This Is What Makes Women Respect You (Not Money)

0:00 So, I want to tell you a story that I've never told before. I think this is one of those things that I just blacked out in my mind until recently, but this is back when I was living in downtown Boston with my good friends, the homie Dave. Some of y'all know him. We were splitting a one-bedroom apartment. Both of us were pretty broke at the time. He was dating this girl and then one time I went out and I met her friend and this was like the hottest girl I'd ever seen before. The four of us went and did a salsa class together and I was awkward as [ __ ] bro. But but after that, the friend agreed to go on a date with me. Like it was one of those things where I asked Dave to ask his girl to to give me the contact of the other girl. They gave it to me. She agreed to the date and I was [ __ ] in my pants when she agreed to it cuz this girl was out of my league.

0:45 So I remember suggesting this really high-end bar in Copley in downtown Boston, and she agreed. So I show up. I'm walking through the door like, "Man, I don't even know if I can afford this place tonight, but I got to impress this girl, right?" I show up. We sit down together at the bar. It's like a Tuesday night. I don't even know what we talked about, but we were there for like 3 hours. It's one of those dates. I was just so happy to be there with the girl that by the time I looked around that the whole place had cleared out. It was just both of us. And that's when I decided to take my shot. I leaned in for the kiss. So, little a little bit of respect to my old self for making that move. and she kissed me. But I knew as soon as our lips touched, that was going to be the end of this. It felt It felt like this the kiss of

1:31 death, man. It felt like this kiss of pity where she was just being nice to me. And sure enough, after that, when I text her to hang out again, she she had some excuse. And that's where it ended. But that was the night I realized that look, I can create opportunities with girls. I know how to ask them out and send the right text messages. I'm working on my style and my fitness, so they're giving me a chance. But I have no idea clearly how to actually make an attractive woman respect me and actually look up to me and take me seriously. And that is why in this video, I want to break down what actually makes a woman respect you. These are the five laws of male respect. And the truth is that this

2:17 might surprise you, but it's not about your bank account. Number one, certainty is king. So, this is the hardest dating truth that I had to swallow. And and before I understood this, everything was so frustrating because we're always taught it's about confidence. If you just speak confidently to the girl, you're going to get the right result. And it helps if you're jacked and if you have money. And those things are not lies exactly, but they miss the point. Because the same way that what what matters for us that draws us in and makes us chase and get really attracted to a girl, it's the feeling we get when we speak to her, right? It has to do with her looks and her femininity and her energy. But it's about the feeling we get. And what we never think about when it comes to dating is what is the

3:02 feeling that I want to create inside of that girl? We get so, you know, obsessed internally about am I saying the right things? Am I saying it with confidence? But bro, how the does she feel when she's talking to you? Well, if we rewind back to that fateful night with the girl who kissed me, who was out of my league, what did she feel? She must have had some level of interest cuz she agreed to go on the date with me. But by the end of that night, after a few hours had passed, obviously it had vanished. What was she feeling? Well, I think it's pretty obvious that I was not sure of myself. I didn't feel that I deserved her. And even though I was probably making good eye contact and speaking slowly and with confidence, she had to have sensed that lack of certainty. It all comes down to certainty, bro. Women,

3:48 we know what they want, right? They want a man who makes them feel safe and secure. They can look up to him as a strong leader. And we can list out all these different things we've learned from the red pill. But all of it, if we look at what it has in common and we try and simplify it down to the most basic principle, we have to give women a sense of certainty. When you're with a girl, she has to truly feel like this is a man who can handle his [ __ ] This is a man who can truly take care of me. And it's not about if you got millions in the bank or if you got 35 in arms. It's about that feeling that you create inside of her. And if you move with certainty, women will always have that feeling. So, of course, the important question is, what simple things can I actually do to make sure she feels like this? And I'm glad you asked. Now,

