0:02 Whatever problems you people have related to your life, if you are comfortable with sharing that particular problem on camera, then you will raise your hand and take the mic and say and then after that I will share my opinion related to that problem with you. Actually sir I graduated last year I am 22 so currently I am employed at one of the MAC I can't name so I am from a business background family and personally my dad doesn't want that I should start my business and I should continue his business because after covid you know things changed and you know there was a difference in some industries and we are from shoe background industry and he is a wholesaler. So I don't want to join the
0:48 business due to some personal reasons because I want to do something of my own. So I am just confused whether I should do a job for long term or do business. What has happened nowadays is that there is a lot of talk around about business, startups and all these things. A lot of such shows are coming up and a lot of people are focusing on business all around. So because of this we tend to think that there is some problem in the job and something good in the business. Whereas there is nothing like that. The reality is that business is a full time job and job is part time business. Right? Because when you do business there is no rest there. Business is on my mind 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. What's in the job? It is part time. People tell me to work 16 hours a day. Nobody does it.
1:35 How long does the work actually take? 8 hours a day, 9 hours a day and that's five days working, six days working. So you have a lot of time for yourself when you are doing a job. Because the rest of the time you do n't need to worry whether the company will remain tomorrow or will close down. It doesn't even matter to you. Even if that company closes down tomorrow, you can always join some other company. So job is not worse than business from any angle. First of all, understand this clearly, no matter what anyone says. Now the question arises whether job is better for you or business is better? So first of all remove all the good aspects of the business. Whenever you want to understand whether it is better for me or not, then
2:21 first of all remove those aspects of it which are shining from a distance, that is, the highlights, that money will come, such a big company will become a millionaire, billionaire, house, car, all these things through which you people are trapped in wrong circles, remove all of them. Now understand what is business, business means solving a problem, it is service, just like they say service, job, such business is also a service. There is simply a lot of accountability there. Your accountability in a job is limited to the task you have been given. Your accountability in business is complete. Related to the product or service that you are providing to the customer. Any problem will arise. Anything that
3:07 you have not even thought of, you have to solve it yourself. And not only this, if any problem arises at the employee level, you will have to solve that too. There is a money problem, you have to solve that too. There is the issue of supply and demand, you have to solve that too. There is a manufacturing defect, you have to look at that too. So that's all you have to see. All responsibility, all accountability is yours. So now that you understand this , what do you do next? Now you will compare job and business realistically. Many people are confused about this point. Why? Because they get influenced by the people in the world, by friends or by other things that are happening. Notent. You can comfortably take a pen and paper. Draw a line down the middle of the paper.
3:54 Job here, business here. Both have their pluses and minuses. Keep making a list of them. And then see if you have a real problem that you're passionate about solving for the customers. For example, if you talk about a business like stock market trading, which is what people call business in today's date. But now the data has come from the government also. More than 90% of the people what they do is they make their money in FAO, in futures and options on it. So first of all it is very important to understand what is business ? Many people call speculation as business. Or those people who understand business think that I have my own problem and that is,
4:39 I need a lot of money. What is his path? I don't get it from my job. So do business. So whose problem is this? The customer says that you need a lot of money. This is your problem. What is the customer's problem ? So that he gets the product or service he wants without paying any money or at the lowest possible price. what is your problem? I should sell it at the highest possible price so that my profit is maximum. So how did the business happen? You have set out to solve your problem in business and got stuck. Now such people will come who will teach you by saying big things that what is your problem? Money and I teach how to earn millions of rupees in coming one month or 6 months in a year ? What to do for that? This is a course of ₹10. Join and earn.
5:26 So what is business? Do you ever ask a person who knows what business is? Business means a problem which is very real, burning , for which people are ready to spend money and you are able to find its solution. This is called product market fit. Meaning, at whatever price those customers are willing to pay for that particular product or service, you can offer it profitably and sustainably. So they will say that a kind of marriage has taken place. This is called business. But this requires a lot of patience, a lot of passion, a lot of aggression and a lot of sacrifices will have to be made.
