0:01 [Music] okay speaking of body dysmorphia let's cut the cameras so we don't see ourselves maybe what's up bar what's up girl people love it is a pretty let's do it one more time oh our hand so solid our hand okay and then we we do it we go like this for a few minutes and then we just know to just casually Let It Go one more time ready what's up R what's up bie girl well you know you know what I mean
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3:55 ggb plus we're basically able to unashamedly and unfiltered talk to you guys and it's just different it's different cuz it's just us we give advice we have question sessions we Vlog um we're just getting started so that's also in the description below today oh my gosh yes it's your birthday episode is it you should have gotten me a cake it's your birthday episode where my cake where's your cake where's my cake you know why cuz it's later in the week it felt like this this week is AR's Birthday Episode I'm going to be 25 I you're going to be 25 I'm going to be 22 I can't believe it like 25 crazy you
4:41 don't want a day older to 24 yeah 25 and we act like we're 15 15 huh yeah okay oh my gosh it's my baby's birthday week we're going to have the most fun weekend please you guys already know Ari sweet Ari the most Lov actually right now I'm going to play the funniest video that I've already gotten don't worry about it you'll see it on Friday I'm going to play it right now of Ari you guys have made so nothing never mind it's none of your
5:27 business make me eggs I don't even think my accent's that bad honestly oh this steak is off the CH you don't have to do that you better get over here and give me a hug happy pre-birthday in advance I love you so much I love you I'm just I'm just so glad this is our it's my birthday but more importantly November 9th is when Angela and I met 2 years ago I was just in the corner crying my eyes out and my angel in human form came and rescued me this God ordained friendship has been the biggest blessing in my life so not only
6:12 is it my birthday but it's our friendiversary our 2year friendiversary I don't remember life without you and I can't believe we've only been friends two years it feels like we both came out of the womb at the same time I don't know a life without you no and I never will have to no we won't I will never forget that day at that job we are at going up to you and being like wow this is about to be my best friend forever literally knowing the first day that I met you this is my this is my girl this is my dog and you know we went to plates that week at carries and I remember thinking cuz I'm like very careful with the word best friend I don't call everyone like whatever best friend is like it holds a lot of weight for me and I remember we were at Pilates that week
6:58 and the girl is like are you guys sisters oh yeah and you were like no we're best friends yeah and I remember everything in me goes yeah we are I like that and I don't even use that Loosely at all oh it so cute what an honor to be your best friends what an honor to be yours so everyone write in the chat in the chat write in the com the chat that's what they say at church we really going to stop we got to get our own personalities is what we have to do everyone write in the description box happy birthday Ari and why don't you write your favorite thing about her oh
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10:02 through it's different for all of us I think every single person in the world goes through it obviously there's different severities of it but so I'm just going to read the definition of body dysmorphia body dysmorphia or body dysmorphic disorder bdd is a mental health condition where a person becomes excessively preoccupied with perceived flaws in their appearance often seeing minor or even non-existent imperfection infections as severe and unsightly these concerns May focus on specific body parts such as the skin hair nose or other features and lead to intense distress people with bdd may spend excessive time looking in mirrors comparing themselves to others seeking reassurance or even undergoing cosmetic
10:48 procedures to correct their perceived flaws however the relief from these actions is typically temporary and the preoccupation continues often affecting social interactions where school and overall quality of life I do think we all have it but I do believe that some people have it a lot worse and it's very undermined and it's something to really take seriously 80% of people have suicidal thoughts or attempt to commit suicide from not feeling good from seeing something in the mirror and it actually not being there but feeling so bad about themselves so it's something to really take very seriously in today's age with social media and everything it's gotten so bad so bad so bad it
11:36 plagues all of us it is I say it all the time it is the enemy's one of his number one ways to distract us is to get us looking at ourselves all day long and being so preoccupied with what we look like what other people think we look like it becomes an idol for all of us I know for me you guys know some of my story like this is something thing I've been dealing with body dysmorphia my entire life and it has been like once I gained spiritual awareness and realized why this happens I was like oh obviously obviously and like the he doesn't have anything new he has nothing new no new tactics like the only thing that he can do is the same thing our whole lives he