4:34 you're going to like this answer, but it's also going to piss you off because the answer is it doesn't [ __ ] matter what you do as long as you do it with certainty. Maybe you suggest some lame first date idea like going bowling. May maybe it's not the worst, but it's probably not the best. But if you do it with certainty, yo, I know this dope bowling spot. Let's meet there Tuesday night at 8:00 p.m. It's going to seem cool to her. Versus, do you like to go bowling? Maybe I can show you my spot. [Music] If you're showing up to the date and you're like, I'm not sure how I should greet her. Should I hug her? Should I handshake her? There's going to be no certainty. It doesn't [ __ ] matter. Yeah, you could give her a handshake. Probably not the best thing. But if you do it with certainty and you commit to that handshake, it's going to be dope. If you give her a hug and a kiss on the cheek, if you do it with certainty, it's

5:20 going to feel like a boss move. So, next time you're showing up to hang out with a girl, remind yourself before, hey, I might do some dumb [ __ ] today. It doesn't [ __ ] matter. I'm going to give myself permission now. Whatever I do, I'm going to commit to it 1000%. Number two, the strategic walk away. So, this is the one thing I'm going to say in this video that some of y'all might label as manipulative. Like, oh, that's a cheap dating tactic, bro. I don't want to do that. And maybe it is a little bit, but it's also [ __ ] very powerful and it works for a very deep reason. And probably even if you don't do it as a tactic, there's going to be a time where you should naturally do it anyway. Because look, girls play games at the beginning of the dating phase. I mean, they're going to keep playing games with you even when you're dating them, even when you're married to them with kids if you don't do this early on, right?

6:06 Because early on there's this frame battle between you and the girl where she wants to feel like you're chasing her, but you want to feel like, "Nah, this [ __ ] respects me." And that frame battle is going to go back and forth until you do this and establish yourself as, "Look, I am the man in this relationship." Now, luckily, it's an extremely simple thing to do. I'm not going to say it's an easy thing because most of y'all are going to [ __ ] out and not do this anyway, but it's very, very simple. All you have to do is walk away at some point. And just to be clear, I'm not saying to to to break up with your girlfriend. I'm saying to strategically walk away. So maybe you got a date scheduled with the girl and then she goes on some BS talking about how, oh, I'm not sure I can make it. My week's kind of busy or my friend's in town. This is a great opportunity to walk

6:53 away. You just say like, "Ah, no worries. Let me know next time you're free." And in this scenario, maybe she hasn't even flaked on the date yet. she's just introduced some uncertainty. Well, it's all right for you to be the one who pulls the plug in that scenario and you don't even give her the chance to to to flake on the date. You do it. Maybe you're on the first date and the girl reveals something that's not that attractive to you. You know, she likes to go out and party and drink a lot with her friends. Rather than being like, "Oh, cool. That's cool." That's a great opportunity to emotionally walk away and be like, "Really? Uh, you know, I'm past that stage. That's not that's not the lifestyle I'm living anymore. Maybe y'all been hanging out for a few weeks and now she seems like maybe she's getting distant or she's not excited to hang out. Well, instead of chasing her ass down to hang out again, walk away. Give her some space. Don't text her. Go radio silent

7:39 for a week. Because until you've shown a girl that you have it inside of you to walk away and you don't need her, she's going to believe based on the evidence that you're wrapped around her finger and she can play whatever games you want. She can walk over whatever boundaries you have and it's not going to matter. you're still going to be there begging for. Number three, control your presentation. If you're watching this video, I imagine you're consistently lifting in the gym to stay fit for yourself, but also for women. I imagine you pay some attention to the style and the clothes you wear so you don't look like a bum. But have you ever consciously audited your entire appearance and looked at where you can optimize things? I see a lot of jack dudes in the gym who when you look at the the full package, it's still kind of ugly. It might seem silly, but that full