6:11 In other words there are many problems. and for how long? Another meaning of business is problem. Business starts with a problem and till your death you will keep finding solutions to the problems. This is called business. So do you need such a big problem? What will you get in return ? If you can do this well, you will get money. How much will I get? You may get more or you may get less also. With whom? From the job. There are many people who leave their jobs and do business but are not able to earn even 10% of what they were earning in their job. In fact, the savings also get exhausted. So there is no guarantee. So what became the center point of all this? Problems? Do you actually have a real genuine problem which you have faced in life
6:57 or are seeing somewhere around you for which you are actually passionate to solve the problem i.e. if you are not doing that business and you are on the other side, then will you say that he is fooling me or will you yourself buy that product or service or will you not buy it and even if you buy it, will you buy it again or not? If the answer is no, then you are not doing business. You are scamming. You are fooling people. It is better to do a job because you don't have to walk for long anyway. You got the answer? So the solution to this is that first see if there is something like this around me and it should be there around you too. It should be within your limits. It is needed based on your experience. It is not like that, you have searched a business idea from somewhere else and are getting excited just after hearing it.
7:43 But you have no idea about that problem. You must relate to that problem. You must be passionate about that problem. There should be one of the two and then you can take its session. Then you can say that you can move ahead in business. Provided, what are the consequences of it? Look, understand carefully. What's in the job? You get a stability. This is good as well as bad. Why is it bad? a boring. Who likes stability? Are the 10 affairs that happen before marriage enjoyable or after marriage? There is just one. Living and dying are all the same. It's fun to be with one person. So, we get something and some thing is lost as well. So what do you get in stability? Stability of mind, which
8:30 feels very good for some time. For a few months, for a few years. After that life becomes boring. Because the task is repetitive. There isn't any huge challenge. But this is not bad. Ask someone who is in the business. That poor guy is looking for stability from morning till night. You will not understand this. How many businesses are doing here? Raise your hands. I am saying it right. I am saying wrong. What happens in business is that one day your sale is, let's say, ₹10,000, the next day it becomes ₹10,000. This doesn't happen in a job. It is fixed for the month. Your sales reached ₹1 lakh in one month. There is a sale happening next month for ₹00. Happy in 1 minute, sad in 1 minute. This is business. It feels good for some time. But after a certain point,
9:16 it bothers you a lot. If you don't understand the nature of business. Whose nature is like this. Like this, like this, like this, like this, it is like this. Meaning completely different from the job. Job is like, walk like this, then a little like this, then walk like this. Then a little like this, then walk like this. It's like steps. This is the peak and the valley. This is how business works. At least for 510 years and that too only when after 510 years you are able to create some systems and processes that can take it to a level, then you can be free from it. Then there will be some predictability in that business. Otherwise it goes on like this throughout life. And you told that you are from business background, so you must have seen it in your family also. Sometimes everything goes very well. Then when something bad happens, it becomes very bad. It does not happen in a job that if you are earning ₹00 today, then even
10:03 if you leave that company, you will get ₹40. I will get 30. You wo n't get -50, right? But this is what happens in business. To do business, money is required and there is no guarantee whether it will come back or not. So in business things also go into minus. Therefore, remove the glamour around business and first understand deeply all these things of mine. And then decide for yourself what is right for me. Growth can happen in both places. Both have their own pluses and minuses. You have to see what is right for you. Like we all belong to a normal middle class family. No matter how settled we are in our career, there is a family concern that being a woman and settling down after getting married is
10:49 different. So sir is this very important ? If I don't get married I can't live here. Then their question comes, what will you do in old age? It is fine as of now. You are earning money, that's all. But what will you do after a certain age ? Then who will see you? So sir this is my question whether marriage is very important and if we don't do it then what will we do if we really face problems in old age ? So this is my question. Look, let's do one thing. Let us look at both the pluses and minuses of marriage and try to understand whether one should get married or not. What is the biggest plus point of marriage ? That is, it is a transaction like life is nothing but a transaction. We use big words. Love, affection,
11:36 romance, this and that, all this looks very good in movies or in the short term. In the long term everything is a transaction. It's all about give and take. Someone is getting something, someone is losing something. If there is a balance in it to some extent then that relationship lasts long. If it becomes one-sided that in a relationship you only have to give. If nothing is being achieved then the relationship breaks. This happens in every relationship. But what happens in marriage is that you are legally joined and it is very difficult to separate. So because of that difficulty many people say that let's live together.
12:22 Is it or not? Many marriages that are not breaking are happening due to this very reason. If divorce becomes so easy, just on the click of a button like UPI payments. If the button is pressed and both accept divorce then the divorce rate will increase 000 times more than what it is now, then what happens to the marriage because it is difficult to separate and plus if there are kids or a child is also born then another factor comes into play. So, as it becomes difficult to get out of it, the chances of that relationship lasting longer increase. Then what happens when we start living with a person for a long time, we get used to him. And then it is said that a known enemy is better than an unknown friend.