12:22 catches us when we're kids finds out what a trigger is finds out what our insecurity is our trauma what somebody said to us that planted seed and then he spends the rest of his life our lives watering the seed of what somebody else said to us and so for me I know that somebody must have said something to me when I was a kid somebody must have become somebody must have made me become aware of my body at a really young age and then the devil literally was like oh perfect I got her it all starts when you're a kid because you're so vulnerable yes that's it it all starts when we were kids and I think yeah like you said it all there something was said to you what was your home life look like were you constantly ridiculed by your parents were you super bullied at school
13:08 like it's all these kinds of things that start when we're kids always always and like social media has I mean one of the one of the God's commands is don't covet what does that mean it means don't don't want what somebody else has don't want what somebody else has and so when you're sitting there comparing yourself on social media all day like you're literally you're sinning like you're looking at somebody else's life their body what God gave them how God created them and being like I want that why can't I be like that when God is like but I made you you and I made you so intentionally and like these are cliches we hear all the time but I don't know there's so much I mean I was taking a bath the other day and I was thinking about body dysmorphia and I was just thinking about the things that we go through as men and women and I was
13:54 thinking about how I was just thinking about how can look in the mirror and legitimately see something that's not there like how is it that our actual physical like we know that the devil perverts and distorts our emotional eyes and our spiritual eyes we see things not as they are he lies to us he creates deception like he just lies that's what he does he lies and then I was thinking about it's not just limited to our emotional life and our spiritual life he has the ability to Dore our physical eyes as well to see something that's not there I'm literally sitting and I'm thinking about is there anything in Scripture that speaks to body dysmorphia are there any stories like is there anyone who dealt with it and then I immediately thought of the moment with
14:41 Leah and Rachel we've talked about Jacob Leah and Rachel how um Jacob was deceived by laan to marry he wanted to marry Rachel and then he ended up marrying her sister Leah he got to marry Rachel however 14 years later but when Jacob married Leah it literally says that it basically insinuates that Rachel was so much more beautiful than Leah Jacob loved Rachel he didn't love Leah and it says that Leah had weak eyes and so often people per interpret this as being like either she had she just wasn't as beautiful some people are like maybe she had a lazy eye maybe there's just something wrong with her eyes and then I was thinking about how Leah's whole issue like she would spend the next however long of her life trying to
15:29 make Jacob love her like she would have his children she would have all these children okay maybe now he'll love me maybe now he'll respect me maybe now he'll desire me more than my sister and then Leah you realize like Leah has such so low selfworth like she looks in the mirror and she clearly hates what she sees because she just feels like she needs to do more and be more in order to be loved and so when it says she has weak eyes I interpret it as like she can't even see herself correctly like she has such low self-worth because her eyes are weak her eye her vision has been distorted and so I just think it's such an interesting take on it because I was like wow this is literally what happens to us like the devil has the ability to pervert our eyesight so we
16:16 look in the mirror and we get fixated on these little things these like little minuscule imperfections or flaws or sometimes things that literally aren't even there right there are women and people and men who look in in the mirror and they see a body that isn't actually there yeah and this has been so much of my story of like I know sometimes and it's not nearly as bad now it was way worse growing up way like in high school it was the worst that had ever been where I'd look in the mirror and I'd be like I'm 5'6 I'm 115 lbs it's so unhealthy for my build and I'm looking in the mirror and I am seeing someone who is much larger than what is actually there there are so many girls that are going through this you and I have
17:02 complete opposite um body dismorphia but like can you talk about that because I know so many girls are struggling with that so many I didn't realize how many girls struggle with body like body weight dysmorphia it's it's so serious too it's so weird because it's just like yeah I mean listen it's so hard to come on here and talk about something that you haven't fully conquered yet the only thing that I know about this situation is that I can look at it emotionally and be like yes clearly somebody made me aware of myself and my body at a young age and it's stuck with me and I've taken it on as a part of my
17:48 identity you know what I mean spiritually I know you can take it back to the Garden you can take it back when we were made in the image of God and we were made to live live a beautiful life of Truth where we the devil would have had no opening to come and Feed Us lies about ourselves but because Adam and Eve they fell they ate from the Tree of knowledge of Good and Evil they then see themsel you see even in the beginning that their their Vision got distorted after deception came in they ran and they tried to cover themselves with fig leaves because they realized their Vision had changed before they saw themselves as naked and and holy and blameless and unashamed and they didn't have to be ashamed and then their perception changed their Vision
