Give Me 28 Minutes, I’ll Make You Dangerously Attractive To Women

0:00 Women paid me $600 an hour to be their boyfriend. It was my job for three years as a highclass male companion here in Australia before I moved into the adult film industry where I then got paid to star in spicy movies. I did that for about another 5 years. And after being with a fair share of women, I've distilled female attraction down to eight key principles. And I'm going to show you how to apply these exact principles so you can become irresistible to women. But before I get into it, I just want to say something because I already know there's going to be some dude in the comments saying something [ __ ] like just be rich or just be good-looking. And look, of course those things help. But to any guy who thinks this, please understand that

0:48 just saying women only care about looks or they only care about money is a complete and total copout. There are many different levers that you can pull to generate attraction. And I see guys who are living proof of that every time I leave the house. Take it from me. I'm not the best looking guy. I'm basically just 6 ft tall. And most of my years back when I was a total player, I was actually broke long before I had this YouTube channel. In fact, I actually think I got more casual sex when I was broke than when I got money. Having wealth can actually handicap you in a lot of ways because if a girl knows that you have money, there's a good chance she'll try to extract some of that before she gives you any sex. Which is why it's never a good thing to lead with

1:35 money in the first place. You want to attract her by other means, which is what these eight principles in this video are about. And most of these principles are more powerful than looks or money anyway. And the last one beats all of them combined. So, let's get stuck into it. The first principle is a form of status and it's what I call attention without selfdeprecation. You see, attention and status are basically interchangeable today, especially because we're in the social media age. In our evolutionary past, the only man who got attention was the man who was competent or he was useful or he had standing in the tribe, a successful person, a leader. Men who

2:20 actually had real status and real power. So our psychology has evolved to associate attention with status. But because of the internet and social media, a lot of people are actually hacking this psychology by gaining attention without actually having any realworld influence or power. A perfect example of this would be people you see on TV. Think actors in movies and in TV shows. Why do people admire actors? Why are these guys celebrities? It's not really because they're competent at anything or even because they're particularly good-looking. There are actually plenty of ugly male actors who still have groupies. It's because they have all of this attention on them through the screen. And with that attention, we infer status onto them.

3:08 Another example would be young live streamers. Most of these guys aren't like well-rounded, super competent, impressive people, but they have status because they know how to get attention. Not trying to throw any shade here, but they usually do that by doing some outrageous [ __ ] Now, the caveat though is that the attention has to come without self-deprecation. You can't be belittling yourself or embarrassing yourself. That's not attractive. You're actively lowering your status by doing that. And here's the thing, you don't have to go viral or be on TV to leverage this principle yourself. You can still leverage this in a localized environment. The key is to being comfortable being the center of attention. being comfortable being able to command presence in a room. I'll give you an example. I remember a long long

3:55 time ago when I was 24, I attended an entrepreneurship conference in Villness, Lithuania of all places. I landed in this city, right? I landed there a few days before the conference started. So, I just spent my days like walking around, finding nice restaurants, seeing nice stuff. But then the day before the conference started, all the other attendees flew in and there was about 50 of us from all over the world, all relatively young people in their early 20s, and we were all staying at the same hostel. And then the night before the conference started, we're all gathered in the town square talking amongst each other, trying to figure out where we should all go to have dinner. And because I already knew the layout of the old town, I just stood up on a park bench in front of everybody and said, "Hey guys, like I've been here a couple of days. There's this really nice

4:40 restaurant just down the road. It's big. It's got a beer, big beer hall. They'll definitely be able to fit all of us. And they got a good selection of food. So, follow me. I'll show you the way. And then everybody started following me there and we had dinner. Then fast forward to the end of this conference and I ended up hooking up with one of the female attendees. And I literally asked her, and this is actually a good question that you can ask a woman after you have slept with her for the first time. I asked her, "When did you first know that you were attracted to me?" and she literally said, "After you stood up on that park bench and told everyone where to go for dinner." So, the simple act of me garnering everyone's attention gave me status and also the fact that I was leading them somewhere, which is the second principle we're going to talk about. Now, another way to get attention

5:26 like that is just by being able to project your voice well in your day-to-day life. Not in the obnoxious, loud, rowdy, drunk guy kind of way, but by just not being timid and afraid that others will hear you. If your voice is loud and projecting, naturally the people around you will pay attention to you and they'll actually start to perceive you as slightly higher status, even if you're not directly talking to them. Studies have also been done on voice projection. The louder and clearer you speak, the higher your perceived status is and the more attractive you are to women. Other examples of leveraging this principle include things like public speaking, being the life of a party, or simply being the guy having the most fun at a party or a bar or a nightclub, where you're just laughing your ass off with your guys. All these

