Brief Summary
This video features interviews with individuals in their 70s, 80s, and 90s, who share advice they would give to their younger selves. The recurring themes include the importance of relationships, not worrying about what others think, adapting to change, speaking up, saving money, and appreciating differences. They emphasize living a life of purpose, kindness, and respect, and not dwelling on regrets.
- Importance of relationships and kindness
- Adapting to change and speaking up
- Living a life of purpose and respect
The video starts by introducing the concept of seeking advice from older generations, specifically individuals in their 70s, 80s, and 90s. These interviews, filmed across different parts of the world, aim to capture the wisdom and insights these elders would impart to their younger selves, offering powerful and interesting perspectives on life.
Several interviewees share their experiences of aging. One person, aged 69, notes feeling the effects of age, particularly loneliness despite still working to feel productive. Another, soon to be 97, expresses frustration with the limitations of old age, feeling like a prisoner due to reduced mobility and independence. In contrast, an 82 and 87-year-old couple maintain a youthful attitude by surrounding themselves with younger people.
The interviewees reflect on how their priorities have changed over time. They realize that material possessions become less important, while relationships with others and the world gain significance. They emphasize the importance of feeling good, comfortable, protected, and trusting in relationships. One person notes a shift from focusing on personal achievements to prioritizing the well-being of those around them.
Some interviewees discuss regrets and missed opportunities. One person regrets not traveling more due to being overly influenced by their mother's concerns. This highlights the importance of pursuing personal desires and not letting others' opinions hold one back from experiencing life to the fullest.
The video explores the secrets to maintaining long-lasting relationships. A couple married for nearly 60 years emphasizes the importance of flexibility, open communication, and resolving issues promptly. They highlight that neither partner is always right and that addressing problems without letting them fester is crucial for a healthy relationship.
The interviewees share their definitions of love, describing it as caring, respect, and a feeling of completeness. One person, who lost their spouse after 65 years together, expresses missing the feeling of completeness that love provided. Another couple, both in their second marriages, defines love as care.
The interviewees share valuable life lessons and truths they wish more people understood. One person regrets not seeking a partner after their spouse's death, highlighting the importance of companionship. Another emphasizes the need to accept differences and understand why people behave as they do, urging viewers to avoid quick judgments and consider the bigger picture.
The importance of kindness and respect is emphasized, with one interviewee noting that these values should be taught by parents. They also highlight the significance of adaptability, stating that the world changes and individuals must adapt to maintain happiness. The interviewees stress that enjoying one's work is crucial for overall well-being.
The video concludes with specific advice the interviewees would give to their younger selves. This includes speaking up more, saving money, experimenting, and appreciating different perspectives. They emphasize that people learn through experience and should not always follow the crowd.
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0:00 if you could go back in time knowing what you know today and give your younger self one piece of advice what would you say to that person when you're young you're so quick the judge it takes guts to do that the world around you changes and you have to change if death comes I wouldn't be to upet I don't want to die and yet I feel what's the point of living that's I guess my big regret today I'm asking strangers in their 7s ' 80s and '90s what advice they would give to their younger self these interviews were filmed over the last few months in different parts of the world but never shown before yet the advice that is given is some of the most powerful and interesting that I've ever heard today so without further Ado let's jump into it how old are you 69 71 what does it
0:45 feel like to be 69 and 71 well beginning to feel a little bit older I mean up to i' say last year I was like in the greatest shape of my life I mean we did the compostella in Spain and we walked so we were training we were in great shape but I'm feeling I'm beginning to feel my age this year uh I live on my own so it does get lonely and it just feels lonier each year I think I'm still working a bit and I need to work to feel as though I'm still contributing to something I feel like I'm 39y old person trapped in a body that can't do the things I want to do anymore okay updated version with Russell Russell how old are you I'll be 97 in November what does it
1:30 feel like to be 97 soon it's interesting I live with my son now and otherwise I couldn't make it so limited and what I can do now it's so frustrating can't go to restaurants can't go to movies just completely like a prisoner of old age if death comes I wouldn't be to upet I it's over it's over I me I've had plenty of years I don't want to I feel what's the point of living how old are you 82 8 years old 87 what does it feel like to be 82 and 87 I'm a kid she's a kid yeah I'm a kid attitude's good you got to be around young people not around old people that's the the gig
2:18 ah what do you what do you do to be around young people I'm at your house you bring them in entertain them hang around with them that's it our grandchildren's friends who are at Migel we've been having them for dinners for many years now depressing to be around old people all a if you ask them how they are they're going to tell you and that's not so much fun the key is don't ask how old never ask that question never ask that question what's one thing that when you were younger you put a lot of importance on and as you gotten older you realized wasn't actually that important think maybe personal possessions your clothing your jewelry your things that really don't count for anything what is more important in that your relationships with everybody and the world and the planet yeah how do you have a good relationship how do you know what a good relationship is you feel
