0:00 regardless of what kind of relationship somebody has with a narcissist every relationship will fail in this video i want to talk about why the narcissist will always need new supply no matter what they currently have going on and i want to talk about why it will always fail no matter what narcissistic supply which is just a fancy term in this community for attention is nothing short of heir to a narcissist they need it it is incredibly painful for a narcissist to not have any kind of supply or no good supply and that's why they always do they always have it and usually in a fairly mass quantity narcissists have such a great need for supply that one person in their life will never be enough the narcarum
0:46 exists for purely that reason their harem consists of all their sources new and old alike and of course the more the merrier so why does someone highly narcissistic always need new supply right always someone new walking into that revolving door of abuse so to speak firstly like i mentioned one person is never enough for a narcissist they will always add more secondly narcissists get bored extremely quickly there needs to be someone or well many someone's frequently added to keep things interesting fun new and exciting for the narcissist people are there to provide for narcissists i've always said we're nothing more than a list of goods and services for these people and that also
1:32 includes of course just providing entertainment another reason why there always needs to be a new source or a fairly new source is because just as many people that enter that revolving door as many new sources that are sucked in and start going round and round there are people walking out on the other side narcissists can discard for example a lot of people also get fed up and walk away from the relationship so there will always be that need to draw new people in to keep the numbers up one person will never be enough for someone narcissistic like i said because at some point we sleep we work we go out of town we have family friends children and we cannot possibly fulfill a narcissist's insatiable list of demands
2:18 even if we could even if we were available 24 7 we would still be doomed the relationship would still fail because it doesn't take any time at all for the narcissist to become bored with you like i mentioned but surely somebody will come along and fix it right surely that one perfect source is out there even though we don't match up even though we can't make them happy a lot of people have that wild idea that the new supply or a new source of supply can in fact do everything for the narcissist that we just couldn't seem to do and i understand why a lot of people feel like their replacement quote unquote will do better hell sometimes we're even told the new person will do better is better
3:06 the relationship is gonna go so far i know why it didn't work with you you suck this new person so great you know sometimes we're even told those things what i really want to hammer home in this video is regardless of who the new person is or how many new persons there are no matter what all narcissistic relationships romantic and otherwise will fail if you'd like to talk with a survivor and get help and support for what you're going through you can set up appointments to chat with me by emailing book a chat with jess gmail.com narcissists put all responsibility for themselves onto other people this means every single person in their life is
3:51 responsible for things like making them happy validating them boosting them up fluffing their ego making them feel loved and wanted taken care of etc however there's a big issue with that and this is why things always fail when you put those kinds of demands on other people frankly other people are always going to fall short either they literally just fall short and can't do it or the narcissist's expectations are ridiculously high and nobody can meet them make me happy love me validate me respect me take care of me and do it exactly the way i want you to and let me do whatever i want to you and don't question me
4:36 boy that sounds like a lot of fun doesn't it sign me up narcissists clearly need a team an entourage for lack of a better word of people to do these things for them however that is just not enough and it's never going to be a narcissist becomes disenchanted with everyone again romantic relationships platonic relationships co-workers friends whatever it doesn't matter what relationship you have with them it falls apart because they get so disinterested they become so unhappy with everyone because they're unhappy people no matter what you do or what you don't do you will fall from grace in their eyes they will devalue they will discard even if
5:22 not permanently this is just a cycle we are all doomed to go through i do want to add this in though you not being discarded doesn't mean the relationship has failed just because maybe you're picked up as a new source and maybe they marry you and maybe they don't ever say anything about a divorce it doesn't mean the relationship is going swimmingly just because the narcissist hasn't discarded or just because you haven't walked away when you're in a loveless relationship or marriage or a really crappy friendship where everything is so one-sided you're fighting all the time being cheated on stolen from lied to used and abused the relationship has failed those are not successful relationships
6:10 my relationship was a complete and just utter epic fail months before i got discarded months before i saw it coming it was already over it was a disaster it was a failure everything fails with highly toxic highly narcissistic people the real reason why a narcissist will just never ever find love true love real friends good friends a happy loving relationship the real reason why everything fails is themselves narcissists are not interested in getting out of their own way as long as they put all the responsibility on other people you're always going to be disappointed that's just the way it is when your
6:56 expectations are so high and you've just deemed that everybody sucks you are always going to be constant chronically consistently disappointed and it fails what narcissists need is to step back and let it sink in that it is not our job to make them happy life is what you make it i hate that it's super cliche but it's true plain and simple deliciously simple if you don't like the way things are going well they if they don't like the way things are going they have to change what they're doing it is nobody else's job to fix them support them make them happy boost them up and so on and so forth it is no one else's job to try and try and try failing over and over again to give the
7:43 narcissist what they're missing doing this is sad futile it's like trying to fill a black hole out in space it's endless and the more you try the bigger it gets the more daunting of a task it becomes we are responsible for our own happiness both us and narcissistic people and everybody in between i am responsible for validating myself i need neither permission nor credit from anybody else i am responsible for loving myself taking care of myself i have to do this we all have to do this highly empathic people and very toxic narcissistic people but narcissists are missing these things they lack these things they are very empty people when we're missing
8:30 something missing something inside of ourselves nobody else can fix that when we're traumatized when we're damaged again no one else can fix that no one can fix a narcissist no one i don't care how great you are and i'm sure you are great nobody else can do it no one can please a narcissist no one can truly love a narcissist you can't truly love somebody who just isn't interested in that idea it's impossible to give someone what they are lacking in themselves they don't love themselves i don't care how much you love them again useless futile it doesn't go anywhere and it doesn't matter they need external validation and support i always call narcissists cold-blooded animals and we
9:16 are the heat lamp we need to try and regulate them we need to try to make sure they're happy and their environment is just right but we're not we're human and that doesn't work until a narcissist gives themselves what they need everything every relationship is going to fail you never need to worry about a relationship working if you are upset that this person has a new source of supply if you're very jealous and you see them on social media and they're carrying on and popping out children and getting engaged and doing all this stuff whatever they're doing or not doing engagements mean nothing marriage means nothing kids nothing the narcissist is still empty inside that external stuff they're getting is not fixing what is
10:02 wrong on the inside that they need to fix the new supply can't do any better than you can no one can do better than you because what needs to be done is for the narcissist to learn how to depend on themselves and stop looking to other people to give them what they need it is not your job to fix what doesn't want to be fixed so tell me how you feel about this do you think a new supply can be a savior for a narcissist do you think that the narcissist is ever happy with what they have please like and subscribe if you haven't done that thank you so much for listening thank you to everyone supporting the video leaving comments survivors army everybody thank you so much for listening have a great day
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