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0:00 There is a saying that 'bhay bin hoi na preeti' which means that there is no love without fear. If you do not have fear in your mind, then you will not be able to love anyone. What kind of fear is fear of losing? If you have fear of losing in your mind, for example, suppose we are in a relationship with someone and the other person has a fear of losing that I may lose this person, I may get angry, I may go away from our life. Are you understanding? Or else we might make a mistake. What if we commit a mistake and that person goes out of our life again, then that person will love you because of that fear. He will try his best to remain loyal to you. He will try to give you his absolute best.
0:46 And if there is no fear in his mind, then that person will take you for granted and start treating you in any manner. Suppose you are in a relationship. Ok? And you know that friend, it's okay, the person in front of me does not value me or anything, and still you keep managing, still you keep believing and the person in front knows that friend, no matter what we do, whether we cheat him, whether we misbehave with him, whether we abuse him, whether we behave rudely, whatever we do, this person will always remain, this boy will always remain, this girl will always remain, we will make him understand, we will convince him, we will make him mad, we will manipulate him. We will brainwash him. So that person has
1:33 so much confidence in his mind that no matter what happens, he will accept it. If this guy, this prisoner, agrees, then I shouldn't have any problem. Then that person will start treating you in any manner, either he will not give you time or will not prioritize you or will not value you or will start treating you like a worthless thing and you are attached and you are mad, then you are attached but his programming about you, the image he has in his mind about you is very dirty, so if he does not have fear in his mind, now if he has fear in his mind that friend I have made any mistake, then he will not take even a minute to leave me, he has self-respect. It has value. This is his standard or this man is strong. And if I do anything, this person will leave me completely. There is no
2:19 conversation, no discussion , no space, no time, then that person will be very conscious and will give you time. He will value you very consciously. Will try to understand things. Will try to fulfill your needs. And if there is no value, if that person does not care about you , then that person will start treating you in any manner. So this video is going to be very valuable and very helpful. Do watch till the end. You are watching Crazy Philosophy. I am your friend, host coach Anand and in today's video, we are going to talk about the fact that your partner will value you only when he is afraid of losing you. First of all, let us understand one thing that what is the real meaning of this thing? People define it in a wrong way that if the partner is scared then he will value us. So he must be
3:05 scared. How to scare? So we will have to be controlling. We have to be toxic. Then we will start talking dirty. They will start abusing. Then we will deal with it in any way possible. You just have to bring some fear in his mind. If she or he gets scared then this person will value me. This is a very wrong method. A human being, being a certain person, endures and tolerates up to a limit. As soon as he felt the water he thought that friend the water is rising very high now. So that person will not take even a second to leave you. So what kind of fear should one have? There should be a natural fear that this person has a very high value. This man has very high standards. It has self respect. This person is growing a lot in his life. It is quite good. That's quite correct.
3:51 I am not going to find such a person or even if I do find one, there is no guarantee. There is no security. So that person will automatically start valuing you on the basis of naturalness by default. He will start understanding you. He will have love in his heart. There would be a fear in his mind that friend, this person is very precious and I should value him. And if I don't value it I will lose him and her. This should happen. No one needs to be scared. Whatever fear there is, it happens on its own. When you know that I have a self worth and you believe from within, you have faith that I am not easily replaceable. Are you understanding? So automatically you have confidence in yourself and then people
4:37 prioritize what you are. We value you. Understanding this, friend, this person is absolutely the best. If you yourself feel that friend, I might lose this person. This girl should not go away. I hope this boy doesn't go away. Then people will start taking you for granted. Are you understanding? Meaning, if you have fear in your mind then people will start taking you for granted And if you are confident and are afraid, then you should be afraid that you should not be left behind in life. We have to keep growing in life. We have to keep moving forward in life. Then people will automatically start valuing you. People will automatically get scared that this person is absolutely the best and we cannot find someone like him. And only then people start valuing you. When they feel that this is the best among the best. Are
5:22 you understanding? I mean I ca n't get anything better than this. If he has this in his mind that yes friend, this person is right but I can find more, I can find more good boys, I can find more good girls, then you will see that the certainty that he has about you in his mind will decline, so he automatically feels like this, if there is fear in our mind, there is fear that friend I have to keep growing, I have to keep moving forward, I have to keep improving my personality, then people will automatically be afraid, the fear of losing you is not a main product. It is a by-product that if you pay attention to your life, pay attention to your self-growth, pay attention to self-improvement, then
6:08 automatically fear will come in the minds of people that we might lose this. And as soon as fear comes, they will start valuing you. I will start loving you. Will start taking care of you. I will start giving you credit. Some people may say that there is no such thing as love war. Let it be a drama, let it be a show. But he will at least show that friend, you are not a priority for me. You are important to me. We care about you. We value you. We understand you. So whatever it is, people try their best to do that thing. When your life doesn't stop. When your self-growth continues. You keep focusing on self-improvement. So this fear in itself is a by-product. It comes on its own. Ultimately I would
6:55 advise all of you to observe yourself very carefully. Look, try to think and understand what our shortcomings are. What are the shortcomings in us? Let us figure out those shortcomings. Try to work out on yourself. Improve yourself. Make yourself better. Focus on your own self-value. Then everything will happen automatically. Then you will not have to worry about anything. I have already made a detailed video on this thing a few days ago. So you should definitely see that too. How did you like this video, please tell us by commenting. And if you want me to guide you one on one through a voice call or a video call then you can book a paid private session. You can WhatsApp my team on 8290343014. Thank you for taking the time
7:42 to watch this video. Stay connected, stay blessed.