18:34 changed and the devil had influence in the way that they saw themselves and then so they had to cover themselves it's just perversion of like God's original design and so I know all day long we're fed lies from the enemy I know all day long he's feeding me lies he's making me like he it's just he's sitting there being like Angela has so much to do she has so much purpose she has so much like she has a calling on her life from God like every single person watching this does we all have a calling and his main goal is to discourage us and is to throw us off course and one of the mass the massive ways he does that is getting us to look at our bodies and fixate on things that either don't matter or aren't there and
19:20 so sometimes yeah you look in the mirror and I'm like you know what I I I said this I think in the body image episode but I'll look at my myself and I can tell and it usually comes when I'm tired when I'm run down after shows after big Ministry stuff like when I'm super vulnerable that I'll look in the mirror and I have to be so careful because I'll be like I know what I'm seeing right now doesn't actually exist like I know for a fact our whole purpose in having this episode is so that you guys don't feel like you're alone I don't want you to feel like you're crazy I don't want you to feel like there's something wrong with you I just don't want you to feel like you're the only person that feels this way because we all go through it we all look in the mirror and pick ourselves apart and the truth is a life
20:07 with Jesus like can help that body dysmorphia is a mental health condition that can be treated like anything else like anxiety like depression but I truly believe that this is something like everything else we teach you guys about taking your thoughts captive about having the mind of Christ about letting Jesus be Sovereign Lord over your mind and over your thoughts this applies to this as well you know what I mean like you can invite Jesus to help you with these thoughts as well yeah where are you at now I am I at now I'm probably going to start going to counseling I just think that you know you know what it
20:53 is there's like this is just another even deeper layer of sin or idolatry because body dysmorphia it's like a form of idolatry like sitting there and staring and being like and again it's gotten so much better it's a weird thing because where I used to be versus where I'm at now it's like you can't it's Indescribable the difference like I really have great days great weeks even great months where it's not nearly as severe but I think one of the reasons I'm even willing even though it's gotten so much better and getting better and that is the truth like with Jesus I do have the ability to take the thoughts captive to recognize what's going on like I'm being deceived right now and I'm giving way
21:39 too much attention to something that doesn't matter and I'm making an idol out of it the reason why I'm willing even as it's getting better to go to counseling is because I have an even deeper awareness that like this area of my it's hindering me like it's getting in the way of what God wants to do and I excuse me I have overcome alcoholism I have overcome panic attacks I've overcome sin all types of sin I've overcome so much and this is just one more thing of we make excuses we justify our issues we justify mental health disorders and we partner with them because sometimes our issues not only do they feel familiar so we're like it's comforting cuz this is all I've ever known we also partner with things that
22:27 seemingly benefit us what do you mean body dysmorphia disordered eating the enemy can make it so in my mind that I believe that this is beneficial it keeps me thin it keeps me pretty it keeps me whatever I'll justified in my head and I'll be like well at least I'm fit at least I go to the gym a lot at least you know what I mean and God has really revealed to me like it's getting in the way of what I want you to do like it's like I just you make an idol of it it is so an idle it is so an idol yeah and then you justify it and you're like oh but is it really that bad because here's the benefit of it on this end and it's like with so many different types of things and and
23:13 like I do like making Idols of like you don't really make Idols of things because you're like oh this is evil and I'm going to partner with evil like Idols are good things like you make Idols out of things that you love that feel good that comfort you you know what I mean it is just a it's a journey it is a it is so a journey it's a journey and and to to think that there's people that are like man I have Jesus but I I have not overcome this yeah and hearing you it's like no you have Jesus but it's a journey and you have to work hard and you're you're going to get therapy and you're going to keep praying on it and it's important that people know that because some people may feel defeated having Jes Jesus in their life and still
24:00 having this thing that's been such a burden right it's so true yeah I mean there are moments where I think too like God how how how do we overcome so much but this is and he so gently is like this is so deeply ingrained in your brain and your DNA it's passed down generation from generation of women who have been hyper fixated on the way that they look and it's been like it's been the same plan from the Devil from the very beginning and so I give myself so much grace in this area to know that like you know it really truly is a journey and I just encourage you guys like our whole point in all of this is because I want you to know you're not alone I'm in it with you and guess what