13:10 This was in English so you guys didn't understand it. So every married person understands this because whoever it is, whatever it is like, I know about it, I know what its limit is, how far it can go, how far it can go, but the unknown person who is pretending to be a friend, he does not know anything, so we are scared of the unknown, fear of the unknown is the reason why the marriage lasts, I am telling you the real thing, not on the basis of my experience, just like that because I also have to go home from here. But as far as I have understood by looking at the world around me, it is rare that something happens perfectly.
13:56 In 99% of the cases you will see around you that the people who are asking you to get married are in a mess of their own relationships. But they are after you to get married. So what happens is that as time goes by it becomes more difficult to separate. Because of this the relationship lasts long. Plus we get used to each other. So being separated becomes uncomfortable. Living together means it creates a kind of comfort zone. Then you get a life partner. Not the day you get married, because after that the real game begins which lasts for a few months and a few years when many kinds of problems arise, I mean after that for a few months and a few years, it is a difficult period to adjust
14:43 because the family background of one person is different and that of the other is completely something else and then they come together, whether it is love marriage or arranged marriage does not matter but it is like two different beings have come together, so the initial fuzz of a relationship, that is usually in majority of the cases, exceptions are always there and you should always proceed statistically in life. It is not that if this happens to one person out of 1000, the same will happen to me too. No, whatever happened to 999, there is a high probability that it will happen to you too. The thing is that in the beginning, a lot of problems arise in the relationship, especially after marriage, because then in majority of the cases, they live in the same house. So there is a strong possibility. There are family related issues. These losses have also come. Many
15:32 more equations have come up. But you can cope up with those problems and reach the next level. That is, till a level where both of them adjust with each other in such a way that it becomes difficult for them to separate. So what has happened that you have found a partner in life who you know will stand with you till the end. There is no one else like this in the world. So here comes a benefit of this relationship which is called marriage. At least you get someone who is actually connected with you in happiness and sorrow. So sir, for this it is not important to have such connections. It is very important for us. There is not much stability, no no,
16:17 one minute. It is very important to have a connection because if there is no connection then there will be a compromise. Then it will be like there is someone with you who will be there for you in bad times. During good times you ca n't do much with him because there is no equation. So here the role of equation comes into the picture. Meaning, if we split a relationship into two parts, then one becomes the good time and the other becomes the bad time. Everyone stands together in bad times. In bad times, whoever has more time, there is a stung possibility, they are together. Especially in our country. We have seen this in our homes as well. I am also looking around you. 10, 20 years become 30 years and 40 years. If any one of the two faces any problem. Even if the relationship between the two is not very good. Even
17:03 then they definitely support me. Don't leave me. What is true or false? So we have found a companion in bad times and what happens many times is that because of that very person, that bad time is created in life because bad times are not just when you are sick and someone is in the hospital, hey, when you are not sick and you are at home and that person is making you sick from inside, he is toxic, then that too is a disease but it has become a habit, you cannot separate yourself now what to do, so many times it happens that you have reached the hospital because of that very person, this can also happen and he is sitting with you saying don't worry, I am there. And you are saying in your mind that this is the worry. you are. So if you will suck any one of these two.
17:50 So the second one is the effect. That is bound to happen in both cases. If it stays put. This means that we have to get used to each other. If we stay together for 2, 4, 5, 10 years. Yes, after that there are other factors. I don't go there right now. But the probability of separation keeps decreasing. As the time goes by. For example, if you see, the number of divorces that happen in people of 20s and 30s is comparatively very high. Regarding the divorces that happened in the 60s and 70s, yes, you can pick up a few examples and speak about it. Look, but it happened to them too. But you look at the numbers. If you look at the numbers mathematically, look at the ratios, look at the percentages, then you will understand that the probability
18:35 keeps on decreasing with time. Meaning, when will you need it in your old age? So if you survive till old age, only two things will happen, either you will survive or you will not. If it doesn't last then there is no problem. Then get married again. Or whoever you stay with as you reach old age, whether it is an arranged marriage or a love marriage. So there is a stung possibility that the possibility of separation in old age is very less. That person is going to support you anyway. But the question arises, what about the rest of life ? So if you understand from my stand point this is morent. That means an equation where you can spend good time with a person. Meaning basic level of compatibility not similarity. Not that he is like me. Compatibility and compatibility are mostly related to osjits.