6:13 things get people's attention, and as a result, you'll have more status than anyone else in that room in that present moment. So, get comfortable with being the center of attention. And I'll get into how you can build that comfort in just a bit. Now let's move on to the second principle which is being a leader of people particularly being a leader of men because men in general are a bit harder to lead and women tend to be more natural followers than men do. But if you can demonstrate that other people follow your instructions, take your advice and give you respect, this is another form of status and it's incredibly attractive because it demonstrates that you're at the top of a social hierarchy because you're leading them. And women want the guy at the top of the social hierarchy most of the

6:58 time. The story I told you earlier about me standing up on the park bench also leverages that same principle. The girl was attracted to me when she saw me leading an entire group of people. So if you're running an event, organizing a dinner meetup, hosting a party, or maybe you're speaking on stage, the women you're leading will be more attracted to you. The women in that event space in the in your presence will naturally be more attracted to you. or maybe they're even not there, but you have photos and videos of you on your social media doing these things. That's how you can convey your leadership ability to more women. Now, in the context of a date or a relationship, that leadership ability comes through in you being decisive, making decisions for the two of you, so she can just switch off and follow your lead. This is actually principle number

7:44 five on this list, so I'm going to go deeper into that in a minute. Now, the question is, how do you develop leadership skills in the first place? Well, it's actually pretty simple. You have to take responsibility for things because when you take responsibility for something, you are by default the one in charge and you become the leader. So my advice would be to volunteer for as many things as possible and gain experience stepping up to the plate as it were. Lead a project, run an event, run an organization, organize a race, organize a dinner party, organize a charity fundraiser, organize a cigar meet up, anything. It's actually quite simple. It doesn't have to be too complicated. If you're in college or university, you'll actually have plenty of opportunities to do this. And so, I'd recommend you jump at them. If you're a bit older, you have to proactively seek these opportunities

8:30 out in your workplace or your hobbies or in your social network. In fact, here's a really easy and simple thing that you can do. Be the guy who organizes social events for you and your friends. Be the guy who's like, "Yo, what's everyone doing on Saturday at this time? Let's get together for dinner or let's go do this thing." Like, send that text out on a regular basis. take the role of being the social organizer, which is itself a leadership role. So few people proactively do that, which is why so many friendships disappear after school or after university. It's actually a really easy way to start developing your leadership skills. But not only that, by constantly stepping up to the plate, you also become more comfortable with being the center of attention. And as we talked about in the first principle, that is very attractive. So you get two

9:17 things for the price of one. This is how I had the confidence to do things like stand up on a park bench and lead 50 people I'd never really met before. Now, moving on to principle number three, which sounds simple on the surface, but most men don't apply it correctly, and that is boundaries. I remember back when I used to live in Marba, Spain, I had this one Scottish girl that I would hook up with. We were at the beach one day hanging out at the bar, having some drinks, and she was a bit of a lightweight. So after two drinks, I could tell that she was getting pretty drunk already. And when the waiter came over next to take our order again, I said to the waiter, "Oh, just a water for her." And then order myself another drink. And I turned to her and said, "You're getting too drunk. I want you to

10:02 have water and sober up." So the boundary that I'm setting here is I don't want to interact with a woman who's intoxicated. And I did it in a very calm but firm way, a bit like a dad disciplining his daughter perhaps. And that turned her on so [ __ ] much that she literally told me verbatim the next day that that was the sexiest thing a guy had ever done to her on a date. And I've heard this kind of feedback multiple times from different women because this is something I've done frequently on dates if I think she's had too much to drink. Now having an enforcing boundaries is extremely attractive because it shows you're not a complete pushover. It shows that you have some standards in your life. If you're a pushover, nobody, man or woman, is going to respect you because why would they when you don't even respect

10:48 yourself enough to have boundaries? And for women, respect is very much the foundation for love. Without respect, she cannot love you and she cannot be sexually attracted to you. It's literally impossible. And besides, if you don't have boundaries, you actually don't have a romantic relationship. How is it a relationship if she can run around and do whatever she wants like she's still single? A relationship is a compromise between two people. If you do not enforce your boundaries or you don't have any boundaries at all, she is just going to keep treating you worse and worse and lose more and more respect for you. So, how do you set and enforce boundaries? Well, you need to set them early on in the relationship. For example, you need to call her out whenever she does things you don't like. You can just do it very casually, like,