3:04 good you feel comfortable you feel protected you trust the person you have the relationship with and hopefully you're not disappointed I put a lot of importance on what I'm doing when I was younger now I'm putting more emphasis and importance on what is important to the people around me because I find that if they're functioning well I'm functioning better too what's one thing you put a lot of importance on when you were younger and as you got older you realize it wasn't worth worrying about I guess what other people thought my mother was very influential in what I couldn't going and do even as an adult oh she want didn't want me to travel on my own and you never did it in the end uh not very much no I didn't do as much
3:50 traveling as I should have uh that's I guess my big regret but I didn't seem more of the world what's a big risk that you guys took that changed the outcome of your life life great joke you got to have your mate with you as long as possible when you get older be single when you get older is not good at all how long have you guys been married for it's going to be 60 years W congrats in October what has gone you to 60 years still happy you know I'm assuming right still happy still enjoying there's a couple of days here and there that are pretty good what's the secret to a longlasting relationship you got to be flexible you can't be dogmatic you're not always right she's not not always right that's the way I know what she's going to say of it you told me I'm a low of talk not you so I'm soing you can't
4:38 let things Fester you got something on your head you talk about it you resolve it finish it yeah can you define the word love for me I don't know what the hell that is I can't Define it if you can smile you're you know regularly you're okay a lot of it is it it's caring it's respect and um I mean love what's love he's crazy you know life worked very well when after I met my first husband died after I married John life was just very very good we've been fortunate enough to always travel so we've been almost everywhere we've just had a wonderful life we're very lucky so you guys are both on your second marriage can you define the word love I'd say
5:23 love is care it's a big word but I think love means caring for someone it l it just lasts my wife died a couple years ago and um my son moved into my apartment he's making life live livable for me how long were you and your wife together before she passed about 65 years can you define the word love so is put into words but it's a feeling of completeness and I miss it what's a big mistake that you made or a big regret you have that you learned a valuable lesson from perhaps I would have made more of an effort to have found a partner after my husband died and I didn't and you know in a way I
6:10 became stronger because I had to take care of everything myself but you know it's it would have been nice at this stage of my life to have a partner that I could uh you know walk with and talk with and travel with and so on a lot of people go through life wishing they would have learned certain things sooner or someone would have taught them something sooner what is a truth about life that you wish more people understood it's to accept differences to try and understand the reasons why people behave as they do even though their behavior might not be your type of behavior I guess watching Politics the way we watch politics or the way politics is confronts us every day of the every day before you jump to the conclusion that X is evil and wise great he try and look at the bigger picture
6:56 and what makes people with the way they are when you're young you're so quick to judge this is my view and off I go sort of thing I would say being kind is not enough of that you know the the word that keeps coming to me is respect you don't pick fights respect you have to have your parents teach you those things you don't know what it is when you're a kid right you watch your parents how they react you follow them and both our parents had very good marriages yeah and they were not rich no money was not the issue they you know they were not rich but they were rich in every other way and as you say you never knew you were poor I never knew I was poor and I was poor when I was young not everyone had food on the table somebody brought it
7:43 over that was life what did you guys do for a living I'm a nurse I'm a physician did you love what you did if you don't enjoy work you're really in trouble let me tell you a lot of people work in jobs they're not happy with kiss it and you know what it shows on their face and their demeanor their attitude yeah yeah what's your advice to that how do we do what we love do it do it you have to adapt nothing's going to be a straight line the world around you changes and you have to change if you don't if you're an unadaptable person you're never going to be happy even if you have a good job yeah if you were someone in a situation like this feeling like this and you want to be able to do things like this this and this I recommend you grab a copy of our updated 2.0 goal setting journal in just three parts this journal will help you figure out your
8:28 ideal life turn that into achievable specific and measurable goals and then create the discipline structure to track your progress over 6 months until your dreams become your reality because it's the holiday season we are giving away over $1,500 of free bonuses and discounts exclusively to the first hundred of you who click below so click the link in our description to learn more and not just listen to the advice you hear from these elders but start making serious upgrades to your life if you could go back and time knowing what you know today and give your younger self one piece of advice what would you say to him speak up more I did a lot of just listening and packing knowledge away but I didn't really express it until I was a lot
9:14 older it takes guts to do that you do learn more by risking like that than you do by keeping things to yourself I would have saved a lot more money along the way cuz I am working cuz I need to as well as to be connected by do actually need it financially you know what you learn as you go along and we don't give our kids advice people have to learn they put one foot in front of the other and they learn as they go along and they experiment don't always go with your neighbors next door there's a guy across the street you should know what he's like too cuz if you know what other people are like you'll appreciate more people around you too is there something that you had specifically or no an advice for your younger self no I don't think anything else yeah I mean we're
10:01 perfect we're tens you know Jesus Murphy we're going to end up on the garbage floor it's the interview you said that your family showed you the last time that we interviewed you right oh yeah I seen it on television I was pleased to see it and my know my whole family and friends enjoyed it I never thought I'd miss you guys again still walking we're still meeting you in the same park same FK