19:22 That's more fun. So if you get someone with whom you feel like this because there is no guarantee of anything. It seems that yes, I spend good time with it now and there is a very high probability of spending good time with it in the future too. The possibility is very high. And he also wants to marry me and I also want to marry him. So there is no harm in messing around. I don't see any problem with that. And if there is no such compatibility then it is better to live like this. Rather than getting into the wrong marriage, it is better to stay away from each other. That makes sense. Because if one has to get married just so that there should be
20:08 someone to support him in old age. So that does n't make too much of sense. Because that person will not actually care for you anyway. The nurses in the hospital have to take care. I don't want to do doctors. God forbid, if ever such a need for care arises then what is needed for that? I need money. Hey, just earn money. So as per my understanding, it says that the most important thing is a level of compatibility, a level of friendship, a level of comfort, a level of e. And being what you actually are with that person. You do n't have to pretend. Like a lot of people pretend, everyone does it in a relationship, initially for two, four, six months, after that the pretending ends, so
20:55 where you don't have to pretend, you are the way you are and the same is with the other person also, so both of you are comfortable with each other's positive side as well as negative side and still it feels good to be together. I will not use the word fun because fun is temporary. I am feeling good or should I say I am feeling comfortable because even after marriage you two don't stay together all the time. Space is required. So if there is a person with whom you feel comfortable and who gives you space and to whom you also give space, then there is a strong possibility that relationship can last long. I am an advocate. I am practicing right now. I am doing my juniorship independently and I am also preparing.
21:42 Yes, I have also given the government exams. I have even cracked the interview for judiciary. That means I have reached the very last stage and by some few marks, I have missed it. I am very motivated right now. Meaning, I am clear about it that I have to give it. Because I am very close to that job and I am also motivated for that job because I want the same ecosystem in my life which it provides. And if that does not happen, it means I have also set my boundary that if that does not happen by this time then it is okay, I will do business, I am from a business family, I am in the construction business. So but sometimes it feels like we are giving too much and we are giving too much sacrifice to achieve that and there is this FOMO that we are investing too much in this and
22:30 we are missing out on a lot of things. It is fine if it is going to happen, it will happen, even if it does not happen then many times he says a doubt or it means that it creates a little bit of stress that friend you are investing too much in it, so that is just a little problem or a thought that look, to gain a lot you will have to lose a lot too, right? You just said that you are from business background still you are preparing for judiciary whereas your law has been cleared and you are a practicing advocate, then why are you preparing for judiciary because with that comes great honour, respect and all the other things which most people aspire for in India. So this means that you want to achieve something very big. Something so big that even a
23:19 person who is earning lakhs of rupees by doing business cannot achieve it. That is what you want to achieve. So, reaching the level of a business that earns lakhs of rupees per month is next to impossible. Only a few out of thousands can reach there. 90% of them fail somewhere in the middle. The rest reach there but then they fall down. So you want to achieve something that is stable which never happens in business. You want to achieve something which is respectful which is honourable which is a government job. So you are wanting to achieve something that is bigger than money. And I don't know what is bigger than money today. It is said that neither father nor brother is the greatest,
24:05 money is the greatest, so you want to achieve something bigger than that. Hey, it will definitely be a big sacrifice. How can it be small? This means there will be a lot of competition because you are not the only one who wants it. There are millions of people who are trying for that. How many vacancies are there? These are just a few. This is bound to happen. The bigger you want, the bigger is the sacrifice. Don't want anything, there is no sacrifice. So look at it like a package in life. And get mentally prepared for this in advance. Don't give too much offense to it in your mind. Give me time. Don't give too much money. Why am I saying this? Because the possibility of this happening is almost next to 0%. You
24:51 will get very close. Then something small will happen due to which it will remain. This is not happening to you alone. And it's happening to many other people too. And once we got close. It is not necessary that you will get this close next time too. You also know this. So there is a lot of uncertainty which is there on this path. So you should know this. Number one. Number two. Fix a time frame in your mind. 2 years, 3 years, 4 years, whatever, I just want to try till here. It's like you're searching for gold as far as other people's point of view is concern. Not from my point of view. That is not gold. But many people, from the standpoint of the society you live in, the world we live in,
