3 Ways to Get HARD in the PHILIPPINES

0:00 Welcome to Smart Girl Philippines Sim Irish and the topic of today's short talk is hard again. Three ways to get your mojo back in the Philippines. Now, if you're already crushing it and clapping chicks and smashing mangoes, or you've already found a Filipino wife or girlfriend, then great work. This episode is not for you. But if you're not crushing it and not spanking mangoes or you're muely single or you've been single for a while and have been locked out of heaven, then this episode is specifically for you. Your poor little guy, he just needs woken up. Don't worry, I'll do my best to help you get

0:47 the blood flowing again so you can get back out there and experience the filling of some sweet sugar walls once again. And hopefully it will be some tight Filipino sugar walls. Oh yeah, it feels good when it's slippery like that. Working as a waitress, I have seen and talked to thousands of foreigners here who came to the Philippines and found wives and girlfriends or just came to date and have fun. And these guys were all different. Some were old, some were young, some looked rich, some looked poor, some were tall, some were short, some were handsome, and some looked like the fishing boat captain from the movie

1:33 Jaws. The point is that it doesn't really matter who you are. It is possible to get your mojo back in the Philippines. And every single guy has a story for how they ended up in the Philippines and how they ended up making it happen. And what I noticed was that all of their stories all boiled down to one of three different things. And it's even more interesting because those three things are the core components of CBT, which is a type of therapy used by professional psychologist and therapist to help their clients get unstuck. So what I'm going to share with you is actually backed up by science. But just remember, I'm not a psychologist,

2:20 therapist, or relationship coach. I'm just a [ __ ] waitress. So have a seat in my section and let me share the three ways to get your mojo back in the Philippines. Number one, find a guide. The overwhelming majority of guys told me that the way they ended up in the Philippines was because they had a friend, a coworker, or even a stranger helped give them the idea to come here and help them figure out how to make it happen. One guy who was in his late 30s said he met two guys in Florida who were both married to Filipinos. He said both guys were in their late 50s and they were married to beautiful, sweet,

3:06 slender Filipinos in their 30s. He said it was hard being dateless and alone in Florida while watching these two guys having fun with their Filipino wives. So he got curious and started asking them questions. And one of the guys ended up sharing with him the inner workings of how he made it all happened and gave him tips and pointers for where to go and what to do. Another guy told me he had a coworker who came to the Philippines every year. And so he finally decided to tag along and that his coworker serve as a guide to help show him around and teach him how to navigate the world of dating here. He said he was shocked at

3:51 how beautiful the women were and how easy it was to actually get a date. Another guy said he came here on a business trip with a group of guys and he was immediately hooked. Another guy said a body from the military invited him for a visit. Another guy said he had a friend from college marry a Filipino and so he reached out to him to ask for advice. Every single guy saw someone else and saw what was possible and then had the thought, "Wow, that's kind of cool." And then they connected with someone who was able to get them the help they needed to make things happen. The point is that quite often in life, the solution to getting unstuck is

4:38 usually more about who than how. When professional athletes fall into a slump, they don't sit around trying to think how they're going to get unstuck. Instead, they focus on the who and work on finding the person who is going to help them get unstuck. You can read the book Who, Not How, by Benjamin Hardy to learn more about this strategy. But almost every guy I talked to seemed to have some type of Obi-Wan who helped guide them on their journey to finding love in the Philippines. The first way to get your mojo back is about shifting your thinking from a how mindset to a who mindset.

5:24 Number two, have a fantasy. One guy who is married to a Filipina here said that 12 years ago he had a friend who encouraged him to create a profile on one of the Filipino dating sites just for fun. He told him to expect at least 50 messages from Filipina within the first day. He said he was skeptical at first because on American dating sites he had almost no luck getting any replies and he thought maybe it was all a big scam. But he was really shocked when he signed up and it actually happened. Within a few days he was chatting and video calling with dozens of young and beautiful Filipinos and

6:09 that's when he said the fantasy started. He kept dreaming about showing up and dating them and being a bad boy and doing naughty things with them. And then he started wondering what was actually holding him back. He said he chatted for several months with one really sweet Filipina and he finally decided to book a ticket to show up to meet her in real life. And it wasn't a scam. His dream came true. and he said that after spending two weeks in the Philippines, he was kicking himself for not coming sooner. I heard similar stories from other guys. They all had fantasies about dating in Asia. Those fantasies made them more and more excited about

6:55 actually trying to come and make it happen. And that's why I'm a big fan of YouTube and of online dating because they're both great at helping both foreigners and Filipinos have fantasies about being together. Obviously, online dating was so much better 10 or 20 years ago. And today, I'm guessing that more than 95% of online dating sites are filled with scammers and gold diggers. And that number may be actually closer to 99%. Who knows? But I still think it's a good thing to try because it's all about having a fantasy. And that fantasy is going to help you have good feelings and emotions. And it's those

7:41 feelings and emotions that are going to motivate you to take action and get your mojo back. Think of online dating as being like a slot machine. the odds are stacked against you, you're probably not going to win. But it's the fantasy of winning a big jackpot that gets you to get off your ass and show up at the casino. And once you're at the casino, then you get to enjoy the buffet and see a show and actually have a good time. So, [ __ ] the [ __ ] Don't feed them your money. The [ __ ] are just there to help you have a fantasy. And fantasies can be a really great thing to help us wake up and get unstuck. So, let me spell it out for you. You're going to go online.