11:34 "Hey, cut that [ __ ] out." Or, "That's not acceptable, babe. Don't do that again." Or, "Your skirt's way too short. Go and change." Just listen to your gut here because your gut is extremely accurate. If your spidey senses are tingling, you probably should listen to it. And if she tries to shame you and call you controlling or insecure or some other [ __ ] that is a test. Never ever ever get angry or start yelling at her or get into a logical argument with her. You just need to remain calm. State your reason if she asks why and stand your ground. And if she refuses or crosses that boundary again in the future, you have to break up with her. You have to be a man of your word and follow through with it. And sometimes women will cross it just to test you to see if your boundary is actually real or

12:19 if you're just bluffing, especially the beautiful women because they're so used to men just letting them do whatever the hell they want. So, you need to be man enough to walk away and give her a [ __ ] wakeup call. If you can do that, what you'll probably find is she'll come crawling back to you begging for forgiveness and she'll respect you a lot more. She'll be more attracted to you and she'll feel more safe with you because she knows you're a [ __ ] man. And all of that is a lot easier to do if you have options in your life. You can't be afraid of pissing her off or losing her. And she will also more likely listen if she knows you have abundance and can easily replace her if you need to. Now, let's move on to a lesserk known principle. And principle number four is mistress. One of the funniest dynamics that I have with my girlfriend is that she always calls me out whenever I drop new Sterling law. So basically

13:05 [ __ ] that I've done in my life or experiences that I've had which she has no [ __ ] clue about like oh I went here I did this thing or I went through the Amazon River and I caught piranhas with this guy or I escaped a group of guys trying to mug me at knife point in Brazil that one time or that actually happened to me by the way. And when you just pull things like this from thin air it can be ridiculously attractive because you just have this mysterious backstory that she can never figure out. So having vast life experience and varying interests is very attractive. She can't put you in a box. For example, if you look at my Instagram, it's photos of me jet setting, smoking cigars, fast cars, machismo. But in my private life behind closed doors with my woman, I love board games. I love going to

13:51 museums. I like gardening, and a bunch of other stuff. The idea is that your woman shouldn't be able to put you in a box. There should be lots of depth to you and your personality so that there's lots for women to discover. And if women feel like they know everything about you, then there's no mystery and that gets quite boring. So the lesson here is get out there and do cool [ __ ] with your life. Going back to the story where I stood up on that park bench, I met 20-year-olds at that entrepreneurship conference that had more life experience than any of the 40-year-olds I knew in my life. So having lots of things to talk about has nothing to do with how old you are either. It's all about how you spend your time. Every month spent playing video games, for example, is a

14:37 month that you could have spent learning a new skill, learning a new hobby, trying to start a new business, learning about some piece of history, exploring a new place nearby, going on some kind of adventure with your boys. The more you do, the more wisdom, the more stories and life experiences you get, and the more interesting things you'll have to share with people. And that is very attractive to everyone, but especially women. Moving on to principle number five, which is one of the most underrated ones. Decisiveness. Decisiveness is the ability to make decisions, to be confident in your choice. And this is a big thing guys need to cultivate because we've been taught since we were young kids that a relationship should be this 50/50 thing. And because we're guys, we process that logically. So, we start asking her for

15:25 her opinion on every [ __ ] decision in the relationship. Where do you want to eat? What do you want to eat? Where do you want to go? What do you want to do this weekend? And if that sounds like you and your relationships, I'm telling you that you need to forget that a woman wants you to take control and lead. Be decisive. The natural feminine state is when she is comfortable enough with you to let you lead so she can turn her thinking brain off. That's when women enter this happy bubble. They enter this positive, blissful state because they fully trust you and it's [ __ ] beautiful. So, you can be the one who tells her, "Meet me at this place at this time. Wear this cute dress I saw in your Instagram profile." You could even order her food and drinks for her if you know the menu well. And decide what to

16:10 do for the weekend. Now, there's no need to get autistic about this. It's still okay to ask her what she actually likes. But once you know what she likes, there's no need to constantly check in and ask permission from her to make a decision. Just make the damn decision. And don't be afraid of making the wrong decision either. Women would much rather you make a wrong decision and handle any consequences than be indecisive and ask her for permission. Principle number six is being physically imposing. Women are hardwired to seek out men who are capable of violence. Now, that doesn't mean she wants you to be violent to her, but being physically capable of violence tells her on a subconscious level that you have the capacity to protect her. It