8:26 presentation that you give to the external world, that plays a big role in whether women respect you or not when they first see you, and they have that first impression. We know from from studies that first impressions before you even opened your mouth. Most people have already decided how attractive you are and whether they respect you or not. And they're not likely to change those those judgments they've already made. In fact, right now, take a look in the mirror and do a quick check head to toe. Is your haircut actually making you look more attractive? Or maybe you're just comfortable with it cuz you've been doing it the last few years. Your facial hair, are you clean shaving on purpose? Are you purposefully, you know, creating the right type of facial hair that you want? Or are you just doing what you've been doing the last few years? Same thing with your daily outfits. Do you just have like one or two outfits you feel confident in or every [ __ ] day, are you dressing yourself up in a way

9:12 that makes you feel like, "Yeah, I look like a boss." You probably should get some external feedback on this one, but if for a moment you can be brutally honest with yourself, you can probably find one or two things to optimize. And look, one of the easiest ways to instantly level up your looks is by optimizing your grooming routine. A lot of guys don't even have one, and that's why I decided to partner with Manscape to be the sponsor of today's video. Their new performance package 5.0 Ultra has everything you need to stay sharp. It's like a cheat code. First up, you get the Lawnmower 5.0 Ultra, which is a NextGen body hair trimmer. I use this twice per week to trim the hairs in my chest and abs to make my muscle definition pop, and also once per week to trim the hair down around my balls to keep things clean. Women prefer that in

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10:46 probably heard this hype word hypergamy recently, which is something the red pill popularized and basically means that women are drawn to men with the most status and that they're, you know, biologically and evolutionarily inclined to constantly, you know, monkey rope to the next more and more successful guy over time. Now, this is true, I think, for the most part. Like, it's definitely true. Women are definitely drawn to more powerful men that other men look up to and respect, right? That's like uh the same thing, the equivalent of having a really, really sexy girlfriend. When you walk around, she kind of boosts your status. Well, girls are playing that same game. I do think that the red pill goes a bit far in making it seem like it doesn't matter what you do, bro. There's always a more success. I can't even. My

11:32 red pill voice is hurting me. It doesn't matter what you do, bro. Even if you level up, there's always going to be another more successful guy out there. She She's not yours, bro. You're just renting her for now. Wait, hold up. I think what they actually say is it it's just your turn, bro. She's for the streets. But if we take a step back and look at this practically, you know, not trying to hate on women or cope or make excuses. I think the important lesson here is that you do need to have at least some perceived status if you want to attract an attractive girl who has other options. when she's with you, she needs to feel like other men respect my man. Now, what you don't want to do, and what most guys make the mistake of doing, especially when we're younger, is we try and brag in order to accomplish this by telling, you know, these really

12:18 lofty stories. Or I used to always think because, you know, I grew up between Spain and the USA that I'd always drop to girls, oh, you know, when I was, you know, visiting my family in Spain last month, that just by inserting that tidbit of information, they were going to be like, "Oh my god, he's he's got he's been to Europe and the USA." What's the cringy thing that that you always want to make sure the girls know about? Hopefully, you're past that stage, but most of us have that thing or had that thing. No, bragging them and telling them about your status is not going to work. What is going to work is first of all how you present yourself like we talked about. If you optimize your looks and you have that masculine classic kind of old money style, that's going to be a lot more effective and signal a lot more status than if you're still wearing, you know, graphic TE's and, you know, crazy baggy pants or something like that.

13:04 Yeah, maybe some young kids think that that's hype, but that doesn't signal status. More importantly, though, it's about how you carry yourself. And if you can really nail down that silent but confident vibe, that is going to be very effective here. Because you got to realize, most guys are either silent and kind of awkward or they give people the the ick or most guys are loud, but they're also bragging and that's a bit much, right? That's like you're trying to prove yourself. And that's why I always focus when I'm in a social setting, not on saying the most or being the loudest, but on when I'm speaking to someone, truly being present with them, asking them questions, speaking with certainty, giving them that feeling of certainty. That's the type of energy that girls notice across the room that other people respect you when they speak to you. So, if you're a naturally quiet,