8:29 You're going to meet a beautiful 20-year-old Filipina and you're going to start chatting with her and you're probably going to whack off to her. Yes, she probably already has a boyfriend. Yes, she is probably chatting with a dozen other guys. Yes, she's probably going to eventually ask you for money, sneaky [ __ ] Don't send her any. And no, she probably won't meet you in real life. But the reason you're chatting with her is to have a fantasy and to get your blood flowing. And once the blood starts flowing, then your mojo starts to wake up. Hey little guy, there you are. Then you show up in the Philippines and

9:16 find a real 20-year-old Filipina who actually does want to be with you. And this is when an important shift is going to take place. Instead of finding a Filipina that you can whack off to, you're going to find a Filipina who wants to whack you off. So, which do you prefer? A fast, slow, or medium pace? Oh, good. I like a medium pace. That's how you actually win when it comes to getting your mojo back. So, go ahead and have a fantasy because that fantasy is going to lead to some good feelings and emotions. Number three, aim low. That's right, aim low. Instead of showing up

10:03 and trying to find a girlfriend or wife right away, they just got their blood pumping by simply interacting with Filipinos in everyday life. They went to restaurants and started talking with Filipino waitresses. They went coughing and started talking to Filipino cadis. They got lots of massages and started connecting with Filipino massage therapists. They hung out in coffee shops and started talking with Filipino baristas. They went to bars and had drinks with Filipino burgers. They hired tour guides and went exploring. I talked to another foreigner who said he showed up here and was blown away at how cheap it was to get a massage. He said back home it was almost $100. So when he

10:52 showed up here and he saw that it was only $8 for an hour long massage, he started getting massages every day. And he said there was something amazing about just experiencing the touch of a beautiful Filipina in a nonsexual way every day that brought healing to his body and help him feel amazing and more confident about dating. I also know a lot of foreigners who said they simply showed up in the Philippines and just started walking around the mall every day. That's a perfect example of how Aiming Low can help you get your mojo back. The malls are packed with beautiful Filipinos. So get out of your room and just start walking around and

11:38 enjoy the views and get the blood flowing and see where it leads. I talked to several guys who told me that they lacked confidence when it came to actually talking and interacting with the opposite sex. So when they showed up here, they use spargers in the nightlife districts as a form of training wheels for learning how to talk and engage with women. And slowly over time, they were able to build up their confidence and eventually take off the training wheels and go make things happen in the wild. I have made previous videos about the topic of sex surrogates and sex therapy. So, I won't discuss all of that here, but I have talked to several guys who showed up and took the necessary steps

12:25 to find Filipinos who could help them gain the confidence they needed in the bedroom. Obviously, it's a taboo subject and the lines get really blurry when it comes to the legalities of hiring someone to clinically help you in the bedroom. But the point is that they were able to show up and do what they needed to do to get their insecurities in the bedroom figured out so they could have normal sex lives moving forward. When it comes to getting your mojo back, the key is going to be aiming low and taking baby steps to move you in the right direction. So, let me recap. Finding a guide is all about having the right thinking. Having a fantasy is all about feelings and emotions. And aiming low is

13:13 all about taking baby steps in the right direction. And those are also the core components of cognitive behavior therapy, also known as CBT. Having a thought comes from something external or from a memory. It's usually something you see or remember. Thoughts lead to emotional responses and that's where feelings come from. And feelings are what motivate actions. And then by acting on our feelings, we can create a positive feedback loop because those actions usually end up leading to more thoughts and that leads to more emotions and then that leads to more actions. But like I said, I'm not a trained psychologist. I just play one on

13:59 YouTube. So, by finding a guide and then having a fantasy and then aiming low, you're using thoughts, feelings, and actions to get unstuck and get your mojo back. But be careful because that's how babies get made. I wanted to make this video because the ultimate mission of my channel is to make the world a less lonely place. And so, if you're feeling like you've hit a dry spot in your life, don't give up. Just remember thoughts, feelings, and actions. Start thinking, then start feeling, and then start taking action. Because remember, ships weren't built to sit in the harbor. What do you think? Please let me know in the

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