it comes from our ancestors. Ancestral ego refers to the inherited patterns, beliefs, and emotions passed down through generations. These can influence your thoughts, behaviors, and

17:41 relationships without you realizing it. Almost, if you didn't know, 80% of our ego comes from our ancestors, from our lineage. I am a smith. I come from the Buckingham Palace. I am a Rajput. I come from a legacy of warriors. I come from a legacy of leaders, politicians. So you create this whole pompousness about who you are even before you understand who you are, who truly you are. So then the family also feeds in this. They raise us to say that hey you are a rajud. Hey you are a warrior family. Hey you are a farming family.

18:27 Hey, you are a a business family. In India, they have all these cast segregation where they are branded with who they are meant to who they are, who have they born as and who they meant to be. So there we go for most of our life thinking that this is what who I am and not really inquiring into the truth of who truly I am. So this ego of lineage follows through. Now some of it is physical. It's happening through the parents. It's happening through the grandparents. Then there is some of it that is metaphysical that is happening through your ancestors who you have not even met. Now the ones who you've not even met is traveling through you and transversing through your DNA because there is this mitochondria that holds information from the maternal side all

19:14 the way and it registers every lineage at a cellular level which means your entire makeup of this body which is the blueprint of the mind is carrying this ego this ancestral ego which is the root cause of your birth as a human being in this earth. So we are born as an outcome of ego. Now you think about it. How many of us do we know that wants to have children to prove themselves that they are not imbecile? Pardon me as if um pardon me for the parents who are listening to this but just think about this as a soul at a soul level as a spirit level. How many of us are giving birth to children because of the pressure of our family

20:00 saying now you're married you need to have a child. How many of us are giving birth to children to create create a life create a child to show that I am not an imbecile. I am actually fertile. I can create. I am capable to create. I'm capable to birth. Women have a a insecurity where when they cross a certain age they feel they have they have this need biological need to give birth that is ego that is ancestral ego. Most of them when when I talk to them like why do you feel this need because you have not figured out your own life as to who you are and you have not explored into your own life and you have all these complications in your relationship all these complications in your health and then yet you are despite yet you have this desire to create a

20:47 child they don't have an answer because it is biological it is embedded in the DNA along the lineage to continuously procreate for a man if they don't procreate they will be seen as a weakling that they are not a man they need to let their genes out by procreating. So here we are completely confused in society in our communities thinking that the only reason for relationships is to actually produce children increase the family. So take out the family take out the produ production of children. Now go back to the seed of the metaphysics. Where is this coming from? This is coming from the ego of the lineage. I can give you a solid example

21:33 from my own life. My grandmother for the longest time until last month kept saying that I'm the eldest in the family. My my father is the el was the eldest in the family and his father my grandfather was the eldest in the family. Eldest male eldest male in the family. So three, four generations that eldest and I've come to the point of cutting that lineage to say I don't. And she wonders if you don't continue this lineage, our lineage will stop with you. And she worried for 25 years until last month. Last month she said now you have reached your clarity and I don't think you are you will continue the lineage

22:20 now you have chosen to be in the lineage of God you have chosen to be in the lineage of grace and she bowed down because something she's seen over the years over the last two three decades switched in her to know that I had kept my word to not fall into this ancestral ego and carry the suffering of this ancestry another lineage forward When you awaken into this truth, you can also stop this endless continuation of suffering into life after life and passing it down to your loved ones, your children and their children and so on. Now, producing children is not a sin. The sin is when you have not figured out

23:05 who you are and what your purpose is and what you're meant to be and then unconsciously producing for the sake of that status that pride becomes a sin. And the one who suffers is the one that's been born passing on this ancestral karma across over. When does it stop? Just as it as it has been passed down to us. We are the ones who've been given this lesson to learn. The wise one will not further pass it on because now they have realized their truth. So think and contemplate about this. Can ego be transferred through energy, microbiome or the environment? Yes. Yes. And yes, yes. Ego can be

23:53 transferred through energy. Ego can be transferred through your environment where you're living. And ego can also be transferred through your genetics. However, the lessons of ego can only be transferred to you through grace. It's only because of grace that we are receiving these lessons. And only grace can correct the course of this journey without ego or reduced ego or a healthier ego just by understanding what ego actually This