13:51 shitheaded guy like myself, just know that if you can build that social muscle over time, that is going to give you that quiet confidence. And if you're a naturally extroverted guy, well, you do have a little bit of an advantage here if you can learn to reel it in and not need to be the center of attention or or or very loud. Number five, be unshakable under pressure. So, this is the true test of whether or not you're going to create that feeling of certainty inside of a girl. When you're with her and something happens that's outside of your control, how do you respond? because she's going to be looking to you as the leader to handle your [ __ ] And maybe you're really good at, you know, going in and giving that confident hug at the beginning and asking her questions confidently. But when something that's

14:36 not planned happens, that's when she's really going to be watching. And that's what's really going to dictate whether she truly feels like you got her like you got her covered no matter what. So, I want you to imagine for a second you and your girl got this great trip planned and you got your bags are packed. The Uber pulls up, you get in, and then you look at your phone and realize, "Holy [ __ ] there's an hour of traffic. We we might not make our flight." What type of energy are you going to have in that moment? Because your girl's going to be like, "Oh my god, we're not going to make the flight. Oh my god, we're not going to make the flight. Oh my god." If you're also like, "Yeah, we might not make it. I don't know what we're going to do. This sucks. Why is there traffic right now? Why would there be traffic right now? Fail. You're not the leader anymore. Both of y'all are freaking out. What we have to do as men in that moment is

15:24 Damn. Yeah, this is really inconvenient. And you know, I know you're stressed out about this. Look, we we might miss the flight. We might not. Don't worry about it, though. I got us. We'll sort it out. We'll get to the destination. If we're a little bit delayed, it's going to be all good. Or maybe you're with a girl and someone talks some [ __ ] and says something rude to you or to your girl. What are you going to do? Because in that moment, she's either going to sit back and and see how you respond or or some girls will will run their mouth a little bit if they're a little bit more hot-tempered. But still, she's counting on you to be the one who makes her feel safe in that moment. So, if you're just like looking at her like what what what are you freeze, man? It might not be over in that moment, but it's for sure going to change how she looks at you. She's not going to feel safe. And what's more

16:09 important than exactly what you do or what you say because you could, you know, step up to this person and be like, "Get the [ __ ] out of here right now, bro. That is not acceptable. I'm with my girl." Or maybe you say, "Hey, man. Look, chill. You know, you should go over there and and work this out or let me talk to you over here." Again, it doesn't matter exactly how you handle it. A lot of people have different schools of thought here, but it does matter that you do it with certainty. You step up, you speak deeply, you stay calm. These moments don't happen every day. If you're single right now, they're not likely to happen on the first date unless you have a rude waiter or something like that, but inevitably they will happen at some point when you're with a girl. And those are those are true tests. Those are bigger tests than the [ __ ] test of when the girl says,

16:55 "Oh, you're a player. Do you bring a lot of girls home?" But again, even in that scenario, it does matter that you respond with certainty. Yeah, bring all of them back. and I got a girl waiting to come over here after you. Or you could say, "No, I don't." Cut the [ __ ] Don't be silly. Again, as long as it's said with certainty, it accomplishes the result. And a quick bonus tip, another crucial part of earning that respect is walking the walk and having that masculine presence, which is why I built the Beastly app. This is straight up the easiest way to get jacked in 2025. Personalized training routines that adapt as you make progress, guaranteeing results in the gym, an AI macro tracker that allows you to stay on track just by snapping a photo of your meals, and next level

17:41 intelligent analytics that keep you motivated and consistent. It's like having a science-based personal trainer following you around, keeping you on point. So, if you're serious about leveling up your physique this year, you can scan that QR code or click that second link in description to download Beastly today and get a free 7-day trial. That all being said, I hope you enjoyed the video, bro. I hope it was helpful. Don't stop watching now. I recommend you see this video next. It's about five secrets that you should never tell a girl. Most guys mess it up and they reveal this stuff way too early. Click there to watch that now. I will talk to you in the next video. Stay beastly.