24:46 I've had conversations with older women that I respect so much because there are moments where I kind of like feel weak where I'll be like oh if I really was strong and tough and a warrior for Jesus like I wouldn't struggle with this how could I let something so superficial and surface level and vein and whatever get me down and then I talk to these older women that I respect so much who are like Mighty powerful women of God and they're like hey I am 50 years old and I'm still walking through this you know what I mean so you're so right it's a journey and it's something that I one of my main pieces of of advice is just fix your eyes on on Jesus like the devil's plan is to get us to look in word is to
25:33 focus on ourselves is to make an idol out of these things and to get our eyes off of Jesus but as scripture says he will keep those in perfect peace whose minds are fixed on him so if we fix our eyes on Jesus that's where peace comes from and that's where like that's the only way you can fight this thing this episode is brought to you by glorify the number one Christian Daily Devotional app guys do you want to grow in your relationship with God but don't know how or maybe you find yourself opening your Bible with no idea of where to start I get it I've been there luckily that's where glorify comes in glorify is the number one Christian Daily Devotional app with glorify you
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27:05 app.com GB right now to download the glorify app that's glorify app.com GB it's free I know a lot of Christians like don't believe in therapy you know that right yeah yeah yeah yeah and therapy is is is one of the greatest things you can ever do because these are these are Specialists that have like who know how to how to beat this thing something that you have to be aware of and and choose to process and be willing to let God heal I know for a long time I wasn't letting God heal like how many stories in the Bible are do people like have to partner with Jesus when he goes to heal them like he says to the guy at the pool of um at Bethesda do you want
27:50 to be made well and so many other situations who where he's like do you want this are you willing like you have to meet me and for the longest time I was partnering with an idol I was partnering with something that was hurting me and hindering me in my relationship with Jesus and so now I'm like okay my first step and I am on this with me too I am in this me too I am on this journey with you of like okay our first step is to recognize what's going on and be like sure this isn't you know outwardly harmful and sinful and Evil but it's not good it's an idol it is sinful and it is just and and that's like the devil sorry I keep talking
28:36 about the devil but it that's what it is but and he does these things where it's like these small things that aren't do I have something no oh we take care of the big sin we take care of the big issues alcoholism blah blah blah all these little things but he's wreaking havoc in our lives through this one little opening that doesn't seem that bad and like this is one of those areas where finally God has just confronted me so much and been like I want this I want you to give this to me I want to do this with you I want you to stop benefiting off of something that's hurting you having people to talk things up with we it is just it's everything yeah so how do you yeah we're different body dysmorphia is also by the way not just body it is with face it's with hair it's with everything and so do you want to
29:21 talk a little bit about how you feel yeah you've been personally affected well I definitely have hair Moria let's just get that on the tape I think no I I really do like it's a real thing I have I started to get haircuts like I love a fresh haircut and I became so obsessed with it I was getting haircuts every two weeks and my hair girl was like are there's something wrong when I first met you you got your haircut every two weeks I thought it was the I was like I was like and like I didn't know you that well yet so I couldn't wait until we got close enough where I could be like hey you okay no I'm serious it's really crazy it's so
30:06 real though it's so real this is good for cuz I know a lot of young girls listen to us when I was younger I just like never felt accepted and so um I started wearing makeup and coloring my hair blond and I got a little bit of attention and so I would put all my I identity into that into to getting attention because that's how I thought I was accepted so I became so fixated and so obsessed with it and I I became so obsessed with it that if I didn't if I didn't get um a compliment or something I thought something was wrong with me and so I I almost
30:52 like something happened in high school where I became even more insecure and I I was just talking to my mom about this this morning I was like do you remember I always wore hats so I always wore hats because it covered half of my face I couldn't show half of my face I was so insecure I always looked down I would be in the car and if I saw like kids my age in a store I would wait till they leave because I was so insecure to go in the store I even left school I was just very insecure very insecure on my appearance I was so upset with it because that's how I felt accepted totally it was only by my appearance and it goes back to your childhood um you know did you come from very loving