16:57 implies strength, which was very important in our evolutionary past because if a man wasn't physically capable, she and her offspring could perish. So, she is evolved to be attracted to physically imposing men. This is why women like guys who are tall, who are broad, who are jacked. This is also why women actually don't mind guys who are a bit thick and chubby, too, because they just perceive it as being big. Now, I obviously recommend every guy should improve his physique. In my experience, women [ __ ] love it when you have big arms. My MS is always grabbing and squeezing my biceps. She's like, she squeezes them and she makes this gr kind of sound. It's really cute. And she's constantly taking photos of me behind my back and commenting on how big my arms look. Now, women also love it, oddly enough, when

17:43 you have a big butt. I get complimented on my ass by women probably more than anything else. Not because I'm fat, you bastards, but it's because I do deadlifts and they [ __ ] love it because it implies you can pound the [ __ ] out of them in the bedroom. But on top of building up your physique, I also highly recommend that you learn how to fight. Because when you know how to fight, you carry yourself with a level of confidence and certainty and situational awareness that makes others not want to [ __ ] with you. And you develop an aura. There's guys I know who are small as hell but are professional fighters and they pull [ __ ] like there's no tomorrow. So you can be physically imposing without actually being big. But you can only have that presence by knowing martial arts. You absolutely cannot fake it. So getting into something like boxing, kickboxing

18:30 or jiu-jitsu is great. And pick your gym carefully. Most gyms are not serious fight gyms. You want to pick a gym where they train real active fighters. That's where you'll learn how to actually fight and take a punch. And if you commit to that two to three times a week for at least six months, I guarantee it's going to improve your life in so many different ways, not just with getting ladies. Principle number seven is knowing a woman's body better than she does. There's a certain energy that you carry when you know you can rock a woman's world in the bedroom. It changes the way that you interact with women. Everything from the way you talk to her, the way you touch her, the way you look her in the eyes. All of it just becomes electric. You become seductive and that

19:15 makes you highly arousing. She's going to be thinking in the back of her mind, if I don't control myself, I'm going to jump on his dick. And I give you the knowledge on this very channel, and you should be applying that knowledge as much as possible so that you can blow women's minds. Which then positively reinforces in your mind that you're a [ __ ] sex god. But if you're less experienced in the bedroom, what I would recommend is having some sort of affirmation you can repeat back to yourself in your head during these situations. This is literally what I did when I was a young man, and it actually helped give me a much more seductive vibe. So, what I would do is whenever I'm talking with a woman, I'd say kind of in my own head, in like a in the back of my mind, "You are in so much trouble, young lady." Or something like, "I know your body inside and out. I could do things to you that would make your

20:01 parents blush." These are the kinds of like self-affirming thoughts that I'd have running in the back of my mind when I'm not actively thinking and talking about something when I'm engaging with a woman. And when you're thinking these kinds of thoughts, your words and your actions are going to come across more seductive in my experience. It's like self-hypnosis. And over time, once you do gain the experience, these thoughts will just become automatic and that seductive energy will come across very naturally. And now for the most powerful attraction trigger of all that beats absolutely everything on this list, including money and looks. Principle number eight is pre-selection or mate choice copying. This is a form of social proof. Pre-selection is when a woman knows that other women want you and

20:47 there is nothing that will arouse her more than that. Let me share a pretty wild experience with you. So, I've done some pretty bold [ __ ] when it comes to getting threesomes. There was one time when me and my ex, who was bisexual, went on Tinder together to hunt for threesomes. So, we set up a profile on her phone and it was set to look for women looking for women. And the front cover picture was the two of us looking sexy as [ __ ] I was in a great suit and she was in a bikini. And the other photos were a mix between sexy photos of me and sexy photos of her and then us together. All really good-look pictures. And in our bio, we were very explicitly clear. We said something along the lines of looking for fun women who are open-minded. Something like that. Basically, we used these really [ __ ] vague woman terms that meant we're looking for a threesome. And we had some

21:33 disqualifiers as well. So, we said things like not looking for lesbians, not looking for other couples, things like that to show that we had standards and we came across as higher status because we were more picky and more selective. And then we just started swiping. Now, I'll be honest. The old me at this time was like, "There's no way this is going to [ __ ] work. Women are going to get angry." Blah blah blah blah blah. But I was actually stunned by how easily we got matches. It worked like a [ __ ] charm. My ex being with me in these pictures was pre-selection enough to make these women want to have threesomes with us. It was so powerful. Women were immediately willing to have threesomes with us. So, if you're looking for some fun, you can try that out. Just know you're obviously not going to find super wholesome girls doing that because because women who sign up to do random threesomes on Tinder tend to be a bit wild. But I'm