25:40 this is 24 carat gold that you are looking for. Am I right, right? So, look at it this way, it's like the gold rush. You're being a dick. You may find gold, you may not. That's all. It is not necessary that you will definitely get it. Because it is not in your hands. These are the entrance examinations, be it this or any other. Whatever competitive examinations take place, this is a factor which very few people are able to understand. That it is not in your control. It's in someone else's hands. It depends on his mood. Who is the examiner, who is the interviewer. Is it or not? You can never say that it is completely in my hands. You may give your best but if the other person does n't like it then it is useless. As simple as that. So this is what you chose for yourself. So when you have
26:27 chosen it, then you will have to accept every side of it, every reality of it, the issues associated with it, and you will have to do it proudly so that in the future you do not regret that you wasted so much of your time. Or when the world will come and scold you and say that you tried so many times but it did not happen to you and see it happened to her, then it should not happen that we start getting angry at ourselves or we start seeing ourselves as a failure. You must be clear that I went for the gold rush but millions of people go and only a few get it because gold is limited. Seats are limited. So when this is clear then there will
27:15 never be any lack of confidence inside. So, this so-called failure in the eyes of the world, you will speak about it with full confidence. I knew there was a lot of competition. Still, I did it. If this did not happen despite knowing it, then what happened? How does it matter? It's not like my life is over. I have a lot of options right now. I am still doing this practice. I can also do business which belongs to my family or I can do some other business of my own. So there are lots of options. So if you have this kind of mindset, then your self-esteem will never decrease from within. Otherwise, this failure destroys the man. And failure is nothing but a way of looking at it. If you are deliberately going into that scenario and you know what is the possibility of failing in it and
28:01 what is the possibility of being successful. Still if you are doing it on your own will then how did it fail? He became like a scientist. He is experimenting. I know that 999 times out of a thousand you are bound to fail. This is what happens in business. So the important thing is not that you have to be successful every time. You should know. It has to happen only once. And even if it doesn't happen, it doesn't matter, there are other options in the world. The options are a bit exhausted. You have other options which is ok. Now why are there other options? This should also be clear. Because this thing is not in your hands. Therefore there should be more options. If it was in your hands then I would say don't keep any more options. This is called Burn the Bridges, Burn the Ships. Set it on fire. Meaning there should be no way to go back. He shouldn't be in this.
28:47 What happens do people hear something else from somewhere ? They apply it somewhere else and get stuck. Then at the end he says, look I have been robbed, I have been ruined. Hey brother, you used the wrong funda at the wrong place. If you burn the bridges in whatever work is at your disposal, that's okay. But when things are not in your hands, you should never leave your backup plan. It should not be burnt. As if the business is in your hands. If you have ₹1 lakh and you have already decided that the success ratio is 10% then I will not invest ₹1 lakh in a business because the failure ratio there is 90%. I will invest ₹1, ₹10,000 in 10 businesses. At least one of them will do. So now it is completely in your hands. Now if you have burnt the ships or bridges that you have behind you.
29:33 Makes sense because now you will give your 100% into it. You will keep learning and will not make the same mistake again and somewhere or the other you will crack something because it is not in anyone else's hands. Your product, your service is in your hands, right? Who controls its pricing ? It is in your hands. Increase it, decrease it. But these things are not in our hands. It's in someone else's hands. So never give control of your life to someone else. No matter who he is. In fact, this is my message to all those who are preparing for any kind of entrance examination. Is preparation all you have in your hands ? Getting selected or not is not in your hands. So never say I am a failure. You are not a failure.
30:18 You were trying your luck in something that is beyond your control. Beyond your reach. Yes, you are doing something that is 100% in your control. Then you cannot do that. Then you can say yes I am a failure, I could not do it. So this craze for government examinations is more hype than necessary in our country. It's too much. People give it so much importance and associate their identity with it. Whereas this is absolutely the wrong method. Whereas this is not correct. Can you see what I am saying. Am I not saying anything wrong? Is n't it a fact? How many people are giving government exams , have already given it. Raise your hands. Is it done for you or not? No sir. It did not happen. What kind of government exams did you give? Of teaching. Teaching.