31:39 parents where they where they didn't make everything about your appearance were you told something as a kid did you go through abuse because abuse is a big one abuse can make you feel like you're not good enough and then you become fixated on something of appearance and then um and then social media came out and I I would constantly just sit there and compare myself to these models and girls and and then I wanted to be like that and then I wasn't like that and that was really confusing um and then when I started to model that was a whole other lane I oh good luck you know you are you're in um
32:25 audition rooms with the most beautiful girls you don't book the job because a girl that looks like you gets it and you're constantly nitpicking oh that's miserable and I just became just so insecure and I was just wearing more makeup in my hair and it's and and then it just takes away from you just think that's your that's your whole identity is the way you look and um even if I didn't like something on my face if I didn't look good I I would just stay in and I just wouldn't go out um and it really took over my life it really did and then we started girls gone Bible and that was a whole other thing for me we had to be on camera and you know what I had to go through I
33:12 there were times where I couldn't even look at myself on camera I was so I was like I would get really upset some days and I was just like oh my God I can't look at myself I I can't I can't do it it even I almost like let the enemy even make me not be on girlsc Bible because I was like I can't do this like I don't want to watch myself you know and so that's been a journey for me um of just self-appearance and learning to love myself learning to not have to do all these things to feel good and I see so many of like I see so many of us we're just constantly comparing constantly feeling like we
33:58 have to do this and that to our face in order to feel good we have to wear all this makeup I mean I never could go out without makeup on like never like I would never go out of the house without makeup um I felt like I had to just do all these things to just feel good you know um and so I on my journey on my faith Journey um what's really helped me is just understanding how like God God looks at everything else but the appearance he looks at the heart and that's been so big for me um because like I know I talk about David a lot but look at how look at why David was so anointed because of his heart and because he was so confident in God not
34:44 in himself and so that's been so huge for me to be like Jesus loves our he he looks at our heart and like what we do for others and and how good right here we are and so he helped me see my heart so much on my faith journey and it's been It's Made Me Love myself so much and then like I always say like I see how much he loves me and it's just helped me feel so accepted with myself yeah totally um I know we're going to get comments being like but you guys wear makeup on the pocket we're girls and we love to get dressed up and we love to wear makeup and all that but I feel like I've gotten so much better with that too like just accepting myself not having to I mean we go out all the
35:31 time we're like God should we even be going out like listen I one thing about me is God has really done a work in me it's absolutely incredible I will the I wear makeup on here and I do my hair on here but like 90% of the time I don't look any you know what I mean yeah you know what I'm going to say too guys it's when you're so young like when you're in high school when you're it is so hard to love yourself because we're so young we're like these are the the our young 20s were're these are the years like we're learning about ourselves and it's really and then we're in high school they're bullies like so I would kill someone that bullied you I would literally but you went through it too girls are vicious and so I I just I can
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38:36 last time that's promo code ggb for 50% off your first order plus free shipping here's what I'll say even for the young girls in high school I want you to understand how much Jesus loves you and what I have realized on my journey is that God has made no mistakes when he made us yeah I you look at the picture perfect girl I always looked at the models whatever it is and who says that's perfect it's Society God did not make any mistakes when he made us I love the little quirks about me now that I used to absolutely despise there's things that like I I am now loving now that I'm getting older I'm realizing that God has made us all so
39:22 different I saw a girl the other day and she had walked into this restur on and you know society would probably be like oh I don't know like whatever society says is so beautiful but she walked in and she was glowing she had her shoulders back she was smiling she was look people looking at people in the eyes and I was like wow that girl is just so beautiful like there's something about her and it's how who who it's what God says about you it's how you carry yourself it's it's it's what your heart is that's what makes you beautiful and then we we live in LA and we will see someone walk in and they will be what society says is beautiful right but they won't be good right here and the way and
40:08 they just won't even like talk to you and then you look at them in such a different light and so so true I don't know what Society saying is so beautiful but let me tell you and I don't care care how cliche I sound your heart and how you carry yourself and how beautiful you are right here will literally glow without so you you mentioned it earlier about how like you went through this your whole life of like whatever all of the issues and then then you got into modeling and then it just like got a thousand times a million times worse obviously and I'm thinking about how like models super models are the most conventionally attractive people on the planet and they are without a doubt the most insecure and why is that you might