22:20 sure a man who's been single and then got a girlfriend suddenly found that women in general were more attracted to him. It's the wedding ring effect because the fact you already have a woman is pre-selection. Pre-selection or mate choice copying has also been widely studied and and proven to be a very strong attraction trigger. And here's why. Women don't have all of the information that they need to determine if you will be a good mate. There are a million different things that make a man a good partner. Not just sexually, but also long-term. All the qualities we just talked about. Leadership, having boundaries, being able to stand up for yourself decisiveness mystery good standing in the society, your social network, your social circle, how good you are in bed, even whether or not you can protect and provide for her. For a

23:07 woman to determine if a man actually has these qualities, she would have to spend quite a bit of time with him. And women don't have the time for that. So to shortcut that entire process, women will look to other women's opinions of you. If she sees that other women are trying to jump into your pants or at the very least you're surrounded by lots of women, then she thinks you must have some of these attributes. It fasttracks the decision making process. And this is all actually subconscious. It's very instinctual. Women aren't sitting there logically thinking, "Oh, all these women want to suck his dick, so I'll suck his dick, too." They're not thinking that. It's an innate feeling. It's simply how they are wired. The same way that we're wired to instantly get a boner when we

23:52 see a hot chick. It is biology. And for that reason, all women respond positively to pre-selection. It doesn't matter if she's a good girl, a crazy girl, low body count, high body count. All women are biologically wired to respond to pre-selection. And how many dudes a woman has slept with doesn't change the way she's wired. In fact, there are actually studies that show the less sexual experience a woman has, so the lower body count she has, the more she will positively respond to pre-selection signals because women who are less experienced with men find it harder to pick up on cues and elevate the quality of the man they pick. So they outsource that evaluation to other women. So if anything, if you want to attract highly selective, good-looking

24:39 women, having her know that other women want to be in your life is the most powerful tool that you can leverage. And it is especially powerful if these other women choosing you are also beautiful. So how do you actually apply this principle? A good first step would be to have photos of yourself surrounded by women having a good time together. The women ideally should be giving you attention or paying you attention in that photograph. Here is a really good example of this from a buddy of mine called Tristan. You can see he's at a table full of women and they're all paying attention to him laughing at a joke he's just made. The photo should be genuine, too. Don't be one of these guys who's posing with like obvious promo girls. That's not very convincing. It should be with your female friends or girlfriends of your friends chatting nonchalantly, having a good time. This

25:24 is a good way to show pre-selection because it shows you're not a [ __ ] weirdo. And if you're already in a relationship, the way you demonstrate pre-selection is by just being an attractive guy. Because if you have all the qualities we just listed in this video where you're charismatic, you're a leader, you're physically imposing, and so on, the world will do the mateguarding for you. All you have to do is go out and socialize, and other women are going to give you attention by default. And if your girl gets a little jealous, lean into it. Tease her playfully about it. Say something like, "Well, what can I do? All these ladies love me. I'm sorry, baby." Or you could say something like, "See how lucky you have it. See how much demand there is for this." And if you want to amplify this idea, make sure you spend some time away from your woman. Go spend some time

26:10 with your boys at a social event or off in the woods hiking and camping or something because if you're attractive, she's going to assume that other women are giving you attention. Just let her imagination do the heavy lifting for you. You don't actually have to do anything with other women. Just don't be around her 24/7 because then she knows for certain that there's no other women who are interested in you. You need to give her brain room to develop competition anxiety. And that is not a bad thing because I'll tell you a secret about women. Women will always have some form of anxiety. They either have competition anxiety from all the women that want you or they have anxiety around whether or not they picked the right man which she will feel if no other women are giving you attention.

26:56 It's one or the other. There is no in between. It's better to have her anxious about keeping you than the other way around because that's how you reassure her that she has chosen the best possible option. That is how you keep her aroused and you keep her attracted to you. The ultimate female fantasy can be summed up in one sentence. She wants a man who is wanted by every other woman, but she's the only one who gets to have him. Now, we talked a lot about pre-selection, but the truth is the most honest indicator of pre-selection is actually being really [ __ ] good in bed because it's proof that you have experience with women. So, so make sure you know how to rock her world in bed. And I teach all of that for free on this channel. And this is a key skill if you truly want to have your woman obsessed

27:42 with you. And the most underrated tool in the bedroom is by far dirty talk. And I explain why in this video right over here. So, click on it if you want to learn how to fast track her orgasm with dirty talk along with my favorite lines that you can steal right