31:04 So at what level did it not happen for you? Sir, I had cleared my paper but could not get selected for the interview. The interview was fine. yes sir. Like when we give an interview, we feel that ours has gone very well. But then the name did not appear in the results. So who knows, your interview might have really gone very well. Sir, that also depends a lot on the person in front as to what he sees, everything depends on him, no sir, some of it depends on us also, how is our confidence etc, how does the person in front feel, whether we are confident or not, but what has confidence to do with teaching job sir, what happens, I did not understand, confidence, what did you have to teach, what did you have to teach in teaching, going further sir, SST SST what confidence is needed in it to teach the children, can we deal with the children or not and this is checked,
31:49 then our demo is also taken as to how are we teaching the children? Can we connect with the children or not ? So you couldn't do it or you did well. You gave your best sir. So who knows he might actually be the best. So that is what I am trying to say. Who knows, the fault may be you or the interviewer. But what happens is that we keep blaming ourselves our whole life. Someone would come and tell me that brother, it didn't happen to you. Yes it didn't happen to me. Hey this is a flaw in the process. Or there would be a fair system. Then you could have said yes. It didn't happen because of this. You can't point it. You can't even tell. You are saying that it was good on my part. I do n’t know why it didn’t happen. That means it is subjective that the interviewer sitting there has some biases of his own. There are some priorities and there are many things
32:35 about which we do not know. I am not saying that this will happen. But it can certainly happen. Who does he like? Who is not coming ? what is the reference? What isn't it? What is the background? What isn't it? Do you have a surname or not? You never know what the other person likes? Did you feel bad? You never know. He is human. It's not AI. It is so obvious yet we are unable to see this truth. Now what preparations did you make? Which one is his? I prepared for Haryana Civil Services. Of Haryana Civil Services. So to what level did you go into it? Till mains. So how did you do in Mains? You had written it proper in it. Yes. And whatever the question is, you have to
33:20 write something related to it. yes and who checks it? The examiner checks it. Who is that examiner? Only he knows that. Do you understand the meaning? What is happening? Now I am not saying whether that examiner is right or not. But luck plays a big role here. That first of all you don't even know who that examiner is. I don't know what his frame of mind was at that time. It is not known whether his health is fine or not. I do n't know whether he has checked it properly or not. Suppose he got a thousand papers to check. You should try placing it on yourself. Is it of any use? Do you ever do it properly ? How many of you do jobs? Yes. A lot of work comes up all of a sudden. It has to be done within a week. You do it with great dedication.
34:09 Or else you just do this much so that you do n't get fired from the company. I am saying right, I am saying wrong. So, he is also a human being. So, from your standpoint, was what you wrote in the Mains correct, good or bad? No, from my point of view it was fine. It meant that it should have been cleared. Now look how big the question mark is. You have cleared the prelims. Reached the mains. There was no objective in mains. It was subjective there. That means any question can be asked which is open ended. And you have to give your view in that. There can be thousands of answers to that one question. I am saying it right. I am saying wrong.
34:55 No, but that is defined by their syllabus. It happens from that itself. Mostly it is a static part. The syllabus is from that but critical thinking must also be included in it. It is not basically like that, all the students will write the same answer. Everyone will write the answer in their own way. But its one minus point is that you cannot get it rechecked from any way. And imagine if I am that examiner and I know that I cannot even get it rechecked, no further comments. He said, what a great job it was. Examiner means government job. Government employees are obviously not private. And he also knows that this child does not have any other option. So in whose hands did that child's entire future come? It came into the hands of that examiner. I'm not saying anything is rigged in this system. I am
35:41 not saying that. All I am saying is there is a human involved in that. And wherever there is a human who has the power to decide your future , then you should not give too much offence to hit. As simple as that. For example, I am doing this session. According to me it is very good. Now whoever is watching, comes and comments. Who is that examiner? No sir. That's not the point sir. Sir, that thing you do on stage sir. I enjoy that sir. The Goose Bums arrive. Abe watches my sessions for goose bums? He looks to understand. No, I look for goose bombs. It can happen like this that your examiner, whoever checked or whoever it was, did not get goosebumps after reading it, oh it's
36:29 useless, remove it, I am not enjoying it, I read one or two, oh friend, okay, remove it, let's read this, yes this seems good, let's see what is written, yes this is correct, oh wow and then what happens is then a bias comes in between, in psychology terms this is called bias, means one or two answers start seeming good, then all the answers start seeming good, one or two seem bad, then all the answers seem bad. Therefore, the initial answers should be good. So this much is to be understood that we should know what is in our hands in life and what is not, and on that basis your self worth or self esteem should be determined.