40:56 be somebody who I know you're beautiful I know that you're beautiful and but you might feel like you're not conventionally pretty like you're not attractive like you're not a supermodel and most of us aren't by the way most of us aren't supermodels most of us don't wake up in the morning looking like a a 10 out of 10 I know we don't sometimes like and that's totally we look we'll wake up to together I'll be like did we get into a fight like I like who is that no literally and so so but and so you might be someone who's like no I would be confident if I was that beautiful and I'm telling you right now it's not the truth because when you are when you go into like the next level of beauty like when you are so
41:42 physically attractive so beautiful it puts that much more attention that much more pressure and and just attention on your physical appearance which means that you have to live up to a standard that nobody can live up to and then if you've put so much attention on your physical appearance the enemy has all the more right to then go attack that and distort your distort your your perception and your vision and then you see things that aren't there but because you've given it so much emphasis and so much of value when you put so much value on the way you look you are so vulnerable to the enemy just like destroying you in that area whereas if you are not as attractive but you know that you're smart you know that you're
42:27 gifted you know that you're kind and you're good to people it's what you put the value on and in entering a relationship to with Jesus I know I have this body stuff and the eating and the whatever but I will say God has done such an unbelievable work in what I put my value in and he's made me realize like he's made me love the things about me that he loves he's made me so aware like this is awesome yes yes and it doesn't really get you anywhere doesn't and yes is there pretty privilege absolutely and do you benefit in society when you are more attractive in some ways absolutely we're not going to pretend like that's not the truth equally it hinders you and so in
43:14 relationship with Jesus like he's made me so aware of like my gifts and my little things and like do you see this little thing I was so intentional when I made you and I and I made you this way and I actually love this it's made yes we about how we look but at the same time I put so much I know that that's not why I'm valuable I know that the man that I marry one day like sure he's going to want me to be attractive but he doesn't have to deal with attraction 24 hours a day he has to deal with what's in here and what's in here and what comes out of here this is what matters it really is and it's like Society especially for us women has put all this pressure on us would love to give you guys some little tools yeah
44:00 let's talk about because we have so many it's funny I'm I will look in the crowd at our shows and I'm seeing the types of people that come which is literally everyone we have girls at age seven to you know 65 mothers and daughters it's it's true men love when the guys are there um but I want to speak about I want to speak to the moms oh I I want to speak because it's so you have no idea the impact that you hold with your child for parents it is so important how we speak to our children because you don't realize as vulnerable children when you say one little thing they can hold that and take it with them as their adults so
44:46 be they will and so be very careful at how you speak to your children um kids that are in high school I know that kids are bullies I know that we can't help We Can't Stop kids from saying things to us and that's why we need to have a good group of community we need to know who Jesus is we need to know the scripture that we you you keep saying I am fearfully wonderfully made change your perspective on how you look at yourself as a man think so he is let's try to change how we look at ourselves so we can so let's look at this perspective so I'll look in the mirror and I'll say oh my gosh look at my hair oh I have a pimple on my face I'm so ugly or we can look in the mirror
45:33 and say I'm beautiful it's okay that I have a pimple Jesus Loves Me Jesus made me just the way I am he made no mistakes when he made me I'm going to make the decision today to love myself and carry that and When the Thought comes in that I'm not good enough that I'm not that I I'm not pretty or whatever it is that you're struggling with my body I'm going to make the decision today to say no I'm not no I'm not and not today Satan I love myself and so doesn't Jesus he made me exactly he knew when he had me in my mother's womb exactly what he was doing so I want to try to do that and also I want you to write down every single lie that the enemy is is is writing down and
46:19 like I want you to really say is this true this isn't true just cuz any thought that is negative does not come from God so so we need to we need to remember that so any thoughts that aren't pleasing don't come from God and that's helped me so much on my journey of negative thinking um and then what else do you have any I love can I just really quick say I love what you said about the parents and about how you shape your kids with your words whatever you speak over them is who they will become as a parent your voice becomes their inner voice so however you speak to them is how they'll speak to thems if they hear you saying oh I'm fat oh I'm this oh I'm ugly your kid is going to pick that I had when I'm I was thinking
47:04 about this topic today I was just thinking about like I have to heal so that my daughter never has to deal with what I deal with my daughter will never hear me speak like that she will never hear me put myself down and I just yeah what Ari said I another thing you can bring how to bring Jesus into it is be like Jesus you give me eyes to see you show me how to feel you show me what to think what do you say about me who do you say that I am what do you think about how I look and just like Ari said you look in the mirror you have a pimple be like what up your words are everything you decide how you feel through your words and even if you look in the mirror and say oh I hate what I see look at it and be just say the opposite and see what changes in your spirit like subconsciously it all begins
47:51 to change just because of your body will begin to react to the things that you're saying so if you look in the mirror and be like I look good today I look so good like if I ever look feel like I look a little thick that day or like whatever I look and be like I'm thick and I look good and I love the way I look and I love my curves and I love you know what I mean and I really do that sometimes and it helps me so much and it's just about the way that you speak to yourself and choose to be like you know what God really does say that I am absolutely beautiful and even toxic positivity isn't a good thing and so if you really I don't want you guys to sit there and be like painfully having to say that you love something when you really don't but you can sit
48:37 there and be like you know what this is my reality today I don't 100% love the way that I look it's too hard for me to look in the mirror and say I love myself CU I know that it's not true and so it's not doing anything so you can be like you know what there are things that I don't love and maybe I can change them maybe I can't maybe there are steps that you can take towards bettering yourself which by the way your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit and so it is something to take care of and to treat well and to put good nourishing food in your body that will make you feel good and that will reflect on the outside what it's doing on the inside which is feeding you well and nourishing you and so you can look in the mirror and be like you know what I don't love it all right now but I'll focus on the things that I do love I'm a really good friend
49:24 I'm really funny people are are joyful around me because I bring in good energy and like you know what I mean and just focusing on the good you have you do have a decision that you can make to be like I don't love anything and guess what can I please just encourage you in telling you that we are all insecure we are all have things that we want to change and what should comfort you is knowing that nobody if you've put on 10 lbs I promise you nobody cares if there if you have pimples I promise you nobody cares you are the only one that looks at yourself that much cuz guess what if they're not looking at Jesus they're looking at themselves too they're not looking at you nobody actually cares it's so true and I love that you say that
50:11 because this month is all about gratitude I am just so grateful for everyone in my life I really am but there's just one person that I don't think enough and it's myself it's sometimes hard to remind ourselves that we are trying our best to make of everything and in the crazy world we're living in it just isn't easy here's a reminder to send some thanks to the people in your life including yourself I will never stop talking about better help because if you guys only knew how much it helped me in my faith Journey one of the greatest things about better help is it's so easy it's so convenient you go online you say what your experience is and then from your experience they match you with the perfect therapist
50:57 so I would just encourage anyone that needs to just unload their baggage of what they've been holding on so tightly better help just been the greatest blessing for me so if you're thinking of starting therapy give better help a try it's entirely online designed to be convenient flexible and suited to your schedule just fill out a brief questionnaire to get matched up with the licensed therapist and switch therapists at any time for no additional charge let the Gratitude flow you guys with better help visit betterhelp.com girlsgone Bible today to get 10% off your first month that's help hp.com girlsgone bible really everybody's worried about themselves and girls that feel like they can't go out
51:44 of the house without makeup I want to give you an exercise take off all your makeup I want you to go into a store and you will see that nobody cares that nobody's like just really just try it nobody's going to ridicule you no it's it's it's such it's all in it's all right here and it's not real it's not real um Can can we tell you guys the one body dis morning that we do have okay so Ari and I listen this is something that I need God to break off because I have partnered with it this is yeah we can't let go of lip liner lip L like I don't have to wear makeup but the one thing I want lip liner don't tell me if I you guys when I die one day I'm holding everyone accountable if you don't put
52:29 lip liner on me in the casket we're done I lip liner I want a bow I want a Reformation dress with the bangs okay oh I will dice in the bangs in the bangs got you I would never I'll be like my friend hang on hang on we need to roll you know I'm going to open one eye and my gas be like than girl we have to tell you guys the funniest story so one time Ari and I are dating okay so we dated we dated best friends and we would obviously like all hang out the four of us would double date and everything and Ari and I would constantly go to the bathroom because because we would go put lip liner on and we didn't want them to know we wanted
53:16 them to always think we have lip liner on and so we would always go and sneak the lip liner and we come back one time and what do they say one of them goes he goes why you guys keep sneaking put a lip line on I look at him so embarrassed I go no I'm not like and I literally go what are you I any on this is my lip I'm literally like I'm literally like what are you talking about like why do you even notice stuff like that like guys don't do that like guys don't we were so embarrassed what do you mean listen I don't care I don't care how healed I am from my body dismorphia I will never be healed from not putting lip liner on I will never I have partnered with it for life I want lip liner on it just make like it me I don't
54:04 it's anyways like Angela said the the enemy wants to keep you defeated stuck have no purpose and one of his tactics to do that is to keep you focusing on self yes if we just let go of focusing on ourselves and remember that God looks at everything but that he loves the heart so to what do we do to not focus on ourselves focus on helping others I will continue to preach this when we stop focusing so much on self it may actually we realize wait a minute why have I been so fixated on these things like Jesus Jesus loves my heart let me help somebody else and that's going to actually make me love myself more and so
54:50 that is one of the biggest ways if you want to love yourself more love others help others whoo who she just literally cracked her neck oh my god did you guys hear that I'm so sorry that was crazy um during my faith Journey really what I don't even like what has just completely let me let go of all the all the stuff is just really helping others and I'll just say one more thing social media has destroyed life it has really taken girls self-esteem and put it to the ground we're seeing these edited photos we're seeing
55:35 girls making all this money we just don't feel adequate and I want to let you know as two sisters that live in Los Angeles that have been in the entertainment industry for years and years if you if we can tell you one thing it's this it's not real I can't believe how many years I wasted comparing myself to girls it wasn't real it's they they are all struggling with the same thing these photos are it it's just it's all a big facade and so you're wasting days you're wasting hours comparing yourself to things that aren't even real totally um work on your heart just work on your heart posture work on being the best person you can be right here and then you will flourish yeah I
56:20 and that will be the most pleasing thing to Jesus she preached it she said it take our words and and and just let them take root in your heart if you are new to girls gone Bible we obviously believe in Jesus here Jesus has saved our lives he has absolutely radically saved and transformed both Ari and I's life and we always want to end these episodes with an abil with the option for you to receive Jesus if you never have because there's healing on the other side of a relationship with Jesus there is help from the holy spirit that Jesus left us with there is the Holy Spirit who is our helper who can minister to us Comfort us and begin to speak truth into the lies that we believe when you don't have Jesus you are defenseless and I don't
57:06 know if you come from a different background or a different Faith or a different whatever where um you think that there could be other ways and other ways of believing we're here to tell you and testify that it's just Jesus Jesus is the only way he's the name above all names he is the only way to God he's the only way that can be reconciled to the father and so we want to invite you guys today to receive the greatest gift of all time and it's free and that's salvation and just like sin entered the world through one man Adam so much more does grace abound for all of us through one man Jesus Christ so I want to invite you to pray with us the implications of saying this prayer are Eternal the healing that can come from a
57:52 relationship that will come from a relationship with Jesus is unmat he healed us like he legitimately healed us so I want to invite you to say this with me heavenly father I believe the scripture that says that Jesus Christ is your Eternal son I believe he went to the cross and died for my sins I confess to you that I'm a sinner I need your forgiveness I'm asking you to save me I'm trusting you to do it right now I accept the Forgiveness of my sins I accept your gift of Sal salvation I accept you as my personal savior fill me with your Holy Spirit and be the Lord Of My Life in Jesus name amen if you just said that prayer for
58:39 the first time we love you so much and I just pray that Jesus himself would just flood your heart with his love right now that you'd receive the love of the father that you would have the Holy Spirit immediately come and comfort you comfort your soul that he would rebuke the storm in your mind and say peace be still and that whatever thoughts arise that are against you that you would immediately know they're not from you and they're not from God and I just pray that you would overcome even the most horrific body dysmorphia and whatever other issues you might be dealing with we love you guys so much may the Lord bless you and keep you may he make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you may he turn his face towards you and give you peace we love you love you
59:26 shalom shalom shalom shalom I feel the Holy Ghost
